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Out of the blue. Friday December 2, 2016

It was a beautiful late spring afternoon and we were driving home after buying some great books for my shop. We were smiling and chatting when out of the blue, a gigantic red kangaroo lunged in front of our car.

I am not talking about a cute kangaroo that you see as a soft toy or a clever kangaroo like Skippy (wonders whether moodscopers ever saw Skippy the bush kangaroo on TV!). So this is a Jaws of the kangaroo world with a tail so powerful it could flatten a few humans at once and wreck a car.

My partner had no time to think he just swerved the car and an accident was averted.

My partner had to make a split second decision.

Nothing could have prepared him for this. We just looked at each other and thought about a few what ifs. What if my partner had not been able to move away from the kangaroo, what if the kangaroo had jumped on our car.

In our lives there are times when something happens out of the blue. There is no planning or preparation for some events. There is no time to think. To consider options. One must just act and hope for the best.

When something has happened suddenly out of the blue to you, what did you do? How did you feel afterwards?

The Australian Tourist bureau has asked - well told me to reassure you that most kangaroos are friendly.!! I would still be cautious of the big red kangaroos.

Leah
A Moodscope member

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Tychi's Mum Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 3:19am

Good morning everybody...the post-crash insomnia continues...
Leah I loved this blog. It reminded me of my honeymoon in Australia travelling along the Great Ocean Road.
Also, it reminded me of how easily things can change in life. It's easy to say when I feel well, but it really is important to count your blessings and live in the moment...for at any given moment your whole world can change.
My depression came completely out of the blue. I knew that I didn't feel well but I had no idea that I was depressed. When my GP diagnosed it and offered me anti-depressants I could hardly believe what I was hearing. I'm naturally a sunny, happy and optimistic person. How could this black cloud have descended on me without any obvious cause? I was depressed about being depressed!
Four years down the line I am only just learning to live with it and accept that it may well be a permanent feature in my life. Moodscope has helped me in this process and I am so grateful to all of the bloggers and commenters. Thank you one and all.
Wishing you all a sunny, happy day filled with at least a tiny fragment of optimism. For those of us that are struggling...it will pass...it will pass...it will pass...
Tychi's Mum

Mary Wednesday Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 6:51am

Oh TM, I so understand when you say you are naturally a sunny, happy,optimistic person. Yup - me too! Like you, I was shocked when my GP suggested that I had depression; I thought I just needed a good old fashioned "tonic"!

Tutti Frutti Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:33am

TM sorry I forgot to look out the book I mentioned yesterday. I will set myself a reminder. love TF x

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:13am

Tychi's mum, I like the way you write so honestly and with passion. I suppose I have always been serious my mum said even as a baby I was very thoughtful and glum!! My problem was being convinced that I was not happy but manic. I wondered how could feeling so good be so bad! You explain your feelings so well and it must be hard for you to understand depression when you see yourself as such a sunny person. Thanks for your kind words.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:14am

Mary, I have often wished there was a tonic too so I would not feel so tired.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:55pm

Tychi's mum I just read your comment in yesterdays blog about the link I sent. I am not sure if doing the test helps you. Some people take ages to get the right treatment that helps them. Hang in there. This a great place for support.

Michael Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 10:20pm

I thought I had mild to moderate depression and I was equally shocked at my first psychiatric out patient appt when my psych told me that it was in fact severe. I felt bewildered because I was supposed to be an "expert" in diagnosing mental health problems. But then in psychology, there are blindspots, denial, projection etc etc. I'm sure one day the diagnosis will be assisted with blood tests, functional MRI scans etc. But for now it is still easily missed and overlooked by patients and health care profs alike.

Tutti Frutti Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 11:18pm

Book I mentioned is by Monica Ramirez Basco. Love TF x

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 11:55pm

Michael, I wonder why I have not met such an understanding health professional as you seem to be in over 40 years of having a label! Do you think you have more understanding since you have experienced depression for yourself or have you always been understanding?

Leah Sat, Dec 3rd 2016 @ 12:04am

TF I bought that book a while ago but in my disorganised mess I have mislaid it- maybe that reveals a lot that even a book can't help!!

Tychi's Mum Wed, Dec 7th 2016 @ 8:24am

Thank you for that TF. I will be odering the book today....

Tychi's Mum Wed, Dec 7th 2016 @ 8:24am

*ordering!

Tychi's Mum Wed, Dec 7th 2016 @ 8:34am

Thank you all for your wonderful comments. I really am finding great support and insight from this fabulous Moodscope family x

Leah Fri, Dec 9th 2016 @ 12:43am

Tychi's mum, Thank you for your honest comments. I find Moodscope a safe soft place to land.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:00am

Oh indeed Leah. A couple of months ago my husband was driving home from the garage, having just paid £800 to mend our elderly and much loved Volvo (we were determined to take Sylvester to 200k miles) when he came round a corner to find another car only yards away on the wrong side of the road. No time to do anything and - CRUNCH!!!!! The police said they were amazed that both drivers just walked away without serious injury. Everything could have changed for our family in a heartbeat. But it didn't and we are grateful. We now have Cyrus in our family. And yes - he's another Volvo!

