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Talk about a dream. Tuesday September 27, 2016

Hello.

I love photographs and, in the days of old, when they were stored either in a packet or an album, I remember telling a friend that mine were so disorganised it was driving me crazy. The task of sorting the packets into date order, and noting on the back the story behind each one, was huge! He gave me sound advice – "Don't try to fix the ones you already have, just start with the next packet".

Can we take this advice into our next battle against our mood?

How good would it feel to wipe clean our slate? Ignore what we already have and begin again. We can. There is nothing to stop us. For this moment, let's just drop the thought that we ever had depression or bi-polar or whatever drags us down. How would we live if it was not there? I would marry Bruce Springsteen of course. But we must remain realistic (sob!).

I would put myself to the top of the list and do yoga every single day, with a plan to train as a teacher later. I would invite friends to eat food, cooked by me, in my house. I would book on to the photography course (the one I left because I could not talk in front of everyone to introduce myself, and I was so ashamed and embarrassed).

Why can I not start any of this today? Of course I can! I can start with 15 minutes of yoga every day instead of an hour once in a while. I can invite one friend. I can pick up my camera and self-teach until my confidence eeks out from under its shell.

It is these things, and only these things, which will stop my depression from crushing me. Are you willing to fight the crush? It can begin today. Bruce wrote "Talk about a dream, try to make it real".

Let's hear it, tell me your dream...

Love from

The room above the garage
A Moodscope member

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Barbara Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 6:10am

Dear ratgy (hope u don't mind the pet name. This is how I say the initials to myself),
Thank you very, very much. I think this blog just might be a lifesaver for me and my bipolar. Will try and keep you updated. Go well.
Love,
Barbara

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:44am

Hello Barbara, I love all the nicknames, all terms of endearment. You can wipe clean the slate at any point, there is no limit or timescale. Just a fresh start whenever needed. Good to see you, love ratg x.

DAVE Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 7:35am

Dear TRATG,
Do you think you could try hard not to look in the rear view mirror or too far ahead in your life from TODAY, but focus on the little minor chores that we do every day, consent rate on making the the chore enjoyable, DO IT WELL, admire your handy work afterwards, concentrate upon being the best housewife, nurse, road sweeper, trash collector, THESE are the most time consuming chores that need to be done.
But once done and out of the way, time is yours, if at work train yourself to be the best, become an asset to whom you owe you wage packet, because if the company struggles....you become an asset and you'll be the very last to go if the company crashes.

When all chores are done, then start in a small way, half an hour of Yoga, enquire about either evening classes or a postal teaching course at home.

Think about the Tortoise and the Hare, you get there last....But you will get there !

Imagine TRATG, having cleared the decks of chores, time is in the NOW...Train yourself to think NOW is my time !

There is absolutely nothing you cannot do in this life,....Providing, you're prepared to FAIL, because if you don't try you won't experience failure......But the secret is NEVER give up, "IF AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCCEED, try, try, try again is the adage. It's true, that the majority of folk who fail GIVE UP, they feel low, depressed, a failure, their self-confidence and their mind start to look in the rear view mirror, in which in their sub-conscious negative mind, they see ONLY their past failures, which confirm to there inner mind, that I'm hopeless, and of course they move on to other projects which they give up and the same old track and groove in the record plays to their mind.

TRATG I thrive upon the words of Einstein..."It's not that I'm so smart, it's that I stay with problems longer".

Go for it enjoy FAILURE, don't give up, and you'll finally CELEBRATE SUCCESS the success that I constantly enjoy.

God Bless

Dave.

Duma Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 7:49am

Solid advice Dave. Loved the Einstein quote. Cheers, Duma.

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:46am

Very true Dave, and it takes practice to break out. I too adore the Einstein quote...I need that visibly in the house somewhere as I have one child who needs those words more than the others. Brilliant, thank you, love ratg x.

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:25am

Thanks for the Einstein quote Dave. I've written it down. As I have just started out with collecting quotes you have prompted me to look out for a whole new category of quotes about persistence. TF x

Mary Wednesday Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:42am

Hmmm. Watch out for tomorrow's blog - it fits in!

