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Talismans. Thursday March 9, 2017

"Seize the day" the saying goes. What?! That's far too big a seize for me! However, I am a firm believer in seeking out and seizing anything that gives you even the smallest of boosts. If it gives you the tiniest of smiles, no matter how wry or how deep down inside you, seize that thing and hold on to it for dear life! Better still, make a mental or even a physical note of it, so that you can repeat as and when required.

Here are some moments of my own that I draw on:

In the film "Finding Nemo" there's a very forgetful blue fish called Dory, who sings a song that goes "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming" (repeat). When I first saw this magical movie moment I LOVED it! I SO identified with the character and her song, and, most important of all, it made me smile. So now, if I need to lift my spirits I wryly sing this little ditty: "Just keep swimming..."

Another kids' film, "Lilo and Stitch". Stitch, the blue alien with anger issues, says: "This is my family. I found it, all on my own. It's little, and broken, but still good. Yeah, still good." That's making me cry even as I type it - but happy tears. That sums up my family too and therefore makes me feel content and smiley. Things come in all shapes and sizes, and all shapes and sizes are good... So I picture that small, blue alien, and things suddenly seem better.

When I was a child I had a thing about Smurfs (small blue creatures with big white hats). I had a tiny toy one and would take it around with me, like some sort of talisman. (I don't know why all my examples are fantasy creatures and BLUE... plus, they tend to sing chirpy songs...) "Talisman" is probably a good description - of course, they can be a phrase, a piece of music, a picture, an object, mine are really just a thought... But I recommend that you actively seek out "talismans" in your life - seek them, find them, seize them, keep them and refer to them regularly so that you can feel the power of their magic!

I hope you feel the power today!

Marmaladegirl
A Moodscope member.

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Hettie Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 5:28am

Finding Nemo and Lilo and Stitch are my favourites too. You will love Finding Dory!! When I'm feeling down I watch the Mana Mana song from the Muppet Show on Youtube. It never fails to cheer me up. :)

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:10pm

Hi Hettie! Thank you for being the first reply to my first ever blog. Music is a great booster isn't it? Once I start singing Mana Mana I can't stop (it's a right "ear worm"!) Hope you have had a good day today. MG

Orangeblossom Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:31am

Thanks for your fun-to-read blog. It is good to be reminded to think positively about a situatation and to not beat ourselves when difficulties and obstructions creep in to prevent us from moving smoothly along.

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:07pm

Hi Orangeblossom! You made my day by describing my (first ever) blog as "fun-to-read". Thank you! All the best MG

LP Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 7:45am

Hi MG,
I loved Finding Nemo too, I must remember to mention "Just keep swimming" to my mother who is unwell at the moment.
I can't think of a talisman that has helped me right now.
When I seperated from my ex husband, I took off my wedding ring. Not in animosity, it just made sense. I did like it as an object though, even though it no longer held any sentimental value. I missed having something special and had created the design. A good while later I went on a self help weekend course, which taught me to keep in touch with the essence of who I am. It came to me that I could create a ring of my own and that's exactly what I did. I wear it on the same finger of my other hand and I love it.
Thank you for the reminder of what it means to me!
Thanks toobfor a wonderful blog, I'll keep an eye out for any little ditties or symbols that give me power and make me smile :) Good wishes to you and all. LPxx

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:13pm

That sounds lovely LP - to design your wedding ring and also to design a "Fabulous You" ring! You'll be wearing it right now I' sure and hopefully thinking good thoughts about what it means to be YOU. All the best, MG

LP Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 10:45pm

Thanks MG! Yep got it on and it's been lovely to begin and end the day with it and you! :) LP xx

Anghared Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:10am

Thank you, I loved your piece of writing, it made me sit up and smile, I was in the ocean swimming with Dory. I don't have a talisman, but a bit like a spoilt child I would like one now, today it seems is going to be a beautiful day. I am going walking with a close friend and then we are doing some embroidery stitching. I am going to look for something on my walk to remind me of your blog. So today let's " Keep swimming"

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:16pm

Hi Anghared - It was wonderful to be told that you loved my piece of writing. I have never written anything to be 'publicly' read before. Did you find something to remind you to keep smiling on your walk? (Hasn't the weather been glorious today?!) I often keep a stone, feather or flower... All the best, MG

Sally Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:24am

Thank you, Marmaladegirl, for a funny and interesting blog. I have several talismans! I first started take no one to school when things got tough at school when I was 9. It was a little mouse in a box.
I have a treasure box with reminders , a piece of chalk ( my teaching career) a favourite charity pin, a lovely card & sentiments,etc. I love talismans, it makes st be said.
Thank you for reminding me of all this . Enriching.

