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You can't make an omelette without breaking an egg. Monday July 20, 2015

"If I ever do fall off this wall" said Humpty Dumpty "the king has promised to send all his horses and all his men...." Said with the absolute confidence that they would "......pick me up in a minute". The absolute confidence of an egg sitting on a wall!! Not a lot of those to the dozen...

What a wonderful backdrop to life; to think that whatever you did you it would be alright; that your back is covered; that you are invincible; immune. I'm not sure it's true or achievable unless you are a Buddhist monk or sage or a hard boiled egg. But if it is, the answer lies internally - not with the king's horses and king's men but your own strengths.

I don't have those yet. Those strengths. I did have some strengths but they seem to have left me a while ago. I often feel nowadays that I am sitting on that wall. I try very hard not to sway or move too much to upset the equilibrium. But yesterday I was sitting on that wall when suddenly I wanted to throw myself off it. I was doing fine, but a thought called up in the midst of life and I was sunk. All I wanted to do was crash into oblivion. And I could not recover from that thought for the rest of the day.

It was not a good day. My Moodscope score hit the floor. But all days are not all the same. Some days are good. I'm here today and I am writing this and live to survive another day and make another omelette. My Moodscope score will rise! What was black yesterday is grey today and may be white tomorrow.

Please be assured my fellow Moodscopers - I am not seeking your support in a black moment. I am moving past that low, low day. I know I am not alone and wanted to share that thought with anyone else feeling low - there is hope. It may come tomorrow or it could be through meditation, medication or learning. We each of us need our own strategies for working our way out of those downs, back into the sunshine. I'm not sure what mine is but I keep coming back up for air!!

So I just keep concentrating on learning about myself and life, and the learning is proving fascinating. Life is full of ingredients which together add up to something else. I think my recipe for today might concentrate on the key ingredients of appreciation, compassion and forgiveness. Three wonderful eggs of opportunity. But I also need an emotional sauce that will not overpower, a bit of spice, some seasoning and a few 'erbs of wisdom. Could be a great omelette!

If you know your recipe for coping, it would be good to share.

Alice (Through the Looking Glass)
A Moodscope Member.


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Comments

Adam Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 6:25am

Well you may not be seeking support Alice, but I'm sending you strength nonetheless. Already today you have given us something valuable with your post - thank you.

Hopeful One Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 7:40am

Hi Alice- a positive post . The important thing is that you got through. Please congratulate yourself. So often we fail to acknowledge our own achievements ,however small,to ourselves. Yet if we do not do that our brain reward system gets no chance to squirt a little dopamine into the system or memory trace to use the next time to remind oneself of this previous success. We have natural antidepressants in our brain and they need to be encouraged and reinforced all the time. Most people find that a combination of a balanced diet, exercise , good quality sleep, some connection with nature, a connection with our fellow beings omega 3 supplements, an attitude of compassion and forgiveness to oneself, having some 'play ' and setting aside 'playtime' in our day , developing a sense of purpose and developing mastery of a particular subject will keep one out of the depression loop. Needless to say they have to be practised to make them permanent.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 7:49am

I saved a comment another Moodscope user made some time back, which helps me and I am hoping will help you on the steep climb back up:

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%, and that's pretty good"

I wish you all the best moving out of the grey. You are not alone on that journey.

Lou

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 8:26am

Thank you Alice, and thank you Lou above. We need to hang onto the knowledge that so far, we've come through. I love Humpty's self confidence! My self confidence is that, although I might fall and be squished down to nothing, I will bounce back. Also, that when we are broken, those broken pieces can be made into something new and beautiful. I'm thinking mosaic at the moment!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:38am

Great recipe, Hopeful One... really great recipe.
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:39am

Nice mosaic, Mary... and sometimes the broken egg frees the bird.
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:43am

from "Alice Through The Looking Glass"...
"Oh, don't go on like that!" cried the poor Queen, wringing her hands in despair. "Consider what a great girl you are. Consider what a long way you've come to-day. Consider what o'clock it is. Consider anything, only don't cry!"
Alice could not help laughing at this, even in the midst of her tears. "Can you keep from crying by considering things?" she asked.
"That's the way it's done," the Queen said with great decision: "nobody can do two things at once, you know."

So, Dear Alice, I shall join you in considering your mighty fine eggs of appreciation, compassion and forgiveness - one at a time of course!
L'xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 11:41am

Captured it in a great way Alice! I also know these days...I do have a recipe for avoiding them but can't always roll it out due to work pressure. It's a fine, tip toeing balance. But you did it! And so can we. One tip toe at a time. Thank you, love from the room above the garage x.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 12:25pm

Thank-you for sharing, Alice. And well done you!

My recipe for coping? Moodscope! and all you lovely people out there who blog and post and reply and share and support and encourage ...
Thank-you one and all.