Duma Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 11:57am

Can't wait.

patricia Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:00am

Dear ratg I started thinking how I wanted to better myself, I decided to learn French, I enrolled in a day class, paid up front, it was a beginners class, I was the only real beginner, the Lady went around the room asking how much French we already knew, me nothing, the one that sticks out in my mind, had spent 6 months in France as a nanny. The first week was ok, the second we sat around in a circle so called chatting in French, needless to say I ran.
Not so long ago I decided I would like to learn photography, went on a beginners course which included the computer imput as well, oh! I thought I'm really going to learn how to use the camera, we all sat at computers, this time only 6 of us, I looked across at a husband and wife, they were sitting there with huge zoom lenses, everyone else had various pieces of equipment, I stayed a couple of weeks by which time I had been completely left behind. The lady who took the group was very good she did try to help me, but I was so aware of the others who seemed more important, just wanted to run away. which I did.
Unfortunately there are no day or night classes anymore, but on reflection don't think I could go through being the only one who knows nothing.
Having said that I'm starting a Mindfulness Course again tomorrow, this time I think I might be the only one who knows something having done a few courses, but I think Mindfulness needs working at, not easy, know quite a few people who say it's not for them.
Bye for now.

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:50am

I thoroughly understand where you are coming from patricia. I learn slowly (and practically) and when in a class situation and I feel myself falling behind...its tough to stay uplifted. Teachers don't always support this either. Is it possible you could have some one-to-one training? My next photography course is not going to be a formal course at the gallery but a local amateur photographer who will give me a few lessons on my own. That way I will progress at my speed and I can ask whatever I like, as many times as I like! Good to see you, love ratg x.

Orangeblossom Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:02am

Hi RATG, thanks for the encouragement to take small steps each day, and not try to take giant strides. Perservance and keeping at it is beneficial. My greatest challenge recently was to find three things to be thankful for over 21 days and to nominate a person each day to take forward the challenge. I think it a good process but find it difficult. I am determined to maintain the challenge.

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:54am

Hi Orangeblossom, I hope you are keeping a list of your three things each day. I'm no mathematician but that is going to be a long and interesting list after 21 days! Worth keeping for both interest and comparison if you were to repeat the challenge each season. In fact...maybe you should blog this very thing and 21 days later we could comment with our lists! Love ratg x.

Duma Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:13am

Hi RATG.

Baby steps, second stage of acceleration. With standing still being step one.

Neutral, first gear, third gear and there you are - Ramming Speed!

Have a good day, Duma.

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:55am

Thank you Duma, now I need to play some Springsteen! :-) love ratg x.

Mary Wednesday Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:44am

I feel Duma is a huge encouragement to us all! Thanks, Duma - love the ramming speed analogy!

Duma Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 12:01pm

Too kind Mary. I wish I understood more, why you're inspired. I don't get it. Honestly, not fishing for compliments, here. You lot baffle me. Much love and gratitude, Duma.

Anonymous Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:25am

Dear Tratg - Ahem...I don't subscribe to bucket lists but I have my first swimming lesson today. I am a confirmed doggy-paddler or perhaps I should say paddler so it will be 'interesting'. I have, like you, whole drawers of undated photos and whilst I admire the purist in Dave's words, I firmly believe that this is as good as it gets. When depressed, that is not a happy thought but even then, there is an element of choice. Thank you. Go well.

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:58am

Hello, there is nothing better than the adventure of leafing through photos and just going with the memory we have. Actually the time, names, details...do we need it all? I LOVE that you are off for a swimming lesson! I can swim to save myself but my strokes are...what is the word...arty. They are eclectic and free!!! :-D Please, please blog and tell us about how it came about and how it went. Love ratg x.

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 12:45pm

Anon Messed up my earlier reply to you. Sorry. Anyway good luck with the swimming. I am sure you will be fine as I did something similar in my 20s. At the start I was on a couple of widths of breast stroke with bad technique and the one term course got me to the point where all I needed to do was keep practising. Best wishes TF x

Sophie Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:54am

I like this blog ratty (another term of endearment, its how i read your acronym!); yesterday morning when I took the test I wasn't sure quite how the day felt like it would pan out, so I made a note in my comments that I planned to work on things on my to-do list that I knew I would take satisfaction from, in an effort to keep my mood buoyant and help me to tackle the rest of the day (and rest of to-do list that wasn't quite so nice to do). There's a lot to be said for baby steps :o)

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:03am

I really like 'ratty', its often how I describe my mood when I say to the kids "oh just ignore me, I'm just being ratty" so its perfect! :-) Tackling your list in this way is brilliant, seeing that you have some control over how to keep your mood buoyant is a great tip for all. Thank you Sophie, love ratg x.

LP Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:22am

Hi ratg,

I was literally able to take a deep breath of relief when I read about the advice for organising photographs. Often it's a back log that drags me down.

So to apply this to what's been dragging me down in my life, my dream is that from today, I discover I have a super power! It's an Invisible Vacuum Compressor.

