Room 101

2 Mar 2019
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My partner Spock and I sometimes play word games to pass the time on long walks. You know the sort, 20 Questions, Dessert Island Discs, Kiss Marry Kill (warning, if playing this with your other half, the relationship may never be the same again. I should not have included Bambi).

Another favourite is Room 101. Many of you will have watched the TV show, based on 1984. Room 101 is where all the terrible stuff is. You don't have to wish harm on the subject, if it is a living being. For instance, wasps are on my list, but I never harm one. I just wish they were never created.

When it comes to things that should be abolished, Victor Meldrew has nothing on me. Spock on the other hand does this silly Buddhist moral high ground thing. Rise above it, don't get het up, blah blah. I remind him of that next time he's shouting "What's this w****r playing at!" at another motorist.

Here's my basic list:

Wasps nests.

Sticking plasters. Useless, fiddly, fall off.

Adverts and trailers on TV and in cinema. The latter just gets worse, you think you'll wait outside, but they're still running when you take your seat - 30 minutes last time!

Other people's bottoms. I have one of my own thank you. I avoid looking at it, so I certainly don't want to see yours. At one time seen only on building sites, now they are everywhere.

People who clean up after their dogs, then leave the plastic bag on a hedge. Do they think there is a dog poo fairy who will come along and take it away?

Fly-tippers/litter louts. Bring backs the stocks.

Coffee shops. Great for a chat, but has anyone ever had a decent cup of coffee in one.

Designer dogs. This includes Crufts. Don't get me started.

Female celebrities who look 30 years younger, claim it's all down to yoga and celery juice.

Nuisance calls.

Narcissists. They're everywhere. Is it some kind of gene mutation?

Tattoos above the collar bone.

On top of this, there are others more topical.

Teeth. I forgot to use my little brush for just two miserable days. Now I have swollen bleeding gums. Thank you.

Parents who allow children to run amok in public. We arrived at a restaurant to find our table overrun by kids. Toys, food, chairs knocked over. Their parents did much sighing and eye rolling when we politely asked them to move the little darlings. They spent the evening running round screaming.

A woman with feral children was asked to leave the dog rescue kennels, after they released and tormented dogs. "My children are your future" she told me. My response was "May God help us all"

All politics and politicians, all parties, all nations. It's not funny any more.

So Moodscopers, what gets your goat? Don't be coy, we know you harbour some very strong dislikes. Unburden yourself, you'll feel better for it.

Valerie

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Lynzi

March 2, 2019, 6:26 a.m.

Good morning Valerie. Thank you, you made me laugh! Love room 101: any opportunity for a good moan; and agree with most of your abolishment proposals, plus a few of my own, including but not limited too: wasps: my darling little 2 1/2 year old son stood on a confused drowsy one, barefoot by accident, thanks to the freak weather, calamity; sticking plasters; dog poo anywhere except designated bins: effing disgusting and dangerous (not the poor dogs' fault) the owners should have their noses rubbed in it! In fact let's abolish bird poo too: any poo that is out in public, be gone! Fly-tippers/litter louts: bring back the stocks; all people who look 30 years younger and claim it's all down to yoga and celery juice; fb, Instagram etc etc.... (unless people are being genuine ); nuisance calls; narcissists: they're everywhere. Is it some kind of gene mutation? **** parents who think they're are doing a good job (especially competitive ones); all politics and politicians, all parties, all nations; most criminals: especially child abusers, paedophiles, rapists, torturers, bullies, hackers and burglars/thrives who target peoples' homes and hard earned/sentimental possessions; people who give advice when I haven't asked; **** dangerous drivers who think they're good; IKEA zombies (customers): I popped in to spend my £20 voucher, earned from buying a £20 Christmas tree last year, at 11am and had to get a kindly fellow mummy to collect my eldest son, because l was still there at 2:50pm! (admittedly it's also like sending an alcoholic to a brewery.... so much lovely, useful stuff!); people who say they understand and support me with my mental health, but don't get it, therefore can't; Zombie consumers blindly conforming to our greedy, obesogenic, entitled, planet destroying etc etc... society; more so the profitting capitalist fat cats, who covertly encourage and want to keep them there. As Jimmy Cricket said "...there's more...". but my arms tired now. Love, peace, sparkles; namaste, Lyndsey x

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 4:31 p.m.

Hi Lyndsey, Agree with all your list.Room 101 is too kind for some criminals,can't say here what I would like to happen to them! Friends with schoolkids tell me of a new (to me) form of parental one-upmanship.When we used to go up a year,I don't recall giving even a card.let alone a gift,to the old teacher.It has apparently become really unpleasant,with some children taking lavish gifts,spa vouchers,food hampers etc.The schools should not allow it,so that's something else for my list.xx

Andy

March 2, 2019, 7:16 a.m.

