Thoughts from a sunny conservatory

13 Apr 2020
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I am sitting on a Friday afternoon, with a dog on my lap and a cup of tea by my side. In my garden I can see daffodils, tulips, primroses, forsythia, camellia, grape hyacinth, and fat buds on the clematis that climbs up our old apple tree.

It is an hour's drive from the coast, but there are noisy seagulls sitting on the roof of the flats next door. I can hear smaller birds chirruping in nearby trees and a collared dove trying to woo a lady dove to nest on our satellite bracket.

After the first ten days of the lockdown there is very little road traffic and hardly any air traffic to notice. It is very peaceful sitting here - almost perfect - except the dog just broke wind. :-(

Opposite me on a sofa sits my husband, doing a crossword and next to him two cats, blissfully asleep.

We are getting quite fit, taking the dog out for a long walk everyday, though I miss my swimming. The outdoor pools use in the summer would have opened on 1st April - at this rate I won't be able to go for most of the season. It closes 31st October.

I count my blessings that, where I live, I have space and can enjoy all of the above. We speak to our daughters everyday and have set up a Whatsapp group with wider family, to exchange news and amusing photos or videos.

I feel more at peace than I have for a while, life can be taken at a slower pace.

I do hope that fellow Moodscopers can find rays of light in this enforced stay at home time.

Take care everyone.

Love and hugs,

Another Sally

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Daisy

April 14, 2020, 4:42 a.m.

Hi another sally - yes rays of light are definitely there from staying at home. It is peaceful in the early morning and I absorb the calmness instead dreading the commute. I loved the photo of the pots. Have a good day thank you for the blog

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Sally

April 14, 2020, 4:59 a.m.

Hi Another Sally , a powerful, wonderful blog, especially liked your feeling that you feel more at peace than you have for a while , with life being able to be taken at a slower pace. Especially given your recent past with losing your cherished daughter. That gives me pleasure, to know you can feel peace. I wonder whether your husband is also feeling that way, hope so. It’s good to have daughters. Well, I only have one, but she’s been wonderful, plying us with photos and messages, and putting through occasional WhatsApp calls where we can see our little granddaughter playing happily and smiling at us . Our son, a different kettle of fish ( He lives in a Care Home as he has Autism and Complex Learning Difficulties, and low cognitive and self care skills ) . BUT carers/ support workers have been giving us news. It’s his birthday in 3 days’ time, and I can feel myself welling up, as for the 1st time in his 35 year old life, we won’t be allowed to see him ( Skype means absolutely nothing to him, nor telephone...) I’ve sent up a present, and yes, I do count my blessings, daily, however it’s going to be hard. You of all people are likely to understand, Another Sally. By the way, I thought the quote that accompanied your blog was super . I hadn’t heard of the writer, but it’s true, what he says, in my opinion. Go well, Another Sally. Enjoy your patio frequently, and this slower pace of life. I am! Xx

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the room above the garage

April 14, 2020, 6:24 a.m.

Hello Sally, so heart wrenching not to be able to spend time with your son. A prison for you and a test I wish was not there. Very glad you have your granddaughter to give you something to distract from the awful feelings. I wish your lovely boy a happy birthday and I hope you can find a way to mark it if differently from before. Much love, ratg xx

Molly

April 14, 2020, 5:03 p.m.

Hi Sally, I hope the staff make it special for your son. His birthday is a day away from mine :-) xx

Lexi

April 14, 2020, 7:35 p.m.

Sending warm birthday wishes to your son Sally. My cousin is in his 50s and his care home is on lock down as well. All I can do is call him and wish him well, and send him a card or two. Sending you love xo.

Oli

April 14, 2020, 5:01 a.m.

Sally I've also appreciated the quieter roads, the quieter skies, and, to be honest, fewer people. It's different at work of course, very busy. Then back to quietness.

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the room above the garage

April 14, 2020, 6:17 a.m.

Hello Another Sally, I felt beautifully calm reading your blog and I thank you for it. Isn’t it great how just some black words against white paper can do that. Thank you bringing it to me, love ratg xx.

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the room above the garage

April 14, 2020, 6:20 a.m.

(p.s. sorry to hijack AS beautiful blog...will reply today to everyone from Saturday blog, have been supporting wider family and didn’t get a chance before.)

