You are an angel to someone

11 Feb 2019
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Yes, you are - in the literal sense of the word (though getting your wings may be a challenge... and unnecessary!)

"Angel" means "Messenger" - one who brings and shares a message.

There will have been dozens, hundreds, even thousands of times when you have unknowing been an angel - a messenger - to someone in your life so far. You shared the right word at the right time, and someone's life was touched by a positive change of heart, mind, or even direction.

You only have to have shared the right word at the right time once to win your status as an angel to someone. Even once is enough. A word of encouragement, a genuine compliment, or a perspicuous insight into someone's unique gifts or talents can work miracles, changing the course of their life for good.

If we flip this round the other way for a moment, what words, delivered by somone else, have had a positive impact on you over the years? Some of my own experiences have bordered on the 'spooky' to the point that I wondered if there are angels with wings involved! That's not necessary, though. This is about someone saying something to you that really helps you on your life journey - even if that is just getting through the day. Two examples I will give, and then I hope you'll feel free to confess your own examples too.

Decades ago, I was sharing in a group of people an opportunity to voice our goals for the year ahead. Saying these out loud deepens our commitment to our aims, dreams, and objectives. Personally, my goals were to do with training and development. A complete stranger looked me in the eye and said with authority, "No, you're an author." The words 'hit' me as if physically, and had a ring of truth as clear as a church bell. That was a life-changing moment.

Then, only last week, a friend who didn't know my ambitions, said, "You'd do well in Ireland - you'd fit right in." I nearly fell off my chair as I had only the week before bought a book on touring the West Coast of Ireland - a dream of mine. This was in response to a life-long pull I have felt towards Ireland. This pull is not based on any experience, it's just a hunch, an intution. My friend reflected that message back to me as a confirmation of my internal 'witness'.

You, Angelic? No, I'm not asking you to be a goody-two-shoes (whatever that is)... though goodness has its own unique intrinsic rewards. I'm asking you to become a conscious messenger. I'm asking you to knowingly and deliberately, purposefully and passionately to become a speaker of good words into people's lives. And I'm asking you to practice today.

Find someone to whom you can deliver a genuine message of encouragement, or gratitude, or direction.

I recognise the danger in the last one and also the 'vice' in 'advice', however there may be a talent or a gift you've seen in someone - a genius in them - that they may not see clearly for themselves. Drawing their attention to their genius may be just the word they need. It may give them the confidence boost to take courageous action.

Angelically Yours

Lex

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Orangeblossom

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:15 a.m.

Thanks for your inspiring, encouraging & motivating words today Lex. At the end of the week I am participating in a set of interviews about the woman who inspired me in my life. My chosen person is Marie Curie. Another person I could have chosen was Maya Angelou (4 April 1928-26 May 2014). ” You may not control the events that happen to you but you can decide not to be reduced by them” I think that both these women lived their lives based on this principle. I am a little nervous about this interview which is going to occur on Saturday.

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LP

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:38 a.m.

Hi Orangeblossom, If you speak from your heart, you have nothing to worry about. Your posts are always wise and positive. They radiate your unique energy. That quote is spot on for me. It’s exactly what I need to work towards. Thank you LP :) x

Nicco

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:23 a.m.

Thanks for that, orangeblossom, I needed to hear that, too. I read the first two books of Maya's autobiography, so need to read the rest. I enjoy her poetry, too. All the best for your interview - as LP says, speak from your heart. I found having a short list of bullet points to refer to (to act as reminders & prompts) has been of help to me in the past when I've had to do similar things for a charity I worked for. All the best. x

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 12:38 p.m.

Good luck Orangeblossom, you will be fine. I always feel that the build up to things is usually worse than the actual event and afterwards you will most certainly feel an achievement !

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 6:31 p.m.

Hi Orangeblossom... big fan of Maya's work... and an even bigger fan of YOU! xx

Lexi

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:10 p.m.

You will be fabulous on Sunday, Orange blossom! And I love that quote by Maya Angelou. xoxo

Orangeblossom

Feb. 12, 2019, 8:23 a.m.

