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Welcoming the inner child. Saturday February 14, 2015

When I look back upon my childhood I realise that I have few memories. I have an over-riding sense and knowledge about what it was like but ultimately there is a huge part of my life that I am unable to remember anything of. Despite this, I have come to realise that my inner child is still very much in the present and in certain situations is in the driving seat. My adult brain can use logic and reason to interpret situations but when when it comes to emotions my inner child is right there demanding to be satisfied. My inner child appears to have many unmet needs and this is causing me some difficulties in letting go of a situation. My adult brain knows what I need to do and I am following that but it feels like a daily struggle to keep the inner child at bay.

Eckhart Tolle wrote that "attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them". This helps me see that I was drawn to a situation because it provided me with an opportunity to try and meet the unmet needs. My inner child guided me there and now I have taken myself out of the situation it is trying to pull me back, because it is a situation where the inner child in me feels comfortable, it knows how to operate. The needs are not met there but the inner child had learned to adapt to that situation so feels more at home, unhappy but at home.

So, in order to reduce the attachment and being drawn back into the situation I have try to nurture the inner child. I am using a guided meditation for healing the inner child; where in your mind you meet yourself as a child and talk to the child, offer love and comfort etc. I am trying to spend time nurturing myself with self care and focusing upon my strengths and positive attributes. My worry is that my inner child feels so strong that I will be drawn back into the same situation or similar situations in the future. So I'm making a pledge to myself today. I am going to befriend my inner child and embrace her. I am going to love her for all that she is. I am going to draw upon her strength and guide her so that we can walk through our journey in life in harmony rather than against each other. I am going to be patient and give her the time she needs. I just hope she wants to join me!

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crafty wee midden Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 5:31am

That is absolutely wonderful.....I can't begin to describe how much it helps me. A keeper, for me, to read and reread and keep reminding myself.
Thank you so much

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 8:16am

Dear Rosie,
Maybe your inner child can be like a new member of your family...and you would certainly nurture her. You would feed her with goodness and love, teach her to do the right things, show her right from wrong and all this through love as you would a new baby. What a great thought...both of you on a new journey learning from each other.
Bestest wishes with liddle Rosie, Karen x

Julia Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:28am

Hi Rosie. Do you have any photographs taken when you were a child? These might jog your memory of events that happened which you say you can't remember. I know this sounds obvious but your blog today reminded me that my sister took all our family photos when our parents died, before they died actually and so I have nothing to look at from that period. Your blog today is making me think of situations where your inner child suggestions might help me. I wish you all the best with your guided meditation healing.

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:30am

This is a wonderful piece, Rosie, and really clarifies the relationship with that precious inner child. To imagine holding her in your arms is a powerful thing. Thank you so much for this. susanxx

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 6:52pm

Oh Rosie, I do empathise as I am in a similar situation where I know I have to leave, but I'm finding it very hard to do - my head knows but my heart is taking a while to catch up! Good luck xx

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:10pm

Thankyou all for taking the time to comment on this blog. I wrote this a couple of months ago and it is now a year since I made the decision to leave. And what a year it's been!! I've done a lot of work on myself but can honestly say I am in the best place I have ever been. I continue to work on myself and strengthen myself.....I am no longer feeling the pull back into the situation. The meditation has helped so much, amongst other things. 365 days ago my life felt so different. I could not have imagined writing this response from such a positive space. Moodscope has played a very big part. Thankyou to all. Rosie xx

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:50pm

Hello Rosie

So true; I have recently discovered Echhart Tolle (thanks to my yoga master) and just love what he says; thank-you for sharing your story; this is SO helpful to me ...

Anonymous Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:52pm

Celebrating your journey ... love and wishing you peace of mind and heart ... Frankie

Caroline Ashcroft Sat, Feb 14th 2015 @ 10:53pm

Rosie, so pleased to hear this. It's a very difficult decision to make, but obviously the right one. It sounds like you're doing really well and I'm pleased that Moodscope helped. Carolinex

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