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The Most Beautiful Bridge in the World. Monday July 31, 2017

Which bridge would get your vote as the most beautiful bridge in the World?

· Sydney Harbour Bridge, Australia?

· The Forth Bridge, Scotland?

· Ponte Di Rialto, Venice, Italy?

· Brooklyn Bridge, New York, USA?

· Ponte Vecchio, Florence, Italy?

· Golden Gate Bridge, San Francisco, USA?

· Tower Bridge, London, England?

· Millau Viaduct, France?

My vote goes to a metaphorical bridge, the word: "and"!

"And," builds bridges between what was before and what comes after.

It's like Aikido – maintaining the flow of energy between one point and the next.

When picked up in a conversation, it allows the river of communication to keep flowing – building stronger links between the positions on either side, the parties engaged in the exchange.

I have a colleague whose favourite conjunction is the word: "but"!

He doesn't build bridges, he builds barriers.

His barriers block the flow and leave those he talks to (at?) disempowered, and feeling devalued.

Now, "but" has its place as an important word, but "and" is better!

Let's not talk any more about him, eh?

What about people who say, "and," but mean "but"?

They are like a bridge that ends half-way across the river. People are not stupid, they know when someone isn't being genuine.

My recommendation is to make conscious friends with "Andy" today! To deliberately and systematically use "and" more and "but" less. Find what you like in the gift of conversation that someone is offering you, AND add to it in the direction they are flowing.

If they say, "What a beautiful day!" Reply with, "Yes, it is a beautiful day, and I'm so pleased to be sharing it with you!" (OK, that was a bit Tree-Huggy, wasn't it?)

My belief is that, together, you'll find a way to exciting new conclusions, and in and!

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Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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the room above the garage Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 6:46am

And is a power tool! And let's keep it close. And I like using it at the start of sentences. And I was taught that was wrong. And I do it anyway. And can turn the day around and i thank you for the blog Lex! Love ratg x.

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 7:51am

And, dear RATG, I use it very often at the beginning of sentence, and thus we two are grammar vandals and we are proud of it! x

the room above the garage Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 10:56pm

A grammar vandal? This I LOVE!! :-D

Lemon Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 6:49am

That's so simple and brilliant!

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 7:51am

Like your sentence! Awesome!

David Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 6:52am

Tower Bridge as it is so iconic and the bridge can be drawn up to assist ships in their journey up the Thames to the pool of LONDON.

No other bridge has this capability/

My friend Walter Bridge formed a travel Company called Bridge Over the World and that is what he did for millions of tourists.

A marvellous achievement bringing a lasting pleasure to so many lives.

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 7:52am

That really is an awesome achievement and legacy - and the perfect name to do it in!

Jul Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 7:56am

Good morning Lex. I, like ratg, often use And at the start of sentences. But never But for some reason. I see the word But as closing doors and .."and" as opening them. Good blog Lex as always and you know I love your cheerful Monday morning take on the world. Jules lxx

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 8:00am

Thanks Jules, 'Moodscope Monday' is 'Mindset Monday'... in my mind! May you have a day that is full of joy and whatever you'd love to add after the and. Ooooo, you've just inspired me. As you said, "But' closes doors and "And' therefore opens doors - compounding and upon and upon and andinfinitum!

doug Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 8:04am

'And' ? not sure about this. I see your point yet for me 'and' often indicates more. This could be more bad things as well as more good things. Is it not better to have what we have rather than seek or feel frustrated that there is still more?

As you say, 'and' opens doors .... yet it leaves them open.

How about the word 'with' ?

Now there's a positive word, which suggests bringing things together and also sharing.

Jul Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 8:42am

Hi Doug. Lex will reply to this but I wanted to say I used the open door thing because whenever I suggest something to my OH, a project usually, which involves spending money, he immediately replies with reasons why it can't be done. I am always saying he closes doors rather than opens them.I think it's a knee jerk response but it's annoying every time especially as all the projects I have tentatively suggested in the past, have worked out well and to his advantage. Jul xx

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 10:59pm

Happy to adopt 'with' into my positive vocabulary too, doug. Bridge is the message - that which bridges brings us together!

Orangeblossom Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 8:45am

Hi Lex, loved the blog. I was also taught that I must not use And or But at the start of sentences so I try to avoid it. Above all we need bridges to be safe and firm. I never thought of And as a grammatical bridge. It is used in computer language as an inclusive word. A Boolean operator used as a search term. But is also an Boolean operator and used as a term of exclusion. Your blog brought this fact to the forefront of my mind. Thanks Lex.

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 11:00pm

Anyone who can just Boolean in a paragraph is a smooth operator in my opinion, Orangeblossom! I can see 'and' being both an includer and excluder (as in Doug's comment too) and I'll use it more wisely as a result. Thank you!

Another Sally Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 4:04pm

Hi Lex, another interesting blog. I'm not sure how I make use of the word and, but I will try to take note and let you know!
The Millau Viaduct is the bridge for me. We first went over it driving south and I caught sight of it from miles away. It is so majestic, I found it breathtaking. I have been fortunate enough to see the Rialto, Ponte Vecchio, Sydney Harbour and Tower Bridge, but none of these has made me cry with wonder.
Waves and hugs to those who need them, or even if you just want a wave or a hug. xx

Jul Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 5:35pm

I agree about the Millau Bridge. I've driven across it at night as well as during the day and it's one of the most wonderful experiences. All credit to Norman Foster and his team. Jul xx

Lex Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 11:04pm and as quick links to this truly breath-taking bridge... one for my bucket list!

Ach UK Mon, Jul 31st 2017 @ 11:10pm

Hi Lex, My favourite bridges are Ironbridge in Coalbrookdale circa 1770! And Clifton Suspension bridge circa 1864 And both still standing. Passing the tests of time.
And I too like to be ungrammatical with 'and'.
But, " But me no buts . . ." - is a rather stern rebuke from Mr Shakespeare (I think) and tho useful I would make a plea that sometimes it is important to " listen" to a but, which may be an introduction to a different viewpoint.

Lex Tue, Aug 1st 2017 @ 8:59pm

Ooo, you'll be sharing those bridges with Lady Penelope - she's a big Ironbridge fan!

Molly Tue, Aug 1st 2017 @ 5:11am

There is nothing like Monday's blog to shut me up. Must go educate myself as I have no idea what this is all about. Apart from the fact that some people want to throw themselves off bridges. At least you have located them precisely BUT my passport has run out AND luckily I have better things to do. M xx

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