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Teddy Bear Therapy. Sunday July 2, 2017

On a recent morning, as I arrived in St Pancras International station for another working day, I made a spot purchase. I bought a teddy bear. I didn't buy him for my 12 year old daughter who is mad about all things soft, cute and cuddly. I bought it (him actually) for myself. Why? Because I felt really low and I needed cheering up. I also love Teddy Bears.

My next stop was the chemist. The cashier picked up the teddy bear in delight and exclaimed, with a beaming smile, how cute he was. I mentioned that I had to name him to which she promptly replied 'Geoffrey' or how about 'Sam?' So I named him Geoffrey Sam.

What a day of mixed reactions Geoffrey Sam received. Sly looks from commuters on London Transport. Fun exchanges with internal work colleagues. Curiosity from external work colleagues (yes I did take him to an external meeting and sit him on the table), and disapproval from my line manager! Needless to say I went home that evening feeling both immensely more cheerful and quite fascinated by the range of reactions. Geoffrey Sam had done his job!

Do you ever dare to step out of the 'norm'? Have you done quirky things to try and brighten your day? I would love to hear your stories. Many of my colleagues tell me that I'm 'crazy' when I step out of the 'norm.' Guess what, that's fine by me!

Jane SG
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Molly Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:40am

Hurrah for Geoffrey Sam! I recently bought my friend a teddy bear with a kilt on as she is scottish. She said 'we have to think of a name' and I said 'Scotty' not very original at all was it ! But it stuck and he is now Scotty. I have so many cuddly toys that I dare not buy anymore. Most are now in a drawer under my bed because I daren't part with them, some are from when I was a baby, how could I possibly throw those away, even though they have been stuffed into a drawer (poor things). Recently Paddington Bear's creator died, I heard that it all began because he saw a bear in a shop and felt sorry for him. Geoffrey Sam could be famous yet! :-) Molly xx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 7:19am

Now you've given me an idea Molly! I could write 'The Adventures of Geoffrey Sam.' Or 'Geoffrey Sam goes to work!' Neither my daughter and I can bear (pardon the pun) to part with our cuddly toys either and we have far too many. We keep rescuing them...! Xx

Molly Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:22pm

Yes ! Don't forget to give me some of your royalties :-) xx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:25pm

Of course! Xx

LP Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 4:12am

Hi Jane SG,
What a fabulous blog :) The title made me smile and reading that has cheered me, Good for you. I step out of the norm by saying what's on my mind when most might hold back. I like your idea much more! It'd be funny in a meeting to say in response a comment you don't like " well I'm. It sure what Geoffrey Sam would have to say about that! I'm joking of course, I wouldn't have the courage to take one to work but love that you got one for yourself and all the positive responses.
I'm an aquarian and think I have ok dress sense generally, but now and again check whether something a bit quirky works and am relieved if get kind and discouragement!
There's something about the possibility of losing my awareness of what is appropriate that unsettles me so I'm not going to worry about that! Much happier thinking about teddy therapy! LPx

LP Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 4:15am

That was supposed to read kind and honest! :)

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 7:24am

Thank you LP! I'm really glad it cheered you. Maybe 'Teddy Bear Therapy' can be a new thing! I love quirky dress (although I'm not so brace in this area) and I also love inappropriate!! It's great to be able to step outside the box and not always feel we have to conform to society expectations. How boring it would be if everyone did. So do continue to dare to be different LP! Xx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 7:25am

Brave! Not brace!

Orangeblossom Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 7:48am

Hi Jane SG. Thanks for the scintillating blog which I thoroughly enjoyed reading. Some are my favourite children's books are the stories of Winnie The Pooh & also Paddington. We watched the Paddington bear film twice as well when it came on television. Hope that you have a great week ahead and continue to be yourself.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:32am

Thank you Orangeblossom. I love both Winnie The Poop and Paddington. Loved the film! Especially watching Paddington cope with the tube escalators. I still stand on my right foot sometimes! You too have a great week xx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:15pm

My daughter has just noticed my blunder! Poop!!!

