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The A to Z Guide to Life – Letter P for Possibility. Monday March 28, 2016

I first thought of P for Positivity, but realised this is something I have had a life-long struggle with. Basically, my life is pretty amazing compared with those in poorer circumstances. I've eaten well, I've been educated, I've always had shelter even if not my own home, I've drunk a lot of wine... I had my daily bread plus treats. Food, shelter, security – pretty good things to have.

But I have never been satisfied. I am not referring to satisfying any specific material greed. I'm referring to dissatisfaction with a World that I don't think is fair and that doesn't 'work'. I have been troubled with the levels of selfishness in the World and the unspeakable expressions of unkindness. So I've always been a peaceful revolutionary.

P then, for me, is Possibility. I see possibilities everywhere... every day in just about everything. Today, I'm going to recommend "Possibility Thinking" rather than "Positive Thinking". It can achieve similar positive results but there's no need to feel positive. I can feel low, even depressed, but nevertheless perceive possibilities in a situation.

Missed the plane? Is it possible that I can catch a later one without penalty? Is it possible that I may meet someone in the lounge or on the next plane that will beneficially impact my life or I, theirs? Will the extra time in the lounge give me a chance to finally read that book I'd been promising to read? Is it possible that I could have a couple of hours peace?

Someone forgets your birthday? Is it possible that they are planning a surprise? Is it possible something else is going on in their life and that they need you to be a good friend?

Possibility thinking can be triggered with those first few words, "Is it possible...?" Setting your mind on this alternative thinking journey enables you to put a new frame around the picture you're seeing and to see it thus in new and empowering ways.

Is it possible this blog will open up a good day for you? How about a great day, it that possible?

Lex
A Moodscope member.

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the room above the garage Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 7:11am

Possible. This is a great word. 'It was possible after all' is something I feel a lot. I doubt, but I make myself, and I say that line to myself. Every day there is a certain amount of bleakness, regardless of weather, light or circumstance, and so possibility is the meat in the sandwich. Thank you Lex, this has been a wee comfort blanket this morning. peaceful day to you lovely xx.

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 7:56am

Thanks RATG, I relish the thought to being a wee comfort blanket. Obviously the blog is written a few days before it is published, but this morning I got up to a very wind-tossed (and damaged) Dorset. On the way to the Radio Station, there was much damage (106 mph winds registered at The Needles on the Isle of Wight). It was one of those mornings where 'nothing' was going right - late for the first time for my show! BUT, but, but... I still see possibilities all around me and in the day ahead. What I REALLY love about this concept is you really don't have to feel positive. Given the news, the weather and the day, I'm certainly not feeling positive... but possibility thinking will win the day. Have a peaceful day in spite of the storms, dear RATG xx

the room above the garage Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:52pm

I'm hearing all about storm Katie and how it is battering you all down South :-( Its very unusual for us to experience better weather but, up here in Scotland, it has slowly turned into bit of a a sunshiny day, albeit with some dodgy looking clouds. Its been damn windy the last few days but just overnight. Like you driving in wild weather, I adore hearing it in the dead of night. (Don't always wish to get out of bed though!) I agree, possibility thinking is EXACTLY where we need to aim. Its not too high a stretch where 'positive thinking' can leave us feeling overwhelmed and like we have failed when we cannot manage. May we have t-shirts? I'd like a v-neck please, crew neck does nothing for me :-) xx p.s. how is the day looking now, I hate being late but I am never on time.

Lex Tue, Mar 29th 2016 @ 6:35am

We had some beautiful moments, throughout the day, RATG. V neck, it shall be! xx

Zareen Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 7:47am

Once again thanks for your blog Lex. This has left me with masses of food for thought. I have quoted in my journal the sentence; "setting your mind on this alternative thinking journey enables you to put a new frame around the picture you're seeing and see it thus in new and empowering ways".
Happy Easter Lex

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 7:58am

Happy Easter to you too Zareen. I know today is full of possibilities for you... so my wish is that you see them, notice more than ever before, and embrace them as the friends that they are. These friends have been waiting for us to see them xx

Hopeful One Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 8:08am

Hi Lex- p for possibility is a good choice as it starts a chain of thinking creating a space for hope to emerge or flourish that the possibility may come true. It allows us to choose to believe the positive possibilities rather than the negative which our minds will inevitably throw up.

