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Simpletons R Me! Friday September 25, 2015

The definition of a simpleton is 'gullible', 'ignoramus'. I don't agree.
(Dear Hopeful One... I am being your Ernie Wise, I have left this wide open for you to fill with an appropriate joke my friend...)

All of us are busy. We have demands on our time, our wallets, our health, our everything. But really, when we die we might not wish we had given more. We might wish we had done less. We might wish we had waited to wave, we might wish we had made friends with the tree on the path to work, as it turned through the seasons and as it grew old with us. We might wish to have a few minutes more doing one simple thing.

Today, can you keep that thought in mind? Can you try to include something you wouldn't normally do? Just a little thing. Ask the postman how his day is. Cut a flower from the garden and have it on the table beside your meal. Hold a loved one just because. Smile as a gift for someone else.

My postie was a shy sort. (As am I.) I think he must have dreaded coming up the path. But now I know his name is Peter and that he is wearing shorts and a t-shirt every day in a competition with his colleagues to see who can last longest into the changing season. I've learned he's given up smoking. And I've learned that, once he relaxes, he has a cheery face and smiles with his eyes. He doesn't know it, but he regularly gives me my first adult connection in my day and for that I am very grateful. A connection that makes me feel like I have a colleague. That I'm not alone, that someone else was up at a hideously early hour, yahoo!

I don't want you to aim high today, I'd like you to aim simple. Bow and arrows ready my friends.

Love from

The room above the garage.
A Moodscope member.

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Di Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 3:08am

Dearest Room Above the Garage ~
I adore making friends with a tree "as it turns through the seasons" ~ how absolutely spectacular! Yes, my friend. Moments of unexpected kindness (service to others) and connection can be exhilarating and leave me singing. Thank you for a wonderful reminder & post.
Lovingly,
Di

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 11:29am

Hello Di, it's lovely to see you, I often find you in my mind. It's mainly when I'm tearing my hair out over children's homework and projects and I'm dreaming I'm in a lake house...! In my dream, Daddy Walton is there making me a cuppa and kissing my cheek...tell me it's true. Love me x.

Di Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 1:18pm

It is, indeed, my friend. Can you hear my laughter bouncing over the waters of our shared pond?

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 1:59pm

Yes :-D

Paul Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 5:06am

Nice blog again room above the garage. I like simple things in life, that's why I married my wife ha ha. ( good job she can't read my posts)
I always brew up for the window cleaners and engage in conversation they have to work in all weathers like postie, they always apear happy and I really like clean windows. Ps I often speak to the local pcso ask them to stop for a drink and also offer them use of my toilet, it's not easy working outside with no facilities.
Ilike you say it's good to engage in conversation and I hope you have clean windows in that room above the garage.

Paul

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 11:33am

Hello Paul, I heard a "boom-boom" and a little cymbal crash after your comment! Yes, clean windows, ah yes, mine often have muddy football prints on them but I have a patient and kind window cleaner. Iove your care of your trades. Important people and often fascinating! Love ratg x.

Petal Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:38am

Thanks Ratg! Having too much to do can feel like a mountain to climb, so a great reminder to keep it nice and keep it simple! If we pause to look there might be something nice to see or do on our way up that mountain and someone to smile with on their way up too :). I certainly will keep my eyes open for something nice AND simple to do today. Love and light. Petal x

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 11:36am

Hello Petal, even typing that makes me feel happier :-) I've been thoroughly overwhelmed this week and I need to remember simple is the way forward. Thank you for love and light, feel refreshed already. Love ratg x.

Charlie Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:44am

Thank you, our loft-inhabiting friend, for reminding me that a series of small stepping-stones to get one calmly and steadily through the day is better than leaps across voids, or worse still, into the unknown.

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:01pm

Hello Charlie, what a great thing to say. Thank you! Love ratg x

Petal Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:53am

Ps kitchen! :)

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:02pm

:-D kitchen here too

Louise Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:56am

Good morning RATG! Another great post. Thank you. Keeping it simple...

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:03pm

Hello Louise, good to see you again! The pleasure is mine. Love ratg x.

Lex Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 8:18am

Hi RATG!
I like my Postie... he's got the best knock on the planet - really assertive but always matched by his radiant smile.
And I love my favourite tree at the top of the road - with space to grow.
But what simple thing shall I do new today?
What a lovely challenge.
Thanks RATG!!
From another very early bird
L'xx

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:04pm

Quote of the day "he's got the best knock on the planet"...snorted there :-D Love ratg x.