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Leah

April 14, 2020, 6:24 a.m.

Another Sally, what a lovely calming blog full of delightful descriptions. I am so pleased you feel at peace. xx

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Dido

April 14, 2020, 6:24 a.m.

thanks for the Calm picture An.Sally, I am enjoying the quiet. My family are far away in Spain and India and I am particularly gloomy as it is my eldest' grandson's birthday and last year I was with him. Later I will go in the garden and plant seeds to show him over the net. I will listen to my birds and watch my blackbirds bounce the feeder to get food and the pigeons hoover it up at a rate of knots! Thank you for the reminder I can be more opptomistic now and not wait til I have done these things xxxx Dido

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Salt Water Mum

April 14, 2020, 6:54 a.m.

Thank you Another Sally - your words were very soothing for me this morning. I am so pleased you are feeling calm and peaceful - you so deserve that. Sally, that's hard on you not seeing your son. Lovely to hear you take such delight in your granddaughter. Dido, Tough on you too being so far away from your family and grandson. I feel calm after reading your blog. And I also loved the one the other day about the cup and saucer, I felt calm and hopeful after reading that one too. Sorry I didn't comment - whose was that? Life here has ups and down days! I am not rushing around like a crazy mamma so there is that! We are healthy and so v lucky. But living with two teens is not easy - they are are frustrated, bored and hormonal - a lethal combination!! I am also trying to move house which of course we physically can't do and so I'm worrying about the fact that it's probably the worst time ever to be buying my first ever house. Timing eh! But we're healthy and the dog is getting lots of cuddles and walks. Stay safe everyone, swm x

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Molly

April 14, 2020, 1 p.m.

SWM, that was RATG’s blog you refer to xx

Salt Water Mum

April 15, 2020, 7:39 a.m.

Thanks Molly :-) x

Another Sally

April 14, 2020, 7:23 a.m.

Good morning everyone, it was lovely to fire up my iPad and find so many comments already. I need to go out with the dog, but will attempt to reply later. :-)

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Orangeblossom

April 14, 2020, 7:47 a.m.

Hi Another Sally Thanks for your very encouraging blog. It is very uplifting.

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Gary

April 14, 2020, 7:48 a.m.

Yes it really is peaceful

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K

April 14, 2020, 7:52 a.m.

Hello, Another Sally. You paint a lovely peaceful picture. Very positive despite the isolation. Stay safe and stay positive.

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Sue

April 14, 2020, 8:15 a.m.

Hello Another Sally, what a lovely calming blog. I feel so blessed that we are both retired and able to stay home. We live near a motorway and airport and it is so peaceful to sit and listen and only be able to hear bird song. I really feel for those who are having to go to work at present and my prayers are with them, but it is so nice for those of us for whom life has slowed down.

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The Gardener

April 14, 2020, 9:12 a.m.

Another Sally - lovely calming blog, and I admire your acceptance. I thought I had myself 'under control' nothing whatsoever I can do to aid the situation, so positively enjoy sun, garden, books, phone calls. But 60 years of farming will not go away. No rain for ages, hot sun, now dessicating winds fro a direction which never brings rain. I am getting myself in a tizzy about the effect on food production. It takes huge input, technology and manpower, to deal with adverse weather, allied to the virus I am panic about future generations. How daft can you get? xx

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Bearofliddlebrain

April 14, 2020, 11:49 a.m.

Hi Another Sally Peace, tranquility, dog, plants and flowers, sunshine, dog, OH, sleepy kitties....what’s not to love about your peaceful setting from Friday? You’ve made us all feel relaxed today...am doing similar myself. Acceptance is key. We cannot go rushing around doing the things we used to, so for now, we take our time doing the household jobs and gardening, walking the doggits and top excitement last week was going to give blood!! This week top notch excitement as a fight almost broke out as one of us had to go to collect medication from the vet!!! Today I breathe a sigh of relief as daughter is allowed to work from home; the sun is shining, the washing is on the line, blowing around and we’ll keep doing what we can to cheer ourselves, and be grateful we can. Thank you AS, for writing such a gentle blog and I am so glad you feel content and long may it continue. :)) Love and Bear hugs xxxx

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Valerie

April 14, 2020, 12:42 p.m.

