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The Enemy of My Enemy. Monday June 29, 2015

The wise say, "The enemy of my enemy is my friend."

I would love to be a man of faith. I admire women and men of faith. But 'doubt' is far more often my companion. It's a dour campanion too! All doom and gloom - but it means well, I guess.

I've had an idea.

I think it is a revolutionary one.

If I learned to doubt my doubts, would they be overcome or even transformed into faith?

Would this be like fighting fire with fire?

For example, I'm not a natural administrator. I even fear doing my accounts because, for me, it is really unpleasant. I 'doubt' that I'll ever be any good at it.

But actually, I doubt that statement. I know I'm pretty intelligent. I know that maths is one of the few fair things in life - it just works. And if it doesn't work, that just means I've not learned the best pattern to use to get it to work. I have faith that it can work and that I can make it work. I therefore doubt my doubt.

There's an interesting concept called "Force Field Analysis". In it, you draw a huge arrow and in this arrow you write the change you'd like to move towards. Then you do a set of arrows, pointing in the same direction as the change, thus supporting this transformation.

Then the fun begins. You also draw a whole army of arrows against the flow. These are the 'doubts' - the factors that would stop the change.

What excited me about this technique is that it is equally as effective to disempower the factors against the miracle as it is to strengthen the forces that move towards the miracle. It's like knocking the legs out from under the table that resists you. It must fall.

What are your doubts? Many young people doubt that they'll ever own a home of their own. Many older people doubt they'll have enough to live on in retirement. Many of us doubt we'll ever meet our soul-mate, or even doubt that soul-mates exist. Some believe that happiness is for others, but doubt it is for them.

I doubt that.

All that.

I doubt that I'll never have a home of my own or enough to retire on or even that I'll never find my soul-mate. Hey, you might even be reading this!

So will you join me in my doubts?

What shall we doubt together today?

How shall we create happiness together?

A Moodscope member.

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Elizabeth Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 8:05am

Hello Lex, this one is great! I think I have come to a similar technique, challenging the assumptions on which my doubts and dark thoughts are based. Where can I read about Force field analysis? Or is this just it? (I guess my physics books are not the answer :))

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 8:47am

Love this! Love you! I'm off to draw arrows against my doubt/fear that I will never be a successful novelist! And, darling, soul mates are over-rated! Finding a good friend with whom you can bump along together is far more satisfying.

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 10:19am

Here's a link, Elizabeth:
Enjoy your impending victories!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 10:19am

I am a romantic...

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 10:20am

Dearest Ones, I'm on holiday this week, so off out for the day. Will relish responding in any way I can on my return tonight!

Sharon Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 10:25am

Great post :) I don't often leave comments on blogs, but I felt the need to on this one as I have also started trying (admittedly it's hard) to challenge my doubts and negative thinking and see if there is a more positive alternative. And I have always doubted the fact that there is someone out there for me...something that happens to everyone else and not me. Thank you for the positivity :)

Anonymous Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 10:50am

Dear Lex, i hope you're having a wonderful day to start your holiday week. Great weather you've picked!! I have also been trying to rid myself of negative thinking. Not long ago i suddenly thought 'what if the one little positive thought amidst all the negative ones is actually the TRUTH?!' If so, i was covering it over with all kinds of black sludge and not giving the universe my permission to bring it into reality. It was a revelation just like your 'doubt the doubt' thing. It was guidance.I get the feeling that many of us are trying to defeat negativity at the moment. Timely and much needed both for ourselves individually and for the planet. Good luck to us all! Thanks--love this blog. You are a prince. Being a romantic as well, i believe your soul-mate is waiting. Send good thoughts to her. susan xx

Di Murphey Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 2:02pm

Dearest EnterTrainer ~
Wowee - zowee! Sounds like a revealing, inspirational, and informative strategy, Lex. I lean/stand/fall with Mary on the soul-mate issue (sadly over-rated). However, your romanticism is admirable and I can easily defend it on a good day. I am already drawing arrows in my brain and am going to the site you sent above to Elizabeth. Many thanks and happy travels to you and your loved ones.

Anonymous Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 3:52pm

Lex is looking for a romantic 'friend'...Sharon - meet Lex; Alex meet Sharon!
Lol! Karen x

Anonymous Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 3:52pm

Have a great start to the week...fab weather for it! Karen x

Anonymous Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 4:02pm

Dear Relaxed, holidaying Lex,
This has absolutely nowt to do with anything except force fields....don't know if you ever watched a funny programme called Mongrels??. Animal puppets in a soap opera of their own....this one cool dude, a male cat, called Marion, is walking along a street and sees a fish bowl in a window...the window is open so he thinks he can get to the fish....he sneaks up to the fish...hits the glass bowl and exclaims 'force field!' Tries again and again and each time says 'force field'!!! It's very silly I know, but quite funny...........oh well back to the arrows and doubting the doubts!
Karen ( x

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 7:18pm

Hi Sharon... (he giggles!)

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 7:20pm

Hi Susan, I reckon I could rise to the whole Prince Romantic alter ego role!
I LOVE your seed of doubt: "what if the one little positive thoughts amidst all the negative ones is actually the TRUTH?"
That's simply perfect!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 7:23pm

Dearest Di
With 7 Billion peeps on the planet, even the mathematics of probability supports the soul-mate dream!
Hope you're having a good day - you certainly deserve one as your supportive comments touch us all.

The Entertrainer Mon, Jun 29th 2015 @ 7:23pm

Yo Bear-of-Little-Brain, I'd take your big heart any day... off to find this wonderful clip!

Sharon Tue, Jun 30th 2015 @ 1:44pm

I walked into that one didn't I? Hi Lex :)

The Entertrainer Wed, Jul 1st 2015 @ 8:53am

Yes, Sharon, but if you're grinning, we're winning already! There actually lots of soul-mates I've found on Moodscope with whom I have a deep resonance and sense of OKness. (Though I know we are both talking about another type too.)

Sharon Wed, Jul 1st 2015 @ 11:42am

Oh yes, I agree, there lots of different types of soul mates - some come into our lives for a reason, some for a season, some for a lifetime (a wise mindfulness meditation teacher gave me that one!). And I always remember what Liz Gilbert wrote in Eat Pray Love:

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”


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