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Who stole 2016? Friday December 9, 2016

I am sure someone knows. Is it the person who is always so organised that have bought their Christmas present by July? It is the person who makes a list at the start of the year and achieves it by May??

It started well, I watched the fireworks on TV and thought 2016 would be my year - it would be the year I would achieve things and make changes.

I made a list that was achievable.

Then something happened I woke up one day and it was December. So I ask again who stole 2016?

I now have only a few weeks to achieve all my tasks, and to make matters worse I lost the list some time ago.

I have never understood time. How come when you are waiting for someone a minute seems to last for ever but when someone is waiting for you while you do something the time goes so fast.

However, losing a whole year or having it taken from me, seems so ridiculous but what else can it be?

How can it be December yet I have not finished one item on my list - or what I remember was on my list. My mum told me that as one gets older time goes faster because for a 5 years old a year is a 1/5 of their life but for a 50 year old it is 1/50, so seems faster.

Is that it, 2016 just flew by so quickly I could not grab on to it.

So tell me do you know who stole 2016?

Was it you?

Please let me know your ideas.

How do I stop someone stealing 2017??

Leah
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Jason Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 5:10am

I once saw the advice to make each day as different and memorable as possible. Seems potentially relevant to this. If you lived a year where not a single day were like any other day, that seems like it'd be quite interesting.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:03am

Jason, I try to learn something new each day but then I forget it! Thanks for your advice.

David Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 6:01am

Live one day at a time and limit living in the Virtual Reality Digital World.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:05am

David, Thanks for your comment.

Karen Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 6:47am

Wow you called it right. My thief this year was CHANGE as it is often my biggest trigger. Happy Change - I had more holidays this year, or SAD Changes - and there were lots. I can't avoid change but I can plan for it once I recognise what its impact is. So my wish for us all is what everyone else above is suggesting but also a smooth passage on your own recovery journey.

Pablo Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:09am

It is truly frightening how fast time flies by. I have been trying out mindfulness and meditation these past two months and for me, time has slowed somewhat. I am 60 years old and summers have been passing me by far too quickly. atvb.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:08am

Karen, Thanks fpor sharing the highs and lows of your year. I am not sure one can plan for change but one knows it will happen and one can expect it.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:09am

Pablo, Thanks for your comment. As the Romans said Tempus fugit.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:32am

Oh Leah, I wish someone had stolen my 2016. Not a great year. Although - there have been some lovely moments in among all the pain.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:10am

Mary, my 2016 was not great either with ill health and death of loved ones and much more. I suppose I also memnat the 2016 I was planning did not happen so it was stolen. I do hope 2017 is much better for you. Like you I had some great moments through the pain .

Jul Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 8:22am

Hi Leah. in the months leading up to a significant birthday one year, I tried to live life in the slow lane and make time, not stand still of course, but not pass so quickly. It was quite fun doing it but now almost 6 years later I am dumbfounded about where those years have gone. "Time waits for no man.." As for 2016, so much has happened in the world and the media has told us of all the terrible negative things. What has happened globally has almost overtaken how I feel about my p ersonal life. It's been an eventful year (personally as well) and I am looking forward to 2017but hope I can slow it down!! I can't of course. Jul xx

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:13am

Jul, 2016 has been a year of chnage personally for many and globally as well. What will 2017 have in store for us. Thanks for yourcomment and sharing your 2016.

DAVE Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 8:26am

Hi Leah,

There are 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, 365 days in a year.
You know that as well as anyone....So whether we're 5 or 50 years old time WILL not alter, but as the saying goes 'time and tide wait for no man'. !

Time and the management thereof, is vital if we are to be in control of each of our moods.

The 5 year old has no responsibility at all, no committments, no schedules, he has only to enjoy the moment, he has no conception of time at all.
Therefore his little brain can only concentrate upon the 'NOW', he enjoys himself in EACH moment.....His time is ENDLESS....and he has time to spare !

The 50 year old attracts responsibilities, and more so if he is married. These occupy his mind, he has to make thousands of decisions every day...Where am I going, who have I got to see, which way do I go, how shall I travel, where and what shall I eat, if I do THAT chore, will have enough time to see my pal as arranged....So on and so forth.
Time to Mr 50 year is limited by what he puts into and what is placed into his day, and ALL of the other demands placed upon him by work committments...Therefore because he has so much more to do than the 5 year old time goes by that much faster. If he procrastinates, these build up, and consume his sub-conscious, t such a degree, self- inflicted adversity is upon him, and his mood reflects these build up of UNADDRESSED things which if not delt with as they surface, can cause stress, Depression which under some circumstances get him into hospital with a Break-Down...I have witnessed, Doctors, Solicitors, and other professional and non proffessional bodies in hospital, one or two of whom I knew personally.

Maybe have just ONE N Year resolution....To deal immediately with the most difficult problem, until you have it resolved, and to complete each day that which is placed before you....You may not achieve that, so with your daily list carry it over to rhe next day !