Many thanks for the kind words. I have discovered that it is for ’Women’s History Month.’ and one of the people doing the interviewing is a lovely, gentle young lady. A student.

LP

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:29 a.m.

Hi Lex, A good friend once said to me when I was suffering, “You’re not bi polar you just feel very deeply.” Which rang true, like you said, clear as a bell. We are all different and I am still trying to get to the bottom of what it is that makes me suffer. Sometimes It feels as if I have autistic traits. I’m not looking for a label or diagnosis as such. Just a reason that makes sense. Her words have stayed with me. I am who I am. My emotions have churned up all sorts of turmoil but her saying it like that made it not seem like such a bad thing. I look forward to playing Angel tag today! Thanks Lex :) Love and light to you and all. LP xx

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Bearofliddlebrain

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:30 a.m.

Tag you, LP! You so often have the right words to say to so many Moodscopers here, sprinkling your love and light on everyone xxxx

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 12:49 p.m.

Hi LP, I like ‘I am who I am’ although I don’t think I would have had the same reaction as you about the friend who decided she was an expert! Glad it made you feel better though. Yes we are all different so is it wise to try and find a reason? Will it ever make sense for a lot of us? What about the people who have no clue what they are like (mental health or not) I think your insight to yourself speaks volumes. I sometimes think my husband has autistic traits, but he wouldn’t hear of it! It would be lovely to make sense of all of our traits but personally I think just let it be. I’m teaching myself here too! ‘We are who we are’ and feeling deeply shows your compassion as you always show us on here xx

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 6:42 p.m.

Hi Molly, Bearofliddlebrain, and LP... I'm loving these kind words of wisdom today. I do feel that most of us who suffer with depression tend to be deep thinking, deep feeling, highly intelligent people. Whilst there may be chemicals to blame, I also think it is because we seek to find sense in the universe that is at odds with how we believe it should be that a measure of distress comes in. Should we accept the universe the way it is? I don't think so. I think, through support, we can seek to be a force for positive change... but at the heart, a decision needs to be made that you and I are actually OK people. "I am who I am" - and that's OK. xx

Lexi

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:07 p.m.

LP, my wise therapist once said to me during a particularly bad time, you are a sensitive being and you are learning how to manage your sensitivity. I don't think more accurate words have ever been said to me xo

LP

Feb. 12, 2019, 6:58 a.m.

I totally get that Lex. Xx

LP

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:01 a.m.

Thanks Molly xx

LP

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:08 a.m.

Thanks my lovely Bearhugs! :) xx

Lex

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:18 a.m.

Lexi, that's it! "You are a sensitive being, and you are learning how to manage your sensitivity." Perfect.

Maggie May

Feb. 11, 2019, 8:07 a.m.

Hi Lex, Your blogs always make me stop and think - in a good way. What came to mind was something my granny said to me. She was a small lady but with a larger than life personality - dancing the okey cokey showing her bloomers at every opportunity. I was a shy 3rd born child. She won some money and decided to take me away to the coast with her , leaving my two much older sisters at home. I felt so special - I had not felt that way before. I remember her saying to me one sunny morning ‘ if you think too long about what you want to say Jen , you will never say it, and that’s a shame’ . I’m not a party type but I have a voice and use it. Would I have been different without my angel ? RIP Nan xx

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Maggie May

Feb. 11, 2019, 8:12 a.m.

I will look to give a positive message every day. It costs nothing.

The Gardener

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:51 a.m.

Oh Jen, the importance of feeling 'special'. One of our grand-sons was used to travel, and a life of relative luxury. But his younger brother was spoiled, a lot of sibling rivalry. Cont - I am going to get my computer overhauled, too many problems

The Gardener

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:56 a.m.

So we took this boy to Angkor Watt - stayed in fantastic hotel. 4 days when only HE mattered. It was fiendishly expensive, a lifetime of 'normal' presents, but worth it. We had balconies next to each other, he'd call quietly - finding we were both reading at 6 a.m. Suc

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 6:45 p.m.

