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My old shoes. Tuesday July 12, 2016

Every day when I go for a walk I think I should wear my new walking shoes but somehow I always find myself putting on my old shoes that are worn on the soles but are ever so comfortable. They are only two years old but I use my shoes, like other people use tyres as I walk everwhere because I don't drive. So my shoes get put through their paces. Even though my new shoes fit me well I just seem drawn to the old shoes which fit me well, like a shoe.

Often I read on Moodscope and in books that we should change our old ways and try new ways of thinking, new ways of looking at our lives and I agree with that. I never realized how hard it was to try something new until I remembered my old, ever so comfortable shoes.

It is not that I am not willing to try new things, but it is that the old ways can be so comfortable, so reassuring, so familiar. Trying something new may be a bit scary at first because we want something that is easy and comfortable. I try new things but when they don't work the first time I feel like going back to my old ways, my old shoes. New shoes take some time to feel comfortable to fit me like my old shoes do.

So I am going to hide my old shoes for a week and wear my news shoes. I am going to give mindfulness one more try this time with a positive attitude and a smile.

What do you find hard to give up, either an abstract idea or concept or a concrete object?

How do you approach trying something new? Do you find it easy or do you find it a difficult challenge?

Leah
A Moodscope member.

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DAVID HAMILTON Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 7:11am

Hi Leah,
Your thoughts are normal, but I feel that wearing something that you feel comfortable wearing, and in which to feel confident is fine.....If you are able to get a break away from your home, whether you go abroad or in your own country, how beautiful or scenic, But isn't it nice to come home in familiar surroundings and totally relax in your own armchair, that lovely feeling of security and happiness which is your familiar old shoes...So take a break wear in the new shoes occasionally but don't give up on your 'Comfort Zone'. Preparedness, not procrastinating, therefore if you occaissionally wear your new shoes then you're becoming familiar GRADUALLY with the new ones and they are being 'broken in, where soon they will mound to your feet and become more comfortable, and you're preparing for when your 'Old' comfy shoes are worn out.

If we change anything in life especially ourselves we need first to have the desire, having recognized that life is really beautiful, it maybe you and I need to make changes to accommodate the beautiful surroundings and people we meet to move forward and recognize blessings which like the shoes give us so much joy.
When we're in a 'rut' ( I'm not suggesting you're in one) we can choose to either stay in that groove, and keep grumbling over and over about our 'lot', or we can have to desire to change and experience the self-confidence which it gives us, and the incentive to make other changes to better ourselves and our surroundings.

DAVE.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:17am

Thank you Dave for your interesting comment including many valid points. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

Rachel Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 9:31am

Hi Leah
Perhaps having another go at Mindfulness could be in your new shoes? A mindful walk, feeling the sensations in your feet, your feet touching the floor, taking each step with awareness, being curious?
Rachel

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:20am

Thank you Rachel that is a great idea I will try that. I have my news hoes on right now.

Jane Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:44am

I am in a real rut with work arm. I am a teacher & work every night for hours at home. If I don't change it & find some balance I'm going to have to quit. So I decided yesterday to set a very clear limit for myself-NO MORE WORK AT HOME! It has become as much of a habit as a necessity & I think I'm as particular & overly thorough with my work partly because I allow so much time for it. So with this new limit I'll need to learn to be more economical-work smarter not harder.
It's going to be hard & my work might suffer until I can get the hang of where to invest my efforts, but hopefully it'll pay off. To make sure it's not too stressful I'm prepared me tally not to be critical when things go wrong, & instead focus on the goal. Fingers crossed for me!

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:24am

Jane, I have my fingers crossed for you and really hope this works for you. I like the idea of not being critical and focusing on the goal. Thanks for your reply.

Welsh girl Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:24pm

Hi Jane, I was a teacher for 30 years and went through a similar re-think. I found it helped to sign up to an evening class of Pilates, for which I paid in blocks of 6 weeks, which made me reluctant to not turn up each week. I also found that, by going into school earlier each morning and ensuring I left by 5pm every day without taking work home, I had free time in the evenings. The most difficult thing was learning how to change my thinking into doing a "good enough" job, rather than striving for perfection, and, as you say, not to be too critical when things go wrong.It can be done and I wish you the best of luck with your efforts. As the saying goes (and I paraphrase it somewhat), no-one has a headstone with the inscription " I wish I'd worked more hours at school".

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:47pm

Welsh girl Thank you for your very helpful reply as I'm sure you've Jane and others a lot to think about..

Mary Wednesday Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:11am

I have too many beautiful shoes to just get attached to one pair! At the moment I am wearing my Ted Baker snakeskin effect coral moccasins/driving shoes (bought for a song - I couldn't have paid full price for them). They bring me joy. And mindfulness - I know what you mean, but I tend to have too much fun with the words and characters in my head...

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:29am

Mary, Enjoy your shoes they soubd like fun. I like your take on mindfulness, I am not sure I have the confidence no to keep trying!

