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Will it be okay? Sunday September 25, 2016

"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end." John Lennon.

I wish I was more optimistic and that I could believe the quotation all the time. I suppose I get impatient and if things don't work out within a reasonable time. I can't wait for the end.

I also have a problem with the word 'Everything'. I can understand some things being alright but by using the word 'everything' it seems so grand and a huge generalization. Maybe if we see 'everything' as being a small section of our lives, then it may be reasonable that that small part may work out .

I think this quotation became popular when it was used in the feel good movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.

Maybe it is not meant to be scrutinized very closely. Of course we all want to believe that our troubles will all be worked out eventually.

If it's not okay it's not the end - I suppose I have the most difficulty with this sentence. Who decides what not okay means?

Sometimes people search for a "happy ever after" when what they have is really okay but they keep aiming for something that may be unattainable.

I wonder why does everything always have to turn out well in the end. The reality is that for some people things never seem to work out but somehow people learn to cope. I know the optimists will tell me we need to believe things will work out in the end so we have hope.

What do you think of this quotation?

Do you believe in its message and has it helped you?

Are you a bit like me and have trouble with some of the words?

Leah
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Lex Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 5:21am

Good Morning Leah! I'm with you on this one. Why would everything have to work out OK? I appreciate that it is a short saying and necessarily a generalisation, but perhaps we should challenge it - or at least put it in a new frame. "Everything is meaningful," would be one I'd get mileage out of - even though, this too, is challenging and worth challenging. If I can find 'meaning' in everything, or a way to make everything serve my purpose, then that's OK, isn't it? "This too shall serve my purpose!" Have a lovely day and 'thank you' for your inspiration. Lex

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:46am

Lex Thanks for your reply and your thoughts.

Hopeful One Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 6:28am

Hi Leah- a thought provoking quote from John Lennon.My favourite Jon Lennon quote ? " Life is what happens while you are planning things.' Any way I interpret your quote to mean that the 'end ' , despite sounding somewhat final , is not a finite point but evolves as the ' everything ' progresses until it becomes 'okay'.

The Joke Squadron looked in it's log to see it could find an Aussie laugh. It did find one but judged it to be too rude for public consumption . This one might generate a smile but it might fetch a laugh.

This guy was staggering along the road, much the worse for the drink, throwing empty beer cans into the street and falling into peoples gardens. His singing gained the attention of a passing policeman who decided to question him. "What do you think you're doing there?" the policeman asked. "I'm on my works outing" came the slurred reply. "Then" the policeman queried, "where are all the others?" "Ah" the man replied , "You see officer, I'm self employed!"


Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:48am

Hopeful One, I hope you learnt much from your time away- maybe you may write a blog about it. Thanks for your reply. An Aussie joke judged by the squadron too be too rude- say it isn't so!!

the room above the garage Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:04pm

Too rude? Sounds like my favourite :-)

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:14pm

ratg, there was a great Aussie actor Chips rafferty, who said in a movie once, if the joke was rude he had heard it and if it was clean he didn't want to hear it!! PS RATG hope you have time to comment on my blog- always am interested in your viewpoint.

Belinda Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 7:31am

Hi Leah, a really helpful blog. I am sure if I can believe everything will be ok in the end, it will.

I certainly saw a positive attitude in my brother, over a joint outcome that we shared; it was better for him because of the positive way he looked at it. The outcome was the same, but our reactions were different.

I am certainly working at changing the way I think about things. Challenging when I am down, but is that precisely why I am down because I am viewing things negatively?

I think I differ from you Leah in that I follow the words, just have difficulty with feelings. I have learned that words can change my feelings, and that I need to say & believe them even when I am not yet there.
I am a work in progress.

Great blog, whatever.

Have a lovely day Leah. Bless you. Belinda x

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:49am

Belinda Thanks for your insight. I appreciate the time you took to reply.

