Three Gifts

17 Dec 2018

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I've been told, "It's more blessed to give than receive." I don't know if that's true, but I thought it would be great to put it to the test - with your help. Are you up for this?

G&T stands for, "Gin and Tonic," which I like, but also, "Gifted and Talented." You are gifted and talented, though I appreciate that you often may not feel that way. Being human comes with gifts pre-installed! My favourite gift that you have is your smile. You also have that ability to share a kind word of encouragement. On top of that, you have some pretty nifty ideas... and ideas are brilliant because when you give them away you find that you still have them too!

I wonder if you'd press pause for a moment and think about your other gifts and talents?

How about the arts? Can you draw? Can you paint? Can you sculpt? Can you sing? Can you play an instrument? Can you knit, sew, crochet? Do you enjoy a craft?

Then there are languages. Can you write original material? Can you write poems? Are you good at articulating ideas?

And the sciences – and maths! Do you have gifts and talents here? Are you good with figures? Can you fix things? Are you good with your hands in an engineering kind of way?

In a certain well-known story, 3 Wise Men brought their own gifts to make this season special. I'm going to encourage you today to give away three gifts or share three aspects of your talents.

This will usually mean giving your gift of time. It could be as straightforward as the gifts we began with today: sharing a smile with as many people as possible, deliberately giving the gift of encouraging words to someone, and investing your ideas in someone else who'd find them valuable.

If you pressed pause and thought about arts, languages, and science there may be a card you could make, something you could knit, figure-work you could help someone with, something you could fix for someone... a planned act of kindness.

Finally, I'd love you to give yourself a gift. As we thought about arts, languages, and sciences it may well be that you wished you had a gift or talent in some of these areas. I'm going to ask you to commit to giving yourself the gift of learning a new talent... than can then become a gift that goes on giving.

Above all, once we've put to the test the idea that is it more blessed to give than to receive, I'd love to hear your stories of how it was true for you.


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David Gosling

Dec. 17, 2018, 6:36 a.m.

I belong to Rotary Internationa and give the gift of my time every week along with other Rotarians around the World. At meetings where charitable projects are discussed and carried out voluntarily with members contributing their Professional skills and talents to achieve them. We raise very large sums of charity money to be distributed around the World helping people with distribution to people no matter what class, religion, race, etc no matter what their circumstances, to assist them. Personal I meet and chat with all types of people I meet every day, to help the World go round by any task I can do. The number one is to relieve loneliness at this time of the year. We all get the great satisfaction of giving our worthwhile time. and this will carry on into perpetuation as new members will carry on the causes. Have a Happy Christmas and Prosperous moods in the New Year to all Moodscopers.



Dec. 17, 2018, 9:38 a.m.

Dear David, THAT is the new #1 for Christmas - "to relieve loneliness." You are a prince, Sir!

Hopeful One

Dec. 17, 2018, 7:11 a.m.

Hi Lex- thanks for giving a new meaning to my G&at.There is no doubt that the act of giving is one of the most rewarding thing we can do not just for our own mental well being but also the receiver. In one form of meditation one gathers the pain and suffering of others and hold it in one’s awareness and if one feels happy to ‘radiate’ it away in awareness . The effect of this counter intuitive manoeuvre is to prolong one’s feeling of happiness and diminish the load of unhappiness. My gift ,which I am happy to share with fellow Moodscopers , is laughter. A woman in Brooklyn decided to prepare her Will and make her final requests. She told her rabbi she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated, and second, she wanted her ashes scattered all over Macy's. "Why Macy's?" asked the rabbi. "Then I'll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week." Merry Xmas and Happy New Year to all Moodscopers . Keep laughing.



Dec. 17, 2018, 9:40 a.m.

Oh HO! You most definitely have found one of your gifts (though I suspect there are a myriad more!) I know I'm one of a multitude who value your gift of laughter - and enjoy unwrapping it every time I can. (Thought the meditation insight was really profound - thank you!)

David Gosling

Dec. 17, 2018, 9:20 p.m.

Laughter food for the Soul. Wonderful as usual, Hopeful one.


Dec. 17, 2018, 8:59 a.m.

Hi Lex, Struggling this morning, but I know it’s the Monday morning blues. Work is depressing me, having to fight for my values, existence and basic rights. BUT and this is where buts are a good thing (too early for innuendo humour! :) BUT I love the job that I do. AND I know the low feeling will pass. Gift 1 - I am a people person. I’m good at meeting people and getting along with them. It helps me in my work helping people from the heart. I like to experience the good in people. It means I like children and they like me :) Gift 2 - I am a communicative person. I’m good at thinking and expressing. I enjoy writing. I guess I feel like a bit of a wordsmith, but not at a talented level like poetry, songs or books, just in an an extraordinarily ordinary way! :) Gift 3 - I am a problem solver. I’m good at getting straight to where and why things aren’t working and putting my mind to it. Thinking outside of the box. Making links with things perhaps not normally connected and making things work. (for my own problems, though, I just feel muddled and clouded by emotion) but that’s not to take away from how I’ve managed to come up with 3! Three gifts to give, Thank you Lex, for shedding light on to my day. I can go forward knowing that those gifts are there, they’re not going anywhere and I don’t have to worry or plan how to get through because they will get me trough. Having confidence and faith in the real me. Sending back light and faith to you and all . LP xx



Dec. 17, 2018, 9:42 a.m.

