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Sow before bedtime. Monday October 26, 2015

[To hear an audio version of this blog follow this link: https://soundcloud.com/lex-mckee/sow-before-bedtime]

"Ah, the seeds of dreams!" I thought to myself as I laid there in the bed, exhausted. I had spent the night wandering through a distressing dreamscape disturbed by nightmares. Now, I was wondering why the unconscious mind seemed to fixate on so many negative imaginations - its creative genius perverted to divert me from a good night's sleep.

There was some comfort in tracing the seeds of those dreams back to the activities that had planted them that day. As I get older, hairs grow inside my ears - a ridiculous if somewhat bemusing state of affairs. I can perceive no purpose for them there. Penelope has a passion for removing them, so she had spent a happy ten minutes deforesting my own miniature Eden project biomes! This seed became a dream about going deaf - very unpleasant, but I could see the link. The other nightmare was about my studio burning down - guilt, I think, because I hadn't checked on it when I was down in the town that day. Clearly, I sowed the seeds. My unconscious was the gardener. And emotion played her or his part in the direction of growth.

I don't like nights like that. So I revisited an age old question: can we direct our destiny? Even if this is only partially true, it offers hope. Here, I had the 'evidence' that my own activities, emotions and thoughts had played their part in the drama that had developed.

So before bedtime: sow before bedtime. I will deliberately seek a happy emotion to be my resting state before sleep (and, believe me, I know how hard that will be at times - but I will 'seek' it.) I will load some wholesome thoughts that I purposefully choose - perhaps through reading some poetry or inspirational quotes. And I shall act as Director even if I cannot play the full role as Producer. I shall be very direct with my inner Producer and suggest that he should create a pleasant masterpiece in the Theatre of the Night!

Dream on!

Lex
A Moodscope member.

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Sally Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 5:28am

Lex, I thought this was really interesting and well written...as well as true! I listened to the audio version which was pitched just right I thought, because it takes me a while to process an idea or thought. This was good.
Thanks, Lex!

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 5:35am

Thanks Sally. I'm having some success with the process - can't claim 100% because "The Producer" still does its own thing, but better nights so far. L'xx

Adrian Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 5:53am

Nicely put Lex.
Fascinating is it not? The overnight distillating process of the mind. It can be so creative as well as disturbing. Most of my best ideas have come from sowing the seeds of a opportunity/problem the night before and waking early to resolve.
Ax

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:19am

Hi Adrian That's the positive joy of the levels of mind, isn't it? I think of it when I see the London Underground signs: "Mind the Gap". Sometimes the deeper mind needs some time and space to get a thought in edgewise/edgeways! L'xx

Dawn Tue, Oct 27th 2015 @ 4:23pm

What a good idea Adrian! I MUST try that. Kind regards, Dawn

The Gardener Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 6:57am

I wish I'd done my usual 'sowing before bedtime' which is just to check diary and put important papers on printer (most visible on important 'path' through house). But after a day of drama, night of picking husband up off floor twice, then re-making my bed in an armchair (disapproved by osteopath) confusion was rife. Sunday I accused (not to his face) the church sacristan of getting the bells wrong. Clock struck at 11 p.m (should stop by law at 10 p,m), Had made a rendezvous with nurse for a blood test at 7 a.m. She did not turn up. She did - lives opposite - said 'your lights were on early'. I had forgotten the hour change, up at 5.30, now have to change dining room into hospital. Son and great-grand-daughter on the way - will beg a meal out with 'the red-haired baggage', glorious red hair and 13, hence a 'baggage'. It is going to be a hugely decision making day - so hope that 'bed-time' will allow sowing thoughts for the future, whatever that may be. Usually, I just try to let all the nice things I MIGHT be able to do the next day 'surge' to the top, in the hopes that they will fight it out with the worries during the night.

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:40am

Yowzers, Gardener... coping with all this is amazing. Sounds like you need 5 minutes peace with no thoughts rather than filling your mind with other thoughts - even good ones. My mind is rarely quiet but I know we have many fans and practitioners of mindfulness here in the group. I would welcome any positive suggestions to support The Gardener. L'xx

LillyPet Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:52am

There is hope that the right kind of support for TG will be found. Hope that the seeds of whatever else is needed to care for her husband will be sown to soften the path. Love and light TG xx

Jennifer Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:16am

Hi Lex. Thanks for this. It is a really reassuring and helpful post for me this week following two bad dream experiences (having not dreamed at all for some time!!). I reaped what I sowed x

Jennifer Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:21am

I think hormones playing a big part at the moment as my young son weans off breastmilk, but I need to make sure I remember the important part I play in my own drama and the choices I make. Looking forward to sweeter dreams! x