Sally Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:02am

Good for you, Jane! I think your instinct to buy Geoffrey Sam served you well.
I bought a cat/ cuddly toy for my mother when she was in the care home. She derived a lot of pleasure from talking to it and stroking it. She thought it was the cat she had left at home.
I do lots of quirky things that people think odd! And like you, Jane, it's fine by me, too!

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:33am

I'm so glad you do quirky things Sally! Would love to hear more. I took a teddy to my Mum in hospital last week. My stepbrother messaged me this morning to tell me is still cuddling it xx

David Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:25am

Paddington Bear is my favourite, just dry cleaned his hat, for his next trip to Peru with his mentor in the other World.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:36am

Hi David, when I was 10 years old I craved a Paddington Bear. I was told I would have to save for one as they were too expensive. So I saved really hard and I can still remember the proud day I was able to purschase my hearts desire, complete with real red Wellington boots! He's older now but has weathered well, although his label went missing :( I hope your Paddington enjoys his trip to Peru! :)

Molly Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:32pm

My nan made me a Paddington Bear, it was perfect, like the real thing, like you, the real red wellies and everything. Shock, horror, I am unsure if I still have him ! I seem to remember taking his coat and hat off and they shrunk in the wash, so his days may have been numbered, I feel terribly guilty now !! I hope he is in that drawer, even if he only has his boots left on! ....here is hoping :-) xx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:25pm

Oh I hope you find him Molly. Plz let me know!, xxx

Salt Water Mum Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 9:40am

What a lovely blog, Jane SG,

I too love my cuddlys and still have many and my dolls. In fact - confession here - I was doing a clear out of the children's toys and clothes for the charity shop last week and I packed in some of my things too. I drove outside the charity shop, opened the boot and took out the bags - but then I got this pang of guilt. I just couldn't part with one of their teddy bears and one of my (!) rag dolls so I had to empty the bags out in the boot, root around, find the teddy and doll, give them a hug (!) and pack up the bags again without them.

Next day, My daughter spotted the teddy and doll in the boot! 'What are they doing here? Why didn't they go to charity?'
'Wellll' I tried to explain. 'I sorta couldn't really part with them....'
She rolled her eyes.
'Oh mum, you're crazy you know that right? but at least you're not boring.'

!!!

SWM x

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:12am

Fantastic SWM! I love this story! You must never part with that teddy and doll now!! This is just like my daughter and I! I love crazy-not boring!! Xx

Molly Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:37pm

I once put a rabbit out for rubbish (not a real one of course!) he was big and getting on my nerves (one of those pyjama case type things, can you still get them!) anyway I felt so guilty and I couldn't sleep so I got up in the night and retrieved him. He now sits on top of my wardrobe and will never be subject to such cruelty ever again :-) xx

Melanie Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 9:27am

Love this Molly! X

Jane SG Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 10:48pm

I somehow missed this Molly! I'm so glad you went to so much trouble to retrieve the rabbit! Xx

Angela Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:12am

Still have teddy from my first Christmas. He's lying in a drawerand I can't ever imagine parting with him. As a girl I would cry on him and tell him how sad or upset I was. He'll be 58 this Christmas.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:14am

Awww. That's lovely Angela. Teddies can give so much comfort xxx

Jul Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:14am

Hi Jane. I liked LP's comment when she said she is always aware of what might not be age appropriate and worried about this. My daughter went to a party last night in a fanatastic outfit which was brave and quite outrageous when you consider what her contemporaries wear. She was wondering if it was inappropriate but told me her friends had said she should wear it while she is still young enough! I feel like that too. I love clothes and dress very differently from my peers. I often think "well Julia, you have a few more years left of dressing like this..go for it" So what you did Jane was maybe outside your comfort zone, I mean taking Geoffrey Sam to a meeting and the best thing of the day for me would have been your line manager's disapproval, (That says it all..you did the right thing),but it made your day more exciting, it made you feel good. Onwards and upwards in our little bids for freedom. Julxx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:00pm

Hi Jul, you are right. The best bit was my line manager's disapproval! I must confess it wasn't outside my comfort zone, I can be known for doing quirky things. It certainly isn't protocol though! I'm so glad your daughter went ahead and wore her outfit. Keep dressing differently also Jul! It's always fab stand out fo quirkiness! xx

Leah Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 11:13am

Jane
I have tea towels for sale that says why teddy bears make the best friends.
Lovely blog.
Do I ever do quirky things. Let me think. I dont think so as I think wearing a lovely penguin onesie in my shop all day and down the street and out shopping to be quite an ordinary day.!

