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Something new. Saturday December 31, 2016

At the end of every year there is much discussion on changes we can make for the new year, resolutions we will try to keep. The focus is on the next year.

What about this year soon to be last year?

At the start of every year many of us have great ideas about changes we will make, plans we will do, places we will go (sounds like a beloved Dr Seuss book). What often happens though is that before you can say February all those plans and ideas have been abandoned or forgotten.

What about thinking about something small, maybe one thing new you have done this year. It may be as simple as trying a new recipe, a new food, listening to a new musician, watching a movie or reading a book you normally would not read. Just something you did differently. You may have tried a new way of responding to a situation from something you read on Moodscope.

People commented on my blog "Who stole 2016" that I was thinking of the big picture and forgetting the small parts that make up the year. So I did something new by looking at personal things I have done differently or for the first time.

Someone suggested to have a 'done' list instead of or as well as a 'to do' list. I did try that for a week but I seemed to get as much satisfaction from crossing off a list than from writing a new one. I was pleased I did try something new and did not dismiss it before having a go.

I would like to hear about something new you tried this year, big or small, easy or difficult? How did you feel about trying something different?

What did you learn about yourself this year?

Leah
A Moodscope member

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Orangeblossom Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:06am

Hi Leah, there have been two peaks in my year, one work related and one personal related. i do tend to write a review each year and focus as far as possible on the positive things that I have achieved. May the Joy, Hope & Peace of The Festive Season abundantly overflow into 2017 for you & yours.

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:43am

Orangeblossom, Thanks your kind comments to me and others throughout 2016. Very much appreciated.

the room above the garage Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:24am

Hello Leah, I tried to look ahead this year. Focus on what was coming rather than the mess I may have found myself in. It helped. I also tried to be a step ahead of my depression but I fear this may have limited me a little as I ended up avoiding things I knew would result in a low...so it's catch 22! Eyes on the horizon certainly worked for me and was a little (sometimes temporary but that's still something) release from worrying. I'm really tired at the moment and wanting to run away from all things season-related. Trying to use m own advice! Love ratg x.

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:47am

RATG I am glad that looking forward has helped you. I hope 2017 is easier than you . I find your blogs and comments have made me smile and I have learnt a lot. Thank you.

Jane Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:41am

Have been trying all year, and will continue to try this year, not to worry about other people, what they think of me and why haven't they been in touch. I'm a people pleaser. But it's so hard for me this one. Thank you Leah. I hope you have a positive year Xx

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:48am

Jane, That is something I need to learn, how not to worry what others think of me. Thanks for replying. I am writing a blog about being a people pleaser. Take care xx

Jane Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 4:53pm

Thanks Leah. I look forward to your people pleaser blog xx

Sally Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 10:09am

You have really floored me here, Leah, because I can't think of a thing, or at least, nothing springs to mind. In fact, I am feeling quite disappointed with myself but this might be the time of year, when I'm not at my best. I am going to give it further thought...
Thank you for your helpful blogs over the year, Leah. Where would we be without our bloggers?

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 10:59am

Sally, Thanks for your comment. I think it is hard when you are put on the spot to think of something. I was trying to make it simple by something small something new. Thanks for all your comments to me and others.

Anne Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 11:27am

Leah - thanks for your blog (and for all the others you write too), I confess when you asked what have I learned about myself this year, I was instantly aware of what I haven't 'cracked' or learned! Turning this into a positive, I have learned I set myself incredibly high standards....and this can have consequences when I don't achieve what I think I could...

However, I quite like focusing on the positive, I have learned a lot this year! I have learned that I have limits and I cope best when I observe these boundaries. I have learned I am at my best when I pace myself and say 'no' when I have nothing else to give or share..

I have learned that others think I am more confident, competent and stronger than I feel and that's OK. I have learned that 'acting as if' can mean I feel confident, competent and stronger too!

I have learned that Moodscope blogs can make a difference to how I get out of bed in the morning and it is the little things that keep me moving forward...

I have learned that we all have something to share, offer, teach and learn - and for that, I am incredibly grateful...

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 11:51am

Anne Thanks for your detailed reply. I really appreciate your comments. I am impressed on all the things you have learnt.

Anne Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 8:31am

Thanks for replying Leah...it means a lot (I have learned feedback/a response from others helps my self worth/belief)... A goal for 2017 is to learn how to write a blog for Moodscope and learn to believe it will be good enough ????

