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Objects with meaning. Tuesday January 10, 2017

I read about a recent exhibition titled a History of the world in 100 objects. It is fascinating to think about how objects have affected the history of the world, the history of a country, and history of our lives.

I was thinking about the part objects have played in my life and in my recovery.

I didn't want to overthink, so I just wrote my list quickly:

My mother's raincoat

A jumper I knitted for my daughter when I was pregnant.

A letter from my dad.

I have a raincoat that my mother bought when she was pregnant with me. I feel a connection to my mother and find it comforting.

As people will know from a previous blog, Unfinished Business,(26 August 2016) I have trouble completing projects. So this small misshapen badly knitted red baby jumper that I finished gives me hope that I can complete things.

On a bit of lined paper torn from a note pad, are the last words my dad wrote to me. He finished with words love you muchly, as he loved making up words and when I think of him I think of muchly.

I am interested what you would put in your list? What comes to mind without overthinking?

So please join my exhibition of objects that mean something to Moodscopers - you also know I am not good at titles!!

It can be one object or a list. You can just write a list or you can say what meaning that object had/has in your life.

Sometimes an object can tell a story about our lives that we may have forgotten.

Leah
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Anne Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 5:49am

Thanks for your blog Leah...it's got me thinking...what has meaning for me?

A puzzle ring that was my dads - it's all I have since he died and it's a quick way to access fond (er) memories....

A clockwork bear that I played with as a child... connection to memories of hours with my nan..

Memories - people, places and things...Thank you for reminding me that I can find comfort and I'm not alone. ????

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 8:56am

Thanks for your comment Anne.I think objects connect us to memories of people who are no longer with us.

Molly Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 6:35am

When I was a kid, I had a comfort blanket with that silk bit on the edge. Then one day, I think we were on holiday, I saw a basket full of little cuddly bunnies with silky ears. I decided that if I was allowed to have one, it could replace my blanket, as I was getting a bit too old for a blanket. I mean I was 35 by this time. Just joking!! But anyway, I was bought this bunny, my parents relieved I think, to get rid of the grubby blanket. I called him silky ears. All his fur and silky ears fell off eventually, through stroking, cuddling, goodness knows what I did to the poor thing, he didn't even have a head left. So I was bought another, and another, and another...four in total. As I got older, each one remained more intact. I still have them all!! Put them in a row and you can see what order they came in. The last one still even has his silky ears.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 8:58am

Molly I like the way you warite and your sense of humour. I can picture yourbunnies with their silky ears. it would make a lovely photo. I hope the memories of the silky ears have helped you a little.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 8:58am

write !! Thanks for your comment and taking time to reply, Leah

the room above the garage Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 12:51pm

This is lovely Molly :-) I have a similar thing going on with my son. One day I may box-frame them all in their various states.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:46pm

Ratg I think a framing them would be a lovely idea.

Molly Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 11:51pm

Thank you Leah and Ratg. I did actually think a photo would be good, with a caption or a poem ! Not sure what I would do with it, maybe put it on the wall, or box frame is a good idea, but I don't suppose I would get round to it right now. But yes it was nice to re-live these memories, things you have almost forgotten xx

Jane Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:48am

Great post Leah, thank you. Molly I love trying to picture your bunnies. Myself and my daughter, aged 12, are potty about all things cuddly so yes many of these will be on my list.! Right now my most precious object is a birthday card from my brother sent last Nov a month before he passed. And a West Brom football shirt with his name on! Also many precious gifts from friends and family over the years xx

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 9:02am

Thanks for your reply Jane.I can feel how precious that birthday card is. there is something so special about a card or a letter from someone who has died.I love things that are soft and comforting , so I have teddy bears, soft toys ans clothes and bags because I like how they feel!!The football shirt hopefully brings you comfort.Thanks for being so honest with your empotions.

Molly Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 11:55pm

Thank you Jane, I'm going to retrieve those bunnies, I expect they are suffocating in the bag they are stored in :-) Even if one of them has no head ! Sorry about your brother, cannot even imagine how that must feel xx

The Gardener Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 9:29am

Hello Leah - your blog is helping me to think 'outside' the worsening situation - and the depressing knowledge that most of our family could not care less about us. Youngest grand-son - currently other side of France for several weeks might 'fit us in' in gap year (starts November) but he's going to UK for an uncle's birthday, and to Amsterdam for a party. Anyway - I think you've helped me solve a puzzle, Leah. The only beautiful thing my parents had together, (and which I have still, don't know how after the confusion of their separation and my father changing partners and addresses so often) is a lovely tea set of hand-painted Japanese china which you can see through, it's so fine. Daughter and grand-daughter going through old photos reminded me how smart and good looking my Pa was, despite his awful family background. Before and after his marriage, he lived in London and worked in the china department of a major department store. The only logical answer is it must have been their wedding present to him - so it's well over 80 years old. Also, when I cleared his stuff after he died he had kept all my school reports and music exam certificates (none of them brilliant). The saddest is a delicate, beautifully knitted shawl - made by our first adopted daughter's natural grand-mother, who must have known that she would never see the child grow up. It's almost like a novel, the dying mother , or one abandoning her baby in the church porch, leaving a small jewel with the child. Had endless chats with this daughter this week-end - despite being adopted it is she who is pursuing the family history. She said 'Mum, are any of your old friends in a good state?' Answer, in the last week, none, I've been the recipient of endless troubles.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 9:37am