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:02pm

Hi Leah, please may I buy one of those tea towels? Penguin Onesie whilst shopping? Quirky? No you are right - perfectly normal! xxx

Molly Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:41pm

Haaaaa Leah - Love it xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 7:02am

Need a tea towel....always need a tea towel, but a Bear one?? Must be a must-have!! Think you could have a new career here, Leah, sending Bear tea towels to the UK!! Bear hugs xxxx Also....have a crazy image of you in a penguin onesie! Lolilol xx

Melanie Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 9:25am

Thank you Leah for another broad smile this morning!!

The Gardener Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 11:15am

I don't think I have ever done such a thing for myself - more likely to be crazy shoes. But, in a shopping mall in UK there was a lovely picture of a cat coming down a creeper covered wall (by its face it had just been stealing something) - I bought it on the spot for a cat-loving son - still in their kitchen. Then the firm who print my books here have super staff - coming back from UK the boat was selling giant boxes of Maltesers with a teddy in a sailor cap (all a Teddy needed in cuddliness) gave it to the staff - one claimed the Teddy and they all ate the Maltesers. I think the Teddy has become a bit of a mascot. We'd just finished a visit to another son in the Far East - looking for a suitable present - he's another cat lover - there was one, crystal, a metre tall - but it was 6,000 pounds! Mr G's Teddy (now 86 and nearly hairless) is upstairs with the cuddly toys of our children, and a pink pig and pink rabbit which my Mum had on her bed until she died.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:04pm

Aww reading about Mr G's Teddy gave me a warm feeling as well as your Mum's pink pig and pink rabbit TG. I approve greatly of teddy mascots.I guess Geoffery Sam could be our work mascot. The only problem is I haven't seen him since our day in London- he appears to be hiding in my daughter's room.....! xx

Dolphin Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:14pm

Lovely blog - made me smile. At the end of one winter I needed one of those bean bags you warm up in the microwave to keep your feet warm, but at that stage of the season there were only novelty ones. I chose the teddy bear and at the checkout, the woman asked if she should wrap him or whether I would carry him home! It made everyone at the counter laugh and I left with a smile. He now sits on a bedroom chair and I wouldn't think of putting my feet on him, but he's lovely to hug if I have a sore chest. I still have the teddy given to me at birth, called, very originally, 'Teddy'. Go Teddies and all who love them!!

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:30pm

Awesome! I love this Dolphin. Yes, 'Go Teddies and all who love them!' It's so nice to see that there are other Teddy champions out there!! xx

Gill Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:21pm

Good on you and Geoffrey Sam. I am a postwoman and we had a non uniform day for charity. As it was Easter week I wore a white shirt and shorts with bunny ears and a bunny tail. I got a lot of mixed reactions from colleagues .... embarrassment, pity, amusement, but a great response from the public and lots of smiling kids.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 12:32pm

Fantastic Gill. This has painted a fun image in my mind! How nice to be the cause of such a stir not to mention making the kids' day! Well done you :)xx

Nikki Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 1:00pm

Jane SG Very inspiring . I'm a vocalist in a local Band in Port Elizabeth . I've always been a cover "artist" sharing my raw personal material has heightened my anxiety to the max . I didn't realise how hard it is to relive those experiences each time u sing it . Over and over again . I will be taking My teddy on stage ! Thank you so much for sharing ... day made!U are awesome.