Leah Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 10:11am

Anne, The comment you write me is almost a blog so you can obviously write your ideas clearly. I would just write your blog nd send it in and dont worry if it is good enough as it will be but you may not believe it!! I liked how you said that the blogs can make a difference as to how you get up in the morning. Writing blogs has helped my confidence. Please have a go.

Anne Marie Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 10:53am

Thanks for your encouragement and share, it's good to hear how it's helped your confidence. It's easy to forget that when others write so eloquently that they might not always have felt it came so easily... Watch this space! :-)

Jul Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 11:43am

Hello Leah. I am afraid I cannot think of anything I did this/ last year/2016, which was different to previous years. I am feeling like ratg at the moment, wanting to run away from everything seasonal. I don't like the pressure which is put on us by external forces like consumerism, dictats telling us how to lose weight, how to cook a festive meal, how to do this, do that. I want to get back to living my life without advice from the media. However I welcome Moodscope advice and long may it continue to thrive into 2017 and beyond. Thank you for your blog today Leah. Aren't the Sydney fireworks due to go off soon? Julxx

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 11:58am

JUl, Thanks for your comments. I hope you get to destress soon and enjoy 2016. I suppose with working in my shop all the way through the silly season I am immune from all stress and pressure.! xx

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 12:02pm

Jul the 9.00pm fireworks were 2 hrs ago and the midnight ones will be on in an hour from now. That is about 1pm your time.

Jul Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 1:21pm

Ok thanks. I heard ones in Adelaide I think had gone off. I thoight it was a bit early. So you have some at 9 aswell? Julxx

Tutti Frutti Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 6:28pm

Jul You are very good at enquiring about everyone and keeping the moodscope community together. Perhaps it is just something that has struck me this year and you have actually been doing it for longer but it's certainly something to pat yourself on the back for. Hope you will be feeling better soon when things get back to normal. Love and hugs TF xoxo

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:35pm

TF That is so true. I have always said to Jul that her comments and compassion are so important.She cares about people and remembers who hasn't commeneted for a while. Well done Jul your care is appreciated. Thanks Tf for mentioning this.

Jul Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 10:32pm

This is so kind of you to say Tutti and then Leah too. I have been a member of Moodscope for a long time and know what a great idea and help it is for me. I try to be compassionate (although I felt a bit guilty for suggesting Gardener forgets to collect Mr G, after I wrote it) and I do notice what others write. I am not at the computer all the time so do miss blogs from time to time and at other times I feel so awful I just do not comment. I love your intelligent comments Tutti Frutti. You are so kind and good at explaining things very clearly. Of course Leah, you know how much I like you too. Love to you both and thank you. Julxxx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 1:01am

Jul, I absolutely agree with all the comments. You have a great way of just bringing everyone out - making people feel comfortable. Xmas and the New Year festivities are over - start enjoying normal life again! I hope you can and thanks for being such a supportive Moodscope member. Carolinexx

Mary Wednesday Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 12:34pm

Happier new year for you Leah. I have been tested and tested and tested this year. At the moment I have no idea what I've learned or grown. Sorry to be so down.

Jane Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 4:56pm

Mary Wednesday - sorry to hear that you are feeling down. Sending you very good positive wishes. Love from Jane

Tutti Frutti Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 6:33pm

Mary This is somewhere where you absolutely don't need to apologise for being down. Of course I hope that it won't be too long before you are feeling more yourself. As something to be proud of this year how about those amazing blogs you did describing the manic state and your depression. Believe me they do help those of us who aren't great with words and images to explain things. Love and hugs TF xoxo

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:39pm

Mary Wednesday, Thanks for replying even when feeling so down. This isn't something new about you but it is wonderful that even when you are so down your writing can help others and helpfully yourself. As others have said those 5 blogs about depression were so important for many people. Hopefully you learnt how much they meant to people and how much they helped people to explain to their loved ones how they felt. You gave others the words they did not have. That is such a great skill that I wish I had. Take care .xx

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:42pm

TF I have noticed you are also very caring with your comments. I agree those blogs Mary wrote as I have written above are something that Mary can be very proud of. Of course when one is down it is hard to believe that.

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:49pm

Jane, wishing you a happy new year. It so kind when people care about other moodscopers and take the time to comment. thanks.