Dear LP, we have confidence and faith in the real you, too... and what a wonderful list of three gifts to give - I love 'em! xx


Dec. 17, 2018, 10:45 a.m.

I have been told I have a lovely smile, never really thought of that as a gift, but I will now. Today I do a shift volunteering at a charity shop, I believe I have a gift of talking with the people I meet there. I know some come in regularly just to see someone and chat. And I wish I could paint. I won't have time today but perhaps tomorrow afternoon I will get my paints out and have another hour or two trying again! Thank you for your suggestions Lex.



Dec. 17, 2018, 11:14 a.m.

Happy smiling, Sue. (Hey, that could be your new name: "Smiley Sue"!) Know that the gift of your time and attention - and the golden gift of listening - that you give at the Charity shop are gifts beyond compare. And may your paint brush be blessed when you give yourself the gift of time!

Brum Mum

Dec. 17, 2018, 3:45 p.m.

Afternoon, Lex Thanks for your video, which I have just watched. You have a real skill and your face is wonderfully expressive and exudes enthusiasm. I am not sure of all my gifts but I know I am good at listening and also remembering. My gift to myself after Christmas is ceramic classes. Keep blogging,



Dec. 17, 2018, 4:12 p.m.

Hi Brum Mum! Ceramics sounds wonderful. I get excited by tiles!!! Thank you for your encouraging words - my inner critic was not happy with that video and you've done much to silence it! To be able to listen AND remember is a phenomenal combination.


Dec. 17, 2018, 4:18 p.m.

HI Lex, thanks for the encouraging blog. I have had a wonderful day but it has also been bittersweet. I did some research on the elements which make up a Gothic novel & sent it to two student friends who I thought would benefit from it. I have only a few days for this term & today I forgot that Christmas was a week tomorrow. Generally, I practice & apply listening skills which denotes presence. Also, am willing to share the fruits of my research. I aim to be user-friendly & approachable.



Dec. 17, 2018, 7:27 p.m.

Hi Orangeblossom... The Gothic novel research sounds fascinating... I hope the two student friends will appreciate this gift. Hearing your description of being 'user-friendly' reminded me of a friend who was described as a, "fully paid-up member of the human race." Keep shining!


Dec. 17, 2018, 8:52 p.m.

Nice thoughts Lex :-) I thought of something just now: my friend has the gift of a beautiful voice. When she sings you get goosebumps -- she's a soprano and her voice is incredible. She knows her voice has always been good; her classical training merely honed it. Now me, I used to sing like a washing machine but I've learned how to hold a note thanks to the efforts of a patient Hungarian singing teacher. I can sing but there's no gift here; I've worked for it, and never in a month of Sundays would I say I'm a singer. Gift vs graft. These days my most useful offerings to others have come through graft. So my music, my work with people, my work at uni -- it's mostly competent but it's all been through practice and just keeping at it. I firmly believe that most people can get pretty good at just about anything if they work at it long enough. But I may have a modest gift for explaining things: people often say they like the way I explain things and bring them personally into the understanding. I hope so and I feel chuffed if I hear people say it. It's so funny though, because the voice in my head still says I sound like a bl**dy idiot! :-)



Dec. 17, 2018, 10:32 p.m.

Hi Oli... 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration, eh? As for that voice in our head... hmmm, I'd like to get it grafting until it learns to support and encourage! Thanks for your highly valued input - that's a gift too.


Dec. 18, 2018, 7:22 a.m.

Lex. Yesterday I did one grown up thing. It felt great. Didn't read your blog, just saw your name. Lex...the best a man can get. Love, Rich.



Dec. 18, 2018, 10:28 a.m.

Sounds like you could write my theme tune - you sweet-talkin' grown up fella!


Dec. 18, 2018, 10:19 a.m.

A lovely blog about gifts. Thanks Lex. It made me think of gifts in another non materialistic way. I like to give the gifts of honesty, genuiness & listening, sprinkled wth a little ability to lift someone's spirits. I'd like to try giving those gifts to myself as well as giving them to others.



Dec. 18, 2018, 10:29 a.m.

Perfect, Nicco, simply perfect!


Dec. 18, 2018, 6:57 p.m.

Hi Lex, I wasn’t up for commenting yesterday and wondered what to say, I’m not feeling that kind to myself so I’m not seeing the gifts. You did however give me a little think about what attributes I have (I found a couple) love Molly xx



Dec. 19, 2018, 5:09 p.m.

Molly, I know you have the ability to give comfort & show kindness.



Dec. 20, 2018, 12:55 p.m.

Hi Lex, Have only just seen this blog as I've been so busy! I went to a fabric wreath making session on Monday at my WI and really enjoyed it - was so simple and I gave the wreath to my daughter and grandkids as I made it with them in mind - am thinking of making another for me. Am going to think about my other talents and what other gifts I can give away as I have woken very late and bit upset and down - set off by a string of emails about a meeting in January that had to be changed - such defensive emails, but focusing on my gifts is lifting me a little just by changing my focus - thank you - will let you know what I come up with. M xx



Dec. 20, 2018, 6:33 p.m.

Have just watched the video and it is brilliant. Thank you for sharing your ideas with us and your talent of doing presentations.- great to watch.


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