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 1:38pm

Wow! Thanks Nikki, your response has given me such a lift. You have made me smile :) I do hope that taking your teddy on stage brings you the courage to share your material. Remember authenticity, from the heart, can be very powerful and uplifting. Do let me know how it goes! xxx

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 2:28pm

PS I've been to Port Elizabeth. I go to SA every 2-3 years. Going again next Easter hopefully xx

Rosemary Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 8:42pm

Thank you for sharing this JaneSG
I have a soul mate called JoJo. He was made for me when I was a baby by my Mum. She made him and his 5 'siblings' selling them and keeping one for me – thus JoJo was born (and incidentally sits next to me as I write this :) )
Over the years he has been a shoulder to cry on, a non judgemental ear, the fountain of all knowledge (they become 'real' over the years you know, have you read the Velveteen Rabbit?) and most of all he represented me to Mum & Dad when I wasn't around and now they have passed he represents all they ever were to me whenever I need him to.
He brings a smile to most who meet him (there are always going to be a few non-believers) and most of all he spreads the word that it’s ok to remember (& honour) the child that is still in all of us…..
Never lose your inner child x

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:27pm

Hi Rosemary, JoJo sounds wonderful. I love his name. I'm glad he helped you to write your comment :) Yes to the Velveteen Rabbit! My daughter and I believe they are all real! Xx

Lex Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 9:56pm

We love Teddy Bears too! In fact, we collect them and believe in the legend that Teddy Bears choose you rather than vice versa, so I think Geoffry Sam chose you! What a team!

Jane SG Sun, Jul 2nd 2017 @ 10:28pm

Hi Lex, good point. Maybe he called out to me from the shop as I went past :)

Sal Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 12:09am

Lovely blog Jane, made me smile :))
xx

Jane SG Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 6:53am

Thanks Sal, I'm glad it made you smile :) xx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 6:59am

Arriving late to the Teddy Bears picnic.....oops! Soz all teddy bear lovelies!

Still have Best Bear from when I was a baby....Little Ted...he used to get photographed everywhere me and my husband went on holidays and sits on the bed or in a wooden heart on the wall. OH used to move him to different places around the room to see if I noticed....LT always shouted out 'I'm over here!' I always knew where he was of course!
Still have rabbit pj case and have my brother's dog pj case too...he didn't want it and I couldn't bear to throw him away....
Thank you for a beautiful, heart-warming Bear blog!
Bearsarethebest.comxxxx

Jane SG Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 9:01am

Ha- bearsarethebest.com - I love this! I couldn't imagine you not liking this with your name bearofliddlebrain! Im so glad you saved your brother' dog pj case. Im waving hello to LT!!! Xxx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jul 3rd 2017 @ 3:49pm

LT's waving Bear paws back, along with puppywhowouldliketoeatLT.comxxxx

Melanie Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 9:22am

Dear Jane, I am writing this appreciation very late - I loved your blog and your bravery in showing up with Geoffrey Sam wherever you go. I once bought myself a teddy bear after splitting up with someone - I had no courage to do anything other than hide him away. Please let's have "Adventures of Geoffrey Sam" and etc.... Thank you so much for making me smile and feel happy with your blog. xoxo

Jane SG Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 10:49pm

Thank you Melanie. I'm really glad that Geoffrey Sam's day made you smile :) xxx

Melanie Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 9:30am

All the talk of Paddington Bear has me remembering that one of my young riding school pupils every now and again brings along a PB and has her photo with him on the pony. Apparently he goes round the class and is photographed doing whatever his current carer is doing that weekend. X

Jane SG Tue, Jul 4th 2017 @ 10:50pm

As yes, my son once brought home a teddy that stayed with every child in the class for two weeks. Still have photos somewhere! Xx

Anonymous Wed, Jul 5th 2017 @ 2:48pm

Hi Jane, I really identify with your blog. I bought a teddy bear as an adult on a whim, it was about 15 years ago and like you I saw him in the shops one day and thought he needed a new home. He's been sat on a chair ever since (just in the background really), but over the last couple of years whilst going through a hard time he has become the most incredible comfort. Nowadays he sleeps in my bed and accompanies me on all sorts of adventures - I would feel lost without him now. There is something magical about the imaginary personality of a teddy bear! It's very healing and special and allows us to embrace our inner child. Looking back it's strange to think we lived together for years and only really got to know each other recently - he is definitely real now :-)
Good to hear that you have such a lovely connection with Geoffrey Sam from the start!

