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Physical things to bring comfort. Sunday August 30, 2015

When depression holds you up against a wall and demands your money or your life there is sometimes very little we can do. The all-encompassing iron cloak pins us down and knowing that we want not to be under it is sometimes the only thing we have. But we can put cushions around us to help the blows. Maybe something from this list will help. It's random, but even one thing from it might bring a physical comfort and from that a tiny thing might change. It's not going to make a waterfall from a trickle but when you are being held up against a wall, even a penny in your pocket is something.

1. Going somewhere high, even in the car if walks are too much. Looking down over a town or a valley can give you that feeling of rising above your problem.

2. Washing off the day – a quick bath, at any hour, can make a new start.

3. Shedding work clothes and putting on soft stuff. It's a hug in its own way and who cares if its 4pm.

4. Food – it really does help to make food an occasion. If cooking is beyond you, even a plate of your favourite nibble stuff is good. Personally: parma ham, rocket, basil oil, big mug of tea and something sweet, all on the same plate.

5. Eat that food somewhere new. In the bath. Outside. On a chair at the window with the window open. In the shed. In the car. In the hall on the floor. Anywhere but your usual place.

6. Put the pillows at the other end of the bed and sleep that way. It shows your body things can be different.

Try something. And do let me know if it helped. Or if it didn't!

Love from

The room above the garage.
A Moodscope member.

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Silvia Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 10:52am

Hi Room above the garage - very helpful - varying the little daily things you do, having breakfast in the garden, cooking yourself a nice meal for two days, shopping somewhere different can all make you feel as if you are not in a rut. And doing the things you love like brushing the cat and looking after your animals are the sustaining routines which are always satisfying, a good routine in contrast to one which makes you feel oppressed. Sometimes a routine is best, at other times doing things a bit different lifts your mood a tiny bit higher, enough to keep going with a little optimism in your heart.
take care, Silviaxxx

The Gardener Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 11:07am

Reaction! My mother hated picnics, even tea in the garden. I rebelled, and with our family packed anything in the fridge (often impractical) into plastic bags and off to river or woods. Two of or family (to help Mum or stop our disreputable ways) gave us superb picnic 'kits'. This allowed 'crazy' picnics. Damask cloth, flowers, candles,champagne, a picnic table kindly supplied by the local council near a salmon leap under a 12th century bridge. The grown-ups saw themselves as something out of an impressionist painting, the grand-children leapt in and out of the river, whilst grazing on the goodies. So, while there is still summer, grab a rucksack and get out there!

Bearofliddlebrain Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 11:10am

Hi RATG, brilliantly simple things that any of us can manage when low. I know that eating somewhere different around the house or garden makes a difference as well as eating off a different plate or bowl: I cheer myself up by using 'posh' cutlery and crockery or having my cuppa in my mother-in-law's china cup and saucer! Using cloth napkins instead of a serviette!

Simple things but often effective....now I must try the pillow thing, but must remember to move husbands pillow too and warn him!!! Mind you, we have no footboard at the bottom of the bed - I wonder who will lose their pillow first...or worse...fall out!!!??
Lol! Thank you, x

Anonymous Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 11:11am

Hello TRATG,
Very many thanks for your suggestions on softening the blows. Your compassionate and optimistic turn of phrase delivers relief and amuses as I sit on the stairs, drowning in a sea of paper. Apart from an indoor bonfire, opportunities to make filing more comfortable, physically and mentally, appear limited. Hopefully, however, seeing the carpet emerge, centimetre by centimetre,will provide incentive enough to continue so that ultimately I will be able to lie down...Go well.

Brum Mum Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 2:16pm

Thank you, RATG, for reminding me of what are my own comforts.....for me sitting in bed or on the sofa with a fleecy blanket is like that warm hug you describe. It's about loving ourselves....today I walked round a beautiful kitchen garden after coffee with my boyfriend. Beautiful surroundings are a pleasure we should all indulge in if it helps us get better.

Di Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 7:06pm

Dearest Room Above the Garage ~
Lah! What fun to read your posting ~ and what lovely ideas. Sometimes I light candles in the bath, put on soft music, and take a Japanese soaking bath with salts (no jets). Then I put on fresh nightclothes and go back to bed with great reading materials.

I also reallyed like The Gardener's ideas.
I like the way your brain works!
Lovingly, Di

Lex Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 8:00pm

This is just so helpful.
L'xx

Lex Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 8:01pm

Looking at Di's comment, I felt led to share that I have a private jet. The others in the bath belong to my Mum.

F Sun, Aug 30th 2015 @ 10:09pm

Hi RATG

SO lovely to read you ... I have missed you ... hope things are going ok (ish!)
Just love your "Physical things to bring comfort".
Thank-you for your timely reminder of making food an occasion ... so true ...
Frankie

Jo Mon, Aug 31st 2015 @ 8:08am

This is so great ideas,very helpful.Thank you jo x

the room above the garage Mon, Aug 31st 2015 @ 9:09am

Hello everyone, I've been swamped with summer holidays and although I've read daily (and there were some crackers which really helped me on the days i was thoroughly overwhelmed!) I haven't been commenting much at all. What a lovely welcome back, thank you! Pillows at the other end of the bed is something an old boyfriend and I would do on those Sunday nights we couldn't sleep (because we'd slept in until lunchtime). I think the confusion that occurs in your body when you realise you are in the dark but that you're not where you think you are, is enough to take the brain away from the thinking and sleep would often follow with ease. Hello Frankie! Lex, that was a 'splattered my tea out my nose' moment as I thought of you sitting in the bath, with bubbles and planes, and your mum sitting at the tap end!!!!! Love it. I thank you for the image which I will carry with me in my top pocket for all eternity to be brought out in moments of great need! :-D Happy day to everyone if indeed you have popped back in here. Love from the room x.

Amanda Mon, Sep 14th 2015 @ 4:12pm

Just back online after a vacation ... changing clothes when coming home from work is a must for me. I also have an allotment and just being there for half an hour every couple of days in the fresh air and amongst growing things is a great pick-me-up.

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