Magic, magic, magic... Jen, I love your Nan's wisdom and wise words, "If you think too long about what you want to say, Jen, you will never say it, and that's a shame." That is so deep and so beautiful... thank you for sharing. And, Dear Gardener, you transport me away to a good place with your words once again. You are so gifted as a writer. xx

Liz

Feb. 11, 2019, 8:21 a.m.

Great blog Lex. I said to a friend recently who said she'd wished there was a writing group where she lived "why don't you start one" and to encourage (hopefully) I attached the session I had just recently done with the group I belong to. My husband is a truly gifted amateur photographer and I keep saying to him "you should enter your photos into Countryfile" or "why don't you think about selling them"... which maybe both sound too much like instructions (which he doesn't like!). I'd like to think I'm a natural angel to the people who have been there for me likewise... and maybe I am for people I don't know - I do hope so. What are we in this world for if not to be responsive to others to spread hope, kindness and light. A long time ago, a wacky guy that everyone else was afraid to go near at work because he was such an oddball (he used to turn up to work after cycling in the tiniest shorts ever and even got told off for this!) said to me "you're one of the weird". At the time I took affront as I thought it was a kind of personal attack (always on the defensive ready for the battle that often never occurs)... and now I look back and I know I am weird and I'm proud of it. Maybe he recognised in me a kindred spirit who knows. Lots to think about Lex... thanks again x

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Valerie

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:06 a.m.

Hi Liz,I too am more than happy to be thought of as weird,and I am always drawn to other oddities! x

Nicco

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:27 a.m.

Three cheers for you both Liz & Valerie! I feel like that, too! My daughter often tells me off for it!

The Gardener

Feb. 11, 2019, 11:11 a.m.

Need a health warning on words. 'Eccentric, original' in English, latter can be 'dotty' in French, drole = funny, 'drole de femme' means weird, going on 'touched'. I have been 'labelled' recently which has made me furious. Depends how said!

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:45 p.m.

Oh, Liz, I think he was paying you a MASSIVE compliment! Long live the weird! I also love your choice of language: "natural angel." That's beautiful and enchanting x

Valerie

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:10 a.m.

Morning Lex, I do try to say something pleasant to others each day,admiring their garden,a nice compliment about their dog,or telling someone they look lovely.You never know,it could just be the thing they need to perk them up a bit. I am half Irish,and I agree with your friend,you would fit in very well.Do you like Guinness and singing? ***

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Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:46 p.m.

Ah, Valerie, I'm sure I'd like real Guinness... and I love to sing, but the feedback from others is along the lines of, "Don't give up the day job!" *** Let Ireland decide!!!

Jul

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:13 a.m.

Hi Lex. People on Moodscope have said really helpful things which I still remember and act upon. I naturally say nice things to friends I meet up with and pick up on what they say or how they feel. I am very sensitive to other people's moods etc. often seeing things which aren't necessarily there but possibly reflect how I'm feeling. Your blog is a good reminder to be nice and kind to others, to cheer up people by smiling or laughing even if we don't catch what people are saying; here I'm talking about passing people in the street who might have a cheery word to say. Thanks Lex. Jul xx

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Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:04 p.m.

Who knows what wonders we weave when we first choose to believe in all that is good and special in one another - each person, each child, each sister and brother? (that's all supposed to rhyme!) xx

Nicco

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:49 a.m.

Thanks for your interesting blog, Lex. There have been so many incidents in my life that are coincidental. I remember one was when I realised I'd forgotten my keys when I'd got to work some years ago. I didn't have a car back then so had to walk back to get them. On the way back to work with my keys I bumped into a neighbour who'd had another baby a few weeks previously. I smiled & said hello & she burst into tears & said how she's at breaking point because her son seemed to hate the new baby so much & she wasn't coping with his tantrums. The day before, I had read about a helpline for mothers in need of help with young children & had written it down. I was able to give her the number. I never heard from her again as she moved away but I hope it helped. The other one was when I went out for a walk & was thinking about someone in my life who was causing me a lot of trouble at the time. The thought popped into my head that I can't control others' behaviour & that I can only be responsible for myself. When I got home there was an envelope on the mat. I opened it to discover a lovely floral home-made card from a friend. On the front it said, 'You are Loved', & when I opened the card it said, 'You Can Only be Responsible For Yourself'. Another time was when I had a flat tyre. It was cold & dark & a car stopped. A man got out & changed the wheel for me. I thanked him very much & he said he'd like to think if his wife was in the same position someone would stop to help her too. It does restore one's faith in human kindness.