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 12:54am

Mary, you've learned you have to compromise sometimes, you've gained a son and his love and probably saved him, and you're there for your two girls and your husband who love you dearly. Not bad considering you've been struggling. I do hope 2017 makes it easier for you. Carolinexx

The Gardener Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 12:53pm

RATG - I am possibly in the worst mess I have ever been in my life. First New Year's Eve without Mr G - firmly 'dumped' (only word) in respite - I would risk extreme depression if faced with a repeat of end 2015. Invited to friends - marvellous 'pickers-up'. They have six children - she is 'fey' lovely, kind, but does far too much, resulting in a nervous breakdown for her and a heart attack (at 55) for him. So - we have much in common - and will have I reckon a super evening - extreme good will on all sides - plus, their children move my furniture - and they all kiss me after mass. I have been reviewing New Years' Eves, and where we spent them - what a collection, what memories. One, a bit bizarre - I had times of being extremely sick, making Mr G worry that my only kidney was collapsing. Looking back over diaries I found that at celebration times I pigged out, only word, on sea food - found out the shrimp family will do for me - in 4 hours to the minute (allergies and intolerances are well documented in a Ministry of Agriculture booklet). I've lagged pipes in old house (- 4 here) rescued favourite plants - and steadily readied my 'new' house to face it's own 'first' new year in its transformed state. All this done without being yelled at. As the 'status quo' has to remain for the present, the big question is How AM I going to cope with the New Year - still two months at least of winter. My noted courage, resilience, bloody-mindedness have been severely dented in the last month. Lessons learned in 2016? Independence is all very well - but accepting help is more sensible - even if your pride suffers - so, pride will be reserved for what I know I can still do well - which includes my lemon-curd tart as tonight's offering. So, if you are going to whoop it up with balloons and rattles, or settle to a favourite DVD, or cut the lot and snuggle on the electric blanket with a good book, go peacefully and happily into 2017. Leah, one of our New Year's Eves was in Sydney - 2nd hottest day ever - we had to walk 3 kms home to our hotel - me in a silver top hat and carrying balloons - a huge street party - millions, I presume, out enjoying themselves.

Jul Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 1:20pm

Hello Gardener. I am so glad Mr G is in respite? Can you forget to go and collect him? Lol!! Enjoy this evening without him. No guilt please. We are British! And well let's see what 2017 brings. No-one knows! Love Julxx

Tutti Frutti Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 6:35pm

Accepting help is more sensible is a great lesson Gardener. I could do with learning that one too. Wishing you a great evening. Love TF x

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:47pm

Gardener, What would Moodscope be withour your wise comments and amazing anecdotes. Only TG could start a comment with 'being in the worst mess' and finish with wearing a silver top hat and carrying balloons in Sydney on New year's Eve!! I hope you do get some real respite, and we all know it isn't 'dumping', it is a necessity for you to cope with 2017. Thanks for all your comments and wisdom. I find your writing here like a serial and I am always interested in the next intsalment! Make the most of the respite. Love leah xxx

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:48pm

TF Accepting help is a great lesson that many find very hard.

Tutti Frutti Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 6:41pm

Hi Leah. An interesting post. Thanks.Two things I think that I am pleased I have done for 2016 are 1) to finish losing the weight I put on last time I was on medication for mania (several years ago) and 2) I seem to have got through being forced to leave my comfort zone at work (reorganisation left me no choice) although I was a bit on the low side for a while because of it. Love TF x

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:51pm

TF I am glad you are pleased with what you achieved in 2016. I always think of that old saying, I can lose weight but it keeps finding me!!! That is story of my life. Thanks for all your comments thoughout the year I have found them helpful.

Leah Sat, Dec 31st 2016 @ 9:33pm

Greetings from 2017! It is now over 8 hrs as I write into the new year. So far so good!!
I am sorry that this blog has been difficult for some. I wrote it as a way of closing 2016 . I didn't mena it to bring up sad memories.
I want to thank everyone who comments and reads and everyone in the moodscope community who has helped those of us who struggled at times during 2016.

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 1:05am

Leah, thank you for this blog and all your blogs throughout the year. They are always insightful and encourage such great comments. Happy New Year! Carolinex

Sally Sun, Jan 1st 2017 @ 11:45pm

What I achieved in 2016.... selling my paintings , raising money for Mind, comforting others, livening things up in a group ( so I am told)
What I didn t achieve in 2016.... losing weight, spending less, tidying the house, being a good cook...
Oh well, there's always 2017!!
There, Leah, I've reflected on your question, and found some answers. Smiley face. Tick!

Leah Mon, Jan 2nd 2017 @ 12:30am

Sally, so pleased you reflected and came up with a list. I didn't it funny how is it is easy to compose a haven't done list rather than a done list!!(great grammar!!) All the best for 2017

Sally Wed, Jan 4th 2017 @ 7:15pm

Yes indeed. Thanks, Leah.

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