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Ten Good Friends. Monday October 5, 2015

[If you'd like to hear the audio version of this blog please follow this link: https://soundcloud.com/lex-mckee/blog-ten-good-friends

I am active - feeling full of energy
I am enthusiastic - showing eagerness
I am alert - being quick to notice and act
I am interested - wanting to be involved in something
I am attentive - paying close attention
I am inspired - feeling the desire to do something
I am excited - looking forward to things
I am determined - being resolute, showing determination
I am strong - feeling able to cope with difficulties
I am proud - feeling a real sense of achievement today.


Saying these out loud simply feels good.

I am sure we all recognise these ten good friends. If you are a fan of practical psychological tips, you're likely to have come across several experiments where hearing positive words and phrases has improved the listeners' mood and state. When surrounded by positive words, there is a tendency for humans to behave more tolerantly and to be more generous.

I've been told, "Be careful what you wish for!" But far more fundamental is, "Be careful what you think about!" What we think about has a habit of expanding until it consumes our attention... and everything we think about has an emotional charge associated with it. Our ten good friends have a positive charge, and they work well together. They are worth thinking about often.

So I got thinking to myself, "What would have to happen for all ten good friends to join me today?" It will be different for all of us, but it's a fun exercise which I am recommending to you.

To feel full of energy, I certainly would have to have had a good night's sleep - one undisturbed by bad dreams or too many loo breaks! A good shower and an excellent coffee would allow my child-like curiosity and enthusiasm permission to emerge. I'd also be naturally alert - especially in the morning - my best time. So, assuming I wasn't aware of anything boring or horrible in the day ahead, I'd be off to a great start with at least three good friends. And knowing how positive friends, like birds of a feather, are likely to flock together, I'm sure the other magnificent seven would check-in somewhen during the day!

I wonder what would jump-start your day in a positive way?

Would you share?

Lex
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Comments

Adam Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 6:57am

Wise words Lex, thank you!

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:37am

Thanks Adam, L'xx

Eva Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 7:03am

Excellent blog!
I would have had a good sleep, done yoga stretching for 15 mins and then meditation for 20 mins followed by a cup of chamomile with lavender*. This allows me to feel strong, active, alert and attentive to carry out the morning chores before I sit down to work with determination, inspiration, interest and enthusiasm. Later pride may visit. Ooo I feel a wee bit excited... *Caffeine comes later, if I have it early jittery comes to stay.

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:30am

Hey Eva, here's to more excitement on the way! L'xx

Liane Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 7:57am

Lex, Those words were well said! Ten positive traits to rule our lives. Those other traits that bring us down are hard to shake. Focus on the positive, easy to say, a challenging to practice, and important to strive towards. Thank you, Lex. I enjoyed your audio tape too!

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:32am

Hi Liane, thanks for your encouragement. I'm so glad that I can only pay attention to one thing at a time... so, I'm going to dwell on those positive traits any time today when I need a lift. L'xx

Lilly Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:28am

Yoga would give my weekdays a great jumpstart, I only sometines manage it at the weekends at the moment.
I love the idea of using the positive test cards as affirnations. I dont usually feel full of energy first thing :) but saying "I feel full of energy" may up it a little, a kind of placebo perhaps.
Thanks for a great blog Lex!

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:36am

Hi Lilly, I am now totally convinced that saying these statements out loud as an affirmation certainly works. They aren't magic... but perhaps they are!!! The magic of the mind can work for us for a spell! lol, L'xx

Christine Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:34am

Interesting use of the Moodscope positive words -just wonder if attribution to Moodscope needs referencing for potential shares of this blog going further via social media etc ?

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:37am

Good point, Christine. I think that having the blog now hosted on Moodscope will help. Over to Caroline! L'xx

Caroline Ashcroft from Moodscope Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 9:54am

Very good point Christine. We're too late on this occasion, but you're right, they should be Moodscope copyright. Thanks. Caroline

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 9:43am

I am active - feeling full of energy
I am enthusiastic - showing eagerness
I am alert - being quick to notice and act
I am inspired - feeling the desire to do something
I am determined - being resolute, showing determination

I am most of these this morning and just about to carry on with usual household chores as it is Monday! And...even though the weather in Bearworld has taken a dip...I knew it was coming, so left the indoor jobs for today! Have had brekkie a cuppa and behold...there's no one here, the bathroom is empty...I can clean!

I am just hoping: I am proud - feeling a real sense of achievement today.....can surface this afternoon, when chores are done!!!
Great reminders of the Moodscope positives, Lex, I thankees!
Love
Bear x

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:17am

The Battle of Chores will be won from ironing pile to sparkling floor. Clean, clear, and clean again, 'til only pride in your achievement remains! L'xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 11:09am

Battle has begun, in earnest..and in my house too! Stopped for a cuppa and a breather and see what others make of your great post. Bear x

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:39pm

Tea, coffee, ah to pause perchance to connect! L'xx

susan Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:09am

Hi Lex, i know this will sound a bit child-like, but if i can manage to cut through the sludge and tell myself that something wonderful is going to happen today....that i will be 'surprised by joy' in some small way...it seems to wipe the slate and make way for the other positives to enter. Thanks, as always. xx

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:15am

Oh Susan, "child-like" is my favourite state! "Something wonderful is going to happen today... I know you'll be surprised by joy!" L'xx

Mary Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:45am

Well, Lex, reading your blog certainly makes for a good start to the day: that's a great one. And like you, a good night's sleep, a hot shower and a proper cup of coffee kick starts my day in a positive way.

