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Three true stories of kindness. Thursday February 9, 2017

This week is Children's Mental Health Week, and our friends at the children's mental health charity Place2Be is encouraging us all to spread a little kindness. Three pupils at one of Place2Be's Partner Schools share their personal stories of kindness for Children's Mental Health Week.

MIA

When I was in Year 4, people spread rumours about me to all my friends and most people believed it. They did this because I was smart and someone who likes school. I felt so alone and only had about four people who truly stuck up for me. The next few months were like madness for me. More and more of my friends started to leave and people became even more horrible to me and I started to give up. I gave up on trying to fix it and just sat down and acted as if I didn't care: Even though I did, deep down.

Then I found out about Place2Be's 15 minute talk-Place2Talk. So I signed up! My best friend came with me to make me feel better. Place2Be didn't only listen to me, they helped me. They helped me in a way no-one else could and I felt much better. They listened to me and helped me decide how to feel better about it all. So if you're ever feeling alone, Place2Be, a friend or adult can help you through and make you feel happier again. Remember to NEVER give up.

CHARLOTTE

It was in Year 5, I was 9 years old, few months before 10, and I had my friends and my twin brother in my year. My family and I knew about his special needs, but it wasn't a big deal so he still went to the same school as me. But with his special needs, he couldn't stand it. I'm still not sure what it was that set him off, the work, the other children, I don't know. But one day, he just ran out of class. Then he went out of school. This kept on happening, so he had to leave. This was a few weeks before Christmas break.

Many people still don't know about me having a twin, because they just know about me and my big brother (since he was Head Boy). Twins have a special bond, and being separated was like a stab in the heart. My friends knew how hard this was for me and showed they cared about me. Some days, I briefly remember, I would just sit on the bench. But my friends came to me, influenced me to play with them, made me laugh and got me in a better mood.
My parents, even though they were going through all the change as well, helped me because I was too young to understand all the changes that were happening. I don't know how I would have gone through this change without my friends and family.

There are still moments when I feel down, but I know there will always be someone there for me. So when someone leaves someone you care for, or even someone you know from class, it would be kind and caring if you were there for them. So spread some happiness every once in a while.

KATIE

Once I witnessed domestic abuse. Sorry to start this so depressing but that's what we're here for people! My dad walked out of the family in November 2012 and ever since things have been turbulent.

I saw it on the Sunday and was as terrified as a rabbit caught in the headlights. It left me feeling confused and scared for what would happen next. I was worried that I would have to protect my little sister because he would try to hurt us.

Luckily I had Place2Be the next day so I had someone to talk to. My counsellor was very calming for me and gave me tissues. He made me feel safe and that nobody could harm me like that at school which felt like a weight off my shoulders. Although he said because of the nature of what I had said he had to inform the head of the safeguarding team.

Later that day my teacher came to find me and ask me my side of the story and write it down on paper. I did so and she was extremely kind to me and said that I was brave and courageous. She was the first adult (apart from my family) who believed me for me and did not consider me as just a 'child' but as a person who was hurting and urgently needed help.

My mum, grandparents, aunt and cousin were the only people (up to that point) who I felt I could actually talk to. Now, at my secondary school, with a fresh new start, I had found others I could talk to; people who I could trust and were kind to me. Having someone finally listen to me made me feel like I really wasn't going mad and my feelings did matter.

Some advice I would give to people that are facing similar things to me (or anyone) would be never to bottle up feelings and to talk to people - for even a bottle has a capacity and has to explode at some point. Even if it feels like no one wants to listen, eventually, someone will, and when they do things change for the better.

Place2Be is proud to be a charity partner of the Heads Together campaign, spearheaded by The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry. The campaign aims to change how we talk about mental health and end stigma once and for all. Find out more at http://www.headstogether.org.uk

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Comments

Jane Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 6:27am

WOW. These stories have touched my heart. Mia, Charlotte and Katie thank you for bravely sharing your stories. I like to think I am always kind but I will make an extra special effort today. X

Mary Wednesday Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 7:16am

Kindness can never be overestimated. Just a "are you alright?" And a "if you ever want to talk.... im5here. I'm safe and I won't ever pass it on." Is invaluable.

Maria Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 7:22am

WOW. What touching stories containing great wisdom. Being kind to one another is something we can all do. Talking and listening to one another is something we can all do.

DAVE Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 10:15am

Mia,
Thank you for spreading your love, giving just a little time for others, is so rewarding in this Beautiful World, upon which man dominates with so much violence.

The Television with to much negative depressing news is very disheartening, we know there are evil people about, but please let us have more laughter with comical or uplifting stories like yours Mia.

Last night one news item...an exception, brought tears of joy to my eyes. A teacher was retiring after 25 years of dedicated service to her junior school...The other teachers got together with the whole school 250 children and put their own interpretation of 'The Lion King' with the music from the film.
The teacher was shown looking at the video recording later, after the whole event....She was clearly moved, that look of tearful joy in her eyes.

What a joy and pleasure it is to find someone, even a stranger in need, it is THE MOST theraputic medication available, because....it treats the CAUSE of depression and NOT the SYMPTONS.

Thank you again Mia, you're one of a SPECIAL kind of person, who has been shown compassion by others, and now you share it with us.
God upstairs watches over you day and night and His Angels rejoice at this loving expressive blog.
Dave X.

Holly Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 10:33am

Thank you for sharing your stories. I know just how important it is to have someone in your life that you can talk to about difficult things, especially when you are younger. I wish Place2Be was more widely available because I love to help out!

The Gardener Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 2:49pm

It's nice that children can express themselves, and that there is help. When my children were young they were spared what is, to me, the extreme danger from the subtle (only subtle because it's not actually physical) bullying on facebook. Me eldest son's best friend was Indian - son of a brilliant bio-chemist. They traveled to from school in the same train. One day some 'bovver' boys got on - held a knife to my son's throat and said they would slash his face if he continued to travel with a 'nigger'. This was 45 years ago! When the two eldest were at the same prep school they had a period when they would come back with slashed satchels, ink on their clothes, and damaged text-books, for which they were punished. Their cloak-room was in a cellar, and two bullies would ambush smaller boys on the way in. We never know who 'told' but the boys were expelled. We asked why the boys did not tell authorities (even pull the communication cord on the train) but 'boys don't tell'. Now things are more 'transparent' we are hearing horrific stories about children bullied to the point of self-harm, even suicide. How nice it is that these young royals have embraced such a modern problem. Although William and Harry would appear well-balanced, they have probably suffered more than anyone of their age having their parents life plastered over the world's press.

Adrian Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 3:24pm

creating a 'safe space' where children can talk and express themselves to someone who listens and acknowledges their feelings without judgement can make all the difference.

LP Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 6:47pm

It would've been so helpful if A Place to Be existed when I was at school. I wonder if the teachers would have picked up that I needed it though. Children can be ashamed of what goes on at home and just come across as being quiet.
I like all three pieces of writing, it's so great to get an insight into what goes on internally for some children.

Bearofliddlebrain Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 9:24pm

As Moodscope is for everyone here, I'm sure place2be is a special place for youngsters. I'm so pleased that they have somewhere to go to - to share painful times with people who can listen, understand and help.
A sad sign of the times that even though all schools have anti-bullying policies...bullying never ends :/
Hugs to all
Bear

LP Thu, Feb 9th 2017 @ 11:48pm

Hugs back dear Bear. LPxx

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