Any destructive problems or worries it detects, mine, or anyone elses, it just sucks them in, processes them for you, compresses them into a small cube and fixes a lable with a heading on it.
I'll say "Ok, that went under the heading of "family stuff", "finance" or "health" and we're free of it! It's back there in a little invisible heap of labled cubes!

We're lighter, brighter and find a spring in our step. There's a kind of film of calm over everything like a soothing aromatic oil on what was troubled waters, making it all so easy to glide through.

We might wake up one morning, forgetting what happend, confused about that big bag of stuff, then remember what day it is, another fabulous post IVC day! :)
People notice something different about us and ask where that big bag of stuff is and we're only too happy to tell them, "Oh that all went under the heading of...." as we get on with our gliding through the moment.

Yep, just off to glide through my day! Thank you for an inspiring blog ratg! LP :) xxx

The Gardener Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:50am

I think I like 'ratty' best - but a bit of a sad association - the major (and incredibly expensive) works at the Mt St Michel have ruined the ecology of our lovely little river. It is usually grey slurry - ratty has gone, plus otters, cormorants, swallows, dragon flies and butterflies. A diversion! Patricia, learning! You have to be obstinate, and mostly do it yourself. Like you, I have tried to learn languages at night school - loads of people would start, then get discouraged - they were usually a vast mix of abilities and those with some knowledge already - learners discouraged, teacher frustrated. I've managed 5 'A' levels, a BA and an MA, but mostly my dogged nature and governments who were very generous to mature students. Swimming? I can, but no confidence. I can see through that water, can't I, so how can it hold me up? Out of my depth, I panic and sink. Dreaming? Only think of South Pacific and Martin Luther King. My dreams, now, are really prayers to an unspecified deity to give me strength to cope with an increasingly difficult situation, and to make me kinder. Perhaps a real dream - a magic carpet - or wafted by a friendly airline - to the garden of our friends in Adelaide, to sit with a glass of cold white wine, in their lovely little garden, among the lorikeets, with access to their marvellous books and their equally marvellous company. A dream it must be - none of us will travel any distance again.

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:58am

Feeling a bit ugh today ( probably partly influenced by physical stuff as I have a cold and a sore throat and I need to do some horrid physiotherapist for tendonitis affecting my wrists and elbows). One thing I am quite grumphed about is that the elbow problem has put a stop (hopefully only temporarily) to learning the saxophone. I am trying singing lessons instead to cheer myself up but it is still quite disheartening when you can't do something you dreamed of and made an effort with. (I have always thought that the saxophone was cool since my uncle used to let me have a go on his at Christmas as a child.) Work also heavy going at present as I have moved into a new role where I am learning the ropes.

Anyway before I spread too much gloom, I have found the blog and comments helpful. I think it is probably a day for small steps like doing my physio, walking a mile to pick up my prescription and being thankful that it's quite a nice day in London.

Love TF x

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:34am

Hi Tutti Frutti! You're not spreading gloom....you're telling it like it is! I loved the fact that from having played your uncle's saxophone when a young child, has meant you've plucked up the courage to have another go now...and hopefully if you rest, the tendonitis will get better and you'll be able to play again :). I 'overdid' things making a project last November...ready for Christmas and I ended up with tendonitis - you have my sympathy as it's flipping painful! Bear hugs xxx

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 12:52pm

Thanks for the bear hugs. I actually need to look to my uncle's example again as he has just gone back to playing (in his 80's) after about 18 months where he was unable to play because of cataracts and complications in recovering from one of the operations. TF x

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:02am

Was meant to refer to horrid physiotherapy not horrid physiotherapist above. My physiotherapist is actually a friend of mine - whose praises I once sang on this blog before for having been very helpful when I was recovering from a severe depression.

The Gardener Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:24am

I have scads of writing to do, despite wrist still being painful. Had to remark on photography. Mr G was always meticulous about photos - having taken them we wanted to see them - over 50albums (pre computers) and over a 1,000 loaded on a computer with A TV sized screen, selected from random and used on the screen saver mode. As the photos came from the printer Mr G would put them in an album with date and place. Neither of us had lessons, find classes too technical. A professional friend gave us two pieces of advice - a camera can be used vertically as well as horizontally - rising steps and doorways in temples are much more effective taken vertically. The other was 'dont' just 'snap', take a few seconds to compose your picture - like a picture in a frame - centralize the focal point'.