Hopeful One Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 8:26am

Hi RATG- your blog was a reminder to me to think of my mind as a balance sheet. Any ting,however small like smiling at someone,is added to the credit side.The debit side needs no attention as it is automatically catered by my ever busy NUTS and ANTS.The trick is to acquire as many credits so the NUTS and ANTS are quarantined.One day I might manage to immunise.

I would love to take up your offer of being your Ernie Wise. Here is my contribution.

A young man joins a monastery . The monastery rule is that every ten years, the monks in the monastery are allowed to break their vow of silence to speak two words. Ten years go by and it’s his first chance. He thinks for a second before saying, “Bad food.”.The head monk just nods. The Ten years later, he says, “Hard bed.” The head monk again just nods. It’s the big day, a decade later. He gives the head monk a long stare and says, “I quit.”The head monk says “I'm not surprised. You've been complaining ever since you got here.”

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:11pm

I was reading this on the bus and, feeling buoyed by being out and having friends with me (you lot), found myself having a laugh at your joke on the bus. Felt I wanted to explain to all present I wasn't a weirdo, "its just a depression website...a funny story..." I didn't explain. Just stayed as the laughing weirdo! :-)

Mary Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 10:00am

Oh, what a lovely post, RATG. Making friends with a tree - yes indeed! And - I too have a lovely postie. His name is John and he likes shoes almost as much as I do!

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:12pm

He sounds like a keeper Mary! Love to you and your wobbles, ratg x.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 1:39pm

Lucky enough to have a good postie who keeps dog treats for the pooches on the round; a friendly window cleaner who is offered tea; next door's gardener gets tea from me as they don't offer him any and I often offer to take in parcels for neighbors who are out, much to the delight of UPS DPD and so many other couriers - just wish the neighbours would collect their parcels the same day - from my home!!

Aimed seemples, straight and true today: cleared a good section of the garden, ready for winter. Yay is me.
Thanks RATG,
Love
Bear x

the room above the garage Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 2:17pm

Hello Bear. You meerkat you. My garden is a state but my heart is there. I will find myself there when my children have flown as I was brought up with homegrown veg and I really would like to grow my own. Only have a little herb house at the mo. Ground to pan to mouth, oh heaven. Well done, bet your mood was lifted from that. Love ratg x.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 4:36pm

Harro ratg....I was lifted, I still am and you can be lifted, lifted, from the shadows, lifted....(singing now!) HerbsRfab.com X Bear x

The Gardener Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:00pm

I've just taken son and grand-daughter to the airport -at the end of a visit for which I had hoped so much. Left me miserable and disappointed. I paid their fare, the used my car (of course) and spent little time with us. The blog remark 'all of us are so busy' got me on the raw. Grand-daughter spent most of the time texting people and dealing with her all important face-book. So, I am a churlish old woman, but, that's busy? I have smiled at lots of people today - not noticed anything new - willing myself to find joy tomorrow. Courage, mes amis

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 7:16pm

Ah ma cherie, It seems even our nearest and dearest relatives can be so self-absorbed and selfish... You probably come across as a very strong person to your son and he doesn't see the need to 'do' any more than he has to. I do think that some members of your family are so used to you, the matriarch, the mother, the helm, taking charge and doing everything, that they actually don't 'see' any further than the ends of their noses, so don't think you need help...and let's face it - popping over to France to visit is a holiday for them - they still haven't got used to the fact that father/grandfather is ill and mother/grandmére copes quite well, thank you very much. Maybe you need to tell them that you need help. NEED is a very good word and you NEED to use it so you get help when they visit and they are not just having a great break away - let's face it - they can still have a lovely time on their break away from Blighty, but THEY NEED to help YOU and your husband whilst they are staying. Hope I'm not sounding preachy! I want, doesn't get! But, 'I need help' does! Wish I lived nearby to help every now and again, Love Bear x

Debs Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 9:23pm

I'm sending a smile into the garden... attached is a little balloon containing a burst of joy. Pop it when you wake up tomorrow and let it scatter around you ;-) Bon nuit cherie xx

