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Piglet and Pooh – Over to You. Friday August 21, 2015

"Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. "Pooh!" he whispered. "Yes, Piglet?" "Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. "I just wanted to be sure of you." A A Milne

How many of us struggle to 'feel' connected to others when we are down, maybe even when are 'OK'?

How many of us tend not to show affection by hugging when you meet, taking someone's hand or simply touching, say their shoulder?

I know my father could not touch me at all, even when I was depressed. Once I drove 2 hours to see if I could get a hug, to also give me something to do while badly depressed and suicidal and he still could not hug me even when asked.

That was a result of his harsh background and being beaten by his mother. His 'rules' when he had been drinking, were his fists. He did however, do the best with what he had. I wasn't beaten all the time, only when he was drinking and I did something that was not acceptable to him. So basically my mother 'held my hand' and we moved out.

A kind word, an affectionate touch, a listening ear, a show of empathy even of the simplest kind, can change a whole day or even a relationship for life for someone. It shows you are thinking/feeling outside of your own mind and space. It also shows, that you can 'see' and probably gauge the emotions of those around you - a sign of good emotional intelligence.

You may even be balanced enough to challenge someone about their poor behaviour and while creating some 'discomfort' in that instant, possibly help that person see that what they are doing or even being, is not acceptable. Good leaders and mentors are always serving in this way from a strong foundation of personal or organisational values.

Since children learn only three ways; firstly example, secondly example and thirdly example... they will really only 'learn' by your example and how you treat your partner, friends or fellow colleagues. Thus by what you do, NOT what you say.

Leadeship expands the future, management controls the present.

Which are you portraying though your character and behaviours?

As time seems to rush by even faster each year, do you have enough presence to take time to grow and develop others, by physically or metaphorically holding their hand? Thus enabling them to grow their and their family's future potential and thus improving society.

Who can you 'serve' today by doing or should it be 'being' a Piglet?

"If something comes to life in others because of you, then you have made an approach to immortality." Norman Cousins

Les
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Alice Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 6:47am

"Sometimes" said Pooh "the smallest things take up the most room in your heart".

Thank you Les, to me, those small things are actually the biggest and most meaningful. Kindness, contact, steadfastness, consideration, listening, even just a smile. To me, this is why we are.

Annette Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 7:09am

Thankyou this was great reading and makes so much sense.I compare myself to Eyeore and Tigger depending on my mood.Having felt like Eyeore for sometime and wishing the support of piglet .I have now bounced back to feeling like Tigger.Long may it last.

Les Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 9:56am

Thanks Alice x4

I agree some of the smallest things are the largest as it means others are thinking about us and not themselves - they are truly humans 'being' human.



Les Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 9:57am

Hi Annette

Keep bouncing......even saying the word Tigger kinda brings a smile :-)

Julia Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 12:00pm

Anyone who likes Winnie the Pooh is a friend of mine and you certainly are Les. Only yesterday I sent this you tube clip of Tigger bouncing to someone
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
It says a lot..I'm the wonderful Tigger cos I'm the only one (something like that anyway). Your piglet quote is wonderful Les. just wonderful. You could have chosen one of many but the fact you chose this one says so much about you and how you feel.And thank you for the Norman Cousins quote

Les Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 12:42pm

Hi Julia

Thanks for that and for the Tigger clip.....such overt exuberant extrovert energy.....how many of us allow life to weaken our 'spring'?

Tigger types as Norman Cousins would say touch immortality or in my words 'leave a legacy' through those that they both affect and effect.

Kate Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 12:50pm

Thank you for all your wise words, I have found you ring a cord with me every time

Les Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 1:43pm

Hi Kate

Lovely - appreciated.....

Sally Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 3:27pm

Thank you, Les. Very thought provoking post, I love it! Have been musing about some of your words because I need to challenge someone's bad behaviour.

Les Fri, Aug 21st 2015 @ 3:54pm

Hi Sally

Now make sure when you challenge someone's bad behaviour that you do it with the best 'INTENT'.

Your intent for the feedback to be 'received', is to help the person and not to prove they are wrong and/or you are right!

Check out SBI Feedback - Situation / Behaviour / Impact. Google it - it makes sure that the person cannot take things personally and you are not seeking to prove a point; simply help them improve their behaviour.

Good luck.

Kate Sat, Aug 22nd 2015 @ 9:31am

I've just watched the 'Tigger' clip & it's really put a smile on my face, think I should watch it every morning!

Di Sat, Aug 22nd 2015 @ 3:30pm

Dearest Les ~
I am hugging you. I am holding your hand. I am touching your strong shoulder.

I am very very late.
Lovingly,
Di who loves you no matter what

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