That's what I do every day and have done for years..That's the inner peace and happiness which attracts an ORDERLY life.
Can't forget that ONE resolution, which COULD change you and your attitude WITHOUT you being AWARENESS of the amount of time that you save.
God bless
Dave.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:14am

Dave Thanks for the time and efoort you put into your replies. There is always something to learn from them. Thanks

the room above the garage Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 8:33am

Ditto!!
Love ratg xxx

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:16am

RATG thanks. 2017 brings you peace.xxx

LP Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:20am

Hi Leah,
If Ihe saying time flies when your having fun is true why is the opposite not also true eh?
I try to resist wishing tome away by looking forward to time to get off the treadmill and relax, to enjoy all that there is to enjoy. Stuff gets in the way and I just need reminding, which Moodscope does.
Maybe the more we really focus on each moment in the here and now the more aware we will be of our time. I know that I have spent more time drifting around in thoughts than I would like.
Thanks for the reminder to live real life in the moment and not miss it going by. Well wishes to all LPxx

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:31am

LP Thanks for your comment and observations. I suppose I want to focus on enjoyable moments but on painful moments I want to forget them and see them go as quickly as posssible.

LP Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 8:46am

For sure. Xxx

Sally Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:36am

Oh Leah, how I sympathise! I always say Christmas will be stress -free this year, and at this stage every year I know I will resent the race to finish Christmas cards and so on. Grr! What should be joyful becomes full of angst. I switch from " oh well..." to annoyance. My mood fluctuates, and I feel more tired than usual, positively lazy!
Time? What time?!
A good friend once said " if you counted up what you need to do, and the time available, you wouldn't be able to fit it in anyway, you know!" The penny dropped! He was right! Ultimately , then, why worry?! So I am doing the best than I can.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:42am

Sally Thanks for your comment. I can relate to the saying of your friend.I am sure your best will be more than good enough, You have a lot to cope with.

Sheena Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 9:52am

Oh Leah - I like the way you write! We are all encouraged to have goals, thus leaving us wide open to not achieving them :) How about starting the day when you wake rather than when an alarm clock wakes you? i.e. 'reversing the goal of waking to rule'? After all we are here to live our lives - not set targets that although virtuous may stop us just living fully. Just a thought! Sheena

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:40pm

Sheena Thanks for your comments. I have never had an alarm clock in my life, I have a body that wakes me up very early every day!! I like the idea of living one's life. I don't set targets just wanted to keep in touch with friends and loved ones more. I have never been one for resolutions New year or other wise. Thanks for your kind words.

Christine Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 10:24am

I'm with Sheena; I discovered that making lists just made me feel worse when I did not achieve all of them...and adding them on to tomorrow's list, just made the list undoable....as for who stole 2016; well, you know, I think it just didn't like what it could see was happening to our world, and it has done its best to hurry away! And I reckon 2017 will be faster still...

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:41pm

Christine, thanks for your thoughts. Maybe people can be divided into listmakers and non listmakers!! All the best for 2017.

Wyvern Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 11:27am

I have two lists to help me keep track of the days: one is a "what was good about today" list. This can have anything from 'I got out of bed before mid-day' to 'they liked the talk I gave at work'. The other is a "done" list. This is purely for work. Whenever I complete a project or piece of work, it goes on the list. This means that the obligatory 'to do' list is always smaller than the 'done' list! I make sure that I have fewer than 10 things on my 'to do' list. Otherwise it becomes impossible.
Like Leah, and I suspect many others, my 2016 was affected by illness and death. I also (like Pablo) turned 60 which feels like a big milestone. I think I can say that 2016 was unique. Neither good nor bad, but all part of life's rich pattern.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:46pm

Wyvern, Thanks for taking time to reply. AS I said before there are listmakers and nonlistmakers. I am glad your 2 list system works for you. Actually I may be in a 3rd group the part time listmaker. I make a list and then forget where I put it, I am not a dilligent listmaker. On really bad days I make a list that starts with make a list and then do something on list so I have 2 things to tick off straight away!!(not original but it does help). Take care, Leah

Dolphin Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 11:33am

All I can offer is a wry comment from someone - once you are over the hill, you sure gather speed! cycle on...

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:47pm

Dolphin, I like your comment, cycle on is sometimes all we can do.

Tychi's Mum Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 12:45pm

I really like that too Dolphin although I'd really rather time didn't gather speed...

Leah Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 9:45pm

TYchi's mum, yes speed is my problem with time.

Alex Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 11:56am

Hi Leah, I sympathise, I often feel that time passes too quickly especially when I DON'T make lists. Lists help me focus on the important goals and avoid being distracted by the lesser ones. This is a common business problem too, some workers are really good at getting all the smaller projects done, but never get time to focus on the more time consuming ones. Others naturally work the other way round, they focus on the big projects and all the smaller ones fall by the wayside. The art is to prioritise and set varying timescales accordingly. That way, alongside working on the bigger projects, you make time to break away and achieve some of the smaller ones.