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:41am

And, I, Jennifer, look forward to hearing of your success in directing your dreams. I know a lot of us have issues around sleep, as well as around dreams, so let's see who well this 'sowing' concept works. L'XX

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:22am

I wish husband didn't reap what he sows...when he is worried about something or if he sees something like fighting or snakes on the tv, he has night terrors and then I get no sleep. Every time he starts even the smallest shake, I move out of the way as I usually get kicked or punched...often shouted or screamed at. Quite terrifying. We bought a massive super-king-sized bed, thinking he will be one side and me on the other so he won't 'get me'...sadly, I'm still eeking out a small space on the edge and he just spreads out!
Following the fantastic rugby these last few weeks...we have had our very own rugby scrum, then a gang of supporters fighting him from the opposing team another night...not good in one's bed...as I seem to be in the middle of it all. Probably sounds funny now...yes it does I suppose, but at the time - nicht gut!
Shouldhavegonefortwinbeds x

LillyPet Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:57am

You must find a way of doing just that Bear! If the big bed is too bumpy twin beds should be just right :) LP xxx

susan Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 11:51am

Ohhhh Bear, that would be unbearable! Twin beds...and they can be pushed together if hubby is having a peaceful patch. Best thing i ever saw re beds was 2 double beds in one bedroom. Not many people have that kind of space, but how luxurious. xx

LillyPet Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 9:24am

Strangely I very rarely remember my dreams. I go for long long periods wher it seems that I dont have dreams, but believe those who say that I I'm just nit remembering them. When I have, they are very literal people and situations mirror real life, but odd combinations of those people and the dream develops in a way that I wouldnt have imagined in real life. They arent nightmares, but are negative. I welcome remembering them because my subconcious seems to doing its job of processing my worries. As it's rare for me to remember, I've always thought there maybe a physical cause why I have.
I have never thought of planting positve seeds at night, as I haven't suffered from nightmares, but as Adrian says, maybe I could plant some for the negatives in my life. The idea of taking a small step of action in the right direction then relaxing and letting it develop whether you are aware or not sounds manageable. It's having faith. Faith that you can I guess.
Thank you Lex. Fascinating subject and interesting to see if it makes a difference to anyones disturbed sleep. LP xx

susan Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 10:56am

A very good reminder to maybe do the gratitude list at night, or send out prayers for loved ones and self. As for dreams, I find that if the events and details don't link up to anything that makes sense, the leftover feelings in the dream nearly always do. Thanks, Lex, your blogs are always helpful and comforting. xx

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 11:26am

Hi Susan, thank you... and you've just inspired me. I wonder if this is one of the side benefits of prayer before bedtime? It's a great habit taught to so many children. Now I can well imagine how it might 'set' an adult mind to have a good night's sleep. Brilliant, thanks again. L'xx

LillyPet Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:07pm

I'm inspired too! I feel blog coming on! We may have a series! :)

Debs Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:11pm

Love this Lex, and the added bonus of seeing your face ;-). I once read that we should ask a question of our subconscious before we sleep - set it to work on something productive. I might try it tonight - I shall report back! xx

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 10:54pm

Ah Debs, rarely is my face called an "added bonus" - I'm smiling! Looking forward to your report. I think I'm going to add music to my list of seeds. L'xx

Anonymous Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 7:30pm

You have a very nice face Lex! Lovely eyes. (Jul)

Debs Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:16pm

I owe you an email Jul! Will connect with you tomorrow xx

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 10:55pm

Thanks Jul... takes me back to my childhood. Haven't had that compliment for 40 years! L'xx

Debs Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 8:25pm

Another thought - I just put my three year old little fella to bed and went through our daily ritual which involves asking each other 'what are you going to dream about' to which we answer with all sorts of fanciful nonsense (chocolate bicycles, giant pink marshmallows, flying teacups). I wonder what would happen if we set our minds on a magical mystery tour before we close our eyes... what beautiful worlds we might visit ;-) xxx

Lex Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 10:55pm

Loving this, Debs, loving it. L'xx

Mary Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 9:45pm

Feeling very fortunate as I only have disturbed sleep with bad dreams when very up or very down. Having just come out of my down a few days ago I am appreciating my sleep.

Debs Mon, Oct 26th 2015 @ 9:58pm

So glad you're out Mary! Welcome back xxx

Dawn Tue, Oct 27th 2015 @ 4:24pm

Brilliant Lex. I always go to sleep smiling in my heart and mind if I watch a love film or get lost in card making.
Hmmmmmmmm
Love Dawn.

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