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SSDD. Monday November 20, 2017

Yes, it's a rude acronym.

It means:

Same Sh*t, Different Day

...and it was used to great effect in Stephen King's movie, "Dreamcatcher."

Frankly, if this is your truth - that your life seems stuck in a loop of 'same sh*t, different day' (and let's face it, it's the truth for most of us), you and I need to do something about it. I'm up for a change, are you?

Fortunately, there are tons of actions we can take once we know what to act on.

You see, the life you and I are experiencing is not an Island Life.

We are the fruit of our external environment AND our internal state.

Both can be changed.

Your environment matters - so make adjustments.

Your psychological state matters - so make adjustments.

The Power of Three

If there were three things you could change in your external environment, to improve your quality of life, what would they be?

Here are some ideas:

A change in your diet
A change of location
A shift in your rhythm each week
A change of decor and fixtures to celebrate the fact that you are a biological entity. E.g. natural light or daylight balanced lighting, ergonomic furniture, better ventilation.
A change of habit - such as walking in Nature more often
A change in the company you keep
Walk down a different street
Pick More Daisies.

What would your three be?

If there were three things you could change in your internal environment - your character, thought-life, values, and emotions - to improve your quality of life, what would they be?

Here are some ideas:

Have less rules (parents of large families learn this one quickly!)
Be less judgmental
Be more forgiving
Take yourself less seriously
Slow down and become more mindful.

The most exciting truth is that...

If you change anything, you change everything! [Which is WAY more encouraging than the standard, "if you keep on doing what you've always been doing, you'll keep on getting the SSDD.]

Lex
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Molly Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 2:22am

I'm stuck in a rut. I don't know how to change things. I really don't. I've thought about what you have said but I still have no idea how to change things. I used to know, but it's all gone xx

Orangeblossom Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 6:31am

Ihi Molly I registered on www.headspace.com. It is a training in Mindfulness Meditation. The first ten days are free so that you can try it out. It is a slow process, but worth having a go.

LP Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 8:24am

Hi Molly, Maybe don't worry about it or try to force it. It might be a safely or comfort zone thing? Just enjoy reading other people's thoughts, many might feel the same. Or other's thoughts may remind you of your own that you'd forgotten. Rut is and interesting word in itself. Might look it up and see if I can work out what the opposite is! Good wishes to you. LP xx

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:16am

Would a 'Ridge' be the opposite to a 'Rut'? I well imagine the kindness you'll receive from Moodscopers today will lift you up if even slightly. Today's blog is another one on 'tiny' - making tiny changes. I understand what feeling stuck... feels like! Today is not about the feeling though, it's about just doing something slightly differently. I'm off sugar nowadays, so I know that if I put even one sugar in my coffee, I'd have a strong reaction! That's a silly example - but it's what I mean. Go for a walk when you're not supposed to. Surf the web for comedy sketches or a scene from a movie you love. Blow a raspberry. It's all about doing something different - anything. I might put my jacket on the wrong way round for 4 minutes - just to break the pattern... or clean my teeth with the other hand. Messy! But no messier than my life is at the moment...

Lacey Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:22am

Hang on n there Molly, things will change -they always do.Stay safe and keep doing what you are doing even if that is nothing. When the time is right you will know and change will happen. Take care Lacey x

Molly Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 4:58pm

Thanks everyone xx xx

Sal Tue, Nov 21st 2017 @ 4:00pm

Hi Molly, I'm catching up a day late again. Feel a bit sad reading your words. I've come to think of you as a live wire! not someone stuck in a rut. I'm sorry to hear it feels like that. One of my credo's (credoes?), which I can't think of evidence for at the moment, is that we can't move on til we accept (embrace?) where we are now. One way I sometimes do this is to do the 'morning pages' exercise from the book, The Artist's Way. It's 15 mins, or 3 sides, of uncensored writing first thing in the morning. It can just be 'I'm stuck I'm stuck I'm stuck' etc. After a while it changes. Something else can come in. Maybe something good? ... might be worth a try. Love, Sal xx

