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Please understand me. Friday September 27, 2013

I really relish the book Please Understand Me by David Keirsey. Answering seventy questions will reveal what personality type you are. There being four main characters, Rationals, Idealists, Artisans and Guardians, with four characters within each main umbrella. So sixteen personalities in total. It's remarkably accurate, even in the most intimate of details.

Gaining an understanding of ourselves is very useful, I think, and can aid us in understanding others too.

For example, my mum and I can drive each other to distraction at times. To illustrate, imagine I'm planning a party for example. Initially, the idea is one big picture for me, with lots of ideas, thoughts and brain-storming.

My mum, on the other hand, is unbelievably detail oriented, flagging up negatives, even though the plan is still just at the birth stage. I'm not going to lie, it drives me mad!

Reading about mum's personality type though, makes me feel a whole lot less angst at such moments. What I tend to perceive as pessimism is merely a scout like need to be prepared for all eventualities. Mum's character tends to tackle the logistics as opposed to my idealist, 'any thing's possible', abstract take on things.

Knowing this helps me see things from mum's side of the room. It also shows that each personality adds value and a special something to every event, conundrum or task.

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Anonymous Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 7:00am

"Mother" by Lennon is worth a listen. Peace and Love

Anonymous Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 8:22am

I like the sound of that book and might well get hold of a copy, Suzy! Thanks for today's post, it is thought provoking.

Julia Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 9:35am

I had to look up the words for this one although I have heard it many times! Sad lyrics but thank you for another Lennon moment this morning

Julia Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 9:45am

Interesting blog Suzy. (I really loved your Autumn one too). I wonder at what stage in our lives we begin to fit into one of the 16 categories and whether we dip in and out of them throughout our lives. I am wondering if we are born this way and inherit many characteristics or whether we develop personas as we respond to situations we find ourselves in. Maybe its the way we respond to life events that is determined by one of the 16 characters. I always have problems answering questions which might determine my personality though. I obviously need to read the book!

Mary M Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 11:42am

The David Kiersey book is based around Carl Jung's Personality Types and the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (trademark & copyright) MBTI is the original questionnaire, published by CPP in the US. It's great value is the perception and acknowledgement of differences and though we may have a 'true' type, learning about the 'opposites' helps us to understand, be aware and interact better with others. So useful in communicating effectively, teamwork, relationships and business. It's a fascinating developmental model and I've seen it work really well myself and with others - I encourage you to read more ! Enjoy !

Julia Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 12:47pm

Thank you very much for this Mary M. It's very helpful. Someone once did the Myers Briggs questionnaire for me. Another person who comes to mind more in the work/ employment context is Belbin.
He basically says that employers should place employees in positions within the workforce which suited their personalities.It's all very interesting. Thanks again.

Gitanjali Sondhi Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 4:20pm

I would like to get this book. But I found part I and part II are available. Which one is the one you refer to?

Mary M Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 7:07pm

Belbin is very useful as you say, especially relating to how we behave in team situations eg little point in having lots of 'ideas' people if they never get 'implemented' - Belbin terminology is 'shapers' and 'completer-finishers'. Their training encourages individuals to 'adopt' roles required to achieve the tasks and it's very practical organisationally. Type theory feels deeper to me in that it can provide realistic explanations for how we beahve differently when we are under pressure, are unwell or stressed. Type practitioners can help individuals when they become 'stuck' by facilitating ways of moving forward. It can offer real insights for people with mental health conditions as it throws light on the complex nature of our personality. In particular, it describes how we all have some less conscious aspects from time to time, and it can be very worthwhile to become better acquainted with these in order to deal with such episodes in a less upsetting way.You're welcome !

Anonymous Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 9:53pm

I found this book interesting however I think the focus is upside down. Instead of trying to understand eachother by our differences to create empathy and compassion, I think it more effective to understand eachother by our similarities and the fact that we are all connected on a quantum level to one another-see scientists and sages channel on you tube if you dont understand this. As soon as a person can understand not themselves or others, but alternatively the universe and all that is in it as a ''whole"one will understand that there is no ''other". The science of noetics (study of consciousness) explains this as does simple explanations of quantum theory-as well as authors like Bruce Lipton a biologist who explains that our cells are not actually programmed and reacting simply to DNA but to environmental factors. Getting boggled up in details trying to differentiate one from another can be interesting, perhaps enlightening and amusing but ultimately all we need to realize is that we are all one-literally-with eachother, each object that exists and the entire solar system on a micro cellular level-thus annoyance with someone is realized to be annoyance with the self as well, and any negative thoughts directed at others are ones directed at ourselves-because there is no other. Once one realizes this one is much less prone to adverse reactions toward people with different habits and styles naturally-without needing to know their ''type'' or ''source'' ""why"" they are the way they are-this becomes needless objectivication, differentiation, and study of a person-one is more consumed with compasssionate thoughts for the whole because one knows that one is "but a droplet in the sea" and that the best way to help others, get along with people, change the world and create positive change in general is to focus on our own areas we can improve on-the language is difficult to understand for some because one still uses words like '"focus on yourself and how you can be a more compassionate person'' but one really understands that there is really no ''other'' or ''self'' at all. Confused yet? its pretty simple really-but hard to explain to people who don't have a grasp of shared consciousness-instead of trying to ''undrstand'' and study why my mom does this or that in order to create understanding and empathy, simply remind yourself "We are all infinitely connected" and automatic compassion and empathy occur, even more so over time naturally as one ''feels'' the connection to the whole by focusing on being a gentle loving being part of a greater being which includes everyone

Suzy Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 10:07pm

Part II :o)

Anonymous Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 10:16pm

Basically the book is concerned with the ego-which is the realm of personality traits-and compartmentalizes people, as well as makes the observer operate in a lower vibrational frequency, however once the ego is transcended these traits are irrelavent as consciousness evolves to a higher level of limitless compassion:)) Personally my depression symptoms I realize, can not exist when I am in this higher state of consciousness because the "I" disappears thus anything concerned with the self, i dont have this, I dont like this feeling, I want this, I dont want that, I feel annoyed by this, I feel sad by that-all the statements start with I, but when "I" or ''the ego mind" is let go of my mood improves significantly-usually with meditation however it is a gradual process at least for me, and I still get sucked into the ego and thus depression. For some it is a gradual process, and for others, a simple quantum leap in perception-depending on the person. I wish it was a simple quantum leap for me but that has not occurred-yet.

Anonymous Fri, Sep 27th 2013 @ 11:16pm

Interesting post and musings today Suzy. Oh the workings of the human psyche!

Julia Sat, Sep 28th 2013 @ 7:18am

Yes we are all trying to forge our way on this planet so we should really have the same goals,values etc and feel that connection. If only there were no egotistical leaders who seem to think that killing other people is the way forward. I can't stand the desire to kill people with different religious beliefs. Crazy and ignorant. Once wars stop, maybe everyone will feel that connection you talk about. Interesting view anonymous. I like it!

Anonymous Sat, Sep 28th 2013 @ 8:05am

Yes most wars are about resources and religious hatred. I feel the connection despite that though and the wars and little wars and other arguments about minutiae just empower me more to be connected to the energy field so I can affect these things in a positive way-and simultaneously transcend my own ego which pulls me in to depression, negativity and judgement of others.peace to everyone ! We can change the negative energy that fuels war one thought, one loving gesture at a time!

Julia Sat, Sep 28th 2013 @ 8:50am

Agreed! Spot on brother (or sis)

Gitanjali Sondhi Sun, Sep 29th 2013 @ 10:41am

Thank you :) Will order it right away :)

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