Hello Another Sally, What a lovely calming blog.It's so good to hear that you have some peace of mind again.There are some aspects of the lockdown that are cosy and lovely,but other days I feel like a tiger in a cage.Sending love and hugs to all Moodscopers.***

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Valerie

April 14, 2020, 12:47 p.m.

Sally,what heartbreaking time for you with your son's birthday coming up.Maybe you can plan some treat for when this is over.Is the situation at the care home getting better still? I had a surprise yesterday,an email from my son,the first in *** knows how long.It was brief and friendly,but really gave me a lift. I have been here before,some contact,then years of silence,but hope springs eternal! ***

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The Gardener

April 14, 2020, 4:45 p.m.

Valerie, I am so pleased for you. I have nearly finished Camus 'The Plague', so many parallels with now, and the fact that fear and crisis will bring out the worst, and BEST of people. Great, I got re-contact s well. Go well xx

Molly

April 14, 2020, 5:10 p.m.

Val, this is really good news, some contact, better than none. You know he’s thinking of you. I’m praying for you that he keeps in touch ***

Salt Water Mum

April 14, 2020, 1:27 p.m.

Oh Valerie, I am pleased for you that your son made contact. Toes crossed for you that you continue to email each other and the relationship builds slowly and gently... x

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Another Sally

April 14, 2020, 2:30 p.m.

Dear All, thank you for your kind replies. I am glad that the peaceful blog gave some of you a lift. Since last Friday, I now have some purple honesty in my garden. Next doors pink cherry blossom is in full flower. My fat clematis buds have burst open and the extending tendrils nod in the breeze. The old apple tree, up which the clematis is climbing, has new leaf and pink blossoms just appearing. On our daily walk we have seen the new leaves cast a beautiful pale green sheen and the sky, devoid of planes, is blue as blue. I would reply to you all individually, but nowadays I am so laid back it is hard to focus my mind on delivering separate, interesting things to say. I send waves and caring thoughts to all Moodscopers and hope that lockdown is not too dire for you. If there are any hospital staff, care workers, supermarket staff and people keeping going to do their best for all of us, then, thank you very much. We have been clapping and ringing Christmas cracker handbells each Thursday evening. Thank you. Love Another Sally xx

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The Gardener

April 14, 2020, 4:51 p.m.

Hope I did not sound 'grouchy' in reply to your lovely blog. My garden, such pride, joy and satisfaction is a challenge without rain. The irises are going to be great, weeks early. I bought 10 new ones from firm which was really good last year, pathetic, as were all the other plants. I am only the caretaker, nobody else gets any pleasure (although a life-saver for me at the moment) so I am in a quandary as to what to look after. 50 year old roses and hydrangeas I will care for. People do not even talk here, no clapping. Google super animations in praise of somebody every day! xx

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Molly

April 14, 2020, 6 p.m.

Please stop worrying Gardener, everyone enjoys your posts even if they don’t reply xx

Another Sally

April 14, 2020, 6:54 p.m.

Please do not worry Gardener. I am getting concerned myself about the lack of rain at the moment. Crazy world, disastrous floods followed by long drought. The fine weather has been great for outdoor exercise, but I am hoping for some decent rain soon. Wish I could see the iris garden - maybe next year. ;-)

Molly

April 14, 2020, 4:52 p.m.

Hi Another Sally, I’m a bit late today as I’ve been helping my neighbour out. hard work as she has early dementia and is deaf ! Your blog brought a beautiful vision for me. I loved it. I’m also liking these photos that are being included lately and yours is so pretty, how flowers can bring such joy and of course our pets, that don’t have a clue what is going on, but are enjoying their humans being around a bit more! Thanks Sally xx

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Lexi

April 14, 2020, 7:40 p.m.

Late to the blog but I wanted to say thank you Another Sally for a beautiful post. I read it first thing this morning but just now I am able to take a few minutes and reply. I love spring, and I love that things have slowed down so that I am able to enjoy it more. I just wish I had a green thumb. I am the worst in the garden! Wish I could learn how to plant things properly! xo

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Mary Wednesday

April 15, 2020, 6:18 p.m.

Arriving late here. I am now at the stage where I kind of want it to go on forever. It is far more restful than normal life.

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