Many thanks for that Valerie, very entertaining :-) But that is quite an extensive list of things that get your goat Valerie. And I'll bet you have a multitude of others that you wished you'd added! Me? I share Spock's Buddhist leanings on this one. Rise above it. Always :-) And here's my questions to you & other Moodscopers Valerie : why would you wish to bump your gums? Why unburden ourselves? Why send ALL that negativity out into the universe? To feel better? My view is you, me, we, us won't feel better. My view is that yes, perhaps briefly we may give ourselves the illusion of feeling better by unburdening ourselves. But that's all it is, an illusion. And psychologically unhelpful. You. Me. We. Us. We are what we focus on. And it's a choice we make daily, hourly, minute by minute,second by second. So choose wisely! Thoughts are things. I choose to focus on the things I'm grateful for. Gratitude is such an empowering thing to practise & focus on. Especially on gorgeous, life-affirming walks in the fresh air with my beloved! Even if 'my beloved', the 'woman of my dreams' isn't here yet. I know she & the children I want in my life are on their way. Because that's what I choose to focus on. I know what helps me is living in the here & now, practising gratitude & thinking about my & creating my future history :-) So thank you Valerie for the thoughtful & thought-provoking blog. Have a fantastic day Valerie, Spock, me & all of our fabulous Moodscopers. But do choose your thoughts wisely! ;-)

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Maria

March 2, 2019, 3:47 p.m.

I'm grateful for your response Andy. Sending love and light to all!

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 4:42 p.m.

Hello Andy, You put your finger on the spirit of the blog "very entertaining".Sadly,I need a few more incarnations before I reach your level of enlightenment.I don't agree that we should only ever think pure and forgiving thoughts,I doubt that is even possible. I do my best to act kindly,but a good moan certainly does me good sometimes. I really wish you get the lovely wife and family,but be prepared for some imperfections.xx

Oli

March 2, 2019, 7:51 a.m.

Val, I'm with Andy on this one. For ten minutes I wrote down about something that annoys me and all I've done is raise my blood pressure!! No unburdening, just annoyance and useless anger. The irony is that in real life I don't get annoyed about this issue (people who don't attend their appointments) I simply discharge them and move on. It was only when thinking about their selfishness that I got worked up. I'm actually trying to think of a time when my anger wasn't useless, no matter how justified it felt at the time. I don't like that feeling. On the whole I don't let myself get annoyed at other people but I'm not so forgiving with myself. So the blog has actually highlighted just how much I don't like dwelling in anger.

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 4:47 p.m.

I do know what you mean Ollie,some things just cause helpless frustration,and make you feel worse. I am glad you mentioned no-shows.They cause much financial loss,to businesses and particularly the NHS.Likewise those who misuse the ambulance and A&E services.Total rotters,into Room 101 with them all! x

Poppy

March 2, 2019, 7:04 p.m.

Ah, I tend to think anger has it’s place and is not totally useless. Consider how well-managed anger can motivate actions for change. Just a thought...

Maggie May

March 2, 2019, 8 a.m.

Morning Valerie. From your list I would put the people who leave poo bags hanging from trees and on the ground on country walks. They have turned biodegradable poo into something that will spoil my walks forever. I would rather avoid stepping on the poo until nature took its course. I would add workmen who think you have nothing better to do than to stay in all day waiting for them to show up, arrive late and do not apologise. If I were allowed another, I’m sure everyone loves the companies who use multiple layered choice telephone answering systems which still do not contain your reason for calling and then leave you listening to the most annoying music for hours!!

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Helen

March 2, 2019, 8:34 a.m.

I can just about tolerate the Press 1 for Sales etc until you get Your call is important to us (it obviously isn’t) and We are experiencing a high level of calls at the moment (which is pretty much 24/7). Apologies to anyone who would put the phrase 24/7 in Room 101.

Molly

March 2, 2019, 1:46 p.m.

Workmen, yes, unreliable and don’t complete the job! Too laid back . Oh yes yes yes, telephoning anyone these days is a complete nightmare. You need the patience of a saint. How about when we are advised to do things on line, only for that not to work for some reason or another!

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 4:52 p.m.

Let's add workmen who,when they can be bothered to show up,sit nattering to friends on their phones instead of getting on with the job I am paying for. It seems impossible to have a direct phone number for anyone now,a lot of phones must get hurled across the room.xx

Molly

March 3, 2019, 4:52 p.m.