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Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 12:58 p.m.

Nicco, I agree with coincidences, a few things have happened to me, well more than a few, and I cannot help thinking ‘that was just meant to me’ or ‘that just happened for a reason’. Maybe scope for a blog on coincidences!! Molly xx

Nicco

Feb. 11, 2019, 3:27 p.m.

Yes, I often think things happen for a reason & are meant to be as it's so strange how things happen sometimes.

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:06 p.m.

Thank you, Nicco and Molly, thank you... these are exactly the kind of 'incidences' I hoped would be shared today xx

Bearofliddlebrain

Feb. 11, 2019, 11:52 a.m.

Hi Lex, What a great blog and like Jul says, many Moodscopers tell us helpful things and useful notes to act upon and really can save the day. Found a joke...as it’s monday, some could do with one! It was mealtime during an airline flight. 'Would you like dinner?', the flight attendant asked John, seated in front. 'What are my choices?' John asked. 'Yes or no,' she replied Smart *** quips! Bear hugs to all x x x

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Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:06 p.m.

Love it, Bearofliddlebrain... love you too! x x x

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 1:24 p.m.

Hi Lex, I have been pondering on this. How many times I wonder do people think things, and not say them (nice things I mean!!). It has to be genuine, I don’t like it when it’s for approval or for something to say, or an ulterior motive is involved. One can usually tell the difference and being suspicious myself, I do find it hard to take a compliment. But yes, it can go along way and I too find Moodscopers can warm my heart by a few kind words. It’s so gratifying to be understood. If I think a woman is beautiful, I tell them so. I wonder if people think they don’t need to be told because they already know. Not necessarily the case. We might see something that they are not even aware of. My mother thought it was wrong to praise! This left me with awful low self esteem. Thank you for your blog. I used this tool on the way to a hospital appointment this morning. It kept my mind off things. I couldn’t think of a specific example worth repeating on here. Apart from the time I was told I was the prettiest girl in the room (you should have seen the others). Love Molly xx

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Valerie

Feb. 11, 2019, 6:48 p.m.

Hi Molly,how did it go? You seem in good spirits.xx

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:25 p.m.

Hi Valerie, it was ****** painful!!!!! They gave me sedation but it didn’t do anything. I was told I would feel in a drunk state and not remember anything! Not the case. Anyway, it’s over now and without going into detail, there is nothing too untoward going on so that’s a relief. Thank you for asking :-) truly means a lot xx

Valerie

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:31 p.m.

Oh I am so pleased for you.I think I know what you had done,and I would be way too scared to go through it-brave Molly! ***

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 8:44 p.m.

Thank you so much :-) ***

Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:08 p.m.

Dear Valerie and Molly - it is heart-warming to read your exchange... And, Molly, you will alway be the prettiest girl in that room. Times may move on but that moment holds its own truth ***

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:23 p.m.

But it was only last week Lex. Just kidding. I hope you realise I meant all the others in the room were **** right ugly, so it wasn’t difficult! Lol. I’ve been wondering if I had missed the point of your blog about someone saying something at the right time etc. I might comment again but I can see you might be a bit worn out with comments today! Xx

Nicco

Feb. 12, 2019, 8:07 a.m.

So glad things are OK, Molly. I think I know what you had done too & it's a horrid procedure. I couldn't have the knock out drops so it took three tries. So claustrophobic. I swore I'd never go through it again.

Nicco

Feb. 12, 2019, 8:24 a.m.

I won't comment on your view of ugliness, Molly, except to say that no matter what you look like, you are a beautiful person with a good, kind & caring heart. x

Molly

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:46 p.m.

Nicco, I’m not ugly and I don’t think anyone is ugly, just my poor attempt at a joke, but thank you for your kind words, that is lovely for you to say so xx

Nicco

Feb. 13, 2019, 6:49 p.m.

;-D Ha! Molly, I haven't quite got the hang of your dry humour yet!