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:38pm

Hi Mary, it's a great ritual, isn't it? Hope it's working for you today. L'xx

the room above the garage Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 11:12am

..."the magnificent seven..." brings to me The Clash, love it and it's now beating in my head :-) Waking up without a clock would be the best start to my day but, as that is not possible, I'll say breakfast out, a soul sealing luxury for me. Perhaps I need that more often... Thank you Lex and hello and peaceful days to everyone xx.

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:37pm

Great taste in movies and music, dear RATG... and I think I'll join you in the thought of having breakfast out more often. Peace! L'xx

Melissa Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 11:33am

I truly love your blogs, Lex. Please know you've got a fan, over here in America!
Bless you sweetheart. Keep 'em coming!!!

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:36pm

Hey Melissa, thank you!! Are you up early, or off to bed late?? Love our friends across the Pond! L'xx

Frankie Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:04pm

I LOVE this Lex; so clever and what a brilliant idea!

Bad start to my day with a minor crunch on the way to work - so arrived late ...
However, not my fault and the other party was SO caring and concerned for my well-being - a lovely, lovely guy ...

So feeling a bit shakey but positive now that the shock is subsiding ... and am moving on ...

Frankie x

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:36pm

Ooo Frankie, that's not the start to the day any of us would wish for you... and I'm grateful the other party was caring and concerned. Perhaps a new friendship in the making - stranger things have happened. Onwards and upwards, L'xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 12:53pm

Ouch! Oh dear, Frankie, so sorry you've had a close encounter of the bumpy kind...look after yourself today and the next few days, just in case the shock comes back....horrid, horrid, horrid me dear, will be thinking good thoughts for you for the next few days. Bear x x x

the room above the garage Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:16pm

Oh Frankie, not good. The shock takes it out of you. I tend to go over and over these things on repeat, driving myself batty, until I've washed it away but I'm sure there must be better ways. I hope you are ok and how refreshing to find someone who was only concerned with your welfare and not trying to redirect blame. Love to you and your poor car, love ratg x

Frankie Tue, Oct 6th 2015 @ 4:38pm

Hi RATG Only just seen this - thank-you so much! Yes, he even phoned yesterday evening to check I was alright! love Frankie x

Catherine Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 1:26pm

Great idea but personally I sometimes wish the active button went extremely active, quite active, fairly tired ,very tired. So you can see my mood is highly dependent on whether I am sleeping well. When I am sleep deprived I need reminding of that to stop me getting carried along with the negative thoughts. p

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 2:22pm

Hi Catherine, I understand. I'd rather some of the cards went up to 10 at times. Fascinating how sleep is so central to the needs of most of us and yet it seems to be a growing issue in the West. L'xx

g Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 2:26pm

sleep sleep sleep but how am i going to get enough if i stay online late into the night even when i have to get up early in the morning for work ? everything else follows.....

i enjoyed this simple idea of repeating what we see almost daily if we do the graph on regular basis and listening to it was even better like putting an imprint in ...

if i listen to it on repeat maybe something will rub of ?
maybe i will go to bed 8 hours before the alarm clock is to switch on and maybe i will wake up naturally - best way - before it does ....

what is left if we lose hope of ever changing our bad habits ?

apparently if i want a different outcome i should stop doing the same thing

so i know it all and knowledge is good but practise is what does it...

today is a new day and the rain is no excuse to start it differently

still do not understand how one may feel proud after cleaning the bathroom - such a dirty , stinky , depressing chore with no lasting results ?

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 5:49pm

Hi g, I actually thought of recording just the affirmations separately so I could listen on a loop. Might have a go! As for "Proud" - that's been the most difficult card for me because "Proud" is not a word I like - but I understand that this just means a sense of achievement in the context of Moodscope. Just like the never ending washing up and washing, there can still be a sense of winning a small victory (even if temporary) when the bathroom is momentarily sparkling!!! L'xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 6:12pm

Ah G: cleaning the bathroom is a thankless task, but, when it is clean, it's really lovely to be the first one back in to have a shower or to use the fresh towels!! Oh and don't get me started on being the first one to dive into clean sheets on the bed!!! aah, liddle things please liddle Bears! Love Bear x

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:11pm

Ha ha! You remind me of my utter delight in being the first to put a footprint in the snow!!! L'xx

the room above the garage Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:18pm

g...do you have to stay up late (too much work?) or do you choose to?