Been guilty of that before (throwing the phone) xx

Salt Water Mum

March 2, 2019, 8:24 a.m.

Oh I'm with Valerie on this one... firstly, I laughed aloud when I read your blog. And laughter is always beneficial. I think it was 'bottoms' that got me! And secondly, I'm with Shrek - 'better out than in'. I think anger is healthy. Controversial? Perhaps. Rage is not - let me be clear. But anger is a release - once it is not directed at a person (that's the rage - that needs management) but anger... in my humble opinion allows us to get through the difficult times. It allows us vent and rant and give off. And very very often I find, humour comes alongside that ranting at some point - very much like Valerie's blog. And that is a huge positive... I can honestly say if I didn't rant and I didn't laugh on a daily basis, I wouldn't be able to cope as well with the anxiety and sadness and I sure as **** wouldn't be able to cope with all I have to do every day - with work, kids and don't get me started!! I love a good old vent - yes, about dog poo not picked up or bad parking or mansplaining or my current topic of rant - greedy landlords. It gets it out of my system and I feel better. my Warning though::: choose very very carefully who you rant and vent in front of. If it turns into an argument, the benefits are lost. You need someone (or I need someone) who half-listens, half agrees and lets it wash over them. If in doubt, I rant to the dog! SWM x

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Molly

March 2, 2019, 1:53 p.m.

Good comment SWM, totally agree. It’s good when having a rant about something and then someone turns it into a joke and you end up laughing xx

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 4:56 p.m.

I actually said "*****",but Carolyn very properly made a few tweaks.I tend to be a bit of a potty mouth. Dogs make jolly good listeners,better than most men.x

Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:01 p.m.

Lol Valerie, Bottoms Up!!

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 8:42 a.m.

Valerie, what joy for a Saturday morning. Trouble is, I've got lots to do, and MUST not spend day joyfully adding to your list. Strappy tops on fat shoulders with hideous bra straps. But PLEASE come to France, it's not perfect, but just wandered out in sun for perfect pain aux raisins, bars open for good coffee at reasonable price, not bucket of dishwater in modern 'malls'. And your Spock? I like men but how two faced they can be - always right, and superior. No, don't mean it, much!! xx

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5 p.m.

I think we have rotten coffee in the uk.I would rather have a cup of bog-standard instant than a lot of the stuff served up.I can never get used to the tiny cups when I go to France,I have a big mug at home for tea and coffee.xx

Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:09 p.m.

I much prefer instant as well. That stuff in Costas is horrible xx

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 6:02 p.m.

It's the worst of the lot,metallic and sickly.xx

David Gosling

March 2, 2019, 9:02 a.m.

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Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:10 p.m.

I wondered if you wanted to put yourself in Room 101 David ? If so, I will join you xx

Sarah yellow rose

March 2, 2019, 9:22 a.m.

Hi Valerie, thank you for your blog, it made me smile. I enjoy reading the replies too. Moodscope is good company when you live alone, what I mean is that the comments feel like people chatting. One thing I have noticed though is when I meet friends for coffee, I get exited to be going out and then they spend the whole time moaning about their life. I work at my mental health and it starts with Moodscope! x

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:02 p.m.

Hi Sarah, I don't live alone,but Moodscope is still good company.Your friends sound a bit insensitive-do you want to shove them into Room 101? xx

Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:24 p.m.

I think there is a time and a place. Just recently I held a small gathering for a friend’s birthday. No effort from me, the others did the food etc but one person just wanted to talk about her relationship issues and I thought it was very inappropriate. Me as the unwell ‘host’ but mainly the friend whose birthday it was, should have been about her!

Ruth

March 2, 2019, 9:46 a.m.

Wow this is good. I have two phobias - wasps and belts. Both I cannot be around if I see them. Everyone seems to wear belts. The reason for the phobia is abuse so I have to try to get round that one by telling myself it is only holding trousers up, nothing else. As for wasps - evil things, only here to sting. Things that annoy me - no manners - how many times do I sit waiting for cars going "thank you" and "you're welcome". No one seems to use manners. Please, thank you, excuse me, sorry. Are these the hardest words to say? I know sorry is but the rest? Racism, discrimination. I have experienced both - "white ***** on the scooter with the dog" - referring to me on my mobility scooter with my assistance dog. Have to say the security guard was not impressed and escorted the woman out of the supermarket thankfully. I don't like rudeness especially like that. Something else - remember when children are listening that it sounds one hundred times worse when it comes out of the mouth of a child the next time you are tempted to use the f word! The other thing is when people who are deliberately cruel to animals, especially hunters, justify it by re-wording the law to suit themselves e.g. it's on private land, we can do what we like. Really? So, is that any law or just the ones you don't like? One more - Brexit - just get on with it and stop arguing like 5-year-olds. I really enjoyed thinking about this Room 101. It has made me laugh.

