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Quick, clean up before the Cleaner arrives! Tuesday July 9, 2013

I've never employed a cleaner, but my old landlady did. One of her most endearing characteristics was her regular panic to clean up before her cleaner arrived!

She had very messy children, and her thought was that it was not fair for the cleaner to have to clear up after her kids. General cleaning was right and only fair, but she drew a line when it came to child-created chaos. She felt the children's mess was a reflection on her, and she needed to keep up appearances.

This reminds me of my own attitude to Moodscope. I suspect the vast majority of us use Moodscope because life is less than we hoped it would be. Life is challenging - sometimes too challenging. So it's time for me to confess!

When I'm having a really bad time, I'll read the blog, but I won't do my score for that day! The blog is regularly a comfort, but I don't want to mess up my stats - how crazy is that? It's like keeping up appearances. I think it's as crazy as rushing around cleaning the house before the cleaner gets here, don't you agree?

So let me encourage you as I encourage myself. Moodscope is here for us to track the ups and the downs - that's its whole purpose. It doesn't judge us - it just helps us observe. As such, its usefulness and accuracy are dependent upon honest reporting on a regular basis – it is not about appearances.

Don't delay, plot your score today!

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Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 8:23am

I gave up plotting my score a long time ago when I realised all I was doing was trying to get a good score.
I tried to be honest, but like you would only plot it on good days.
And even then I would try to work out what response would give me a better score.
So now I don't bother.

Elizabeth Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 8:29am

Hello, sorry for writing unrelated to the blog, but I didn't get yesterdays email, nor did I get this one. I there a problem with the moodcope communication again?

Bill Andrews Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 8:38am

Gosh, I'm surprised at the blog and the first comment. It's fascinating how we find it hard to be honest even with ourselves. But I had a very similar experience the other day. I was with my sister-in-law and her friend who is a therapist and I was showing them moodscope. I did it while with them and my answers were a ridiculously high score value, 2nd highest ever- clearly influenced by their presence. But, by myself, I think I'm pretty honest on a day to day basis and what I write related to the score is really important to me. I'm a diagnosed bi-polar II, not that I think psychiatric diagnoses are necessarily true, but my moodscope chart shows extremes of fluctuation. When I'm very low, looking at the chart helps me to know that it will pass. When I'm very high, I now know I need to slow down and if I don't I'll get a big dip. I do notice though that the times I'm less likely to do moodscope are when I'm feeling very well. I guess the tendency is to focus on the negative. I'm trying to make sure I do it when I feel good too.

Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 8:57am

I like it that your landlady cleared up the kids stuff rather than leave it for the cleaner to do. I think it shows respect and consideration for the cleaner. I had a cleaner once who asked me to tidy up before she came and I was glad she asked me. Respecting another helps you respect yourself too, and adds to self-esteem on both sides - very important in counteracting depression I believe. Now I do a small cleaning job for an elderly lady who is very respectful and considerate towards me - adding 'value' and happiness to both our lives. :)

Carole Baker Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:02am

I feel very proud of myself having read this because as a 'perfectionist' any blot on the page would usually result in the book being scrapped. Moodscope was suggested to me by a friend after I'd been discussing my mood levels with her and wondering if there was a way I could track them. (I was sure they were cyclic. Moodscope was ideal but of course only if I was totally honest with myself. As it turned out though this wasn't a problem, my score and my graph were for my eyes only and allowed me the freedom to be totally truthfull without anyone judging. Yes I could get a high score everyday if I wanted, but I would only be fooling myself.

Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:15am

Many years ago someone told me "it's okay to smile in front of others. But don't smile on front of the mirror". Over the years I often remembered this - because I regularly slip into the habit of trying to pretend I'm feeling better than I actually do. Even here, I really have to stop myself from giving too-positive answers. Sometimes I just don't want to see how low my mood is.

Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:24am

Nice observation and very accurate. On reflection, I tend not to do an entry when I'm particularly low, partly to keep my score up but also to avoid seeing the reality of my mood in a literal score. I will resist the denial and live withe reality even if it is a low score!

Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:35am

OMG this is scary - it is me to a T, I was really stressed and fed up yesterday so I deliberately avoided doing my Moodscope as I didn't want to mess up my stats - we're a crazy bunch :-)

I am so glad I found Moodscope it really helps me focus on the day.

Trish

Julia Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:36am

This is very interesting. I think I control my Moodscope scores too in that when I'm feeling good I try not to achieve a very high score and likewise when I'm feeling very low I know how I can achieve an average score with the cards by not being strictly honest. This may be because I don't want to frighten my wonderful buddy but actually this is nonsense as she is here for me in all my mood swings. However I am really really honest in the little box where you can describe how you feel. No-one except me reads this! So for me this will always be the honest genuine indicator as to how I feel on any one day. I write a few words each day or rather each time I do the cards, without fail.
Looking back to when I first started doing the cards, my scores reflected much more accurately how I was feeling. I didn't have a buddy then. Perhaps we are just getting too familiar with the cards; those of us who are long term users of Moodscope I mean.

Caroline Ashcroft Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 9:50am

Hi Elizabeth, sorry you're not receiving your daily emails. There's no problem at this end at the moment and they've definitely been sent out. They may just be delayed as happens sometimes, but is out of our control I'm afraid. Let me know if it continues.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 10:02am

How true this is! I can also relate to Julia's point as often I don't want to worry my buddies with a low score.

Oh, Elizabeth - my Moodscope posts keep landing in my junk folder and I have to fish them out on a regular basis. I don't know if this may have happened to you. If any of you know how I can stop this happening (On outlook with a Hotmail account) I'd be grateful.

OK - time to go and do the score then.

Caroline Ashcroft Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 10:09am

Hi Mary, I think if you add support@moodscope.com to your address book it might stop this happening.

leximckee.com Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 11:10am

I do hope my honesty has encouraged you to plot again. If you want a completely non-judgmental friend to keep an eye on your scores, I'm always happy to be on people's buddy list.

leximckee.com Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 11:17am

Isn't it wonderful that there are so many ways of understanding these posts? I like what you've said, and it reminds me that when I'm feeling low, any kind of transformational activity seems to help. Just tidying up can have a good impact on my state-of-mind.

leximckee.com Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 11:20am

You've made my day, Trish! I was hoping there were some other people like me avoiding the lower scores - but now I have evidence that I'm not alone!

leximckee.com Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 11:23am

"I don't want to frighten my wonderful buddy..." is a heart-felt insight I can really relate to. I'm sure my scores would be a little different if my buddy didn't see them... but then that's what our buddies are there for. I'm feeling freed up to be far more honest with my scores and my buddy, so "thank you" for sharing.

Hikergrl Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 2:35pm

Lexi, I'm so grateful you wrote this blog. I avoid Moodscoping when I am low just to avoid examining my feelings. I don't really care about keeping up my scores. I just want to aviod the etiology of my feelings. Also, since only i am in control of my responses to life, when Im down it shows a loss of control of my emotions. Thats hard to admit. Also, I recently acquired a buddy and I don't want them to see that I'm less in control during down days. I guess I dont want to explain my "downness" to anyone. Still, when I push past my fear of myself and do the cards, I often feel better as the cards show me that I could feel much worse that I do. That realization can be quite uplifting!

