Playing the Scared card.

2 Dec 2013
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Here's the twelfth in the series of excellent blogs by Lex covering the adjectives on the 20 Moodscope cards. Please don't forget we'd love you to add any ideas, tips, insights or advice you may have that you'd like to share with other Moodscope members that might be of help. Many thanks. Caroline.

Today it's the turn of the 'Scared' card. Moodscope defines this as: "Feeling alarmed about something". Moodscope has a certain amount of doubling up for psychological validity. For this reason, there are overlapping ideas. I don't see much difference between this and the 'Afraid' card. As such, I'd recommend the same strategies we all shared on that card.

So, today, I'm going to go off-piste. I love words. 'Scared' is a simple anagram of 'Sacred'! Tickled by this, I wondered, "Is being scared ever sacred?" This led my thoughts back to the evolutionary value in this state of mind and body. Should we venerate this state of vulnerability?

Being scared is a life-saver. That's its evolutionary purpose – to keep you and me safe. In the UK we talk about being a 'scaredy-cat' - because cats are really good at being scared. They have good reason to be – the Universe is not always friendly. So what does a scaredy-cat do? The cat uses all its finely-tuned senses to check out the danger. It responds to the 'alarm' that the senses have triggered. If there's something there, the cat will then move away from the danger with feline grace. If there isn't danger, the cat will often shrug off the feeling and settle down to relax.

So, next time I'm feeling scared, I'm going to treat this as sacred – something valuable to venerate – and pretend I'm like a cat. I'm going to use this card as if it was a 'Code Blue' security alarm going off. I'll check out the perceived danger then respond. I'll move away from real danger, or return to my relaxed state. Whatever the result, I'm going to perceive the feeling of being alarmed as initially helpful – a call to pay attention.

Purrfect!

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Mary Blackhurst Hill

Dec. 2, 2013, 9:20 a.m.

Absolutely. Arch back, fluff up tail, extend whiskers to their fullest extent and pick one's way delicately on velvet feet. When it turns out to be a false alarm however, I absolutely refuse to sit down, flick out a leg and assiduously wash my toes! Seriously - we should treat our instincts with respect: they're right more often than we give them credit for.

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Anonymous

Dec. 2, 2013, 9:27 a.m.

Today's message - exposure to distress causes - how do you do that dealing with an Alzheimer sufferer? Life is permanently 'scary' don't know what is coming next, and cannot prepare. My 'mantra' think positive, stay cool, be kind

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The Entertrainer

Dec. 2, 2013, 11:10 a.m.

A permanent 'Scary' state is a different matter, isn't it? I know the nurses I used to work with had all developed an ability to dissociate themselves from the constant dealing with difficult situations. Part of that was having quite the most shocking sense of humour I've ever encountered! By laughing at even life's more challenging moments - they survived. Easy to say, hard to do, but a strategy that worked for so many of them.

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The Entertrainer

Dec. 2, 2013, 11:11 a.m.

Wonderful imagery, Mary!

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Anonymous

Dec. 2, 2013, 2:53 p.m.

How do you really get rid of the scared card ? Really?

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Melanie Lowndes

Dec. 2, 2013, 3:09 p.m.

I thought you were going to go a different way Lex. I thought about when I really want to do something and I am scared to do it - then I have to use courage to do it so scared is sometimes sacred - it shows when we are about to expand (grow) by overcoming being scared, doing or saying something when we are scared to do or say that thing. (Such as being truly honest with someone... etc)

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The Entertrainer

Dec. 2, 2013, 7:09 p.m.

That's a wonderful reframe, Melanie - thanks for that - something I can easily apply.

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Daren

Dec. 3, 2013, 12:59 a.m.

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” ? Eleanor Roosevelt

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