Sally Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 7:45am

Hi Leah, great blog.
MY interpretation is that often, the person saying this is trying to be comforting. i actually don't dissect the word everything, but it does soothe me when people tell me this most times, because it sort of puts into perspective my grief/anger/distress or frustration or whatever, and makes me pause in my tracks to reflect on the wider perspective. so I do see it as a meaningful quotation most of the time.
just my own opinion on this one... thanks for raising it in your thought provoking blog, Leah. sally

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:50am

Sally I find your interpretation of the saying very interesting. Thanks.

Pennie-Lynn Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 8:59am

I really like Lennon's quote. My personal belief is that all things happen for a reason, and only in the end will we understand why certain things happened the way they did. Unpleasant experiences have taught me much and helped me choose a path that will make me stronger.

If we come to terms with the things that happen in our lives, then we become "okay" with them. Not necessarily wonderful or great, but okay. If we're not okay with something, then maybe it's not the end of dealing with it.

Just a different viewpoint. :)

~ Pennie-Lynn

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:51am

Pennie-Lynn Thanks Pennie for your viewpoint. I will take time to think about it.

Benjamin Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:28am

There is significant irony in Lennon saying this, because the teleology reflected in it is very strongly linear and 'people of the book,' with a sense, frankly, of a particular kind of Christian (Universalist, in general; otherwise, the assurance is conditional, either on group identity, or behavior). Of course, the 'in the end' part takes on a rather long view.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:52am

Benjamin Thanks for your reply.

the room above the garage Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:10pm

What a super blog Leah, it has my brain cranking into thought! I love John Lennon's outlook and, like Sally, I think I find it comforting. The phrase I prefer though (and utter over and over to reassure myself) is from desiderata "everything is unfolding as it should". It lets me stop worrying and just deal. Thanks for bringing a little Lennon into my day and I'm stoked to see you (practised my best Aussie!), love ratg x.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:17pm

Ratg, I just left a comment to your comment to Hopeful saying I would like to read your viewpoint!! We were writing at same time!! I will need to think of 'everything is unfolding as it should". As you know I am not a great fan of everything. Plus I still worry about the unfairness for people that things don't unfold as they should. I don't feel so much of the world should live in fear or be in poverty.

the room above the garage Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 9:24pm

For a long time I agonised over that very thing, unfairness to people, and I shared so much of myself, my belongings, my money, my time, my love, until one day I realised I could not save everyone. And felt relieved that I didn't have to. Now I don't watch the news because I'd become ill being swept up into it. Part of me staying well is that I only pick up news in very small pieces. I used to fall hard for every sad story there was...now, I hear only what I need to. Its just survival I suppose.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:34pm

Ratg, I can relate to what you wrote. I don't listen to much of the news either. I can distance myself from that, but from friends and family who are suffering that is very hard not to worry about them. At one time people did not tell me their worries as they were concerned it would be too much for me but I don't want to be treated with kid gloves so I take on what I can. Thanks again given me more to think about.

Eva Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:51pm

Um, what is the end? Death? For me that's the end, and when it finally comes I'll be OK with it, so I guess the saying plays out. I guess if you related 'the end' to projects or phases in life, if you weren't OK with a result or how things were for you then you could work on changing outcomes, or adjusting circumstances and so as he says if things are not OK, you've still got a job to do to adjust yourself or external factors until you gain acceptance.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:35pm

Eva, Thanks you for viewpoint. You made many interesting points.

Brum Mum Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:55pm

I understand why this quote could be annoying. Instead of looking to the future for perfection living in the moment may be the answer, although when in the depths of depression that isni't very comfortable. I try to use that mindfulness perspective as if everything was perfect we would never fully appreciate it! Right now my dog is at my feet, my coffee in my hand and I need to fill a bath before I face the afternoon. That's pretty perfect to me....

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:37pm

Brum Mum Thanks for your reply. I have not lived in a place with a bath for decades, so a bath does sound perfect to me!!