Julia Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 8:08pm

Bonsoir Gardener. I know how you feel. I have had similar experiences and felt tired and disappointed after such a visit but am fortunate to have a husband to whom I can talk to about the disappointment and who will see another side to the story and maybe, just maybe (!) make me feel a little better. Is your husband well enough to see what was going on during the visit or is he not aware of much these days? Our generation are so generous of our time and money to our children and their families and yet many take it for granted and don't give back to us as much as they appear to take. I am not sure why this is. But please be assured it's not just you, Mumsnet.com has a whole section devoted to this subject and I do believe they now have an offshoot of Mumsnet called Gransnet or similar. It might help you to read other grandparents' (usually Grandmothers I would think) comments. But I feel for you today and hope you don't feel too lonely this evening. Tomorrow is another day.. and you never know, you may hear from your son and granddaughter saying what a lovely time they had with you, Our perceptions are not always right.

Debs Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 8:36pm

Thank you ratg - beautiful blog. I often fill up my life so it's almost spilling over - mainly to avoid the dangerous gaps where bonkers thinking creeps in. But simple can be exquisite can't it. I'm emotionally numb right now so am relishing the tiny details - today I got into bed with my three year old son as I read him his story. He cuddled into me and I kissed the top of his head and breathed in his smell. It was the tiniest of moments but for that second I was safe, warm and exactly where I needed to be. In my harbour. Connected to my buoy. May this weekend bring plenty of beautiful seconds for all of us xxx

The Gardener Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 9:30pm

Thanks - terribly aware of the 'matriarchal' thing - they CANNOT take in that I may have needs - inconceivable. It was the 'we are all so busy' which got me, knowing how little so many people achieve but claim to be over-worked. Crunch point was when son and grand-daughter took husband out to meet mutual friends - nice, normal, two hours 'off' for me. As usual, after 10 minutes, husband wanted to come home, he is paranoid with fear away from me - the professionals say I CANNOT be on duty 24/24. But they bought him home, and I could have expected that they would say that as they had such a short time with us they would stay put. But no, dumped husband, and shot off, not showing up for 4 hours. Same this morning, grand-daughter going for a run, dad picking her up, 'be back soon'. they got back in time to have lunch and go for their plane. My mood tonight is so low I feel they just don't like our company, I feel bitterly like saying to family 'don't bother to come again'. Husband was roused enough to be angry about the situation. I'm sorry about this appalling moan, but these two are NOT busy - I just feel lonely and abandoned. I WILL find 'joy in the morning' but, oh, the clouds are black tonight. I'll follow Mary's example, and cuddle the cat. Over and out to all you friends and sympathizers out there.

Leah Sat, Sep 26th 2015 @ 5:34am

Gardener, Please never apologise for expressing your feelings. It is not an appalling moan , it is an accurate and honest description of what happened when your family visited you. Your blogs are so full of real emotion. Sending hugs from down under.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Sep 25th 2015 @ 10:36pm

Oh dearest Gardener...school-girl French is so bad, I cannot think what to call you en français!
But please know this:
You are in the most awful situation. Your dear husband is in the most dreadful situation...one he cannot escape. Your family, as selfish as they are being, just do not understand at all, what you two are going through and possibly, hopefully maybe, never, ever will...but this doesn't excuse their bad behaviour.

I lost my adorable Mum just over a year ago, my dearest mother-in-law eight months before that. Nursing them through their final weeks was a privilege and an honour, but it doesn't come naturally to everyone. I have members of both families who could not bear to be near someone so poorly, so needy and they left me to it - that's ok, because there are things I won't be able to do and I will have to make sure they do those things instead.

You are there for your dearest husband through thick and thin - through whatever you can cope with, together. I know it's probably of little comfort to you, but one day, your son will realise he needs to step-up and grow a pair! Your grand daughter is probably too ungrateful and naive to know any better...that's how kids are these days.

You are doing the best you can, dear Gardener, so don't let those who take everything for granted take any more from you. You're giving your all. Look after yourself as well as Mr. Gardener....if you don't, you won't be well enough to care for him.

Thinking good things for you and hoping the family stay away for a while!
Bear x

Susannah Sat, Sep 26th 2015 @ 12:06pm

Gardener - I send you warm fuzzy feelings of care.

RATG - I tried smiling at complete strangers on my way to work and got several pleasant 'Good Morning's :-)

mccart Sat, Sep 26th 2015 @ 2:19pm

hi

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