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:13 p.m.

Hi Ruth, I dread to think what must have happened to you,the connection to belts.Hope the person involved got punished. Wasps,can't do anything that much cuddlier insects can do,spiteful and sinister. Back in the day I was hunt sab.If I said what I thought about hunting live animals I would be banned from Moodscope-I think you and I would get on really well. Where does this ugly rudeness come from? I hope that woman was banned from the shop for good.Big Hug,xx

Ruth

March 2, 2019, 6:11 p.m.

I think we might get on well! My father was the culprit and let's just say ill health has dealt that karma!

Molly

March 2, 2019, 11:41 p.m.

I wasn't physically abused but I was mentally abused. When I found out my step father had cancer I really didnt care. Other family members rallied around as he decided that he wanted sympathy and he hadn't bothered with them before that. I couldn't join in with these false family gatherings because the only time he is ever nice is if you big him up only to be let down again when it suits him. This is the real meaning of the word narcissistic.

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 9:52 a.m.

Ruth, Brexit - endless speculation, but whatever happens, (except for a complete 'U' turn) it is going to be bad news for ex-pats - pensions and health - it's going to be a mess, already doing battle with the Inland Revenue who have got it wrong - getting it right is going to be a hideous farce - Can I nominate our new 'Bobby' (town policeman) thick as two planks, mind and body, and looks like Neantherdal man , need a big hole for him.

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Nicco

March 2, 2019, 2:09 p.m.

Gardener you made me smile trying to imagine your goofy neanderthal town Bobby!

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:15 p.m.

Actually,shall we push the Inland Revenue in there as well as PC Plank? xx

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 6:23 p.m.

You can push the whole shower in when they sort me out. To correct wrongful deduction, they will send me a form (this 2 weeks ago, by e-mail not arrived) which I fill in, take to French equivalent, who will promise to tax me. OK?

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 6:30 p.m.

Oh, I have to pay French tax, *****-nilly as I am a French resident - Uk insisted for more that 20 years that you CANNOT be taxed twice, Inland Revenue think you can. Oooh!

Jul

March 2, 2019, 10:28 a.m.

Hello Valerie. What a good idea to play these games while walking. We will try it. (I was going to write something else then but decided I'd better not). I get annoyed when a voice shrieks over the credits and often lovely music, announcing what's on next, at the end of an episode of something on the TV. I also yawn when failed politicians such as John Major, Michael Hesletine and Tony Blair and other Uncle Has Beans are are hauled out to talk to the press say on Today on Radio 4, just because the producers can't get any one else at that time of the morning and they love the sound of their own voice. They'll pontificate on any subject. Am sure I can think of lots more things that annoy me. Jul ***

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:19 p.m.

I know,these past weeks have been an absolute field day for all the Yesterday Men.I always wonder,do they get a fee for their fascinating contribution? ***

Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:37 p.m.

Whilst I agree that MPs are often out for themselves, they go from being powerful to nothing when not selected or resigning and I think they probably do make a contribution when they have been big names in the past. Why should they be yesterday men? Xx

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 6:28 p.m.

I am a stateless person, democratically. I cannot vote for the paragons of HM government because I've been out of UK for more than 10 years, can't vote for French deputy or president because not a Frog citizen. I might as well come from Syria!

Molly

March 3, 2019, 3:16 a.m.

Oh thats annoying Gardener, that you are not eligible to vote anywhere !! Although I wonder if there is any point in voting anymore, even locally, I am having my doubts.

Orangeblossom

March 2, 2019, 10:28 a.m.

Hi Valerie thanks for blog which I found very entertaining. My Room 101 items are: Bossy people who take over Wasps and wasps nests Politicians from all parties who are pesky self-servers People who persistently miss-pronounce my name even though I repeat the correct pronunciation, or rather the way that I like my name pronounced The Brexit campaign.

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:24 p.m.

Agree all that lot.It's starting to look like wasps are generally unpopular. For the first time in my life,if a general election was called tomorrow I don't think I would vote.Unless the Monster Raving Loony Party had a candidate of course.x

Molly

March 2, 2019, 5:26 p.m.

Valerie, we have said the same thing about voting. It makes you not want to bother anymore xx

DAVE

March 2, 2019, 10:45 a.m.