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:28am

Dearest TG...so pleased you have been able to comment today even though your wrist is painful. I like the advice given by your professional photographer-friend, made me smile! Big Bear hugs xx

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:26am

Hi RATG...first read this early...too early to have thought about a proper reply and had to prepare for endless builders in and out...but whilst walking with doggit, guess what kept popping into my head and I can't get it out? 'Happy Talk, keep talking happy talk...talk about things you'd like to do...you have to have a dream' etc...been singing it all morning...just because of your title!!! An ear worm??

Well, I did it....last year, I sat down (when feeling good) and went through masses of photos and labelled what I could, put them in date order and laughed a lot at funny pics of me, of the family, of dear ones no longer with us and cried. I also cried for the 'lost Bear' of long ago. She was slim, pretty, happy and full of hope. She didn't know what was on the horizon, didn't need to ask for much help because she was full of energy. Pwf....it came, it went!
Now the dream - which is becoming reality as the days go by - this older Bear is getting slimmer (!) is happy more of the time, and on good days Bear can sew or do gardening without being completely knick-knacked and have a delish dinner waiting for 'the workers' to come home to and always listens to how everyone's day has gone.
Noticing the changes in the weather and the beautiful colours of the leaves on the trees and just accepting the seasons as they arrive for the beauty they each hold.
And finally....looking forward to having no builders!
Great blog dear RATG, I thankees!
Bear xxx

Mary Wednesday Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:49am

Oh Bear! I am so pleased that more mature bear is getting slimmer (if, like me, your family cannot understand why we want to be slimmer as they love us cuddly, then please have some encouragement from me) and that you have some good days. Am sending an email to you via Caroline.

Tutti Frutti Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 12:58pm

Well done on getting slimmer. I've been doing slimming world and definitely feel better not having to see my double chin in the mirror any more!

S Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 8:11am

Love this comment bear! Especially the word knick-knacked! I did some sewing the other Sat- hand sewibg- very slow and therapeutic, Sx

The Gardener Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:37am

Bear, I think it was Leah who wrote a while ago about 'bottling' good feelings. You ought to bottle that last paragraph - and make sure you take a draught of it if the dreams looks like going back to being a dream!

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:47am

I should! As I feel it more each day! Nearly October and back into long sleeved t shirts today...as its brr chilly but not brr cold!! Hope your day holds something pleasurable for you TG, in between looking after Himself. Bear x

Mary Wednesday Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:51am

A dream? Too many dreams: all impractical. But actually - in many ways - I am living the dream. I just need to remind myself of that. Every day.

Lex Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 2:40pm

Wake up, Mary, you're living the dream! {Couldn't resist that delicious paradox xx}

Lex Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 2:40pm

Awesome, RATG, awesome - your blog and you!
I've just been researching the Eleven Plus today because a friend wanted some Mind Maps to help his daughter. If you'd like to begin your training as a teacher by working on this with me, I'd be happy to collaborate. As for photography... I'm like the little lass, Agnes, in "Despicable Me" with her Unicorn - "I love it! I love it!! I love it!!!" -{so happy to share what I know with you xx}

LP Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 7:59pm

Is there a way of deleting this sort of stuff Caroline? LPx

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 8:39pm

Ah, she used her magic wand and there it was...gone! xx

Mary Wednesday Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 9:12pm

Assumed we were spammed! Thank you Caroline for despammimg us (unlike Monty Python's sketch)

LP Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 11:42pm

Lol! Great, thanks for the magic wand Caroline! :)

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 12:32am

Sorry for the delay, but it's gone! We don't need that rubbish spoiling a great blog and some wonderful comments. Thanks everyone. Carolinex

the room above the garage Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 10:01pm

A late return!
LP a super power, vacuum on do! Pants on top of tights i hope :-) I could be one of your regulars!
TF you're allowed to feel uugh, and since you told us i hope it will immediately start to improve. Saxophone how fabulous!!
TG, sorry about your wrist, what an insult after everything else you cope with. Wish I could help xx.
Bear, great to read!!
Marydoll, living the dream indeed, we each are to somebody I guess.
Lex, too kind! Yoga teacher, not teacher teacher (I lack the key ingredients) but your so kind to offer. Photos...I know what I want but I fail miserably with my big camera every time, I want the settings to just pop into my head. By the time I've worked it out the moment has usually passed!!
Spammed? Wish I'd read it...could've been fun :-D

Thanks everyone for walking beside me today, see you tomorrow, love ratg x.

S Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 8:12am

Thank you RATG for the blog to get us thinking about our dreams, Sx

LP Tue, Sep 27th 2016 @ 11:43pm

Hilarious! Pants on top of tights tomoz for sure! :)) xx

Duma Wed, Sep 28th 2016 @ 12:06am

To the rescue!

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