Lexi

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:03 p.m.

Loved your post today Lex. I too have heard words at the right moment, from strangers and friends alike, that seemed like a lighting bolt straight to my soul. And I do hope you get to the West Coast of Ireland. I did it several years ago with my sister. Our grandparents were from Mayo and Tralee and we both definitely felt a pull, like we were among family. Truly beautiful country. xo

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Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:30 p.m.

I hear the call, Lexi, I hear the call... have laptop and video kit, will travel... xo

Oli

Feb. 11, 2019, 7:19 p.m.

Thanks for the blog Lex. Wow, a really difficult one to answer. I have a **** annoying internal voice which says, "You're ****! You're supposed to be helping people and you haven't got a clue..." and on and on... As it happens this internal commentary is quite loud at the moment. So when I try and think what I may have said that was useful to someone I'm not getting anywhere right now because the volume is right up on the self-critical channel! The good thing is that I'm not particularly bothered by it because I've long since realised that this commentary may or may not be true, it doesn't really matter. But it does mean that I can't think straight while it's doing its thing. I used to drink to shut this ****** up! So yes, I've probably said something useful! But gawd knows what it was! :-) Minds eh? Don't they talk b*llocks sometimes! Thanks Lex! :-)

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Lex

Feb. 11, 2019, 9:30 p.m.

Oli, you're an angel to me... have a word with that mind of yours!

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:11 p.m.

Oli, I can’t believe I am reading this! I am as self critical as you are. However!!!!! Do you not realise just how helpful your comments are on here. You help Moodscopers every day and no doubt your own patients. I’m sorry the volume is up for you right now but REST ASSURED, I know everyone will agree!! Might just be a bit too late in the day for them to have seen your comment but you have had many compliments in the past. Focus on them and turn the volume down. I think you are brilliant!! Don’t ever change xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Feb. 12, 2019, 12:42 a.m.

Oli, I read every comment on every blog and would love to reply to them all, unfortunately I can't. But I do need to reply to this one. Molly has it spot on. How can you doubt yourself. You research everything possible to extend your knowledge or understand a problem. You are sooo helpful to people on here because you are so knowledgeable and always either add to a blog or challenge it - either way, very much appreciated. Shut that voice up because you are so not cr*ap and you do know what you are talking about and practicing. You are so learned and kind and lovely so please don't let that doubt stop you from doing all the wonderful things you do. Carolinex

Nicco

Feb. 12, 2019, 8:01 a.m.

Oli - I echo Molly & Caroline's words. x

Molly

Feb. 11, 2019, 10:53 p.m.

Not being sure whether to go down the ‘spooky coincidences’ road, (could be here a while) or the ‘praise that may have changed your life’ road, I have chosen the latter. I was around my late twenties, when I got the opportunity to cover someone else’s role for a temporary period in my place of work. I had little confidence and nearly turned it down but this particular manager saw something in me and requested it be me! Me! After the period ended she wrote me such a glowing report about my huge potential, I have a lot to thank that woman for because I did go on to progress with my career because I remembered her words ‘huge potential’. She had faith in me!! Molly xx

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Lex

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:20 a.m.

Molly, Molly, Molly! That's wonderful! Two teachers did the same thing for me - which is why I went into training as a career. (Of course, I'm still hoping to grow into my full potential!!!) Here's to 'huge potential' and those wise enough not only to see that in us, but also to say it. xx

Nicco

Feb. 12, 2019, 8:20 a.m.

Molly, that's really great. It's wonderful that that person could see that potential in you and it helped you progress. I had a similar thing happen. I was only a temp at a fairly prestigious uni but a guy I worked for said I should apply for the permanent position. Like you, I lacked confidence, but he encouraged me & i got the position & made a lot of progress, even stepping into others' roles while they were on holiday & organising the temps needed when people were on leave. So glad it was a good outcome for you, too.

Molly

Feb. 12, 2019, 7:53 p.m.

Thank you Lex and Nicco. I’m glad to hear your experiences as well, that worked out well. It just shows the importance of this blog, and as you say Lex, don’t just think it, say it! Could open a door or two.... Love xx

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