Gardener, I am sorry your situation is worsening. The lovely tea set of hand painted Japanese china sounds wonderful. The delicate knitted shawl is so sad and uplifting as my partner who was adopted and has nothing from his birth mother would have loved such an object

Orangeblossom Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 10:18am

My two favourite objects are a water canister in stainless steel which my son gave me & a mobile phone which I use as a spare phone, given as a gift by my children. They were chosen with care. Also very practical.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 10:24am

Thanks Orangeblossom, I think gifts that are given with love are very significant. Thanks for reminding us.

Frank by the Quayside Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 12:12pm

Well Leah I have so many objects around me that I can honestly say each one has a story associated with it or them. Let me pick on just a couple as nice to think about this for a few minutes as a break from work.
The wooden lamp by my bedside which I made at age 13 and still looks as good as new. Memories of better times at school.
My lawn green bowling trophies from 1983 when I was much younger aged 22 and reminds that I gave it up that year to focus on athletics and girls and best of all I took bowls back up again last year at 55 and loving every minute.
A fun thing my son gave me back in 2009 was a quill type pen which sits near my desk. Many memories from this as that year I separated from his Mum, he was only 11 and I lost his closeness for nearly a year. I regretted and hated myself very much. However today we have an amazing bond built by care and complete honest love for each other. He is now on a Commercial Pilot Training course and in New Zealand doing an eight month stint doing the actual flying. I miss him tremendously but little things plus pictures and social media allow us to keep close. I smile now as I write this although a tear has appeared but one of happiness for our bond.
Thank you for allowing me to bring this lovely feeling to light from such a simple thing as an object.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:48pm

FRank by the Quayside, Thanks for your reply.The story about your quill pen and your son is touching,. It is amazing how one small object cn evoke so many memories and feelings. Thank you for sharing part of your story with us.

Vickie Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 12:19pm

Thanks for the blog Leah.
Two cards, one from each of my adult children. Each have long hand written messages expressing their love and how I have influenced their lives. Each was given at a different time in my life: one when I had achieved an academic award and one when I was going through my divorce. I keep these cards close by and reread them from time to time. They remind me that life has peaks & valleys and there are people who love me regardless of where I am on that spectrum.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:50pm

Vickie, Thanks for telling us about those two cards that are so special. Today when much communication is done through texts and emails it is wonderful to have those cards that you can read and hold at any time.

Molly Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 12:09am

I received a card in the post today. I love cards. It was a beautiful card with simply a thank you from a friend. It really warmed my heart. As you say Leah, most people text and email these days, but to receive a card is extra special.

Dolphin Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 12:31pm

Thanks for the blog, Leah. It gave me quiet moments to think of pleasurable connections in a sad day of a broken connection.
My favourite objects are 3 rings from both grandmothers and my mother. I wear them for pleasure, but also when I need a connection to any of them. I also have vases from both grandmothers that I love because of the connection to childhood and them. When I was a teenager, I thought one of them was particularly hideous, yet when my grandmother died, that was the one I begged for (no one fought me for it either!!)

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:52pm

Dolphin, The connection with objects that belonged to loved ones is so important. Thanks for sharing your stroy. I smiled at the story of the vase.

the room above the garage Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 12:58pm

Three little wooden christmas decorations. I blogged about them here one christmas time. They are delicate and so its good they only come out once a year! They represent a time when I thought I was going to lose my daughter as she was seriously ill in hospital. She painted them in hospital as she was recovering. They still can make me cry but remind me of how grateful I felt when I knew she would be ok, and of what matters. I always put them somewhere prominent to remind me. Thank you for a great blog today, its heart warming to read these responses. Very inclusive. Love ratg x.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:54pm

Ratg, I remember that blog and it always moves me when I think about those decorations and your daughter. I think through people telling us about objects we learn a little more about them. Leah xx

Tychi's Mum Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 1:29pm

Thank you for this blog Leah. It's been very thought provoking. There are some fascinating and poignant comments from fellow Moodscopers. I've really enjoyed reading them.