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:18pm

Dear Sally - You sound just like me, keeping 'special' things, that seem to ward off evil! And I am/was a Secondary school English teacher, so a teacher like you too. I hope you have had a good day. All the best MG

Sally Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:28am

Sorry for typo, please replace "no one" by "one", cos that makes a huge difference to the meaning! Oh, and I've just seen " makes st be said" . Should've been " must be said" so sorry for not checking before posting!

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:19pm

And another thing, thank you so much for saying the blog was funny and interesting. I have never written anything like this before so I appreciate it! MG

Sue Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:37am

Completely identify with your blog. I frequently use "just keep swimming" in moments of anxiety - even once while I was on a camel! I was convinced she would slip over, named her Dorey and mumbled just keep swimming for the entire anxiety ridden hour! Thank you for your funny blog x

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:21pm

It's a good phrase to help us get through unpleasant things isn't it Sue?! Thank you for your response to my blog. I hope you have had a good day. MG

Lacey Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 10:08am

Hi Marmaladegirl
My go-to is music just like you and currently it's Ed Sheerans new album Divide.The lyrics are amazing and what I love about him is that he has a way with his writing that could be poetry if you look at it that way.For me however it is the music and what he does with the guitar (+talented musicians involved) always makes me smile.....and sing along.
His last track Supermarket Flowers will probably be played at many funerals in the future(sombre thought creeping in) however, for me, its as uplifting as the more upbeat,dance tunes.
So,as I drive down the motorway for a long weekend with my Mum I shall be joining in to Ed.
Thanks Ed and great thanks to you Marmaladegirl for a cracking blog.
Have a lovely weekend; the sun is shining!!!!

Jul Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 1:49pm

I love Ed Sheeran too. His lyrics are wonderful. I must buy Divide. I love his new single and also that totally blissful song Thinking Out Loud. Julxx

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:24pm

Hi Lacey - I hope you have arrived safely at your Mum's. I was tickled pink when I read you thought it was "a cracking blog"! I must listen to the lyrics of Ed Sheeran's music - I so enjoy the sound that I haven't paid much attention to the words! Happy Weekend! MG

Leah Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 10:34am

Marmalade girl,
Thanks for your refreshing blog. I don't know many of the movies you mentioned - I am showing my age.
I loved the Wizard of Oz and when the good witch told Dortothy she always had the power to get home but she didn't know her own power(I have re worded that!_ I have always had a pair of red shoes just in case! THanks again. I did know what Smurfs were.

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:30pm

Dear Leah The films came out when my children were young and are meant for kids, but there's plenty for adults to appreciate in them as well (or maybe I just have a very juvenile mind!) Do you still have any red shoes? Preferably red SPARKLY ones! I think you should! I hope you have had a good day. The weather has been lovely in North Yorkshire today. MG

The Gardener Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 3:13pm

Nice 'different' blog. I've never had talismans, I don't think so, anyway. My mother had so many superstitions, and so obscure, that I set my mind against any signs of 'good' or 'bad' luck in case I believed them! Have a weird song/lyric stuck in my sub-conscious - arrived at, too long to tell, by a stream of people unloading insoluble problems on me. It is 'There's a hole in my bucket, dear Liza, dear Liza'. I empathize totally with Liza. Going to have a drink with a friend, although it's only 4.15. Just attended the funeral of a friend - not in itself harrowing, but her death was. Neighbour (very close friend as well) thought there was something wrong over the road. She sent her daughter (middle-aged) to investigate, the door was open, and she went it. The lady was dead on the floor - I have not heard when she actually died. The thought of her dying alone (one hopes she died very quickly) I find appalling, in the middle of a town, with neighbours all around

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:36pm

Hello Gardener - I have read many of your blogs and appreciate that you see mine as a nice, different one! The downside to talismans is, of course, if you then lose them - but as mine are just songs, thoughts and memories they can safely reside in my head (so until I lose my mind, they are safe!) I have been re-training my brain to feel happy and these positive thoughts seem to help it (my brain) go in new, positive channels. We are creatures of habit but I no longer want to go down the despairing route so I am fighting against that with every tool I can find! All the best, MG

