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What makes your heart sing? Thursday April 2, 2015

When we put our heart into something, it is often said to contain 'passion'...which in its origins came from the Latin 'pati' meaning to suffer.

Interestingly, the people who generally inspire us most, are those who have truly suffered to achieve what they have. It is their story, with all its emotions that enables us to 'feel' for them and their rise to success and even fame.

When reading recently I came across something that made great sense to me. Please answer the questions below for yourself as you go through them – even write them down.

If we ask people "What do you do?" we likely receive their job role or title. (what did you say or write?)

If we ask "What are you passionate about?" we may be told the subject or interest that they seek to fulfil in their job or even perhaps their spare time!

If however we ask "What is it that makes your heart sing?" we shift the conversation to an almost spiritual emotional connection and what truly moves them, which may be quite different from the first two. Here, they are far more likely to take the risk and truly show themselves, unlike the first two that will usually stay safe and IQ.

In answering the last question, you will not be talking about a passing interest or a hobby. A passion is something that is intensely meaningful and core to your identity.

If you ever want to connect with someone, simply talk about what makes your heart sing – as in doing so, you will far more than anything, literally be speaking from the heart.

To do so, will show your authentic self and thus the coherence with the other person, or of course the dissonance with them.

Now, how far are you going to dilute your 'heart's voice' to find or stay in work? Or conversely how much are you going to reveal it to find your true vocation?

As you go through your conversations today, give each one a rating out of 10 for authentic meaningful passionate heartfelt 'stuff'. Can you actually reveal your true self? And if your scores are low, is it any wonder your hearts not in it and your looking elsewhere?

The challenge is 'what makes your heart sing' and does it impact on your daily activities?

If not – can you be happy?

Les
A Moodscope member.


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Comments

Anonymous Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 6:30am

Brilliant. Thank you Les. I enjoyed being taken through this little test. It seems I am lucky to be in a job that makes my heart sing on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. Funnily enough I also suffered a fair bit to get there. What I have noticed before too, is that putting your heart and soul into a job makes any bumps in the road much more painful. Your heart is now out there, embedded in your work, and vulnerable. But isn't thst similar to a truly intimate, fulfilling human relationship? Your post has really made me think, thank you. We cannot make our hearts sing without daring to put them on the line. Anna

Julia Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 6:48am

As usual Les, you hsve given me sonething to ponder on. Next time I meet my good friend for a coffee, I'm going to ask her what makes her heart sing. I am away from home right now so not checking moodscope every day. I'm very glad I happened to this morning.

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 7:51am

Courage is the first sign of 'passion'......and with courage we take greater risks.

For all those that say we cannot live without processes and 'knowing' (IQ) I ask what is the most important decision they have ever made....and after a few seconds they usually reply -'getting married' - I then ask can you show me the 'process' for that MOST important decision......?

We need IQ (organising the wedding) AFTER we make the emotional decision.......EQ before IQ every time / intimacy before intellect / trust before transaction.... :-)

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 7:52am

:-)

Anonymous Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 8:30am

Very thought provoking article. I have moved careers from financial ( safe, well paid)to creative and latterly on to caring. Its necessary to still do some of the creative work but increasingly my hearts not in it.Many thanks.Heather

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 9:49am

Keep following your heart....and it'll keep you 'young' as well as happy......things which cannot be bought......or sold.

Mary Hill Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 1:01pm

The best post I think you've ever done! Hmmm - off to think now - what does make my heart sing?

Lynn in Raleigh Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 3:00pm

Thank you, Les! This got a star on my phone and reminded me of one of my favorite quotes... "Don't ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive and then go do that because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." Love and blessings to you all. (I have found that to be happiest ...an introvert like me... comes from being with others... go figure)

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 3:10pm

Thanks for that....

Can you explain why you say that?

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 3:12pm

Yup.....great quote....

Anonymous Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 3:32pm

Les, can I ask what happens when everything has gone black and you don't know what makes your heart sing even less who you are? Cat

Les Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 4:00pm

"What saves a person is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it."
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars, 1939

When I get depressed that's all I know I have to do........even when there are constant suicidal thoughts......and sometimes I will stay with people who help me take the first step each day.....after I've been under the covers awake and afraid for hours.....not even getting up for the toilet (take bottle to bed) as it means I have to face the day....!!

I'm still here after 21 years and 20 bouts...........although they are now getting shorter and not quite as dark as I change my relationships and life.

And even although I know it will eventually lift, and drugs make no difference and even although it can be up to 6 months and I 'think' I'll never be even OK, never mind happy again and my life is over.........one step after another.........and 'forced' by friends to go out with them...I MUST take a step - even a tiny one........because the only alternative is not to be here....and while it seems preferable at times instead of all the pain.....and my VERY selfish introversion.......I keep stepping into discomfort......as it DOES eventually fade...........and the sun forever rises and the birds still sing.

I sometimes cope with just endless rubbish TV - where I pre-record things so I can skip the adverts, as that 2-4 minutes takes me back to black. Something with a story that my mind has to follow......Oh and Diazepam when its gets TOO bad......but I don't get addicted to it....or use it too much........so my GP is OK to give them to me.

"Loneliness is an unhappy compound of having lost one's point of reference, of suffering the fate of individual and collective discontinuity and of living through or dying from a crisis of identity to the point of alienation of one's self" Ludwig Binswanger

Cat Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 6:43pm

Les, thank you for responding to me on my worst day ever, even worse than the day I tried and failed to kill myself, I am deeply grateful to you. I will do as you suggest, step by step, I have been so very lost today, you have been immensely generous in sharing with me. Thank you most sincerely. Cat

Julia Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 8:53pm

Les is a good guy Cat

Anonymous Thu, Apr 2nd 2015 @ 9:59pm

Hi Cat
I do hope you continue to visit Moodscope as I think you will find lots of support - doing so daily if you can is best,and yes, Les is great.
Wishing you peace of mind and heart and blue skies to gaze at while you negotiate your way back to better moments, which turn into hours, then days ...
Frankie

Leah Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 4:07am

Dear Cat and Les,
Thank you both for your honesty. I found it very moving. I live in the southern hemisphere but with the power of your words I felt close as I have share your experience. Thank you moodscope for letting people open up about their lives. Leah

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