Penny Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 12:19pm

I've just been told by the podiatrist that I should consider getting new shoes as I have almost worn through the bottom of my favourites... So will have to do a new exercise regime to change the way I walk.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:50pm

Thanks penny That will be a challenge to learn a new exercise regime and a different way of walking . I wish you luck

Jul Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 1:32pm

Hello Leah. This is great. Your shoe analogy. Sometimes I buy a new pair of shoes and never wear them in as they remain just too uncomfortable. They hurt despite trying everything to make them wearable on a daily basis. So I know that some therapies just do not work for me but like my uncomfortable shoes, others might be comfortable with them. Your blog raised another issue and that is our comfort zone. Although I am not happy most days, it's easier to stay this way and find a way of living which incorporates activities which I can do feeling depressed. I know when I have a high day, I almost wish I was back to my normal days even though I love the high feeling and can make up for so many lost days. I find high days frustrating sometimes as I might not be able to find friends to share my lightness of heart and fun. I really love your blog today. It's clever and has got me thinking.Julxx

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:57pm

Jul, Thanks for your very detailed and Insightful post I like your analysis and interpretation of the comfort zone And I'm sure others will find it very helpful too. I suppose it's all about getting the right mixture comfort and finding new and challenging things Thanks again sure you've given us all lots to ponder about

Cara Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 2:39pm

Hi Leah, I find sometimes trying new things, especially depending on my mood, can be very challenging. Often I get very excited by new ideas and excited to try them. Trying them is relatively easy for me, but I quit if I don't see results quickly! Mindfulness was challenging for me at first. I started with small tasks, but was not finding they were "curing me" so I stopped... then I tried again with longer tasks etc. and I found it made a very big difference in my life, particularly when I get depressive episodes, or "angry" moments. Even though during my non-symptomatic mindfulness did not make much of an impact, it was during the hardest times, I saw my practice of it really help me. Now I continue the new thing because I've seen the results. If I don't see results I struggle to keep up with the new challenge. Its like that with everything for me unfortunately!

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:00pm

Cara Thanks for your most informative and useful Post. It shows we are all different and have to use different strategies to help us. You have shown that we need to keep trying until we find something that is really helpful. Thank you so much you have given me a lot to consider

Cara Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 2:39pm

Hi Leah, I find sometimes trying new things, especially depending on my mood, can be very challenging. Often I get very excited by new ideas and excited to try them. Trying them is relatively easy for me, but I quit if I don't see results quickly! Mindfulness was challenging for me at first. I started with small tasks, but was not finding they were "curing me" so I stopped... then I tried again with longer tasks etc. and I found it made a very big difference in my life, particularly when I get depressive episodes, or "angry" moments. Even though during my non-symptomatic mindfulness did not make much of an impact, it was during the hardest times, I saw my practice of it really help me. Now I continue the new thing because I've seen the results. If I don't see results I struggle to keep up with the new challenge. Its like that with everything for me unfortunately!

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:03pm

I think there are many people who like you need results before they'll continue on with a strategy. my problem is I want instant results or I tend to give up.

The Gardener Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 3:08pm

Jul, new shoes! The first time I went to Paris I bought the most elegant shoes - still remember them - 50 years ago. We walked and walked, scared stiff of the metro and the buses were manned by Gorgons. I was crippled and had, I think, to lash out on near clinical shoes the next day to walk at all. Great 'new' events were becoming a student at 50 and moving to France to a new life - country to town, different language, becoming a historian. Talk about life changes. Life has changed again - not through choice - and the 'new shoes' analogy is apt - organising life to reduce the 'pinching' effect of most of my old occupations being out of reach. I don't know if any of you near my generation remember school uniform shoes - summer was Clarks sandals - they had huge crepe soles - each time the kids had a larger size they fell over them. Daughter, 14, came home with uniform list, a reasonable choice of shoes. She chose something 'near'. I said 'you'll never get away with those' but you don't argue with a 14 year old about shoes. Needless to say, they were banned and we had to get 'proper' ones. I've a nasty feeling she would not wear the first choice because they were too 'schooly'.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:08pm

Gardener Thank you once again for transporting me to another place and time with your wonnderful stories . I'm thinking of you and how you are coping. sending hugs across the seaxx

the room above the garage Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 10:46pm

Hello lovely! Not only am I intrigued (I wonder if you are like me and were trained new things were for good) but I'm eager to know the update!! Thank you for this, it helped today, love ratg x.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:11pm

Ratg Funny you should say that about saving things for good because I that eas a part of my mother's generation and I have been thinking about writing a blog about that. Thanks for your kind words they made me smile.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:17pm

Thanks to everyone for applying reading and thinking of replying. there is always plenty of time to still reply as I'll be I'll be looking over it in the next few days.
I'm using voice to text as I don't have access to my regular computer as I'm away from home at the moment.
I try to re read it but if it sounds a bit funny or is a strange word in here or is strange spellings of words or grammatical mistakes just be patient and blame voice to text.
I'm using my not so smart phone and I find that hard because I find the small screen hard to use.
Only parted with my old phone because didn't work anymore and I'm finding the smartphone quite a challenge.

Leah Tue, Jul 12th 2016 @ 11:19pm

Relying nott applying! Had to laugh that I make mistakes in the post explaining how I make mistak in voice to text.

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