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Who's your hero? Monday April 17, 2017

The cult of celebrity is alive and well. Do you admire the skills and strengths of anyone in particular? I'm not sure that the rich and famous are all that different to me and you - the living creature that I have found most inspiring in the last decade or so is Bob, Bob the goldfish.

When I first moved in with my ex, Bob was already there - almost invisible in the pea-soup water of his spherical goldfish bowl. Years and years we had Bob. It was his stoicism I really admired. No matter what, he would carry on, through opaque water or through clear. Never giving up - he truly was an inspiration!

Celebrities - pah! Sure, they have talents (don't we all?) I'm sure they work hard (don't we all?) They have got lucky, been recognised and praised for their talents. Good for them.

The people I really admire are those battling on when the odds are stacked against them.

There was an addict on the television the other day, not yet fully recovered, still having to battle every single day, now HIM I do admire. And then there's US, all the people that log on to Moodscope to measure our state of mind or read/comment on the blogs and support each other. I admire US, the unseen, unsung heroes.

Maybe we admire what we need the most? And I just need to keep going. My greatest achievement is that I am still here. I have nothing to show for myself but I am so proud of what I have achieved (still here!)

So who's your hero? If mine is Bob and all the unseen "ordinary" folk out there, who do YOU admire and why? Is it because they display strengths and skills that YOU really need and would like (or have!)?

You may not have achieved fame and fortune, but I admire YOU for your tenacity, day after day. Keep it up. Well done!

Marmaladegirl
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Christine Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 7:35am

My hero is probably my elder sister, she is the one we all go to for advise, reassurance, she is so grounded and sensible, she keeps me sane! we Skype every week, she lives in Australia, I wish I was more like her I have always been withdrawn with no confidence, I get anxious and worried, scared, she has many words of wisdom for me.
Thanks for this blog it made me stop and think, best wishes have a good day all

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:06am

Hi Christine - Thank you for your comment. Your sister sounds like a much more capable and fully-rounded hero than my goldfish! I'm glad that you have someone who can offer you words of wisdom, although it must sometimes be hard that she lives so far away. Sending best wishes to you for a good day too. MG

Sarah Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:17am

Well said! Such a good point. And I agree.admire those that keep going despite not being recognised as such. On a good moment I am really proud of myself for all the mental progress I make. I wish I could live there. I do wish my thoughts would fluctuate less and allow more consistency, for it's the consistency I need to take me to the next level. But time, I feel, has not been my friend. I needed to know what I know now twenty years ago, that is impossible though and in the dips my mind says who cares I'm so old now it doesn't matter.... but it does matter. I still have to live with myself, probably for a lot more years... sorry if that feels negative at the end!

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:40am

Dear Sarah - I know what you mean. Time is not on our side. It feels that so many years have been spent in the struggle, and on a bad day I see that as time wasted (I could have been actually LIVING my life, achieving things, enjoying things, experiencing different things - like everyone else seems to - instead of just striving to survive) But that is why we must be proud of ourselves for what we HAVE achieved. Like the ducks that paddle so hard against the current to stay in the same place... That's us. Be proud of what you have achieved. You have battled your way through all those ups and downs. You are fantastic. How strong are you?! Be proud of your age - that means you are a survivor (which takes enormous effort, skill and luck). Thanks for commenting Sarah! MG

Orangeblossom Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:17am

Hi Marmaladegirl thanks for the blog. Like you I don't think much of the cult of the celebrity. I have role models, two people who have been the greatest influences for good in my life & supported & encouraged me. I like to read & write & find humour goes a long way in helping to overcome difficulties. Or certainly to make them palatable.

