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Neighbours. Sunday June 26, 2016

I'm not a fan of Neighbours. But I gather Natalie Imbruglia acted in it.

Like many actresses, Ms I. went on to forge a successful singing career. These days, there aren't many songs that grab my ear. But her "That Day" did. It still does. Every time I hear it. That day; this day. Today. Just a "beautiful" portrait of the human condition, in all its ugly and awkward contrariness:

Well, that day, that day
What a mess, what a marvel
I walked into that cloud again
And I lost myself and I'm sad, sad, sad
Small, alone, scared, craving purity
A fragile mind and a gentle spirit
That day, that day
What a marvelous mess
Well this is all that I can do, I'm done to be me
Sad, scared, small, alone, beautiful
It's supposed to be like this; I accept everything
It's supposed to be like this

That day, that day
I lay down beside myself
In this feeling of pain, sadness
Scared, small, climbing, crawling towards the light
And it's all that I see and I'm tired and I'm right
And I'm wrong and it's beautiful

Well, that day, that day
What a mess, what a marvel
We're all the same but no one thinks so
And it's okay and I'm small and I'm divine
And it's beautiful and it's coming and it's already here
And it's absolutely perfect...

We think we're alone. We FEEL alone. We cry, strive, howl, despair... alone. And so do a thousand others. So we're together. Together in our aloneness. Or our loneliness. But together. Sharing that same humanity. Screaming at it. Against it! But shackled by it, constrained by it, held by it, enabled by it, freed by it. Stuck in a body, stuck in one mind; hating it all, hating all others, hating ourself. And then, above the scream, a tiny child's voice: "Love yourself". Love the closest person to you: Love You. The You you hide.

Charity begins at home. Begins within. Goes without. Love Thy Neighbour.

Who is my Neighbour? Turns out it's Natalie. And it's me.

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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S Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 8:02am

Hi Tim, this made me smile - that we are neighbours with Miss I. I will go back and listen to the song. I absolutely love the quote about choosing to love oneself- thank you for reminding us that it is a choice. Sx

Hopeful One Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 8:38am

Hi Tim- this is phenomenal! The song , the thoughts the quote. - what can one say ? I will go over your post once again after I have heard that song. Such insight - it curiously dispels that feeling of aloneness which is the greatest gift that Moodscope offers us.

Here is our laugh - chocs away!

A young man man was very excited because he just won a ticket to the Super Bowl. His excitement lessened as he realized his seat was in the back of the stadium. As he searched the rows ahead of him for a better seat, he found an empty one right next to the field. He approached the man sitting next to the empty seat and asked if it was taken. The man replied, "No." Amazed the young man asked, "How could someone pass up a seat like this?" The older gentleman responded, "That's my wife's seat. We've been to every Super Bowl together since the day we were married but she has passed away." "Oh, how sad," the man said. "I'm sorry to hear that, but couldn't you find a friend or relative to come with you?" "No," the man said, "They're all at the funeral."

Lexi Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 12:59pm

I am chuckling this morning. Thanks HO! Must share that with my dad. He would love it.

Leah Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 10:43am

I am going to be singing the neighbours theme all day thanks to you!! I have not heard of Natalie - is she Australian. I don't watch neighbours or listen to pop music.
I like your message you give us about feeling alone. Great blog. Thanks.

Frankie Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 10:59am

This is brilliant Tim, thank-you! Looking forward to your next blog! Frankie

Janet Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 11:16am

I'm really grateful for this today Tim, it fits with how I feel about what's happening politically too. I need to remember that there are good neighbours and I can be a good neighbour when I feel alone and afraid.

Janet Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 11:16am

I'm really grateful for this today Tim, it fits with how I feel about what's happening politically too. I need to remember that there are good neighbours and I can be a good neighbour when I feel alone and afraid.

Lesley Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 7:46pm

Janet, I feel alone and afraid as well. It is all new waters now and there is a nation whose soul is rather confused and has been for a while.

Lesley Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 7:46pm

Janet, I feel alone and afraid as well. It is all new waters now and there is a nation whose soul is rather confused and has been for a while.

Lorie Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 12:25pm

Wow i was just listening to Torn by her.....xo

Lexi Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 12:58pm

Hi Tim, Thank you for sharing that beautiful song. I have never heard it before but I'm looking it up now. Loving oneself- it does all start from there, doesn't it? So much sadness and trouble stems from not loving ourselves or accepting ourselves.That is the greatest journey - the only real journey for me. Hope to read more of your posts.

The Gardener Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 5:39pm

I've only ever watched Neighbours by accident. I dislike soaps - intellectual snob? Don't think so. As a writer I admire the supreme craft of leaving each episode with you wanting more. I see them as an addiction - the world stops, families have no routine, because it's one of the soaps. The idea of addiction, to anything, is abhorrent. Some years ago we spent Christmas with a daughter and her anti-social partner. She provided an excellent meal, and another daughter came along. The partner disappeared. On the floor were kilos of newspapers, full of quizzes, crosswords etc. Suddenly all of us (we had all enjoyed Trivial Pursuits) started on the puzzles. The girls suddenly remembered they had received an education - and proudly trotted out literary figures - geography and history snippets - all rowdy and fun, Then. One daughter 'I must just watch East Enders' i think it was. Then inertia set in - and we watched soaps (notoriously awful at Christmas) and consumed too much wine. We were no longer a family - an outside force had taken over our happy circle. The message, being alone, has been obviated today by neighbours. There are two girls, 11 and 7, and a boy, 5, opposite. Girls came out so pretty this morning told them so, got kisses. Little boy heard English coming out of computer (Radio 4) and was intrigued. Explained as much as possible, another kiss. Mr G got seriously nasty, I ended in tears - he, full self-pity, can't see, can't walk. I blew up - he went off in a huff - and, for the second time this week walked to the church just with a cane. It was mass time - so the road was full of neighbours, ready to help if necessary. Another one, giving up her second hand clothing business, has just bought me in about £100 worth of wool. Basically I am being torn to bits on best thing to do - Mr G goes into hospital for a week respite on Friday - counting the hours, because I am going to UK for the first time for 18 months

Lesley Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 7:56pm

Hello Gardener, may I ask which country you live in? I agree that soaps are cleverly written to tease and encourage addiction. I too avoid them as I feel no identification with them. They focus on upheaval and drama and not peace. To me they stimulate the baser instincts. Anyway it is a long time since I watched them. (I used to watch Corrie when it was a show full to the gunnels with humour and not dependent on shocking over-dramatic story lines.) Funnily enough, however, I am rehearsing for a play - Therese Raquin by EMile Zola, written in 1867. It was serialised in its day and shocked French society. It is not dissimilar to a "big week" on Eastenders - full of adultery, dramatic irony, murder and people wishing for different lives. Plus ca change! Anyway, I hope you have a good time in the UK bearing in mind it is a stormy dramatic place to be at present.

Lesley Sun, Jun 26th 2016 @ 8:05pm

Tim, thank you for your blog. Those words resonate deeply. Your blog was a just a fantastic example of why we have Moodscope. I identify with "a fragile mind and a gentle spirit" I have fought those attributes instead of embracing them. They are GREAT ones, and ones to be proud of. In the western world it seems that these attributes are not value. Left alone too young I struggle to love myself or value myself for being tender. When I feel at my most vulnerable I have started to focus on stroking a gentle animal, a rabbit, in my mind. I used to have rabbits and don't any more. Perhaps its time to get one again. With love

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