Oh Valerie, You have set me off....I was in fits of laughter at your blog, because I could imagine you with your OH in the car...Just as my wife and I...moaning at atrocious driving...Then just down the road....I'M DOING THE SAME THING ! ! My eldest daughter 50, works for the Bournemouth Town Counciol...She was away a few years ago and asked me if I could attend her bosses diccussing the immenent pay rise, index linked pensions, and 15 days max sick days off.... I went along and just lLISTENED to them griping about all that they were getting.... After 10 minutes I stood up turned arround to all including their bosses and said "You spoilt lot....you really do not know how well off you are.... I pay my taxes and rates just to hear you lot gripe.... Your problem is that you are overpaid, over indulgent and spending my hard earned money on yourselves all the above benefits...KNOW WONDER THE STATE OF THE ROADS IS IN UTTER KAOS, and you're using that money to fund your lifestyles... I was promptly asked who I was.... I said just a passerby who ended up in ;the RIGHT room.. I am in business and I have to pay two lots of national insurancesss I dont get paid holidays, or an allowance of 15 days sick leave which you are able to add on to your expensive holiday trips...and then you retire on a big fat pension...It stinks"....and I'm off.... It was the most satisfying morning I have ever had, and I did not let them know who I was..... I call them UNCIVIL SERVANTS...and ALL MP'S from all parties are all at it lining their purses...That Tomny Blair's SICKLY GRIN upon his fisogg iritates me beyond words ! You Valerie have made my day, I shall enjoy the walk over the Eactcliffe of Bournemouth this morning so much more.... *** bless and thank you again for you brilliant blog... You're just one Moodscope star amongst them all... Love to you Dave ***.

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:35 p.m.

Oh Dave,thank you for your kind words.I don't know anyone in the public sector who has not taken early retirement,or accepted a redundancy package, only to return days later on a contract/consultant basis.One man I know went back to the NHS on this basis,and gets more for a few days a week than his previous full-time salary.Good for you Dave,hearing of your outburst has made my day. ***

CG

March 2, 2019, 11:14 a.m.

Thanks Valerie this made me smile. Totally with you on all of them :)

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:36 p.m.

Thanks love x

Molly

March 2, 2019, 1:29 p.m.

Oh Valerie, how funny, I nearly choked on my coffee when I read the bottoms one, same as SWM, lol. Thanks for giving me a laugh. It makes a change to have a light hearted blog. It all depends on my mood on how much things annoy me, I guess it’s the same for most people. I’m with you on the adverts, same ones over and over, annoying people and annoying tunes, lately I have had to turn the volume down when the adverts come on! Another for my list is feminists (sorry to any feminists). Facebook, now that can DEFINITELY go in Room 101. People in general, bung them all in !!!! :-) :-) Molly xx

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:46 p.m.

Hi Molly, I don't call myself a feminist,to me the ***** are equal.There was a piece on Woman's Hour about a book and TV film,100 ******* (I think) They all had their photos taken "down there" and then talked about how "empowered" it made then feel.It was like a parody of the 70's style hairy legged,man-hating feminist.I laughed my head off. In fact,I am going to nominate 100 ******* for Room 101-what do you think? ***

Molly

March 2, 2019, 8:21 p.m.

I will go for 50 ******* and 50 *****, with love from the one with hairy legs xx

Valerie

March 3, 2019, 11:47 a.m.

Molly love,this is Room 101,not a ***** film xx

Molly

March 3, 2019, 3:30 p.m.

Lol xx

Nicco

March 2, 2019, 2:03 p.m.

So much enjoyed your blog, Valerie. In bed with a bad relapse & struggling to stay positive atm so your blog really cheered me up. We often play the Room 101 game & I agreed with yours & would add my personal ones of appalling litter on verge-sides (& the people resspnsible for however it got there - bring back chain gangs), including plastic bags caught up in trees. Also teabags that come in twos (wth? Why can they just make them in singles?) Ring-pull tabs on tins (which obviously are not made for people with hands like mine & actually need the strongest man competition winner to master them successfully). Those annoying closure tabs on cereal boxes (they DON'T work). Sockettes (sort of nylon tights but only for your feet - great in theory but two steps & they've peeled off & are halfway down the inside of your shoe). Tinkly music everywhere you go - mostly in waiting rooms, super markets, swimming pools & restaurants (whatever happened to quietude?) Along with twinkling fairy lights left on well after Christmas is over & Spring has definitely sprung . I can't take a lot of auditory or visual stimulation at once so I find these last two difficult to cope with.

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Molly

March 2, 2019, 2:59 p.m.