So I ask myself is it possible that fellow Moodscopers will find this funny? I have a hope that they do!

A dentist is getting ready to deal with an elderly lady's teeth. He notices that she is a little nervous so he starts making up a story to distract her mind. He begins to make up a story as he is putting on his gloves - "Do you know how they make these rubber gloves?" She says , "No?" "Well," he spoofs " down in Mexico they have this big building set up with a large tank of cold latex, and the workers are all picked according to hand size. Each individual walks up to the tank, dips their hands in, and then walks around for a while as the latex sets around their hands and fingers . Then they peel off the gloves ,number them pack them and start the process all over again." . The lady client is too anxious to relax straight away after hearing this but after a while , as the procedure is about to start , she bursts out laughing. The dentist is baffled, and asks her what was so funny. The woman says , "I just suddenly thought - that's how they must make their condoms!"

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 8:37am

Oh Hopeful One. You make me laugh! And that, dear friend, is such a precious gift. Thank you xx

Anonymous Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 8:22am

I like this Lex. I am sorry you had such an awful journey into work. It's windy here too. Possibility gives us hope and is less censorious than positivity. We feel guilty if we don't feel positive whereas anything is possible and it's not a command. Positive is a word used too freely and insensitively in self help books and the like. To know that what we try to achieve might be possible is encouraging and gentle. I am a peaceful revolutionary too. I am going to read your blog again Lex as it's going to help me today. Thank you. Julx

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 8:41am

Hi Jules, one of the many weird pleasures I thankfully have is that I LOVE driving in bad weather! But I appreciate your loving care. Possibility is a lovely reframe on positivity, isn't it? I wish you a beautiful day, full of possibilities... and may you realise many of them and then look back on today as a good day. xx

Anonymous Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 9:21am

Yes that is exactly what I am hoping..that I can look back on today as a good day. You are psychic. How did you know?Jules xx

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:16pm

More a side-kick than a psychic, Jules! xx

LillyPet Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 9:22am

Morning Lex, posibilities is such a great word, it covers a world full of possibilities as well as the tiniest of steps. It's not a "commanding" word, it's more open with no great expectations. It's refreshing as it can lead to new ideas. Looking at what is possible is looking at things from a can do perspective rather than focussing on what is not happening or what is happening that is unhelpful.
Today there are alot of possibilities for me that dont involve bumping into storm katie, but yhen again who knows? It's possible I might find it invigorating, exhilerating even! :) Warm wishes to all. LPxx

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:18pm

Hi LillyPet, I love a good storm, when we are safe, 'cos there's such energy in it. May you have a most invigorating day! xx

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:22pm

...and I look forward to hearing about your possibilities realised. xx

Ella Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 9:42am

I agree, possibility is a lovely opening up concept and a very freeing thought to encompass. Can I recommend this book which I much enjoyed, very accessible and joyous... The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander, publ Harvard 2000

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:23pm

Thank you, Ella - I echo that endorsement - big fan of the Zanders. The audio version of the book has Ben voicing it himself, so that's an extra treat. Thanks for sharing xx

Leah Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 9:56am

Lex,
thanks for the blog.
My mum used to say it may be possible but it is not probable. I always remembered that and I think of that saying when looking at what is possible. I think aiming for the improbable can be frustrating.