Oh, and the knowledge that "All things pass, and this too will pass"
plus the affirmation
"All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well" (Julian of Norwich)

Wishing everyone peace of mind and heart as ever
Frankie

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 1:12pm

Great blog, Alice. I too know what Humpty feels like, perched precariously and then out of nowhere comes The Thought that makes him want to jump. (Quite fascinating if it weren't so devastating.) My recipe's key ingredient is the faith that The Good Thought will come....in whatever form it chooses. But for sure it will come. And then i wait. And it always comes. Because it's never lost, just hidden in the blackness. Perhaps those thoughts that make Humpty want to jump are all....lies. Thank you, Alice. susan xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:23pm

Hi Hopeful One, thank you for your recipe - it made me very hopeful. Full of good things. So thank you! Love, Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:25pm

Me too L'xx! Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:30pm

Shall we dine on mince with slices of quince served up with our beautiful eggs? Bit of a literary liberty - but it kind of feels happy together! And if course you are right, one can only do one thing at a time. It is what we learn about the 'now' and how we push out unhappiness by moving out of the past, away from the tears and the fears back into the present. Thank you for my 'present', Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:31pm

Lovely Frankie, Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:32pm

You are very kind Adam, thank you - sharing strength is always a good thing to do and appreciated, Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:35pm

Hi RATG, have a good day today! Thank you xx Alice

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:36pm

Thank you Lou, Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 2:51pm

Hi Susan,

Wise words. I would really like those thoughts to be lies, they probably are. They are certainly not worth indulging. I am trying to move past them because the results are, as you say, devastating and I don't want my eggs smashed on the floor, I'd far rather eat them!

But what you say is so true, no matter how bad it seems at the time, we move on and for all the downs there are still ups. Thankfully! And we are still here! Thankfully.

Thanking you, Alice xx

Lexi Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 3:06pm

My strength in my darkest moments comes only from knowing that "This too shall pass". I think you know that too! That is a great strength to have. Thank you for sharing!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 4:43pm

I share my birthday with Lewis Carroll, so, whilst it may be ridiculous, I have somewhat of a soft spot for the writings about Alice... but happy to mix with Owls and Pussycats too.
L'xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 5:10pm

Ah, Alice, what a good egg you are! Brill blog! Karen (bearofliddlebrain.com)

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 7:07pm

I recommend for coping that, in the storm that is LIFE, don't love anything that doesn't love you back.

DAVID HAMILTON Young Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 8:31pm

If I am constantly, daily analysing how I am feeling, ALWAYS obsessive, ALWAYS accepting that Bipolar is a fixed mental illness that I will ALWAYS be as I am, troubled, depressed one day and elated the next, INTROVERTED and failing to LISTEN to others, then there is NO hope, NO chance of relief, ALWAYS concerned about how I am, ALWAYS talking over others, self-centred, and absorbed in myself I shall endorse the addage..........."If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got".Eleanor Roosevelt (Ex-American President's wife).

I am a 71 year old male... Married 50 years next year with three 'kids'.

I have been in the ditch many times, I have been where there's NO light at the end of a tunnel, and NO tunnel ! !

Why am I saying this....because rather than accept one man's (DOCTOR'S) opinion of a label called Bipolar. I discovered about 10 years ago through sincere prayer, (as a Mormon), that in a deep 'LOW', I felt compelled to keep active, to focus more deeply on others' adversities, becoming much more of an extrovert, to be more acive in looking at keeping busy, gardening or work orientated, but mainly to LISTEN to others' especially those with physical illness, I then took up, in DEEP depression which takes guts), voluntary driving for the Multiple Schlerosis Society, 3 days twice a day, taking sufferers to and from the MS Centre walkers with rolators or in wheelchairs, bolting them into the Bus 5 or 6 persons at a time...It became obvious that my Bipolar was insignificant, not degenerating or terminal and I became WANTED, NEEDED and of WORTH, to these poor souls, who have NO hope, but whom I could make laugh with silly stupid jokes. I CHANGED in the 'twinkling of an eye' a state of mind for which you and I are ALWAYS searching.
My days became more focused in others' needs, which distracted my selfish thoughts and transferred them to GIVING and NOT TAKING.
That was the point at which I emerged from that 'DARK TUNNEL and into the light of day.
I am still at the MS not driving but as a drivers escort today 20th July 2015.

Remember these words from Albert Einstein who said QUOTE...
"Its not that I'm so smart, its just that I stay with problems longer".
PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN OR GIVE UP...I haven't been so happy and at Peace for 45 years..

Prayer is not asking, it is a longing of the soul, it is daily admission of one's weakness ! ! !

There are two more quotes.....
1...An old Cherokee saying."LISTEN', or your TONGUE will make you DEAF..

2...Learn from the mistakes of others' as you won't live long enough to make them all yourself ! ! !

Obe small step at a time, enjoy the NOW.

Yesterday was HISTORY, TOMORROW is a MYSTERY, but TODAY is a gift, thats why its called the PRESENT.

Good Luck...

Dave D.

PWD Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 9:12pm

A lot of great posts today. One ingredient for the recipe that I try to remember is,
What a difference a day makes 24 little hours. It really is amazing how one day everything looks hopeless, and yet the next day everything can look rosy. On the bad day just try to remember them words

Paul

Jac Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:02pm

I love that!

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:31pm

To Lexi, Karen and Anon 7.07 I send my thanks for your wonderful support. Generously given and well received - Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:41pm

Evening David,

Thank you for your comments. I am so grateful that you wanted to tell me and others this. You have lived through and can speak to what we read and learn. You are indeed wanted, needed and worth loving. To give is the greatest gift. And you are giving.

You are giving in this response and I thank you, Alice xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 20th 2015 @ 10:42pm

So very true Paul, love Alice xx

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