Moodscope's blog



Playing the Strong Card. Monday December 9, 2013

Here's the thirteenth in the series of excellent blogs by Lex covering the adjectives on the 20 Moodscope cards. Please don't forget we'd love you to add any ideas, tips, insights or advice you may have that you'd like to share with other Moodscope members that might be of help. Many thanks. Caroline.

It's the turn of the "Strong" card. Moodscope defines this as: "Feeling able to cope with difficulties".

OK, I've got to come clean on this one – this is the card I personally find the hardest to give a high rating to. Why? Well even on my best day, it takes very little to reduce me to jelly. I cannot cope with difficulties - period. On reflection I think this comes down to simple accounting.

Basically, I'm bankrupt. I'm devoid of a sufficient "Emergency Fund" to cope with life's constant disappointments. So I'll need to borrow from you.

Would you lend me your strength? Would you lend me the strength of your friendship? The strength of your hand on mine when words cannot find a way? Would you invest your smile in me? I love its radiance, even when it seems I'm not responding. You are a star – a sun warming my heart on a cold day.

Would you give me your time? I cannot repay you for this. A moment of your attention – when you give the greatest gift: listening without criticism...or advice.

If you'll do this for me, I think I can be strong today.

And I'll be strong for you tomorrow.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment on our Blogspot:

Permalink  |  Blog Home


Anonymous Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 9:53am

Thanks so much for this simple and honest summary. Having been strong for others all of my life I too have no reserves, and find this often difficult to accept. As though speaking honestly about it is 'giving in', and somehow letting myself and everyone else down.
But it is as it is, and pretending to something that's not there is not beneficial in the long run.
It is very courageous to say how things really are, and I appreciate that you have done so.

Julia Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 10:08am

Yes I agree with Anonymous. It IS courageous of you Lex. Therein lies your strength

DawnCRitchie Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 10:11am

Wow, a very touching and very honest blog Lex. As one who always marks a 3 for strong without a doubt, I can't imagine how it must feel to have a low score. Your blog has been enlightening and I will take this on board.

Charlie Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 10:19am

Spot on. Strong is one of the most telling cards for me. And when weak, that's when, as Lex describes, the smile of a mate, the uncritical slobbery love of a hound, the offhand but still want you love of a cat, the resurrection of memories of a good time by the smell of a flower, sitting in some sunshine, the brief squeeze of your hand by your partner - all unspoken coz you can't speak, but o so supportive.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 10:22am

This is Beautiful and it made me cry (in a good way). Thank you

Lostinspace Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 12:52pm

I find this card really hard because I don't FEEL "strong" so I usually mark it as 1 but when the crises come along I deal with them. My family sees me as strong but I find no comfort or pride in that, it's a no choice thing. Sometimes I think I only have a limited supply of "strong" and if a crisis happens at the wrong time in the future I may just turn round and walk away. I'm getting real tired of "strong"! As you say the fuel that keeps me going is contact with a friend, a good long chat and a laugh about all the bad stuff that happens. What I love about Moodscope is sharing and hearing other people's comments and above all the honesty, no pretending here. Whoever hands out troubles doesn't use scales so what if the people we see as "strong" have just had more than their share of troubles and dealt with them? I don't know anybody that I would describe as "weak" so maybe we are all "strong" and deal with our problems in our own way?

The Entertrainer Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 1:41pm

Those are the loveliest comments I've seen yet folks... and made me cry again! But in a good way, as Mary says. One thing that hit me since writing this blog is my family motto: Manu Forti - which means "with a strong hand". My heart is, frankly, weak and tremulous, but I can still take action. I so relate to the idea of being strong for others... but it is REALLY GOOD to be authentic and in a pure sense 'intimate' with my Moodscope family.
I am now going to treat the cats with more respect - what you've written reminds me of the solace and strength I find in Mickey's purr and Mitsie's conversation. Not as responsive as dogs, but they kind of 'get' me in their feline way. Have a lovely day folks, you've made mine.

Julia Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 2:15pm

I agree with you Lostinspace. I always score high on this card and I think it's because I have managed to deal in my own way with all that life has thrown at me. I have protected others by dealing with it all myself and I kind of think that whatever happens to me, I can cope in the long run. I have made many many mistakes in my life, hit rock bottom at times through I guess my own choices, but have emerged a stronger person and despite what has happened I am still here living a normal life and not lying by the roadside!. I have no regrets except one perhaps that I should have looked after myself more along the way. You expressed it so well Lostinspace. I wouldn't have written this without your words above. BTW, can you let Caroline have your email address for me? She has mine. X

Damaranth Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 2:47pm

I needed this entry soo much today. Than you. Now I am strong.

Anonymous Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 4:01pm

Phenomenal message. Thank you!

Anonymous Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 4:43pm

A great "prayer" to give to moodscope buddies and friends. I'm often feeling so weak that 0 seems too high a number. I have been strong before and I will be again, in the meantime any help gratefully received! Thanks for the post. You are stronger than you think - maybe I'll be too.

The Entertrainer Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 5:21pm

That's why we've got each other - and somehow the anonymity can be comfoting as well. ;0)

You must login to leave a comment.

What is Moodscope?

Moodscope members seek to support each other by sharing their experiences through this blog. If you’d like to receive these daily posts by email, just sign up to Moodscope now, completely free of charge.

Moodscope is an innovative way for people to treat their own low mood problems using an engaging online tool. Anyone in the world can accurately assess and track daily mood scores over a period of time. We have proved that the very act of measuring, tracking and sharing mood can actually lift it. Join now.

Blog Archive


Posts and comments on the Moodscope blog are the personal views of Moodscope members, they are for informational purposes only and do not constitute medical advice. Moodscope makes no representations as to the accuracy or completeness of any information on this blog or found by following any of the links.

Moodscope will not be liable for any errors or omissions in this information nor for the availability of this information. The owner will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages from the display or use of this information.

We exist to help people to positively manage their moods. You can contribute by taking the test, sharing your experience on the blog or contributing funds so we can keep it free for all who need it.

Moodscope® is © Moodscope Ltd 2018. Developed from scales which are © 1988 American Psychological Association. Cannot be reproduced without express written permission of APA.