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:24pm

Wise words, Leah. I like to think of putting on the spectacles of Possibility, and then making a sensible choice having first opened myself up to the positive frame of possibility. xx

Chloe Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 11:17am

Great post Lex thank you

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:26pm

Thanks, Chloe. I always appreciate such encouragement. Have a most excellent day, full of possibilities xx

Frankie Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:14pm

Hi Lex - this is pure GENIUS! I love it, love it, love it!!!
Thank-you so much. Frankie P.S. have sent you an email

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 12:28pm

Hi Frankie, thank you so much! I'll check the emails, I have been most neglectful of my in boxes of late!!! Have a wonderful day, full of possibilities xx

The Gardener Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 1:16pm

Just for Leah, the 'tyranny' of Mars. Huge multi-nationals demand your soul, telephone no on holiday, and probably by your bed as well. But, come a recession, no loyalty, most vulnerable out - equals middle aged exutives with little hope of getting another job. Hence 'tyranny', this guy escaped, did his own thing, and did it well.

Lexi Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 1:31pm

Hi Lex, I loved your post this morning. I was reminded this weekend of possibilities. There are always there, even when we can't see them or think things will never change.A beautiful reminder. Thank you.

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:53pm

Lex to Lexi! I like that. You are most welcome. Like The Gardener, I'm having trouble with this myself today but I will not ignore the truth that there are infinite possibilities even if I really don't feel like that. I shall pop on my possibility specs and re-read my own blog! Just the intellectual exercise of deliberately searching for possibilities is therapeutic. Have a beautiful day xx

Skyblue Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 1:46pm

Hi Lex, when someone suggests that I 'think positively', I tend to freak out (under the surface). There's something too authoritarian, too 'should-ish', too demanding about it and makes me feel guilty. 'Possibly', 'maybe', and 'perhaps' are much friendlier and helpful. I hadn't been aware of my negative reaction to 'positive thinking' until your blog this morning! Interesting! Thanks again. xx

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:54pm

Oh, I'm lovin' those three sisters! Possibly, Maybe and Perhaps (though I think I fancy 'Perhaps' the most...) You've added beautifully to my thinking, and I thank you xx

The Gardener Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:04pm

Is it possible? Who said 'All things are possible' (book of quotations in wrong house). Virtually anything is 'possible' for me, but usually impracticable and needing loads of optimism. No 2 son says I WILL see the Alps again. Mad scheme, drive there with Mr G, can't go public transport - 2 nights in hotel each way - possible, yes, have I got the courage? The guts? The energy? give my friends the total conviction that I am mad.

Lex Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:57pm

That was Jesus... "All things are possible for those who believe." So perhaps you and I, dear Gardener, need also to be working on what we believe as well as putting on the Possibility Specs. Not easy today, but we can do it... even if only as an intellectual exercise in opening up more choices. Is that Mountains I see...??? xx

The Gardener Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:11pm

Lex, positivity - I, like you, had all those good things in life you experience. I also find the world rather a sad place, not just old age, people find it difficult to be content. I am thinking possible thoughts a lot of the time - but, really, pipe dreams, wishful thinking and bloody-mindedness a lot of the time.

The Gardener Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 3:14pm

All in bits, has to be, computers!!. Have others, of other ages, found this week appaling? Strikes (here)wrecked plans, storms terrifying, grisly Easter, Brussels - the purely religious killings in Pakistan - a husband who will NOT be happy about anything. Need somebody's silver lining from blog a few days' ago.

Anonymous Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 8:55pm

i am going to try and think more like this. when things go wrong i always think , typical it can only happen to me! but is it possible i can take opportunity and learn from mistakes or go in a different direction . its hard to be upbeat and positive in this modern greedy world, so possible it a good starting point, thanks

Lex Tue, Mar 29th 2016 @ 6:36am

Thanks to you too, Anonymous, for taking time to encourage. xx

Eva Mon, Mar 28th 2016 @ 10:37pm

After a day of exhaustion yesterday. I managed a good day today by not planning too hard, with just a small list of possibilities, and have achieved more than I hoped. So maybe some possibles equate to a positive outcome, that I don't mind having. It's a relief to have a good day after so many grey ones. Thanks very much Lex and all posters.

Lex Tue, Mar 29th 2016 @ 6:36am

Glad you had a better day, Eva. Big hug xx

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