Nicco, you have just reminded me of something. In the waiting room where I had therapy, there was this heavy door, that slammed shut every time the staff stormed through (regularly) it drove me absolutely nuts. It made me smile (not) as there was a notice up saying “please be quiet, therapy taking place” or words to that effect. Whoever designed that place (which is especially for psychological problems) I swear I wanted to rip the door off it’s hinges xx

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:53 p.m.

Hi Nicco, Between Raynauds and arthritis my hands are pretty useless,so I totally agree about hard to open containers.Those little socks things are a joke,as are all things supposed to stop shoes chafing. Funny you mentioning Christmas Lights.We were commenting on some houses that have kept them on as a feature in the front garden.Why would anyone not want all reminders of that dreaded festival out of the way? xx

Nicco

March 3, 2019, 12:23 a.m.

Would've driven me bonkers, Molly. Valerie, I quite agree!

Bailey

March 2, 2019, 3:22 p.m.

Thank you for your blog. You hit on one of mine: narcissists. And I do blame facebook for that. It practically breeds it. There are people who cannot pass wind without posting about it. My pet of all peeves...injustice. While it allegedly rains on both the just and the unjust-mostly on the just because the unjust steals the umbrellanof the just. Amd gets his case thrown out in court on a technicality. Grrrr. Humbug.

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Molly

March 2, 2019, 4:56 p.m.

Bailey, this is interesting about narcissism, I always related it to my step father. I don’t think Facebook is to blame but it certainly breeds it I think maybe that is a release for the real life ones. If they can get their kicks from posting about how wonderful they are or wanting attention on there. I have a real problem with certain people on Facebook, specifically one, but I have never seen them as a narcissist which has now really got me thinking!! Said person has always upset me prior to Facebook along with wanting to be really nice. I’m pleased to hear this theory xx

Valerie

March 2, 2019, 5:59 p.m.

Hi Bailey and Molly, I think that the influence of social media has made self-absorption and extreme vanity seem normal.Maybe it has just given them a stage to perform on,but I tend to agree with Bailey,I think it could create it where young personalities are concerned.xx

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 7:26 p.m.

To above re FB. It scares me, then 3 people I really wanted to contact only do FB. The last one driving me bonkers - as you describe above, they must spend their lives on the damned thing, she wings things at least once a day, no interest to me

Molly

March 2, 2019, 8:55 p.m.

It’s food for thought but I really do not think that that the real meaning of narcissism can be compared to how people behave on Facebook. I think the word is being a little over used here xx

Poppy

March 2, 2019, 6:57 p.m.

How fun! You actually asked for a list. Here goes: Tangled hangers. Tangled necklaces. When my MIL says, “This too shall pass.” (It just might NOT pass) My brother—I’ll stop there Politics, political parties, politians American mass media Facebook Abortion supporters—I know some of you are supporters. Just being honest with my list The barking dogs next door People who are doormats, wet noodles, no moral backbone When I’m mad and someone says,”Calm down.” Judgmental people—you know, the self-righteous types Peas Airport security Thank you! I had a nice laugh.

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Valerie

March 2, 2019, 9:27 p.m.

Good to hear from another grumpy woman Poppy! Your homeland is as mad and broken as ours.The Chinese have a curse "May you live in interesting times!".

Molly

March 2, 2019, 9:32 p.m.

Peas!! How funny. Abortion, with you on that. Never could do it. Dogs, well my two, one yaps and one whines, can be very annoying but I wouldn’t put them in Room 101. Just return them to their owners lol. Wet noodles!! Haaa xx

The Gardener

March 2, 2019, 7:30 p.m.

Peas, Poppy - why would you want to send them down the chute? School dinners just after the war had bullet peas and shatterable pastry - with good aim you could get them across the dining hall - teachers would look suspicious (from their 'high' table). Me Miss? No Miss.

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Nicco

March 3, 2019, 12:19 a.m.

Oh Gardener, you do make me smile! I can imagine you with bullet peas & a ruler! I was always being told it was us quiet ones they had to watch!

Poppy

March 3, 2019, 1:01 p.m.

I have been terribly successful as a practical joker because personality-wise, I’m least likely to be suspected. I’ve got a 5-year joke running with my MIL. No one can figure out who keeps leaving the flamingos in her yard every family Christmas gathering.

Molly

March 3, 2019, 5:06 p.m.

Poppy, ha ha, love this! I used to skip school and when my sister decided to tell on me (*****) no one believed her because I was the quiet sensible one that would never do such a thing lol xx

Poppy

March 3, 2019, 6:16 p.m.

Molly: ?

Molly

March 3, 2019, 8:34 p.m.

What are you questioning?