The Gardener Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 5:12pm

What a list - I actually feel all that lot - but,but. Last week Les or Lex (forget now) replied to my saga of overload very pertinently suggesting that I may take on this lot to have 'busyness' to fill the awful void in my life. The overload was not through taking on too much. Son and grand-daughter, 3 day visit, had been 'pencilled in' for some difficult tasks which they could do in no time, and, given their ages,technical experience and intelligence, with less effort than me. They did damn-all, not even spend time with my husband, I was terribly upset. I had promised to do my usual 'poster' round. Fine, often do it on a Saturday - huge week-end fair, no hope, had to be Thursday and Friday. Lady who organises church flowers, adorable, secretary of everything and totally inefficient had failed to tell me it was my turn, hence overload situation. On Sunday my husband was worse than usual - he made a misery of dinner time, and started to shout at me. I went for a short walk, often calms him down. Came back, worse, he called me a 'stupid woman' so I did the improbable - went down the bar, fell on some delightful people, talked history and came back to home and bed - sulks but calm. The psychiatric nurse paid a regular visit, and said that since her last visit two weeks ago there has been a marked deterioration - which may have added to the extreme stress of the last few days. Anyway, the list. Active? Yes, my father taught me from about the age 12 to organise my time, and I am lucky in my energy. Enthusiastic - far too much, there is little which does not interest me, so I am fitted with a metaphorical curb chain. Alert - I think so - huge house, total responsibility for our lives, and being on the watch for my husband's safety. Interested? surely almost synonymous with enthusiasm. Attentive - yes, but only through the rigid training of taking a degree in my 50's, otherwise gnats had nothing on me. Inspired and excited go, I think, with the other two. Determined - yes, within the very great limitations. The nurse this morning tried to get into my husband that I have a right to something of my own, and, to me, that I MUST have my own occupations to keep sane. Strong, not very at the moment, but if I think back to the huge encouragement from all my friends and Moodscope of the last few days then yes, if I use all that (and extra state help available) I can be strong. Proud, I'm not too good at it, my mother, long ago, told me so often that I was 'too big for my boots' that it's still difficult to say 'I made a good job of that' and, in particular, 'I look nice' as she was particularly careful to rubbish all my clothes. So, out of a really miserable, and rather scary fortnight I have emerged with my armour on, albeit a bit tarnished. That's not a reply, it's a speech!

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 5:52pm

And it's a great speech, Dear Gardener, a great speech to encourage others with your resilience. I think you're amazing. L'xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 6:21pm

Hi TG...you are amazing to keep on doing what you are doing and I know how upset you were at their visit, but I think the next time son and granddaughter turn up, leave a list and don't provide any 'comforts' until list has been completed! Love Bear x

Anonymous Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 5:57pm

Hi Lex. A good night's sleep is essential for me to experience the ten good friends on your list and as I rarely get one, I would have to force myself to experience some of your friends.Others come naturally to me despite feeling tired. I am alert, attentive, determined and strong most days even when exhausted. I think! The others I would have to force and would require a lot of energy. I love your blogs and your comments to each of us. You are so kind and cheerful, with a lovely upbeat take on the things we say. I love that combination.

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 6:17pm

Hi Anon@5.57; I couldn't have done half of what I have done today, if I hadn't had a reasonable night's sleep...a couple of weeks ago I had a horrendous night of nearly-no-sleep...I was done-for, for days as it takes such a long time to catch up. I think I go at my jobs like a bull in a china shop as I never know what the next night will bring! Sleep well...Bear x

Anonymous Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 7:43pm

I'm the same! On a good day there's no stopping me. You sleep well too bear

Lex Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:07pm

Dear Anonymous, you say such kind things. I've so many dear friends who have trouble sleeping that I'm thinking about working on some entrainment recordings. They'd require the listener to wear headphones, which I know could be an issue, but they may work their brain magic. I had a chest infection years ago that kept me awake... for three weeks! I kid you not, no sleep for three weeks. I ceased to be recognisably human. So I empathise, believe I do. L'xx

Frankie Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 8:50pm

Hi Lex Darling hubby and I have pillow loudspeakers - they plug into the radio and sit on your pillow so only you hear ...we got one for my mother-in-law when she was in hospital - much easier than headphones ... Thank-you for your reply earlier. Frankie x

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 9:11pm

They 'sounds' like a great idea...who makes them, where from etc?!

the room above the garage Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 10:24pm

Wow, I love the sound of the speaker!!

Anonymous Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 11:15pm

posting from the USA...really needed this today. Thank you.

Lex Tue, Oct 6th 2015 @ 8:00am

Hi Anonymous, glad we are here for you even if not in person. L'xx

Lilly Mon, Oct 5th 2015 @ 11:39pm

On the subject of the cards, I've often thought a "tense" card would be useful, I use jittery as it seems to be the neaest..

Lex Tue, Oct 6th 2015 @ 8:00am

Hi Lilly, I agree - that's the closest for me too. L'xx

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