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'What goes around comes round'. Friday September 9, 2016

Running my own company, I was hospitalised (forth and last time), in 1986, at 42 years of age... you know, unable to cope.

After six weeks in hospital and near to discharge, I was talking to a fellow patient, John, a 74 year old man, who had, (as he thought) lost everything.

John lived in a mansion, half the size of Longleat, set in acres and acres of land, with a half mile drive to his front door - he was wealthy.

He had built up an empire with offices in London, Manchester and Birmingham with his co-directors, as architects, finding and buying 'sites' on behalf of various supermarkets.

Under great pressure, he had 'burnt out'.

Whilst in hospital, his wife had left with one of his co-directors and they voted him off the board. She absconded with his yacht and locked him out of his home. She was filing for divorce and was taking him to the 'cleaners'.

John was sitting next to me in tears; he was in suicidal mode.

I shall not forget his words, "I have nothing to live for". He had two sons, with a property he was renting out, which he'd put in their names.

Bankruptcy he thought, was going to take this property, leaving him penniless and 'out on the streets'.

I was going home for the weekend and I said I'd seek a lawyer friend's help.

Returning back to clinic on the Monday, I said my legal friend advised that his wife could not take this property, away from him. The look of joy, in this old man's eyes was a blessing to behold.

Out of hospital and back under pressure myself, six months later, my wife answered the door, "Somebody's here to see you" she said.

I did not recognise the man standing before me, it was John, walking unaided, his looks were vibrant, full of determination.

What an example, this man, at 74, had started up a new business. His clients had discovered his plight, left his old company, and put their business and trust his way.

Driving a new Range Rover, John wanted to buy from me, all office machines and furniture for his new offices, worth a great deal of money.

Verging on tears, the thought came into my head, 'Heavenly Father' above, had born witness once again, that "losing myself in the service of others", gives purpose, to this mortal life.

Personal, inner peace, and inner happiness.

'What goes round, came around', to both giver and recipient.

To give without expecting anything in return... is not 'holier than thou', not religious, but Christlike.

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Duma Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 4:48am

Nice good turn, Dave.

I'm reminded of The Threefold Law of The Craft. Y'know - Wicca/Witchcraft/The old ways.

Whatever you do, by magical means, will return unto the caster, be it good, or ill. Threefold.

Now, one woman's magic, is this unbeliever's 'Suitably Advanced Technology'.

Still, INSTANT KARMA is not a new idea, y'know?

Yours in Aesir, Duma of the Moshpit.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:31am

Hey Duma, your comment made me smile! Thank you.

Andrew Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:40am

me too Duma!

Duma Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 4:56pm

Thank you both! Your smiles are infectious.

LillyPet Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 7:30am

Hi Dave,
What a beautifully heart warming story! Thank you for sharing this reminder that there is always hope that the universe works in this way.
Love and light to all LPxx

Sally Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 7:31am

I love your inspirational story, Dave. Thank you for sharing. It is very true that giving without expecting anything in return can be the most rewarding feeling ever.
I love giving to strangers. In answer to their 'Why?' I just say "Because I was penniless once" or " Because you are young, and the young are always short of money". The same with other sorts of help. It does the helper no amount of good.

I am impressed that you resolved your difficulties such that 1986 was the last time you were in hospital 'not able to cope'. Go well.

Hopeful One Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:11am

Hi Dave - a heart warming tale illustrating the mysterious workings of Karma.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you Is the positive interpretation but the cynical negative one would say a good deed never goes unpunished!

We always have this choice.

A laugh though , one feels, nearly always produces the positive vibes

Mexican Maid Aimara, a Mexican maid announced to her Boss Mr Blanco and his wife that she was quitting. When asked why, she replied, "I'm in the family way." The wife was totally surprised and shocked, and asked who it was. The maid replied, "Your husband and your son." Mrs Blanco was mortified and demanded an explanation. "Well," Aimara explained, "I go to the library to clean it and your husband say, 'You are in the way'. I go to the living room to clean and your son say 'You are in my way'. So I'm in the family way and I quit."

Mary Wednesday Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:29am

Oh, that is lovely! Thank you.

LillyPet Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 11:24pm

Relieved Lol!!!

Mary Wednesday Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:32am

Absolutely. Casting bread on the waters always seems to come back. Usually spread with jam and butter!

Orangeblossom Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:40am

Hi Dave, thanks for your blog which is full of hope & encouragement. I try to make it a practise "to go the second mile" if I can possibly do so. The benefit is that I feel great when the students who I support succeed in their courses. I experienced this over the summer.

fiona Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:50am

delight to read this post...........makes the world a better place

Tony Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:52am

What on earth had John done to have these "misfortunes" -- we were not told. Not being the sort of wealth-lover that John appears to be, I can't relate positively to the story. Better luck next time, Moodscope!

