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The invisible illness. Tuesday June 25, 2013

They sometimes call it the "invisible illness". Hah! Not for me, it's not!

I've spent most of today (apart from the blessed hours when I was alone) with people asking "are you alright?" That's the problem with having an expressive face!

The truthful answer, today, is "No! I'm not alright! Tomorrow I'm in hospital, having, what is to the surgeons, a no doubt absolutely routine operation. It's not routine for me!

I'm going to be out of control; I'm going to have people I don't know poking and prodding about inside me and afterwards I'm going to be stiff and sore and I've booked myself out of work for a month which I hate because I absolutely love my job – and if I'm not working then I'm not earning either!"

(Deep breath here.)

Not surprisingly, this morning's Moodscope score was significantly less than normal. But today hasn't been all bad.

Last week a dear friend phoned to say that she had been let down by the person who was going to make her son's 21st birthday cake and could I possibly?... Well, absolutely, of course I could. So quite a lot of today has been taken up with the totally absorbing task of creating the perfect cake for her musical son.

An email from my therapist reminded me that I am only as stressed about this as I choose to be; I have tools to deal with it.

So the more truthful answer is "Yes, I am absolutely fine. I've got some stuff to cope with, and I'd appreciate your support, but it's OK and I've got it handled."

That's a far more positive way of dealing with this situation, don't you think?

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Comments

Anonymous Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 7:50am

Good Luck!

Anonymous Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 8:33am

Morning Mary,
I can really relate to this.I will be thinking of you tomorrow-and wish you a speedy recovery and return to work.Try to catch up on sleep during your time off!

Val xxx

Anonymous Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 9:37am

Good Luck Mary, you will be fine, trust me I'm a nurse!!! Would love to see your cake! Well done you. Annie xx

JPhilips Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 10:10am

Mary,

Yes, please have a speedy recovery!

PS Your therapist emails you? Lucky you.

Anonymous Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 12:46pm

Best of the best Mary - and thanks for such an honest post this morning. I'll be praying for steady hands and the best of skills for you tomorrow... and the knowledge that you will cope with what comes. I find the pre-surgery bit the worst too - but also that it clarifies so much of the rest of life, in a useful way.
You'll be missed here and I'll be looking forward to your return. But don't race back. Get fit again first please. As I said - all the best!

Julia Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 12:57pm

Yes I picked up on this. Do you have private therapy? I often think how helpful it would be to email a therapist with queries and problems as they arise.All the best for tomorrow Mary.

Margaret Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 4:19pm

It only happens a bit at a time - just take notice of each bit and not the whole picture. You will be fine - look at the positives that once it is over you will be just getting better and better bit by bit, and soon telling us all about it. All the best sweetheart. M

Anonymous Tue, Jun 25th 2013 @ 9:18pm

Wishing you the best and sending healing vibes your way! Going to miss your posts.

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