Brum Mum Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 12:55pm

I understand why this quote could be annoying. Instead of looking to the future for perfection living in the moment may be the answer, although when in the depths of depression that isni't very comfortable. I try to use that mindfulness perspective as if everything was perfect we would never fully appreciate it! Right now my dog is at my feet, my coffee in my hand and I need to fill a bath before I face the afternoon. That's pretty perfect to me....

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:38pm

Brum mum. I think mindfulness has many bows to it- or people understand it differently or I suppose I don't get it at all!

Barbara Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 2:37pm

If you have learned to cope, the end is ok.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:39pm

Thanks Barbara, short and to the point. I like it. I suppose once you learn to cope, things are ok. I am still learning how to cope!!

Barbara Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 2:39pm

Ps. M.Nin qute today perfecto.

Barbara Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 2:39pm

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Duma Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 3:00pm

Hi Leah, today's blog is a thinker, a way-homer.

Not to diss John Lennon (Who would dare?) but personally "okay" sounds like a pretty low standard.

I prefer the Japanese proverb:

"If perfection were attainable, it would not be worth seeking."

But, maybe, if we can get 'The Way' of it, we can travel on and seek perfection. Stranger things have happened...

...to me, on a daily basis. :)

Cheers, Duma.

Leah Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 10:42pm

Duma, To be fair to John Lennon- the quote may be slightly misquoted, who knows. I suppose to me perfection is far too high to aim for and would not even try if I thought that was the goal. That's me. Thanks for replying and thanks for your blog. Leah

Mary Wednesday Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:19pm

I did some work with Landmark Education some years ago and they recommended that we allow each moment to be perfect. This seems hard and I think it's related to the "acceptance" I blogged about last Wednesday. Because of my faith, for me, there is no end - as beyond death there is eternity. At the same time I think the "pie in the sky when you die" philosophy is a cop-out for people who are not prepared to anything to improve their lot and the lot of others on this earth while we are here. For me at the moment, a lot of things are not okay. And I cannot see a way for them to ever be okay - that is, I cannot see the outcome I desire coming to fruition. But I have to accept that my view is narrow - I do not see it all and we are all only tiny fibres in the weft of this world's fabric; part of a pattern we cannot see. In the end I can only (as so often) quote Gerard Manley Hopkins. Particularly appropriate at the moment as I prepare for bed, "all
Life death does end and each day dies with sleep." I suppose that once we are dead it will be okay because, whatever there is on the other side of death, we will no longer care about what we have left behind.

Leah Mon, Sep 26th 2016 @ 1:02am

Thanks Mary. I am always intrigued to see how people interpret the same quote. The meaning depends on our beliefs and life experiences.

Mary Wednesday Sun, Sep 25th 2016 @ 11:20pm

Oops. That was a bit grim wasn't it. Sorry - hard and disappointing day. As I have just said to my young friend Richard, tomorrow is a whole new and shiny day. I'd best get to it!

Leah Mon, Sep 26th 2016 @ 1:04am

Mary I thought it was quite thoughtful not grim. Your day is ending and mine is a couple of hours from noon!!! Endings and beginnings a never ending cycle.

Jul Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:46am

Hi Leah. A very thought provoking blog. I didn't know John Lennon's quote. I suppose life goes on regardless. Time waits for no man..I think the saying goes. So whatever our personal troubles are, they may end but other things take their place. Life doesn't stop once we have resolved our worries. I think that there will never be an end to my worries etc because of who I am. I probably make my own problems and what seems like a worry for me is nothing to worry about to others. So I don't go with that platitude everything will be okay in the end because I don't think it will not do I expect it to. Julxx

Night Owl Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:36pm

Hi Jul, I just ran back through this blog, and just had to reply to you, to say I feel the same - I seem to make my own troubles... as one resolves, another bubbles up... sometimes I'm ok, picking things off, sometimes its overwhelming... (Too much 'everything' to handle...). Take care. NOxx

Leah Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 2:13am

Jul, thanks for your well reasoned personal insightful reply. You have given me lots to think about.

Leah Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 2:14am

Night Owl, Thanks for your comments. I think I sometimes make my own troubles or I over complicate simple things. I have been told I do that a lot.

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