Jane SG Wed, Jul 5th 2017 @ 5:20pm

Hi Anonymous, what a lovely story. I'm so glad he has brought you a lot of comfort. I'm wondering what his name is although it's ok if you don't want to say. I still secretly, or not so secretly, believe that all Teddie's personalities are real...! Xx

Nicco Fri, Jul 7th 2017 @ 1:44pm

Hi Jane - I'm sorry because as usual I'm arriving quite late, but just had to leave a comment. What a wonderful beary blog! I bought a teddy bear from the famous bear shop in Witney in the Cotswolds a few years ago. He definitely chose me - I was drawn to him, picked him up and couldn't put him down (he has the most expressive eyes), so I browsed the rest of the shop with him in my arms! He is a grey & white curly mohair panda-type bear. His official name is Hughes & he is a bear by the designer Isabelle. Because he's grey I called him Graham, so he became Graham Hughes. He sits on my bed (and sometimes in it if I feel the need!) and I think he must be the bear with the most kissed nose! I kiss his nose last thing every night and again when I make my bed in the morning. I had childhood bears but, sadly, I don't know what happened to them. This one is very special to me and, if I feel down during the day, he will sit by me while I'm doing whatever I'm doing, or he's content to just be cuddled whilst I'm watching television. He brings me great comfort and has consoled me during some desperate times. I even wrote a poem about him! I suppose all of this sounds quite crazy but I wouldn't be without him & I'm so glad we found each other!

Jane SG Sun, Jul 16th 2017 @ 9:05am

Dear Nicco, I've just found this! I hadn't realised you had commented. What a lovely story. Graham Hughes sounds gorgeous. I would love to read the poem! I'm so glad he has brought you so much comfort. Teddy Bears rock! Xxx

Nicco Thu, Jul 20th 2017 @ 2:09pm

THE GUARDIAN OF MY BED (ODE TO GRAHAM HUGHES) Be the guardian of my bed, Oh be the guardian of my bed, And may it not be said I ever let Anyone else in it - It was with you I sat in it, Spent hours and chewed the fat in it, Be the guardian of my bed. Be the guardian of my bed, Oh be the guardian of my bed, And may it not be said I didn't keep You warm in it - It's with you my heart was torn in it, You – you keep me from harm in it, Be the guardian of my bed. Be the guardian of my bed, Oh be the guardian of my bed, And may it not be said I didn't take my Rest in it - It’s with you I made my nest in it, Pressed you to my breast in it, Be the guardian of my bed. Be the guardian of my bed, Oh be the guardian of my bed, And may it not be said I didn't Confess in it - You know I did my best in it, Fell apart and caressed my stress in it, Be the guardian of my bed. Be the guardian of my bed, Oh be the guardian of my bed, And may it not be said I was Ever shy in it, Uttered even one single lie in it, Because with you I hope to die in it, Oh, be the guardian of my bed, Just be the guardian of my bed – Always. (c)NC – January 2016

Nicco Thu, Jul 20th 2017 @ 2:10pm

Sorry, Jane, I copied & pasted it but for some reason the lines weren't kept in order so it all runs on, but I think you'll get the gist! x

Jane SG Thu, Jul 20th 2017 @ 6:34pm

Oh Nicco it's awesome, I love it! It gave me goose bumps! Thank you so much for sharing, I'm so glad you saw my message xxx

S Mon, Jul 17th 2017 @ 3:57am

I dont have any teddies. I can't face the disloyalty of getting another. When I was born, my aunt knitted me a sort of Humpty Dumpty thing consisting of a fat round ball with absurdly long legs, which was utterly hideous, but I loved it. Not to mention slept with it every night well in to adulthood.

So attached I was, that, well once I remember someone I used to date pretended to hang him out of the window by his legs with scissors outstretched. When I noticed I swear I almost collapsed with shock, and had a heart attack - it was that important to me I figuratively could have died. Ironically, six months later, in a "wave of adulthood" I threw him in the rubbish, and have mourned him ever since.

Poor HummyNummy.

Jane SG Mon, Jul 17th 2017 @ 5:45pm

Oh no, poor HummyNummy! And poor you, S! I gave a cuddly seal called Jason away to charity a few years ago in a 'wave of adulthood.' A childhood friend game him to me. I've always regretted it :(

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