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Playing the 'Interested' card. Monday November 25, 2013

Here's the eleventh in the series of excellent blogs by Lex covering the adjectives on the 20 Moodscope cards. Please don't forget we'd love you to add any ideas, tips, insights or advice you may have that you'd like to share with other Moodscope members that might be of help. Many thanks. Caroline.

'Interested' - defined by Moodscope as: 'wanting to be involved in something'.

This is a lean-forward, edge-of-the-seat, cock-your-head-to-one-side type of mindset.

Notice how many of those phrases are physical. When we want to be involved, we naturally incline our body forward. When we want to listen attentively, we most often move our heads to an angled position – perhaps to get a better 'stereo' sound reference. Why we do it is not as important as the fact that we do it instinctively.

Psychology and Physiology are the best of friends. They 'agree' with one another. Every time you shift your posture – you have to change your mind. Why? Well I'm playing with words but what I mean is that you are triggering a different pathway – a different pattern of neurons. These patterns of 'thoughts' group together in clusters of associations. So, your body knows what position it should take if you feel uninterested just as much as your body knows the position it should take when you're interested.

So what? Well we do the Moodscope cards because often we are not interested in being involved in something. We've lost our Oomph! Our get-up-and-go, got-up-and-went!

My suggestion (and I'm looking forwards to your suggestions) is to run after our get-up-and-go! How? By moving. By moving our posture forward towards something. By breaking any pattern in our body posture that 'says' "I'm not interested."

Practically, if I'm finding it hard to stay engaged in a conversation, I deliberately sit up, move forward on my seat, lean forwards, and put my head to one side as if listening more attentively. I don't know how it works. I don't know why it works. But I do know that it does work.

When you change your (physical) attitude and position you change your (mental) attitude and position.

Assume the position!

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Julia Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 8:50am

I find the interested card one of the most difficult to answer meaningfully as I have to have one specific project or thing going on in my life to focus on when answering this card. Otherwise and most times when doing the cards, there's no one thing in my life with which I want to be involved although I do show an interest in lots of things, Moodscope (!), politics, music, friends, family,films, normal stuff. Perhaps the description of this card could be changed to something like, "showing an interest in life", something a bit more general. I hadn't really thought that my interest might increase with my body language though Lexi. Interesting!

The Entertrainer Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 9:13am

Thanks Julia for your suggestions - I actually think "Curious" would be a good card. I'm always curious (unless I'm really poorly). I do learn a lot from cats. They are curious as part of their cat psychology and physiology - and it really shows. Perhaps "curious" is the precursor to "interested"?

Julia Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 10:00am

Good idea. Very good idea in fact! A travel writer once wrote that the people of a certain country ( a post communist/ iron curtain country) she visited were cautious in the way they looked at you in the street but not curious. I have lived in the country she referred to and how right she was. Because of their political history they were scared to show any interest/ curiosity in anything publicly. They looked quite depressed (I am sure in the safety of their friends and family, they were a hoot and very jolly, mostly) What I am trying to illustrate is that if you are not curious about life and people, it could mean you are scared of life and the outside world. So good on you for thinking of a new card "curious" I like it.

carol Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 11:18am

As a wise person once said, 'a posture with intent, can enhance of prevent'

Lostinspace Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:04pm

This card is always a bummer for me, it draws attention to the fact that I am totally depressed but I am usually saved by my hobby which regulates which card I choose. I wasn't always like that but have no idea how to get it back. I've just been looking for the Reminder that mentioned fear but I can't find it. I live in Venezuela not nearly so bad as Syria or other places but extremely depressing to watch a country self destruct. The good stuff in my life is so far away that it is hard to focus on. I've had therapy and everyone tells me I am intelligent but none of it is helping now. Let's hope the awfulness of this post makes someone else feel better!! Sense of humour not quite totally out of the window. Have to say I was unwell yesterday and I am sure that contributes to my Eeyore attitude but I can write this because no-one knows who I am, lovely.

Anonymous Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:07pm

Excellent. It does work. Needed this visual image to just do it!

The Entertrainer Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:35pm

I'm a huge fan of the UK comedian, Kenny Everett... and Kenny was a huge fan of the smiley fruit: the Banana. It just struck me from your comment that a banana knows how to incline itself towards something! Daft, I know, but everytime I look at a banana this week, I've decided I'm going to laugh at its reminder of the power of inclination! Thank you folks that we can use this blog to chat to one another - even when I'm daft!