Ginny Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 2:55pm

Hi Bill, thanks for this, will reply (in no particular order!)
I have Bipolar II and agree that psychiatric diagnoses are not always a good idea. I have only filled in the moodscope a few times and it has come up with a very score. If I filled it in now (which I am going to do) I think it will be very low (because I am very low lol) but I can still laugh. If I do it, however I am feeling, i find it difficult to do, but I need to do anything that helps me at the moment so that is one of them. Thanks. I keep trying to find out how the buddy system works and could possibly yours, but I have yet to find out how do to it! Ginny

Ginny Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 3:07pm

Well, i have done it and it was 26%, which is about normal, but i have only done it 6 times!
Towards the end I noticed something I have not noticed before. Underneath each word, eg 'strong' there is a description of it. That makes all the difference and when i do it again, hopefully most days now i am sure that will help

Lostinspace Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 3:10pm

Well, I agree that it is good to clean up before the cleaner, it's about respect for them and only you know where your mess goes! As for Moodscope, I skip it completely when I am feeling totally awful otherwise I do it and have only a vague idea if it will be better than the day before or worse. When I reach the level of "see a doctor or talk to a friend" I know I am in trouble and that is very helpful although I do live on another planet and there is no NHS!

Caroline Ashcroft Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 3:33pm

Hi Ginny, if you go to the 'Buddies' section of the site you can invite someone you know to be your buddy. You just need to input their name and email address and they'll receive an email which they need to reply to to confirm they are happy to be your buddy. They will then receive your scores each time you take the Moodscope test. Hope this helps!

leximckee.com Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 4:52pm

Brilliant... and it was good for me to remind myself of what etiology means - what a great word. One of the reasons I like the cards is that they are bite size. This means that I don't have to wait until tomorrow to make a change. For example, if I'm not very "active" when I do the cards, I can then ask myself what it would take to be more active? Each card can become a gentle catalyst. I still have mixed feelings about my buddy since she is usually more 'up' than I am. She's brilliant though in that she often doesn't ask why but instead bosses me about - goading me into action, or just makes me laugh! That's a strategy she knows works for me. I guess we need to choose good buddies to encourage full-on honesty. I've got one of the best!

Anonymous Tue, Jul 9th 2013 @ 5:17pm

I usually do moodscope every day,but I avoid doing it in the morning
because my mood is far too low every morning.As I get through the day and gain confidence,I select a time to do the cards when I feel better,less scared,more determined to get an average result of the day.I guess that´s only fair enough.

Anonymous Wed, Jul 10th 2013 @ 12:02am

I read all of the Moodscope e-mails. They help me to understand what might be going on. But I seem to have to get things perfect before I'm ready to allow anyone into my world, whether it be friends or family. So I do clean up for the cleaner. I justify that it makes it easier for her to do her job, rather than having to move one pile of stuff to clean and then put it all back again so that she can clean that area. And maybe she can get just a little more done ;) She is very accommodating to this.

If only I had the courage to do my Moodscope score every day. To accept that I will get low scores sometimes. Much like stepping on the bathroom scales in the morning.

It's been over a year since I did my last score, and I can't even decide when in the day that I should do it. Morning are definitely the worst for me. I don't even know how to proceed.

Caroline Ashcroft Wed, Jul 10th 2013 @ 12:21am

Hi there, please have the courage to do the test every day. It will help you understand what's going on - read Bill's comment above. Because he's taken the test every day, he can see from his graph that when he's low he knows it will pass which could really help you.

Take the test whenever is a good time for you, but take it at the same time each day so that you are comparing like with like.

You are the only person that will see your scores, unless you have a buddy, so what do you have to lose? There's nothing wrong with being honest with yourself and maybe if you are, you'll be able to help yourself.

Go and do the test now and think about the answer you give to each of the cards. Think about why you have given that answer and think about what you might be able to change to make your choice more positive next time.

Caroline Ashcroft Wed, Jul 10th 2013 @ 12:31am

I would just like to thank Lexi for her thought provoking blog and everyone else for their comments. It makes interesting reading. I understand everyone's points of view. So, from the research we have conducted, and member feedback, I know that if everyone did the Moodscope test every day they'd benefit from it.

How do we make this happen? All answers gratefully received!

Ryan Wed, Jul 10th 2013 @ 6:25pm

I've done the test nearly every day for 75 days. What i've realized by doing so is that I am not a happy person. Seeing that my score never rises above its average of 25% isn't helpful...it takes the wind out of my sails.

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