Molly Wed, Nov 22nd 2017 @ 3:47am

Thank you Sal. I am still pondering on why you think I am a live wire, it is interesting as to how we perceive people, whether through text or face to face. I am told how confident I am but I really am the least confident of the bunch and I mean in a big way, not just in a modest kind of way. I am suffering alot right now, I am very depressed, but I am a fighter. I appreciate your suggestions and I live in hope. Thank you again xx

Molly Wed, Nov 22nd 2017 @ 4:05am

I just wanted to also mention, Orangeblossom, you are so very kind to everyone on here, with your comments. I don't always remember people but I remember you. I have downloaded the Headspace app and have used it a couple of times but I haven't found it is helping me, I will persevere but I seem to have this thing where I need to be alone and I am never alone at the moment because my husband is ill and we live in a small house. But I will continue to try this method xx

Molly Wed, Nov 22nd 2017 @ 4:14am

LP and Lacey - thank you both - I needed to hear those words, I really appreciate it xx Lex, your suggestion of blowing a raspberry is one to remember, guess what I am going to do tomorrow (whilst sitting with my jacket inside out, with toothpaste all over my face) Molly xx

Orangeblossom Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 6:36am

Hi Lex, thanks for the blog. I don't want to revert to SSDD. I have a more manageable routine/rhythm now,. I have also adjusted my diet & am learning to be less judgemental, more forgiving & taking myself less seriously. My practise of going on my headspace journey and learning mindfulness meditation in the process may be helping to set up good patterns though it is a slow process.

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:17am

It's a good recommendation, Orangeblossom. I like Andy's approach on Headspace. In fact, I like the fact it is a slow process.

DAVE Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 8:04am

Hi Lex,
I don't have a problem with my life, in fact if had to start over again I'de follow the same course, because I have experienced more than most....not arrogant, Pigheaded, big headed or above anyone, But for me I enjoy the simple pleasures in life, but it has taken its toll upon my health, you know starting out penniless, and building a life with someone 53 years ago, it's never been easy, we've had our fights of ups and downs times. But for me my parents dvorced after 34 years of marriage, and basically all they did was to change bed partners....The cat still craps on the kitchen floor, the job, the work pace of life remains the same and routine in life remains the same. Money helps, but only if you let it oil the wheels of life, and do not 'worship' it.
Finding inner peace and happiness....it's all about compromise, man and woman come together from different backgrounds, and walks of life, what is it then, deep down that holds some people together....Compromise, we cannot change other people's persona, we can guide, and by our example we can lead the way...But ultimately we need to discover a foundation based upon Rock not Sand, and be able always to 'return to base' when things go pear shaped, or people obstruct our moves forward.

I love nature and animals, we are very fortunate that we are not on another Planet like Mars.
Three things I would change would be these :-

1...To talk less....and Listen more.
2...To develope more love for my neighbour.
3...To leave this world a better place for my being here.

I am currently working and striving to achieve these three objectives, and in so doing increase a moe humble and loveable me.

Thank again Lex for your thoughts, which disturb and shake up the heart and mind to realise, how really very fortunate we all are, but there are none so Blind as those who cannot see,.....But there are none s Blind as those who 'WILL NOT SEE'.
God bless you Lex.

Dave.

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:21am

Hi Dave, You and I seem to be not only on the same planet but also on the same page. I couldn't agree with your three more. In fact, I was thinking about writing a blog on your #1 this very morning. Here's to a life filled with appreciation and with the worship of only that which should be worshipped (in fact, I like the word "Worthship" - I expect you do too!) God bless you too, Lex

LP Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 8:17am

Morning Lexio! :)
Great blog, thank you.
My overall patterns are very much in a safe comfort zone which does feel a bit Groundhog Day!
Same places same people.
Within that though, I've started making some changes.