Leah

March 2, 2019, 9:31 p.m.

Valerie, thanks for your list and encouraging other people. I think our own lists tells more about ourselves and the the things we are complaining about!! People who like to joke and tease others but can’t take it being done to them Cockroaches kale Zippers that don’t work Socks with sandals people who talk a lot then tell you to shhh Being asked by a computer to prove I am not a robot!! Know it alls People who always have to be right Rice pudding Sago pudding Junket people who patronise me People who say to be perfectly honest and the lie Leah xx

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Valerie

March 3, 2019, 12:08 p.m.

Hi Leah, When I worked in a hotel, the kitchen had the most gigantic cockroaches,the size of a big toe.I slept in a converted storage cupboard,and one night some of them got in there.I was hysterical. I like creamy rice pudding with jam,I recall Sago and Semolina too.I think Junket is what was called Blancmange here.You never see it now,but I liked that with jelly. xx

Molly

March 2, 2019, 11:53 p.m.

Leah, cockroaches, we don't get here really, had the odd one in Tenerife. What is up with Rice Pudding? Lol What is Sago pudding? What is Junket? I said to my husband tonight that he watches too much football, his answer was that I spend too much time on Moodscope. What a silly answer. The best he could possibly come up with. M xx

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Leah

March 3, 2019, 12:06 a.m.

Molly, I thought rice pudding , sago pudding, (curds and whey) were compulsory food in UK!! How about we add partners who tell us we spend too much time on Moodscope!! Lxx

Nicco

March 3, 2019, 12:17 a.m.

Ha, Molly! Hubby was slumped in front of tv football all nite. Me? I was on my lovely jigidi.com jigsaw site. One's the other (no it isn't!)

Molly

March 3, 2019, 12:33 a.m.

Leah, never heard of sago pudding but yes put all partners in 101. Nicco, what a joke, my husband had football on all day and then cricket and I don't mind really but I need to remind him that I exist. So he says, what would you like to be doing then? So I give up and go to bed xx

The Gardener

March 3, 2019, 9:25 a.m.

Just gone back to this blog - from my own, total surprise, this morning - dashed off in 10 minutes on return from Doc only last Tuesday. I think chocolate semolina worse than any above. xx Might gum up works in Room 101

Liz

March 3, 2019, 12:10 a.m.

Loved this blog as I love Room 101. I agree with all you have put Valeria for the record x Tryptophobia... the fact that when you do a google search it comes up with images that make your skin crawl and trigger the frigging phobia! It took me quite a while to admit to this weird fear until I told my Dad who had the same phobia! I also was doing some research on it but it kept coming up with all these images. Show-offs. Especially on Facebook. We all know who they are... and if they are still our "friends" that we feel we can't unfriend, we "unfollow" them... where the f*** are they actually going so we can follow them... to a place we don't wanna go for sure. False friends. I particularly like the ones who are all over you like a rash when you have a problem but when things are going good for you, they drop you like a stone. I also like the ones who are professing to be best friends too early only for them to realise that you are human and you don't fit into their "agenda". The benefits system - because it needs an overhaul - kick to the kerb those abusing it but don't demonise the genuine people... they need so much help and many have taken their own lives because they are at the end of a long rope... a rope that should have never been there in the first place. Offal. Revolting. End of. Rubbish films - sitting there till 2 pm thinking... **** I've missed 2 good hours of sleep. Ridiculously over-priced face creams - a healthy lifestyle will give you a natural glow rather than a man-made one Ugly and expensive designer clothes - literally the emperor's new clothes. We all know they are ****. Why would we pay silly money to look like a complete tool? I think that's a good few to be going on with! "On Board" stickers- I don't care. They might be to indicate that a child is on board in case of an accident/emergency but I don't see the point. Get everyone out as quickly as possible.. don't differentiate who's more important or less important. People who think that animals are inferior to humans. I beg to differ. Liz x

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Molly

March 3, 2019, 3:40 a.m.

Love this Liz, gave me a smile, but also can totally agree about friends, all over you when they have nothing else to do, then not around when they are busy. Yet to meet one that hasn't done that. Benefits system, I don't want to even begin on that one. Myself and husband need serious help right now and I have run out of energy to prove to them that we are unwell. I mean I have literally run out of energy, I do not know what more I can do. This means we are both getting more unwell because the stress of it is quite unbelievable. Animals, they are so precious, they rely on us as humans to take care of them. Anyone who wants to abuse that....well what does it say about them. Scum. Thanks Liz for letting me have a rant! xx

Valerie

March 3, 2019, 12:01 p.m.