DAVE Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 4:31pm

Hi MG,Your thought provoking blog takes me back over 40 years in my 'Cold Canvassing' days selling Electronic Scales and Cash Registers, I found a very sure method of distracting someone who either was angry, or someone who asked a question that I did not have the answer too.
During the product demo, the shopkeeper would ask the question for eg..he'd say "what happens when etc etc ...I'de think about how to answer, then out of the blue I'de drop my sales folder and paperwork would go everywhere....Or I'de pretend to flick a spider off his lapel...This counteracting action destroyed the conversation and he'd forget his question and I'de carry on with my sales pitch.

That type of distraction is very useful if one is feeling out of sorts and people are bombarding me with personal questions, especially in a low BP state.

These ploys have been 'Life Savers' and have got me out of some very awkward situations !

I do hope I have made myself clear, because distraction during any type of incident can make a lot of difference to a relationship...I have very rarely used this tactic in our marriage and found that it 'Smooooothed' situations instantly, because it gives me control of these awkward situations and contributes to an amazing self confidence.
Thank you for reminding me of my past enjoyment.
Dave.

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 6:44pm

Hi Dave - Yes, we have to avoid getting overly drawn in to a negative state and led down a path that we know will only make us feel worse... I don't know if the low one gets in a low BP state feels the same as depression and I only have experience of depression (and ME/CFS, which can be a downer, if I let it...) But I think all techniques are worth a try. I hope you have had a good day. All the best MG

DAVE Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 9:14pm

Your blog reflects your ability to cope very well with ME/CFS. But maybe you have to 'ration' your physical and mental energy to conserve strength, as that may govern the DEPTH of your depression. The DEPTH of my Bipolar depression over the years seems always linked to 'burn out', mental exhaustion rears it's ugly head where I have very little control over my feelings. You may have more control over the amount of energy hour by hour, I don't know, just imagining how you cope, but you're right to keep away from negative situations which can cause contention. You're a star and I just love you blog. Take great care of yourself MG and focus on your time that allows you contentment. Enjoy your week and thank you. Dave.

Jane Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:17pm

Nice blog Marmaladegirl. A colleague and I have used Dory's ' just keep swimming' a lot! I also love Mamma Mia and play the film when I feel down. I also like 'catch the pigeon!'

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:58pm

Hi Jane - I have replied to your response but I'm not sure it was in the reply box and might appear below as a comment.... Thanks for your thoughts. MG

Marmaladegirl Thu, Mar 9th 2017 @ 8:53pm

Hi Jane - I'm glad I'm not the only one getting myself through the day by singing strange songs! I like Mamma Mia cos the songs are great and it reminds me of when I ran away to Greece (a la Shirley Valentine) to get over a relationship that had taken me through most of my twenties (it ALWAYS seemed to be sunny - well, in day time obviously, not literally always!). The best bit that goes with "Catch the pigeon" is Mutley putting his hand/paw over his mouth and doing that insane laugh!
All the best,
MG

Jane Fri, Mar 10th 2017 @ 2:48am

Oh yes. I often compare my sense of humour to Mutley's and got my director a mug with a pic of Mutley grinning at Christmas!

Mary Wednesday Fri, Mar 10th 2017 @ 9:45am

Loved this blog! Congratulations on writing it and I hope you write more. (Warning - they become addictive!)I do hope you come back for a couple of days and check this - I had to miss Moodscope yesterday because of work commitments and lack of WiFi. Talismans: I shall have to think on that one - but what a lovely word that is... Talisman. Mmmmm - just makes me feel good. I feel another blog coming on....

Marmaladegirl Fri, Mar 10th 2017 @ 6:37pm

Hi Mary Wednesday I nearly missed my own blog cos I have just moved house and everything is very chaotic, plus I was at work. Internet connection seems better today... Interestingly I wrote one blog, which hasn't been printed yet. Then sent in "Talismans", which HAS been published (or whatever the word is!) And yes, it must be addictive cos I have an idea for what I would like to say in another blog - it's just a question of finding the time and energy to do it! 'Talisman' does sound nice doesn't it? 'Mellifluous' is my favourite at the moment. And for some reason 'pusillanimous'! Although 'talisman' is making me think of 'salamander' for some reason (similar sounds) - that's a good word. Anyway, must go! Have a contented weekend. MG

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