External - a massive decluttering. There are boxes and piles of stuff everywhere, but it's good chaos. Couple of trips to charity shop and dump feels good. Getting through a bit at a time with a big delivery helpfully looming on Thursday to aim towards.
Taken a couple of steps towards getting divorce sorted, maybe if I go at it with positives it won't feel like such a mountain. Defo just one step at a time.
Got some long overdue cosmetics on my car done, yay!
Long overdue sorting in the garage (potentially making way for more clutter!!!)
I've started walking again, and really want to keep it up.
Have cut down a bit on a couple of foodie treats, although gave in to the munchies last night! :)) not taking that one too seriously! ;)
Garden almost sorted for the winter, just gangly roses left to do.
Drinking a little more water.
Am seeing my parents less and keeping the guilt at bay, as they seem ok and know I'm busy. I Check in on the phone weekly instead and don't feel so in their world instead of in mine! :)
Internal - Re started doing my Moodscope graphs, not daily yet, but a start is good.
Am treating myself to more early nights (is that external or internal? :)) which helps my internal wellbeing no end.

So three more external on my wish list, if I could, would be.
Trying to go to different places when I do manage to get out out!
See different people perhaps, reconnected with a couple of friends fairly recently so it'd be good to keep those connections going.
My hair... nuff said! :)))

Internal - Focussing on the positives at work and sharing the positives at work!
Reign in overthinking (!) and being mindful instead more.
Seems like I'm doing too much at once, it's that thing of get it sorted while I'm on a roll! If I don't want to crash, I'd better keep it steady, so third would be "gently does it".
Priority one of each, hair (!) and gentle on self. :)
What are your 3s Lex? :) happy wishlisting everyone! LP xxx

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:26am

WOWZERS!!!! What an amazing list! Me? I'd like to 1) relocate to Devon or Ireland, 2) write, record, and perform more music, 3) do more art - especially a fusion of line art and then manipulation in Photoshop; internally, I'd like to 1) be in love, 2) believe in soulmates again, 3) have some joy for a change!

Another Sally Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 2:13pm

Gosh I am fortunate to be in love and have found my life partner, but I could do with a bit more joy. I'd like to relocate to Dorset, but that would man leaving the grandchildren behind and I don't really want to do that. Continuing to learn the piano requires a lot of practice, where do I find time for that. I'd have to give up this blog reading and commenting, difficult choices. I have three colouring books, but don't get around to colouring. I do feel like getting my jigsaw out though. Like a bit of a jig. Another Sally

Another Sally Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:28am

Hi Lex, well that is a poser. I often think, with these blogs, I'll come back to that later and give it some real thought, but I never do. The diet is a dilemma. I am sure there are things that I would be better off without. I managed to ditch chocolate and most gluten products, but when I want something with gluten in there is the little voice saying "life's too short, just enjoy it" but if I give in I have broken the fast and think I still do not know the true effect of giving up. It is the gut/brain connection. Then there is the wine/alcohol effect on depression. Other half drinks quite a lot of wine and I like some, but am I ambushing myself? Health or pleasure? Aargh.
I would like to make changes to my surroundings, but am not sure where to start.
Got a sore throat today and am feeling less than sparkly. Will take it easy and enjoy my garden through the window.
Another Sally

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 10:06am

Hi Another Sally, I believe (believe, not 'know') that abstinence is often easier than moderation, but that moderation is the better way. Life is too short - just as you've said. Little and often is a bold way to go. Treat and appreciation! Just my thoughts. Hope you feel better soon. Just awareness of the garden is often enough. We've still got some flowers and I've been too busy to notice them... but because of your words, I now have! Thank you!

Another Sally Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 2:19pm

I sit to write these comments at my dining table. Though the patio doors I can see my conservatory and then the garden. we rarely use the conservatory in winter, so it remans cold. I buy a bunch of Alstromeira flowers from Lidl for about £3.00 and they last in the conservatory for over 2 months. I bought some in early October last year, for my grandsons christening and onl changed them at Christmas, the new ones lasted till early March. Beautiful.