Mary Wednesday Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:02am

And - those roos may be friendly, but they're still mighty big!

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:16am

Mary Thanks for sharing your story. I wonder if people in Uk used to make jokes about Volvo drivers as they did here in the 1980s!!I hope Cyrus as a long life with your family. Interesting you gave your car a male name when in Australia when name cars with femaile names.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:17am

Mary I would never get close to a big kangaroo to see whether it was friendly!!

Sally Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:31am

A great blog, Leah. Makes you think... I have had several such moments, the worst when I was travelling at speed on a motorway, and it began to pour . I couldn't find the windscreen wipers in my husband's car! Oh, the panic!! For a few seconds as I was blinded and couldn't see out of the front window, I really, really thought "this is it", I'm going to crash and die. It was horrible. Eventually, something clicked and I found them, in a different place to where they are in my car, but I shall never forget that feeling. The worst! I was so grateful to have been spared, I can't tell you!

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:18am

Thanks Sally I can feel your panic in your words. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Sue Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:36am

Morning all. I normally only read the posts but have been drawn out by another Volvo lover. Also other people with such sunny dispositions. I remember a certain old red estate Volvo, love at first sight,the size of the boot and general old fashioned carness of it. The times bits fell of and I just kicked them under the car so nobody noticed, that car had character!!

A BIG thank you to all who post here, it's the best help, giver of ideas and understanding.

A good reminder today! Make the most of it, even if it is a cold wet day in England, the thought of a Kangaroo jumping out on me gives the trip to work new meaning!

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:19am

Sue Welcome.I am glad you wrote today and that Volvos prompted you to join in. I hope to read more of your comments when you feel so inclined.

Tutti Frutti Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:52am

We once had a similar experience to your kangaroo one when we narrowly avoided crashing into a moose when driving through Maine some years ago. Again as far as I know moose are well intentioned but they emerge straight out of the trees into the road without warning and without looking left and right - and they are extremely heavy. No one comes off well if you crash a car into a moose as you break its legs and it lands on the car roof. We were pretty shaken up. I was also very relieved that my general level of anxiety about possible threats had proved useful for once. The moose seemed completely unperturbed and strolled across the road. Love TF x

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:23am

TF
what a interesting story. I think a moose would be pretty terrifying. I have never seen one. I liked the last line,
The moose seemed completely unperturbed and strolled across the road.

Is that what happens after a scare, life goes on.

Kunang Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:52am

Feeling very blue today as my moodscope is not working despite trying to use it several times and even phoning the phone number given. I realise that I have come to rely on moodscope almost every day. Have written to the support mail but no reply forthcoming either. Wonder what has happened.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 10:21am

kunang I am sorry that moodscope isnt working for you. It must be very frustrating. I hope someone cn help you soon. Take care

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 10:25am

Kunang they are having problems with the website and are trying to fix them.

the room above the garage Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 1:13pm

Hello Kunang, it will come back on, as Leah said there were some issues I understand. If you can still see these comments remember there is usually someone around here to reply if you need to talk. And maybe you can take courage that even though Moodscope is your coping mechanism...you actually dealt with that loss by reaching out to help yourself. That's great and shows your inner strength. I hope you're feeling better, love ratg x.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:31pm

Ratg, Your comments once again show the compassion and helpfulness of moodscopers. Thanks.

Hopeful One Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 10:37am

Hi Leah- perhaps something we don't appreciate is that the only thing certain about our life ,apart from death and taxes,is that it is uncertain. I have a special place in my mind marked 'stuff happens' . And it can happen fast like your kangaroo. When one approaches life with this mindset then one is slightly more prepared , a little more cautious. One won't stop stuff happening but there is a chance one will be better prepared and less likely to be taken by surprise. I am the first to admit that it is not a panacea but it woks for me.

Warning : This joke contains incorrect PC material.

A man was driving when he saw the flash of a traffic camera. He figured that his picture had been taken for exceeding the limit, even though he knew that he was not speeding. Just to be sure, he went around the block and passed the same spot, driving even more slowly, but again the camera flashed. Now he began to think that this was quite funny, so he drove even slower as he passed the area again, but the traffic camera again flashed. He tried a fourth time with the same result. He did this a fifth time and was now laughing when the camera flashed as he rolled past, this time at a snail's pace.

Two weeks later, he got five tickets in the mail for driving without a seat belt.

the room above the garage Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 1:14pm

:-D Xx

Jul Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 4:04pm

Ha Ha! Jul xx

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:35pm

Hopeful one, Thanks, I like that stuff happens saying. It is like the saying 'To expect the unexpected'. Your philosophy works for me.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:36pm

The joke was not what I expected- especially with the PC warning and the word flashing!!!!

Tychi's Mum Wed, Dec 7th 2016 @ 8:28am

I love it!