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:45am

Hi Orangeblossom - Thank you for your comment. I hope the Moodscopers who read my blog realise that I was being tongue-in-cheek about the goldfish. People are more inspirational really and I am glad that you have people to support and encourage you, plus things that help you (like the reading, writing and humour). I hope you are having a good day today. All the best, MG

Tilly Mint Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:30am

Hi Marmaladegirl.I'm with you in everything in your post today. I've a cat called Betty or Mr Betty as unless the vets did an intrusive scan we'll never know. Betty appeared torn to shreds and worn out having lived in fields as a stray for at least 3 years that locals could tell me. I was new to the area and until then had my own car that wasn't keen on others so I had to shooo Betty away. Sadly my cat died and two weeks later Betty took her chance and sat on my window ledge. I'd planned, when ready to get a dog as my next pet but I couldn't turn Betty away. She was in such a mess and not just physically but bruised and scared in every way. I hate to think what she's been through and had to struggle with to simply survive. A year and a half later Betty who has moved house with me since has become a happy, to go out but happy to stay in car. She lovely thick glossy fur, full of mischief, bossy and so affectionate. It just goes to show the resilience she had and what the right atmosphere does. She's thriving now. My other hero is my late father. An alcoholic who died 2 months ago at 80. At 59 he had his first below the knee leg amputation and at 70 his second. He stopped drinking but the diabetes had been undiagnosed at 59 and had already well and truly set in so he also suffered from all the other health problems associated with an excessive life style. But he never moaned. Never gave up walking with false legs until his heart was too weak for him to stand. His tenacity in so many areas of his life was incredible and never ending. I can only guess he drank to self medicate. I'll never really know but he'll always be my hero. He never gave up trying. Never threw in the towel. Nature took it's course in February and he passed away very peacefully. I'll always find inspiration from him. He'll always be there x

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:52am

Hi Tilly Mint - How vividly you write! I can see your cat (don't worry - it's obviously cat not car!) and your father too. The way you describe your cat is exactly what I was trying to say about Bob the goldfish. And your father was definitely an unsung hero - his resilience was amazing and inspirational. With love to you and Betty, MG

Jane SG Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 3:25pm

Tilly Mint, I love the story about Betty. Thank you for taking care of her xx

Tilly Mint Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:31am

Predicted text has put car not cat!!!

Jill Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 9:56am

Hi Marmaladegirl , I really enjoyed readingredients your blog. I find all the obsession with celebrity very strange. The pexpletives I admire are the tryers. People who despite being faced with huge obstacles in their life carry on. I have been lucky enough to visit Nepal twice and last year I trekked up in Langtang. The village of Langtang was completely destroyed by a landslide in the 2015 earthquake. Hundreds of locals and foreign visitors lost their lives. I was amazed by the kindness and generosity of the local people I met on that trek. They had dignity, warmth and kindness despite all the tragedy they had faced recently. I am now doing my bit to help them by fundraising on Just Giving by undertaking a month of yoga practice for Langtang , and raising money for Community Action Nepal who work to support sustainable rebuilding , health and education.I belive that no action of kindness is wasted. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself a big hug from me. LOVE Jill xx

Jill Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 9:57am

Hi Marmaladegirl , I really enjoyed reading your blog. I find all the obsession with celebrity very strange. The poeple I admire are the tryers. People who despite being faced with huge obstacles in their life carry on. I have been lucky enough to visit Nepal twice and last year I trekked up in Langtang. The village of Langtang was completely destroyed by a landslide in the 2015 earthquake. Hundreds of locals and foreign visitors lost their lives. I was amazed by the kindness and generosity of the local people I met on that trek. They had dignity, warmth and kindness despite all the tragedy they had faced recently. I am now doing my bit to help them by fundraising on Just Giving by undertaking a month of yoga practice for Langtang , and raising money for Community Action Nepal who work to support sustainable rebuilding , health and education.I belive that no action of kindness is wasted. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself a big hug from me. LOVE Jill xx

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 10:45am

Hi Jill - Wow, that's amazing - both to visit somewhere like Langtang and your response to help the people there. Kindness, which is love really, is The Thing for me. Yes, I am being kind to myself (and others!) and have given myself a big hug. Thank you! Lots of love to you too.

