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My song about the kind of love that sustains us. Friday December 12, 2014

I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at 23 and it is basically all I have known my entire adult life.

It is an extremely difficult disease that affects me every day in a myriad of ways. On the other hand, it has shaped who I am and I like who I am. And I really like my life. And I really like the people in it.

Finding what there is to be grateful for in every day is one of my helpful strategies. Another is singing. I sing and study with an amazing teacher and that time spent is more healing than any medicine I have ever taken or any therapy session I have ever received.

Eating right and exercising are not only good for me, they give me the smallest sense of control over a situation where my own body is attacking itself (and for a Type A personality trapped in the body of a passive aggressive, that is a huge win).

Surrounding myself with awesome people is the other secret and the secret to finding yourself surrounded by awesome people is to be awesome to the people around you. When I am at my lowest it is in helping someone else that I usually find relief to my own suffering.

Finally, I am blessed enough to have a partner who sees through the limitations that I see or that my physician sees. Someone who believes in me and in my future even when I don't. Especially when I don't. So, if there is someone that you trust, listen to them when you are full of doubts and can't break through the noise in your own head. Trust them when you can't figure it out yourself and give yourself a break. And then, do the same for them.

This song is about the kind of love that sustains us and it is about my husband. But it is also about my mother, my sister, my best friend, my physiotherapist, my singing teacher. We all need a team and I am so grateful for mine.

Who's on your team? Whose team are you a part of?

A Moodscope member.

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crafty wee midden Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 5:53am

Beautiful voice, beautiful song....thank you, Ardra

Anonymous Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 7:13am

So lovely, a love song to the peeps around you and the special person in your life, you have a lovely voice.

Rupert Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 8:26am

Inspirational post Ardra! Thanks you for sharing it with us. Rupert

Anonymous Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 8:31am

Hi Ardra- thanks for sharing and inspiring.I wish you well on your long journey.

Vanessa Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 9:12am

So beautiful, what a great way to start the day, thank you! x

Anonymous Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 9:27am

Your moving insights, Ardra, and fantastic singing just stopped me in my tracks. You shed a fresh perspective on the value and significance of human relationships. Thank you! Wishing you and those you love all the very best.

Therese Revell Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 9:47am

Oh Ardra,I'm so glad I read this today. Others have said it all, but I needed to add my thankyou and best wishes,

The Entertrainer Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 12:21pm

Dear Ardra
I began reading up on Positive Psychology yesterday.
Your post is the most credible and touching articulation of all that seems most important in Positive Psychology. Thank you for sharing this... and the lovely song.
Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" is "my song" - so I guess there's something in the eyes!

Dave Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 1:01pm

And I'm really grateful to have heard your song, and read your words. Both are beautiful, and I'm now going to have to dry my eyes and get back to work! And yes, we do all need a team to help us, and so we can help others. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:33pm

Thank you!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:37pm

Thank you very much, I'm glad you liked it!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:37pm

Thanks Rupert!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:38pm

Thanks Vanessa!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:39pm

Thank you, I really appreciate all the well wishes.

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:40pm

Wow, thank you so much.

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:40pm

Thank you Therese and my best wishes to you as well!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:44pm

Wow, thank you so much. There is indeed! That is a great song.

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 2:44pm

Thanks Dave, for your lovely words!

Mary Blackhurst Hill Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 3:12pm

Ardra, this is possibly the most uplifting and inspiring post I've read on Moodscope this year (and definitely the best one I've listened to!), which is saying a lot, 'cos we're a pretty inspiring crowd! Fantastic: thank you so much for writing it. Hoping you have a blessed Christmas and that 2015 brings great joys and few sorrows.

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 5:16pm

How generous of you, Mary! Thank you for your kind words. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Anonymous Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 5:36pm

You have a beautiful voice Ardra and an amazing talent - your song is just beautiful - the music, the instruments, the lyrics and your beautiful voice - WOW!
Thank-you for sharing your story with us and inspiring us ... Frankie

Di Murphey Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 8:52pm

Dearest Ardra ~
Thank you for sharing your warm-hearted & courageous journey. It is a wonderful example of thriving through the storms & struggles of one's life. Your music is soul-searching and memorable. More please.
Di Murphey

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 9:51pm

Thank you so much Frankie!

Ardra Shephard Fri, Dec 12th 2014 @ 9:52pm

You are all so lovely to take the time to write this. Thank you so much Di and everyone for your kind and generous words.

Tracy McKenzie Sat, Dec 13th 2014 @ 12:51am

Dear Ardra,
I am always so proud to be your best friend but today I am BEAMING!!
I love you so so much!

Anonymous Sat, Dec 13th 2014 @ 5:23am

Hi Ardra
I'm catching up on Moodscope mails that I have missed. Can't sleep and what a joy to find your inspiring post and beautiful song. I will play it to my daughter today and see if we can learn it and sing that makes me really happy, just to sing with her.
Wishing you a healthy and happy Christmas and New Year - and to all Moodscopers!
Karen x

Ardra Shephard Sat, Dec 13th 2014 @ 11:44am

And I am so proud and grateful to be yours.
Love you Trace,

Ardra Shephard Sat, Dec 13th 2014 @ 11:46am

Thank you Karen!
That is such a lovely image for me. You can find the song on itunes and other music sites if you want a more permanent copy than the youtube.

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