Hi Liz,Another kindred spirit.Have you noticed how "Baby on Board" cars are often driven by speed crazy morons? False friends,how many blogs could be written on that sorry story? xx

Poppy

March 3, 2019, 6:31 p.m.

Liz, Valerie: Have the stories about the American veterans committing suicide when they can’t get treatment, a benefit for which they risked life, limb, and family tranquility to become eligible? And on that note—lack of understanding for people with mental health needs. I commented to my MIL what a shame about Anthony Bourdain’s death by suicide. She replied, “Yes, how selfish that he did that to his family and friends.” (WTF?!?!?!)

Valerie

March 3, 2019, 10:08 p.m.

There is a young man in our town who has had to get a special wheelchair provided by a charity.He lost his legs fighting in Afghanistan,but his parents have had to fight to get any help for him.

Liz

March 3, 2019, 12:10 a.m.

Sorry Valerie! Typo x

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Hope

March 3, 2019, 7:29 a.m.

On the subject of 'why the world should change because I am not happy with it'. Did anyone read Katie Byron's 'the work' Starts out extremely impenetrable even though there are only 4 questions which are really simple. I got it finally when I watched this video of Katie discussing with a lady who is really upset about donald the trump. In the end she resolved trauma based on her parents being holocaust survivors. Truly transformational. Watch "I'm Afraid of Trump—The Work of Byron Katie®" on YouTubehttps://youtu.be/ulOFJB0AfLo Making lists of stuff you don't like reinforces the stuff you don't like. I'm no mental health professional but it does seem like a practice that feeds the 'fear wolf'.

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Valerie

March 3, 2019, 11:56 a.m.

I have to emphasise that Room 101,both the programme and the blog,is meant to be a bit of humour.I am indeed mentally not right,but I belong to that group of people who find a good giggle,or a good *****, healing. xx

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Molly

March 3, 2019, 5:22 p.m.

Totally agree Valerie, it was a funny blog that made me feel better than any structured therapy suggestion which I do not agree with personally. I guess it works for some, but I find it a load of ****.... if anyone isn’t annoyed by anything then good luck to them, it’s a part of being human and yes I will have a moan when a moan is needed. Some have suggested it’s not healthy, but I totally disagree. Your blog was realistic and humorous and the best therapy needed xx

Poppy

March 3, 2019, 6:35 p.m.

Hear! Hear! My mantra and rule with employees: if you say something once, you’re venting. If you say it twice, maybe you just weren’t done venting. If you say it 3 times, now you’re just needlessly ******** and it’s time to get over it or make a change to fix it.

Valerie

March 3, 2019, 10:02 p.m.

Biggest kisses.

Valerie

March 3, 2019, 10:02 p.m.

Thank you xx

Liz

March 3, 2019, 11:31 p.m.

Oh *** Valerie... who doesn't need a good ******** session. So good for the soul! x

Hope

March 3, 2019, 4:22 p.m.

Yeah sorry that did come across as a bit preachy. Thank *** I'm not a mental health professional I don't want to make the situation worse for anyone. I struggle sometimes on the moodscope blog when some of the blogs fly in the face of good mental health hygiene. We all struggle with the same mental health challenges & there are habits help & habits that form part of the problem. If the bloggers don't strive for the good stuff then it's just a case of the blind leading the blind. Not sure this comment is improving anything. I feel like an amateur sculpture hacking away at a bit stone pieces flying off in all directions. Some of them hitting people on the eye. I know there is a good way to say this I'm just not finding the words??sorry.

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Valerie

March 3, 2019, 10:01 p.m.

Thanks for getting back Hope.For me,and I suspect quite a few Moodscopers,the feeling that I am a bad person,with bad thoughts has been quite a feature of my illness,and at one point made me feel I had no purpose in being alive.I struggle to accept "Bad Val",I will never welcome her,but I can't deny she is part of me.What I can try to do is accept my human imperfections,and laugh at myself.I will never be a saint who never complains,too late for that! Take care,hugs xx

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Liz

March 3, 2019, 11:38 p.m.

Bad Liz is most definitely bad for me. She is bitchy, she can be jealous, she can be hyper-critical (usually of herself)... she drinks too much, she's intolerant, she's just too much at times. But sadly she is a part of me, based on experiences and my general imperfections. Sometimes the wasp-iness of her is good as it sharpens my humour and my writing but I need not to be so sharp that it cuts myself or others. x

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Valerie

March 4, 2019, 8:48 a.m.

Hi Liz,Perhaps we should arrange for Bad Val and Bad Liz to go off on a road trip together,leaving the saintly good versions in peace back home. x

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