Lacey Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 9:41am

Hi Lex,
Food for thought from yourself this morning and I'm pleased I have the time to respond.
So change......sometimes as scary a word as 'should' but less pressure maybe!
My three things are:-
1) I take my dog for walkies in different places involving going out in the car to reach green parks and the forest and woodland-lovely colours of trees etc.at this time of year
2) Writing to friends instead of emailing; this means I may get a letter back which would be nice. I love the postman calling with some envelopes other than the brown ones!!
3) Continuing with my Transendental Meditation which I started in July; it has an accumulative effect and there is no right or wrong when practicing the technique. I just go with the flow. The course was quite expensive although I got a reduction as I am on benefits.
However it is something that will be with me for life so its been and still is an ongoing investment for me.
Other stuff needing my attention is final decluttering; 13 years of clothes and books etc. that are sorely needed by charities and I feel better when I've given possessions away.
I'm joining the gym tomorrow and have control over my healthy eating by attending Weight Watchers-12 weeks of classes provided through my GP.
It's up to me to try out all of these challenges and,you never know,
I might even succeed at one or two of them!!

Keep well everyone and take care
Love Lacey x

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 10:08am

What a great share, Lacey! I'm curious that decluttering is coming up a couple of times. Perhaps, I too, am getting a nudge from the Universe to declutter! Thank you! x

Lexi Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 1:03pm

Morning Lex! For the past few days I have been changing my diet: no carbs and very little gluten. I have had massive mood swings due to it. But today I feel better. Calmer. I have also been sticking to a running and walking routine. I have a few goals I want to reach by my birthday. They are indeed getting me out of my rut. But it's messy and some days are really hard. I don't envy the people around me while I do this. It's like a detox. But in the end it will be worth the change. I know it. PS I love to declutter....it is soooo satisfying. Sometimes I think I want do that for a living. xo Lexi

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 1:21pm

Hi Lexi, I do know someone who does that for a living... and they make an amazing difference to people's lives. xo

waterfall Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 1:28pm

Hello Lex
What a good blog certainly food for thought.

Thank you. Bye for now

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 5:52pm

Hello Waterfall, thank you for your refreshing and kind words.

The Gardener Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 1:46pm

Thank you Lex - challenging as usual. I seem (without boasting) to do most of your suggestions - because my situation is always changing, adapt all the time, meet new people, do what I can with financial and physical limitations - only meeting people and making new friends doesn't cost anything. Your 'make less rules' struck a chord. We have five children - the elder two still complained that they had it tough. I am sure some of their tales are more apocryphal than mine! But we started with ideas from 'older and wiser' (I was only 20 when we started a family and a business at the same time), We quickly found out that insistence on these 'rules' only made us all unhappy. For Leah from yesterday, please. I was joking about her 'shaming me', but following my recent blog on 'Miss Inertia and Sensible Person' I had not made any progress, so set to and achieve things, however minor, instead of rushing round like a headless chicken saying 'how will I manage'.

Lex Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 5:51pm

I do like that line, dear Gardener, "only meeting people and making new friends doesn't cost anything." I'm sure you are a very kind and thoughtful friend. Those are the best aspects of life.

Eva Mon, Nov 20th 2017 @ 10:52pm

Good ideas, I especially like not too many rules. I think making tiny changes that make you feel better but don't make you feel as though you are having to make too much effort /sacrifice are easier to incorporate...

I've been tweaking things... I decided not to have milk recently, so I tried various plant milks with my porridge but they all taste too sweet so I'm having water instead, and it's fine! I've replaced crisps with hummus and pita bread, I'm trying out meditation after lunch because I keep forgetting in the morning now that I don't set an alarm (one of my things to help get over the fatigue) and I'm going to a further away shop to increase my steps a bit...

Change by stealth...

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