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The Compassionate Mind. Sunday January 25, 2015

Compassion is the concern for the suffering of others and ourselves. It is a wish that our fellow beings do not suffer... It has the capacity to expand itself to include our loved ones, our friends and those who we regard as our enemy or who cause us hurt. It can expand to include all living things on our planet and beyond becoming awareness itself. It is liberating. Compassion is in all of us. We need to nurture it and make it grow.

We have two wolves in our mind. They are called 'love' and 'hate'. The wolf you feed is the one that will grow in your mind. The wolf of hate narrows and reduces our world to 'us' and 'them'. If turned against oneself it leads to self-loathing and self-hatred with all its negative consequences. The wolf of love neutralises hate, reduces anger, resentment, or jealously. It is the easiest way to destroy one's enemy. Compassion is very helpful to feed the wolf of love as it makes 'them' as one of 'us'

So what makes a compassionate mind?

To me its main features are:

It has empathy (the ability to see the world through somebody else's eyes) and sympathy (the ability to commiserate with others) who are in pain or are in mental or physical suffering.

It is the first to forgive, including oneself, and the last to condemn.

It makes an effort to help achieve other's happiness.

It is non-judgmental and accepts imperfections in one's self and others.

It listens with kindness and seeks solutions, never attacking but seeking to heal.

It does not 'price' people but 'values' them as fellow beings.

Acquiring this mind state is a prize worth fighting, particularly for those who suffer from depression. You can start by praising your own efforts, accepting your failures and rewarding yourself (preferably non-alcoholic) for your achievements great and small.

Another great way is through learning to do a loving kindness meditation. One can be no more compassionate to others than you are to yourself.

Hopeful One
A Moodscope member.


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Comments

Julia Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 8:58am

I do not understand how many world and religious or other leaders in this world do not act compassionately. If one were to ask such a leader, Do you consider yourself a compassionate person, most if not all would say yes of course. But how then ,can they give the order to go to war, commit acts of unbelievable aggression, kill people, destroy buildings, homes etc? Words mean nothing unless they are acted upon. I liked your blog Hopeful One but you are preaching to the converted. I am sure all of us on Moodscope act compassionately with others all the time. It's good to be reminded though how important compassion is in our everyday lives. If only world leaders had an override compassion button which prevented them from carrying out such hateful acts.

Julia Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 9:19am

Hi again HO. I re read your blog and yes you are so right, many of us compassionate Moodscopers would find it difficult to be so compassionate with ourselves.

Liz Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 9:35am

Hi Julia, I have sent you a private email. Did you receive it? I am not at all trying to put pressure on you to answer it. Just wanted to be sure I got your email address right, that's all.

Julia Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 9:40am

Hi Liz
I have just this minute replied

Mary Blackhurst Hill Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 4:09pm

So true Julia. It is important that we love, and are kind and compassionate to ourselves. It's often harder to be nice to ourselves than to others though, isn't it?

Hopeful One Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 4:59pm

Hi Julia- I am so glad you re read the blog because when I first read your comment I thought maybe you might have missed the point some thing you realised too when you re read it.

Laura Sun, Jan 25th 2015 @ 6:35pm

My therapist occasionally tells me to show myself some compassion, but it's hard. It's even hard to remember to try it! However, like many in the Moodscope world, I am very compassionate with others. It's like an oxymoron in a way. My therapist teaches Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which has you reframe something negative into something not-so-bad. It's like giving yourself a break, showing yourself compassion. Unfortunately, if you tend to "freak out" when you get stressed, like I do, it's practically impossible to switch to a rational state of mind *just like that*.

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