So list your achievable goals, put individual timescales against them and then note your progress regularly. If you break the bigger goals down into smaller chunks you are more likely to see progress and that will lift your mood and sense of achievement. I sometimes think I get more satisfaction from crossing off a job than getting the job done itself.

An example would be, "Do the gardening" - actually that at some times of the year is days of work, so I break it down to 1) mow front lawn 2) mow back lawn, 3) weed flower beds 4) prune x & y bushes etc. Within hours I am ticking off jobs = satisfaction.

Some lists are just scribbled on a piece of paper just for that day/weekend. Others, more to do with my work, are on a spreadsheet which I visit frequently to update and hopefully close off. I keep the finished ones on the list, maybe in a different colour to help me appreciate what I have achieved when I am feeling low about what I have not achieved.

Hope this helps and may your 2017 be full of ticked off goals.

Alex


Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:51pm

Alex, Nice to see your comments. I hope you have been well. AS I said there are the listmakers and the nonlistmakers and the casual listmakers. I am glad listmaking works for you. I do make lists then I lose them or dont follow them through. I suppose setting goals that dont get ticked off would stress me. All the best for 2017.

The Gardener Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 12:47pm

Alex, with you, above. Whenever I take comfort from my garden nowadays, which includes forward planning I think of all those who've never had a garden - some, here, nowhere to put the bin, dry the washing. And when the kids are driving you bonkers and weather awful, you can still chuck them in the garden, but not in a flat or social housing. I think Christmas steals the year - the people who say 'It can't be Christmas already! Seems to cause so much stress that the rest of the year, good or bad, seems concertinaed in the middle. Also - very old-fashioned and prudish - the lack of any celebration of Sunday - best dress - lunch parties - you could have a little Christmas once a week, so less of a shock. I think lists, planning and getting up early really matter - I know so many people (retired in particular) who just 'drift' through the day - and, again, grumpy old woman - the time spent on computer games is lost - no feeling of achievement - washing up still in sink. For 2017 I have booked Mr G into respite on 30th January - last New Year's Eve so depressing can't face another - especially as his current 'fad' is turning all the lights off - and I can watch TV all night if I wish - not very exciting - but at least for a night I can be my own boss. Leah, do you keep a diary? I have for 30 years - go back through them and you realise the years were not 'stolen'.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 7:55pm

Gardener, Thanks Gardener I always enjoy your comments and anecdotes. I do keep a diary/journal and have on and off for over 30 years too. Though I did throuw some out as I did not want my family to read them but thats another story!! I am glad lists help you.

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 8:00pm

My blog was how I was feeling and I hoped it would make people smile and think! I may have achieved the latter and not the former!!
Thanks for all the comments . I am always grateful when people read and or take time to comment. It is never too late to comment as I keep reading for days/ weeks!!
I think I can see a discussion about listmakers and nonlistmakers and casual listmakers and reformed listmakers etc. Stay tuned!!! First do I need to make a list about writing about lists!!

Hopeful One Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 10:04pm

Hi Leah- I don't know where or who stole my 2016. My goal for 2017 is to accomplish the goals of 2016 which I should have done in 2015 because I made a promise in 2014 and planned in 2013!

Tychi's Mum Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 12:47pm

That made me smile HO...

Tychi's Mum Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 12:48pm

That made me smile HO...

Leah Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 9:31pm

hopeful one, your dilemma made me smile!! I was hoping others would reply similiarly. Thank you. My problem is working out where 2000-16 have gone !!!

Gerald Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 10:50pm

I find that recording your events provides you with a sense of continuity and accomplishments. Start with a simple calendar and progress to a day book. After you may want a journal . Looking back you will be amazed as to how you spent your year . It would be similar to your moodscope graph . In fact the two together may give you a broader perspective and you won't regard the days of your year as fleeting by .

Leah Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 9:40pm

Gerald, Thanks Gerald, OI already have a diary and and a journal and lists!!

Orangeblossom Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 8:25am

Hi Leah hope that the coming weeks are more full of light & peace. Thinking of you as you approach the end of 2016, that it works out better for you. Love & affection

Leah Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 9:42pm

Orangeblosson, Thanks for your kind thoughts. I wish you all the best for 2017. I always appreciate your kind comments to everyone,

Mary Wednesday Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 8:54am

Lists.... I have just invested quite a chunk of money (for the third year running) in a diary system similar to filo fax. It has a page for appointments and a to do section and a journal section. This year I will resolve to use it daily. I feel much more professional when I do - even if the list says things like do the laundry, make manicure appointment, pick children up from after school clubs. I can then look back and see that time didn't just disappear.

Leah Sat, Dec 10th 2016 @ 9:44pm

Mary, you have started me googling to find such a diary but I think I would feel guilty if I had spent a lot of money and then didnt use it or lost it!!! I am glad that system works for you.

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