Something better change.

13 Feb 2015
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So says the title from the hit song by The Stranglers. A catchy tune, an unhappy song, but there's truth in that line. Change is one of the certainties of life! Much is written about how to cope with change but today I would like to concentrate on purposefully provoking change.

Sometimes we need help from outside. My tropical fish can't change their water for themselves – that's my job. But there is so much we can change ourselves.

I woke up this morning wanting change. To go on thinking "Something Better Change" without taking action ourselves will strangle all manner of opportunities that we otherwise could be creating. To go on doing what we've always been doing and expect a profound change is a form of forgivable madness. Why do I say "forgivable"? Simply because we all do this. We want someone or something else to provoke the change.

It's time for a change.

You can choose big changes or you can choose little changes – they will all affect your life. If you want massive results, take massive action.

Here are some ideas to get you off to a gentle start.

Change something domestically, perhaps something in your daily routine. I've begun with simply buying a new mug I liked the look of - this is now "my mug"! I used to change my hair when I wanted a fresh start but those days are long gone! I'm not sure of the reasons why Feng Shui often works for people but I know moving furniture around and decluttering can have a dramatic effect.

Change someone in your social life. I don't mean seek to change a friend - they'll resist you and are unlikely to appreciate your efforts! I mean connect with new friends. Through a special interest group on Facebook, I've been engaging at a distance with new "friends" from Finland and Sweden. It's fascinating and enriching. I'm learning... and therefore changing.

Change something emotionally or spiritually. Most of us are too busy to keep track of our good intentions. Sometimes it pays to just focus on one. "Kindness" has been my top value for years - though I'm often not as kind as I would prefer to be. So now I wear a Starfish brooch to remind me that I can be kind to one person a day as a gentle goal (like rescuing a stranded starfish). Of course that's enough to get me going and then I find I can be kind to lots more! Its role is simply to focus my intention - keeping it in sight, in mind rather that out-of-sight, out-of-mind.

Three simple changes are good. Five are better. Seven small changes have magic in them.

Something Better Change.

Lex

A Moodscope member.

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DawnC.Ritchie

Feb. 13, 2015, 7:57 a.m.

Ooh, I'm the first to comment! That's like walking on fresh snow :D I like the starfish idea, because sometimes (or often) we just forget to help ourselves when in the middle of something. I used to regularly change the furniture around, but now don't do it much, however, I have lots of interests to distract myself when I get bored. I also have several 'my cups' which I love. Have a gr8 day Lex and all. Written whilst using my 'best mum ever' mug. Warmest wishes from Dawn

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 8:05 a.m.

Ah, a 'best mum ever' mug...toast yourself with it! And doesn't it make a nice change to be the first to comment here! It's your lucky day! Karen x

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The Entertrainer

Feb. 13, 2015, 8:13 a.m.

To be the best Mum ever is fab! xx

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 8:22 a.m.

I try to connect with others I meet daily, on the dog walks. It may just be a smile, if they don't look like they want to speak...or they get a full-blown Mawning or good afternoon..or hiya...with a big smile! Same with cashiers in shops...sometimes they look as bad as I feel inside, but engaging with them and asking them how long their shift lasts and being polite gets us chatting...I hope it helps them too! Great blog, thank you again! Karen :)

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Rupert

Feb. 13, 2015, 8:31 a.m.

Great blog Lex! I was only thinking on the tube on the way in this morning how the ability to change is possibly the biggest casualty of depression. One spends so long fighting off the demons that it is often too exhausting to even contemplate making changes in one's life. But it does give such a sense of satisfaction and achievement when it does happen.Thanks.Rupert

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Mary Blackhurst Hill

Feb. 13, 2015, 9:01 a.m.

I've made Soooooo many new friends on Facebook all around the world. That's a big change for me, although my Australian friend is very bad for my sleep patterns!

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Julia

Feb. 13, 2015, 9:36 a.m.

Ha! You made me smile about your tropical fish Lex not being able to change their water. When I'm feeling good, on a good day, I want to make changes and make plans to do so but then comes a difficult day and I sink. However small changes can be made whatever mood I am in. Good blog!

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 10:14 a.m.

Well, I did it! I struck up a conversation with a lady I pasd almost daily...we normally smile or say hello...but today I have spoken, properly to her...made a nice comment about the huge Pom pom on her bobble hat! Asked her if she was in her way to work and found out that she does this walk before going to work as a nice routine to start her day and as she has a medical condition... We now know each other's names and I said I will try to remember hers (didn't like to mention I am a bear of Liddle brain and may forget!!) So, a good start to the day...will aim for more today whilst I am a happy bear of liddle brain! Karen ;)

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The Entertrainer

Feb. 13, 2015, 11:02 a.m.

Thanks for sharing your victory today, Karen. I'm such a fan of any step forward - big or small - and you've really connected today, which is a big one for bears of all brain sizes! L'x

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 5:49 p.m.

Thank you again Lex for your "Running the stop sign" blog and "Now something better change". You have challenged my thinking and provided (much needed) reassurance. Results of the Prudential Ride London-Surrey 100 ballot have just been released and with the aid of your resources/consequences strategy, I have decided, albeit rather apprehensively, to take part...I had better start training!

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 9:48 p.m.

I find that little changes make a BIG difference, especially during times of sadness and depression. Love the idea of 7 changes being a magical thing. Will aim for that. Thank you, Lex.

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Anonymous

Feb. 13, 2015, 10:18 p.m.

Hi Lex Very late replying but just wanted you to know "You can choose big changes or you can choose little changes" - SO empowering - thank-you! Will work on this ... Frankie

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