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What have you done today to make you feel proud? Friday September 11, 2015

So sang Ms Heather Small in a song that was about being anything but. She urged us to step out of the ordinary and see our soul ascending... Quite a tall order when you're fighting to just get through the day.

A few weeks ago I read a book called Thrive by Rob Kelly (I highly recommend it if you haven't read it - it's amazing). Rob urges anyone struggling with their mental and emotional health to start tapping into what they've done to make themselves proud. And to create a Proud List (I'll call it a PL for short but not a VPL, that would be too public ;-))

When I first started my PL the things I put on it were tiny (got up, made a cup of tea, called a friend). And gradually they've got bigger (went for a run, wrote my first blog for Moodscope!) But the things themselves don't really matter, the magic comes in the reaction you give yourself to the action.

So here's how it goes:

1. Write down what you did (made a cup of tea)
2. Say what was positive about it (It felt nice doing it, it tasted good)
3. Write down what someone else would say if you told them about it (that's so brilliant, a huge step forward from where you were last week, well done you!)
4. Finally, write down what you've learnt from that thing (that if I just do one small thing each day I can make a big difference to my life)

And if it sounds like hard work I've got a template I'm happy to share: I first started my proud sheet when my Moodscope scores were rock bottom and I saw an immediate lift. I started to treat myself like my own best friend and began to reverse the negative chat in my machine-like mind. It's time to fall in love with ourselves... one proud step at a time.

And now I'm off to tell myself how proud I am for writing this blog and connecting with you! I've learnt I can write and make a difference to other people's lives... and that deserves a cup of tea.

Look forward to hearing what makes you proud of you.

Debs xx

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Andy Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 6:29am

Brilliant blog Debs. I will be giving this a go. x

Hopeful One Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 6:30am

Hi Debs- simple but brilliant. In this manoeuvre you have shown me a way out by appreciating and acknowledging my achievements no matter how small. It makes permanent the ability to see one's glass as half full even if there is only an inch of water in it .Extreme interpretation admittedly ,but it grabs the essence of your blog.Thank you .

Debs Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 6:45am

Ahhh, thanks Andy and HO, I'm so glad you found it useful. One thing I forgot to say is that when I first created my list I started with a brain dump of everything I was proud of over the last week or so. I had things like 'called a friend', 'bought flowers for Angie', 'planted seeds in the garden' 'went for a walk' 'read Thrive' etc - the act of getting as many things down on paper as possible acts as a boost to your brain. Good luck with it and I'm v proud of you for taking the time to comment, it makes my day to read them ;-) xx

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 7:02am

Wowee zowee! What a great blog Debs! You really, really should be proud! As already said...simple but brilliant and so effective no matter how small those steps are. My first on the list is I've got up before the rest of the household, made tea for us and got onto Moodscope and its only just gone seven in the morning!! I feel a big list coming on....!
Thank you, Bear..... x x x

Catherine Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 7:07am

Debs, that is superb. Made me feel happy just reading it - a great start to the day. So simple, so do-able. definitely one I will be sharing - thank you.

Christine Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 7:28am

Debs, great blog, you should be proud of yourself, I will definitely be starting a list, really helpful, thanks X

Adrian Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 7:39am

What a stonking great blog, Debs. I felt proud simply reading it. Your examples are so clear and bring the whole brilliant idea to life. Beautifully written. Well done you.
A x

Angie Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 7:47am

Thankyou Debs, you can be proud of lifting my spirits today. LOVE Heather Small and M People. Music that lifts the soul. Wonderful idea for us all to list our achievements, positive and self appreciative of ourselves. Have a wonderful day lovely people ?

Sarah Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 8:05am

Thanks Debs. This is great - and a chart to go with ur. Heather Snall also makes an appearance ( of sorts) on the Miranda show - something that has me howling in laughter which puts Miranda dvd in my Hapoy Box. Have a very proud day x

Zareen Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 8:19am

Thanks for your posting Debs. I found your Blog helpful with its self-affirmation statement. Currently I am doing the Emotional Coping Skills i& they did mention self- affirmation statements and rewarding ourselves when we achieved our goals. It is not as structured as the Dialectical Behavioural Therapy & therefore fun to participate in. Your blog reinforced the training.

Leah Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 8:29am

I have one for your list under what a friend says- so two columns -I am very proud that you know how to put a link in a post. I can do links on Facebook and emails but not in a blog, so am very impressed. Thanks for your blog.

Sally Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 8:39am

Well done Debs. Good blog. A bit of structure like a PL is a very useful thing in making us aware that we have been effective, and in giving ourselves due consideration and praise.

Jen Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 9:49am

Hi Debs, I don't know about other people but even just singing the words of that song makes me all tingly and must be doing something to my brain - always loved it(and Heather Small's voice is amazing!). Thanks so much for this brill blog, I will write my list. I've also just found something else,I wrote down a few weeks ago as per Lex's suggestions which I'm going to revisit(involving lots of arrow drawings!?). I really want to use all the Moodscope tools/ideas shared here and carry on 'Moving on Up' quote Heather Small again (!) in terms of my MH. My mind just seems kind of resistant as all the negative self talk seems to come so much easier x

Anne Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 11:24am

A brilliant share, thank you. It even motivated me to measure my mood, first time in 68 days (I've been in a slump & isolating)... Now feeling proud and also aware it's the first time I've commented on a blog :-)
Lots of progress - so thanks for writing Deb, it was the catalyst I needed

Debs Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 4:38pm

Wow - Bear, Catherine, Christine, Adrian, Angie, Sarah, Zareen, Leah, Sally, Jen and Anne - thank you for the comments, I am so proud reading them all ;-)
Bear - look forward to hearing about your list - sounds like its gonna be a good 'un!
Catherine, Christine, Adrian, Sally and Angie - thank you, the blog has def made my proud list ;-)
Sarah - I love Miranda, thank you for the reminder to watch more funny stuff. Going to order myself a Miranda boxset.
Zareen - your training sounds good, will you blog about it and share it with us?
Leah - I can't take the credit I'm afraid, that was the Mopdscope team ;-)
Jen - I know, the song is so amazing isnt it!! I love the Olympics version, gets me every time!
Anne - all I've ever wanted to do was to inspire people so your comment has made my day! Thank you and keep commenting!
Love to you all xxx

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 11th 2015 @ 10:57pm

Thank you Debs, this is great and doable! reminded me of captain caveman with your "zowee" !!! :-) love ratg x.

Amanda Mon, Sep 14th 2015 @ 4:31pm

A late comment ... have been offline for a couple of weeks ... This is a great idea and one I will add to my daily resolution to 'achieve at least one thing per day'. At the worst, the one thing might be to get out of bed!

Helen Tue, Sep 15th 2015 @ 8:23pm

This is a lovely post thank you

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