Jul Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 12:05pm

Hi Leah. That sounds terrifying. A lucky escape. Do you get many red kangaroos? I always imagine them grey. My depression didn't appear like a thunderbolt one day but sort of gradually appeared or developed like slow osmosis. Maybe I never put a name to it in the early years as it was just me. I guess I have become more self aware over the years and so many labels have appeared to diagnose a condition. So I can't see a before and after depression. Out of the blue things have happened to me though and coincidentally they have been incidents on the roads. I have felt shaken afterwards and happy to have survived! Love Jul xx

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:39pm

Thanks Jul for your comment. There are more greay than red kangaroos that added to the surprise element. It is interesting to read how depression came into your life and how you approached it. Survving an incident sure feels wonderful. Take care xx

the room above the garage Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 1:20pm

Leah that would have been terrifying! And Sally your experience too. I had a driving one where my accelerator stuck down (on the motorway) but it was over so quickly that I wasn't traumatised...it may have been the car mat had ended up on top of it but I was never sure. I find the more serious the 'out of the blue' moment is, the better I cope. It's a few months on when I crash and the walls come tumbling down. I haven't yet fixed that but awareness is key I guess. Thank you Leah, and I'm glad you are ok! I was a Skippy fan...even had a melamine plate... :-)

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 7:42pm

Room above the garage, Thanks for your comment. I can relate to coping at the time but months later falling apart. I find that people find that hard to understand and they say but that was months ago. My mind is just processing it all and it takes months to work it out. I would treasure that melamine plate- skippy memorabilia are worth a bit. I sold an old Skippy annual a while ago and the value has gone up!!

Eva Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:00pm

RATG I totally get that, I can cope and cope and cope and then come apart. Part of it I think is that maybe you find a space where it's safe to fall apart so you do...? Also for me, the capacity to cope and juggling every day living eventually wears out my resources so then I fall over. With my recent experience it was almost a year and a quarter after my dad died. Leah I'm so glad you missed Red Roo both for yourselves and for him/her and selfishly for us. TF I have heard that moose have quite small brains a large part of which is the amygdala so they can get quite cross at the drop of a hat. But I did hear a lovely story about an old moose who got drunk eating fallen apples in a beer garden, apparently he had a 1000 yard stare and fairy lights caught up in his antlers.

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:10pm

Eva, thanks for your reply. For some of us is true that we cope for so long then it is too much and we fall apart or is it because we have been so strong for so long that we eventually crash. I think as you say the juggling and the coping just wears one out. I like the image of the drunken moose.Not that I ever seen a moose in real life!! I do remember a funny Woody Allen joke involving a moose! I think I may know a few people who are like a moose- getting cross at the drop of a hat and with a small brain!!

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 8:13pm

Eva, After my mum died many years ago, I didnt cry at her funreal and kept going for about 4 motnhs until one I burst into tears in the frozen section of the supermarket. As I said wrote before people seem to be more supoortive when you crash at the time of something happening- month later they find it hard to relate. Did you find that?

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 9:27pm

Thanks everyone who read or replied especially since there were troubles with the website. There is still lots of time to comment as I always keep an eye to see if there are new comments.
Gardener. I was sure you would have a mooose and/or kangaroo anecdote. Cheers.

LP Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 11:00pm

Hi Leah,
I noticed the glitch this morning too. Thanks for your thoughtful blog, what a shock that must have been!
It's the "small" stuff that sets me off, if I feel put upon in some way in an unguarded moment. Situations that I dont have control over or a say in that impose on me in some way. They can come out of the blue and occupy my head for ages because I'm angry...
I liked how your blog ended a good reminder for me to try not to sweat the small stuff. It evokes some powerful feelings though so not as easy as it sounds! LPxx
Ps TG was up early collecting people from the airport and entertaing 50 people! Awesone!

Leah Fri, Dec 2nd 2016 @ 11:57pm

LP firstly your blog yesterday elicited such amazing comments and ideas. Were you pleased or surprised? I am always inspired by the topics you come up with.

Linda Mon, Dec 5th 2016 @ 6:37am

Leah,
Sorry for the late reply but I also had problems trying to reply.
This reminded me of 3 weeks ago when I just had major surgery,
in recovery I couldn't breath & I begged them to save me,
after 30 years of bi polar rollercoaster I'm on a high & I needed to survive.
My husband was driving me home on the motorway after being discharged from
Hospital a lorry with a trailer braked & jackknifed in front of us, the lorry swerved
so badly it went to topple over right into our lane, somehow the driver controlled
this but my heart was in my mouth! It was terrifying, but an accident was averted!
I had my angel on my shoulder protecting me -it was not my time to leave & I was so thankful.
How wonderful for you to live in a place with these wild animals roaming free, but I can understand
your horror of that time & I am glad you were safe!
Linda

Leah Mon, Dec 5th 2016 @ 7:59am

Linda
What a time you had. I am glad it turned out all right. Sorry you have been unwell.
thanks for taking time to reply.

Leah

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