The Entertrainer Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:42pm

Doesn't this show how important anonymity is for those who choose it on Moodcope? You can tell it as it is. The lovely thing about the "Interested" card is that it doesn't restrict what you're interested in. Finding a hobby that fascinates, engages, and interests you is such a wonderful focus. I often ask myself, "Where is my attention?" Since I get more of what I pay attention to, the more I dwell on my not-inconsiderable problems, the more they seem to grow. The more I escape to my own hobbies, the more my 'problems' seem to gain a more appropriate proportion. What's your hobby - I'm interested?!

The Entertrainer Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:42pm

Love it!

The Entertrainer Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 1:43pm

"What's new, Pussy Cat?" ;0)

Silvia A Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 2:03pm

I always hesitate to answer some cards, because they are not clear to me. This is one of them.
Attentive and active are different but it seems alert stands between both. To be alert one must be attentive, and by the definition an immediate action should follow.
Interested can be also related to attention. In this sense, I think focused could be another definition besides curious. Interested as focused, absorbed, captivated. Or, if action is considered, engaged, involved.
I think enthusiastic and excited are similar. In this sense interested can be motivated, not bored.




Silvia A Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 2:13pm

To Lotinspace;
I can relate to what you see in this country as I live in South America, too.
You mentioned humour. I think a card related to humour is missing. Maybe if there is one I would pay more attention to it in my life. I am really getting results from answering this test every day.

Silvia A Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 2:35pm

I will just add to be inspired that can be motivated, too. However for me inspired is different. There are days when I have a new idea, (that comes out of blue), to improve something. It can be a daily task or the way I will talk to someone. This inspiration brings freshness, harmony and joy.To be inspired is different from to be interested.

Anonymous Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 6:00pm

I like the idea of matching our physical and emotional states. It reminds me of a colleague who used to work with school phobic young people. His theory was that their physical symptoms of panic needed to be matched to an activity so he literally ran, at speed with them to school. Worked for some and always made sense to me.

Julia Mon, Nov 25th 2013 @ 7:04pm

Hi Lostinspace. How long will you stay in Venezuela? Is it your native country? I get the impression it isn't. Venezuala to us Brits sounds a great country to visit but to live long term in a foreign country can for some people be very depressing (possibly depending on which country). I lived somewhere I could never in a million years relate to for 15 years and was the most depressed I have ever been and it wasn't even a foreign country! I always like your posts so am so sorry you are so depressed right now and so far away. Can you see any way of escaping? I did eventually escape and have never looked back, It was like a prison sentence living where I was forced to for 15 years. I wish we or I could help you more.

Lostinspace Tue, Nov 26th 2013 @ 1:47pm

I was really touched by the replies to my post, at first I couldn't find it and thought it might have been removed because I said where I live. My hobby is quilting and I just love it, fortunately in the good times I travelled a lot so I have a huge stash of fabric. Looks like "lock-down" here for a while but I am good for quilting supplies.
Julia, I have lived here since 1976 and am now 60 years old which I find much worse than anything in the menopause. I think this is because even if one lives to be 90 you are definitely on the home stretch and if the track is in the wrong country that's not funny. My 2 children were born here but are now safe in Europe. Venezuelans who don't know me at all and some who do a little always ask me why I don't leave. Well, the truth is we don't have the money to move and live in another country and if I did a runner I would be homeless which is not an enticing prospect at my age. I think one of the worst things is pretending, the people here are incredibly money orientated and would just not believe that for various reasons we have no savings. I do have a Venezuelan neighbour who knows my situation and she is lovely, a great comfort and good friend. I've lived through a lot of their history here and used to find it very interesting but am now very fed up with them, I often wonder if I would have the same attitude to all the weird goings on in the U.K.
The other thing I do is listen to loads of Pod-casts from BBC and that keeps me informed.
One thing I will ask and I don't know if someone goes back and reads the posts from previous days. I visited England in June, a doctor there said I was depressed and put me on Wellbutrin. I don't find it very effective and wonder if anyone else has info about that. I was on Paxil once which puts a pretty thick curtain between you and reality which I got fed up with and getting off it was awful. Exercise helps me a lot. For Silvia who lives in South America, I agree that humour is important. So much of what goes on here is incredible, ridiculous and daft! Actually, the Monty Python crew could garner a lot of material here in a couple of days.

Julia Wed, Nov 27th 2013 @ 9:06am

Hi Lostinspace. Thank you for this. Getting old is a bummer I totally agree. If you would like my email address, you could ask Caroline for it. Or we can continue talking to each other via the blogs as now. x

Silvia A Wed, Dec 11th 2013 @ 12:07am

Lostinspace,
I usually go back and read again old posts : )

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