Jill Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 12:50pm

Thanks Marmaladegirl, Your beauty shines through ! xx

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 1:09pm

And so does yours, dear Jill! xxx

Angela Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 10:07am

I want all of you to know how you inspire me to keep going when feeling overwhelmed. We've never met but all of you are helpful. My hero was my Dad. We lost him to bowel cancer age 62. Twenty years ago and it still hurts. Xxx

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 10:52am

Dearest Angela - I am sending you lots and lots of love. You are not alone when you feel overwhelmed and in pain. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Dad when he was so young and it is not surprising that it still hurts - that is testament to how much you loved him, that you always will love him. xxxx

Jane SG Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 3:26pm

Sending you a big hug from me also Angela xxx

Mary Wednesday Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 11:36am

I admire my friend, Raz (Not his real name) more than I can say. He is incredibly private, so I won't share the challenges he has overcome and dealt with and the dreams that have been taken away, but he is utterly amazing with what he has achieved. And, while we have wept on each other's shoulders in the past, we can still call each other and giggle nonstop for 40 minutes.

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 1:12pm

He sounds an amazing person to know and the best friend to have! I know it is obvious to say this, but you can't tell what people have been through just by looking at them and he sounds like the perfect example of the unsung heroes that I admire (mind you, that is just about ALL of us on Moodscope - keep battling on everyone!) MG

The Gardener Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 11:58am

Not really heroes - but Prince Harry has come out today saying he has only just come round to accepting counselling to cope with delayed grief. Whatever your opinion of the 'Royals' the fact that those two princes have had to cope with the world focus on their 'Mummy' the idol of most of the press, scourge of other, and now, this year, 20th anniversary of her death, everything will be dug up yet again. What a burden to bear - Rich and cossetted they may be, but nothing makes up for seeing your mother's image vilified. Good luck to them, I say

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 1:14pm

Here, here - good point well made TG. Good luck to them, I say too - and good luck to YOU ("Say not the struggle naught availeth"). MG

Lesley Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 9:11pm

When Diana died I saw a wonderful pain specialist for the first time who was the first doctor who managed to listen to me and my awful physical pain. We discussed the fact my mother's death whilst I was in my teens was a very strong predictor for depression in adulthood. This kind doctor more or less said that the two princes were highly likely to be affected mentally later in life. Like Harry I suppressed the emotional pain and became a slightly out of control character. I still battle with attention seeking behaviour and a deep need to feel needed and to be able to give love.

Marmaladegirl Tue, Apr 18th 2017 @ 12:07pm

Dear Lesley - Thank you for your comment. I hope that you see this reply... Mind and body are totally entwined I think, which is why it's difficult to talk about mental health and physical health separately. In my case emotional suffering led to lots of physical symptoms, then depression and then ME/CFS (which gives me a whole lot of physical AND mental symptoms!) I hope you are as well as you can be now Lesley and keep searching for ways to feel even better! Best wishes, MG xx

Vickie Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 12:25pm

Hi Marmaladegirl,
Thank you for such a lovely blog. Made me reflect on who I admire and realize that the people I admire most have overcome great adversity and are able to see still the joy in life. Who have the tenacity to keep going despite a heavy burden. Moodscopers are definitely unsung heros.xxx

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 1:17pm

Hi Vickie - Thank you for this! Yep, those of us on Moodscope know how hard it can be - and we should give ourselves and each other a pat on the back! Hope your day is going OK. All the best, MG

Jane SG Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 3:23pm

Dear Marmaladegirl, what an inspiring blog and lovely responses. I have to say I did fine the Paralympics incredibly inspiring. There are also some people in my own life I admire and the Moodscope community. It's too easy to forget to celebrate everyday triumphs. Xx

Marmaladegirl Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 7:07pm

Hi Jane - Life isn't easy for anyone but it's extra hard for some and I think that those of us who have depression or are bi-polar should give ourselves credit for the extra effort we have to make. In her comment earlier Jill said "be kind to yourself" and it's part of that. Easy to say but easy to forget to do! We ARE all heroes, even though the nature of our mental health condition means that we certainly don't FEEL like it! I hope you have had a good day. MG xx

Tilly Mint Wed, Apr 19th 2017 @ 7:17am

Thanks Marmaladegirl and much love to you and 'Bob' xx

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