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Sometimes bad things happen for a reason. Sunday June 21, 2015

In January 2012 I was driving my van home with my wife as a passenger. We went round a bend to see a car approaching on my side of the road. The car hit us head on, another vehicle behind slammed in to the rear.

We were both taken to hospital in an ambulance in a lot of pain, our injuries were broken bones and bruises.

The following few days were awful. Both in a lot of pain and terrible flashbacks. One night I woke up with terrible pain then I collapsed, my wife phoned 999.

After further tests it came to light that I have a rare heart condition called brugada syndrome. It's better known as sudden death syndrome. The pain had brought on an arythmia. I was told there is no cure but they can fit an internal defibrillator which will stop me from leaving the planet early.

I have had my defibrillator over 2 years and have got used to it being there.

I had collapsed some years before when I was ill but the never found out why.

I was asked if any members of my family passed away young, there has been several including my sister at 34 niece 38 and many more.

I was told by one doctor I am a very lucky man to live to 58 with this condition.

I have 3 grown up children who had to be tested 2 are clear but my youngest daughter has it and she has just had a beautiful little boy and he also has inherited it.

This gets to me some days when I am feeling down. But I am well aware that diagnosed the condition is treatable but undiagnosed is life threatening.

So the moral of my story is little did I know that awful car collision ultimately saved my life and also my daughters and any future children in our family.

So I now believe that sometimes bad things happen for a reason.


Paul
A Moodscope member.



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Siliva A Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 5:12am

So interesting,, Paul!

A friend of mine survived a similar condition , her heart failed but she is alive. However her memory does not function as in the past so she is unable to work. Despite this she took care of her father till his death a few years later. Now her growing children is helping her.

She is a very good professional, a good psychologist. She would like so much to work again.

Charlie Bransden Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 10:28am

February 2012, head on crash too, luckily in strong VW van, minor injuries, but the ensuing form of post traumatic stress syndrome led me to start doing things I'd promised myself for years to do, as I was suddenly aware that when the Grim Reaper's standing over you polishing his scythe there's no point in asking for a bit longer to learn to dance, etc. So, within reason, the old adage "never put off until tomorrow things you can do today" is my guiding mantra.

Julia Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 1:33pm

That car crash sounds horrendous Paul. I often imagine that happening to me when driving along country lanes around here. Oncoming cars often veer across the white line coming towards me. They appear out of nowhere around corners. Thank goodness you and your wife survived. To me, this shows that actually you are quite a strong person mentally and physically if you can come through a trauma like that despite your brugada syndrome. It has been my experience too that good can come out of awful things (one in particular and not a car crash) happening. Yes they happen for a reason.

Anonymous Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 3:56pm

A very good blog, Paul. I am really pleased for you and your family that you are still around to tell the story and that your affected relatives will be able to get the medical help needed, as you have. I think you are so right that sometimes bad things DO happen for a reason and as others have said, we should live our lives to the full as much as we are able. Thank you, Karen.

Anonymous Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 3:58pm

So right, Charlie, no one wants 'I wish I'd worked longer hours' on their gravestone. Karen.

Karen Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 4:07pm

Just read Moodnugdes from Jon: quite apt today....similar theme, 'The totally unexpected benefits of low mood'! May help!
Karen

Anonymous Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 4:20pm

Hi Paul, i believe that many things happen for a reason, it just takes a while sometimes to understand what that reason is/was....especially when they are distressing things. You and your family have angels! Thanks for telling your (in the end) very positive story. susan

Anonymous Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 8:27pm

Hi Paul.Thanks for sharing this. I had never heard of this condition - how awful. Yet how fortunate the insight came. I often think about ideas regarding the reason or not for things - but am still undecided I'm afraid! So I like your use of the word 'sometimes'. Your experiences and thoughts are very heartwarming though. It also sort of reminds me of a saying by my dad about 'when one door closes another usually opens' So it is worth holding out hope to see what is around the next corner so to speak. This has also reminded me I once had a near miss on a country road and my life literally flashed before my eyes and at the end of that (which was probably over in seconds but felt like much longer!) I just felt an overwhelming feeling of love along with a strong sense of needing to not let go of a certain person only vaguely in my life at the time (who happens now to be my husband!). Maybe that happened for a reason? Would I be where I am now otherwise? Funny what it takes to focus the mind perhaps sometimes. I feel I rambled a bit there but just had to get this out. Best wishes to you and your family. Jen x

PWD Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 8:28pm

Many thanks for all the nice comments

Paul

Anonymous Sun, Jun 21st 2015 @ 8:47pm

Hello Paul, I read your blog early this morning but never had a chance to reply until now. Have to say, it got me through a few things today! How horrendous to be involved in that smash...how fortunate to discover it saved you in a different way. (Reminds me a tiny bit of that film, Sliding Doors.) Things do happen for a reason and that must be one of our survival mantras. Thank you for your blog Paul, really enjoyed reading it. Love from the room above the garage x.

valerie Mon, Jun 22nd 2015 @ 10:00am

A serious fall put me in hospital last year.Not a day goes by when I am not grateful to be recovered without lasting disability or brain damage.Yesterday we heard that a friend's father,a very fit sporty man in his 60's,had collapsed in agonising pain while on his own in his daughter's house. By complete chance,a builder who had not intended completing job on the property that day changed his mind and came in and called an ambulance.An X ray showed burst peptic ulcers,but more urgently an aorta that was torn in ribbons.He had 12 hours open heart surgery and is due home this week.Without the crisis with the ulcers,he would have died.
Thank God your daughter and her child will now be safe as a result of what happened to you.Valerie x

Jo R Sun, Jul 5th 2015 @ 8:15am

Wow... This has brought it home to me about making the most of our short life's.. At the moment Iv just woken up and feel ok.. I have good n bad days and so far this morning it's ok and after reading ur blog I will make sure I enjoy my day... Thank you

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