Mine are;

My dad's drumsticks. He passed away two years ago and was an amateur drummer in a band made up of his friends. They are tucked away in one of my bedroom draws but whenever I open that draw and see them it makes me smile...very happy memories of when my Dad was still with us and precious, often hilarious moments shared at his gigs surrounded by mine, and his, friends and family.

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 7:56pm

Tychi's Mum, Thanks for your reply. The comments have been poignant .I love the story behing the drumsticks sad and uplifting and wonderful think two small wooden sticks could bring you so much joy,

Leah Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 8:03pm

Thank you everyone who has replied, read or thinking of repying to my blog. I am always touched and impressed by the honest emotion in the responses and the wonderful stories we are privileged to read.

If you think of something you want to share I look at the blog fo several days so it is never too late to comment.

I also want to say a big hello to those Moodscpers who have not commented fo a while and hope all is well and we are thinking of you.
I won't mention people by name as I am bound to forget someone.

Also so I am thinking of everyone who is struggling at the moment. I hope you have small object that can give you some comfort.

Thanks again to my Moodscope family.

Jane Tue, Jan 10th 2017 @ 9:12pm

Hi Leah, I've just read all the comments of today and all your responses. Can I just say that I love your responses to everyone. A very personable approach. Thank you xx

Leah Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 12:07am

Jane, thanks so much for your kind words. I appreciate the time people take to reply even when they are not well, Thanks xxx

Eva Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 8:43am

Hi Leah, excellent topic and so many lovely replies, I have many treasured items, most of them might appear to be rubbish to other folks, but they mean a lot to me.

The two I would place highest are a ring with a stone from my mum's engagement ring, which both she and my dad chose, it is a connection to both of them. Their marriage was complicated and damaged but this is a sign of their love and regard at the beginning which I treasure.

And the ribbon from my baby blanket. It's really raggedy. I still find fabric textures fascinating and love to touch and play with them, a form of self soothing no doubt.

You always pick such interesting topics Leah :)

Leah Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 8:37pm

Eva Thanks for your kind words and thoughtful comments. Rings are so personal and it is lovely to have that connection with your parents. The ribbon from your baby blanket what a wonderful treasure. I think textures are so important. Molly mentioned about the silky ears of her bunnies. I am very tactile and love the soft comforting materials.

Dragonfly Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 1:31pm

Hello Leah, a lovely, thought-provoking blog. I think I remember correctly that you've said previously you find it difficult to write when depressed, or articulate about depression in hindsight - hopefully your having written recently indicates that you might be quite well right now. I often think about commenting on a blog, but just can't articulate what I'm thinking or feeling, and inevitably someone else has already done so far more eloquently than I ever could. I still don't feel I have an opinion, or any perspective on either depression or life in general!
I have so many things which are of sentimental value to me and evoke memories of one sort or another. And that's the problem - I become too sentimentally attached to 'things' and find it difficult to let go. Consequently I'm overwhelmed with stuff. I've been making tentative efforts to have a clear out, but find it so hard to be discerning or even a bit brutal where necessary, as I'm also so indecisive. Perhaps I hold onto 'things' in the same way that I've often felt it difficult to let go of events which have upset me, possibly because I haven't processed and dealt with them. But hanging onto anything can be detrimental to moving on and living in the present. I don't think I can name any favourite things as I tend to attach quite some importance to so many things.

Leah Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 8:47pm

Dragonfly, Thanks for your comments and praise. When I see other people's blogs I always wish I could write like that, and I wish I'd thought of that, and they expressed that far better than I would. So I can relate to how you feel about comments and I sometimes feel like that. Please Dragonfly do comment you have a lot to say and many can relate to your words. You do have an opinion and it doesn't matter if some one else has said a similar thing, you say it in your own unique way. I too have been 'overwhelmed with stuff" and still am to a lesser extent. One thing I have learnt from Moodscopers is not to declutter when depressed. I too attach some importance to so many things too so I just listed the first that came to mind. I am so glad you took the time to comment and hope you will again. this is a safe place to share our thoughts, whether it be a few words or many words. Your reply touched me and I am sure will others for your honesty and insight into your behaviour. Take care Leah

Dragonfly Wed, Jan 11th 2017 @ 10:12pm

Thank you Leah x

Leah Thu, Jan 12th 2017 @ 9:25am

Thank you Dragonfly and all the people who comment and read blogs. It is so important and helps us all.

Jul Thu, Jan 12th 2017 @ 8:54am

That made me feel quite sad reading about the last words your father wrote to you. I have a pottery puffin at the base of my computer which used to belong to my mother. It's very tactile and I pick it up from time to time and of course think of her. I also use the hand mirror my mother used at her dressing table for putting on my make up. This goes a long way back in my memory bank. Julxx

Leah Thu, Jan 12th 2017 @ 9:24am

Jul, Thanks for sharing your memories. I think a tactile pottery puffin sounds wonderful.

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