Andrew Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 8:58am

Karma, Heavenly Father, Threefold Law of the Craft, whatever is behind it, the human spirit depends upon it, and were it not for our human sense of what is Good, I suspect we would have died out long ago.

Personally, I struggle with the concept of good things (and bad) being attributable to a third party, an outside force, a supernatural presence. However this concept does help assuage our thirst for meaning. What IS true, for sure, is that being kind ultimately feels better than being angry, and that being helpful and generous always gives one a buzz, more so than being nasty or argumentative.

And that good things tend to happen more to kind people. Jam and butter all round!

LillyPet Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 11:36pm

I agree with your last point Andrew. I think that in nature, what I refer to as the universe, things seem to balance themselves out. So I'm defo due some jam and butter, haven't had any for years! :)

Andrew Sat, Sep 10th 2016 @ 7:12am

It's on its way....:-)

The Gardener Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 9:30am

Dave, your blog has opened a can of worms for me. Mr G goes into a week's respite today - I will get together with medics and other helpers to see if (I shall try and define worst problems clearly) life at home can be improved at all. Dave's blog was so pertinent because, on the way back from a holiday in France, on the ferry, Mr G (then aged 47) said he could not face the responsibility any more, making decisions, instructing staff. What on earth to do? Choices, sell (impractical, in mid-season) take over myself or hand it to 'manager'. He was a hard worker, and had been promoted, mistakenly, to manager - and he could NOT manage. That left me - perfectly conversant with business except the high technology input and controlling staff. I took over - said I would run it 'through' manager - who loathed a woman boss. I explained that Mr G was suffering overwork. I 'summoned' experts for all aspects of business - who acted like a committee, a bit like nowadays when a big company gets into difficulties. Mr G should have had medical help, would not hear of it - as now, anything like psychotherapy is anathema to him. The real 'crux' underlined by today's blog, is that the fact that I 'coped' and held the firm together till eldest son took over, and, with one of our daughters, made a brilliant job of it, emasculated Mr G. Then 8 years ago he had eyesight problems - I had, again, to take over, doing everything which had been his 'province'. Again, the emasculation, the fact that I could do it. To me, we are a couple, one is ill, has a weakness, the other steps in or calls in a third party. If Mr G, that first 'crunch' when he was 47, had agreed to professional help, it might not have prevented Alzheimers, but could our life not have been better if someone had persuaded him to 'accept' that we cannot ALL do EVERYTHING, and that there is no shame in realizing ones limitations? If I had NOT taken over 40 years ago it would have been ruin, a fire sale and living the rest of our lives with having abandoned the two plus decades of success for which we had both worked, including 5 children and doing up 3 old houses (all we could afford after investment in the business).

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 1:01pm

Hello Dave, I loved reading this, and I love believing in karma. A safe, solid place to trust. Thank you! Love ratg x.

The Gardener Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 2:12pm

Just got Mr G into respite - harrowing. Realise above very personal - but germaine to the blog - the potential danger to those who cannot give or accept help - or, will never unbend enough to admit they need help

Belinda Fri, Sep 9th 2016 @ 11:34pm

Dear Gardener, what a story. I look forward to your lovely open posts, into which you seem to add a bit of humour even if they are sad. They are real & I like to try to understand the complex problems of relationships too. I was thinking about you yesterday, when I heard some French on the radio. I was wondering what I could do to help your situation?

DAVE Sat, Sep 10th 2016 @ 9:29am

Thank you all for your kind remarks....

You know, the hardest part of this life is to continue in the same vain, But no we feel there is someone, right next to you who's trials are far greater, nevertheless, stepping into their world to offer the hand of help and friendship 'ignites' from within a fire that normally lies dormant, that is a feeling of worth, feeling wanted, needed and loved.

My description does not do it justice, because if having been abused verbally or physically by parents or other relatives, brothers, sisters etc etc, it is no wonder that some of us struggle with NO SELF-WORTH, because they never find out who they really are.

I put others who find life difficult first, I believe that that is the only way to 'FIND oneself, no matter what is thought or said about me....I'm far from being a doormat as we soon discover the 'USERS who'll suck you in and spit you out.

Life is a minefield of powerful people who will try to bring us down.....IF WE LET THEM ! !

Go discover your own identity and feel the inner Peace and inner happiness, that so many are looking for, whether rich or poor, who may never find the secret meaning of the 'Happy Giver'.

Good hunting.


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