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Mud, mud, glorious mud. Thursday March 17, 2016

"There's nothing quite like it for cooling the blood..." goes the song. And I agree. My feet were ankle deep in the stuff, it was under my nails from picking up the skins from the half-time oranges and I had a Harry Potter style scar splatter across my forehead, where an annoyed boy had kicked up a dollop of it at the try line. (He was lovely, he apologised and I laughed.)

I've been wrestling with my low for some weeks. It's been better this Winter than any other Winter for a long time, but still it remains to be seen whether it will grind me to a pulp or ease its grip.

In an effort to battle back and loosen its surly grip, I made myself watch my son's rugby match. I didn't have to as it was within normal school hours. But I made myself go. Partly because I like to watch, partly because I like him to know I have him and partly because I knew being outside, with like-minded people would help. We huddled in the rain. We shivered in the cold. We squelched in the mud. I kept my distance but we were still together.

I came home and realised once again I had the magic thing. Perspective. It had brought me perspective. I was grateful for warmth, grateful for dinner only needing warmed up, grateful for my walls and my roof. For a short time, the thoughts, the whirring, the nagging, the sick feeling, the iron cloak, had all slid into the waiting room and I had had a rest from it.

There is still daylight as I type. I have a good feeling it's going to be okay.

Love from

The room above the garage
A Moodscope member.

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Hopeful One Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 7:26am

Hi RATG- so glad you made the effort. It gave you perspective but above all it lifted you out of the low.

I hope this does the same for you as you head for the sunny uplands.

A hairdresser gives a haircut to a priest one day. The priest tries to pay for the haircut, but the hairdresser refuses, saying, " You can have the haircut for free. You perform God’s work." The next morning the hairdresser finds a dozen bibles at the door of his shop. Then a policeman goes to the same hairdresser for a haircut, and again the hairdresser refuses payment, saying, "You can have it for free. You protect the public." The next morning the hairdresser finds a dozen doughnuts at the door to his shop.Then a lawyer goes to the hairdresser for a haircut, and again the hairdresser refuses payment, saying, " You can have your haircut for free .You serve the justice system." The next morning the hairdresser finds a dozen lawyers waiting for a free haircut.

Skyblue Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 7:50am

Thanks for sharing the magic of those moments when you all gathered in the mud to support your boys. Feels like it might be one of those warm, meaningful memories that stick. All will definitely be well, ratg. And spring is almost here. Xx

Sally Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 9:17am

Hang on in there, RATG. It was brave of you to go to the rugby match. I like that phrase " in an effort to battle back and lose its surly grip" ! Small things ( the boy's apology) mean a lot and restore one's faith in others, I believe.

Anonymous Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 10:35am

Perspective is the name of the game, dear Tratg. We fight to live another day. Go well.

Norman Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 11:30am

Dear ratty,
" I like him to know I have him"

I captained the most successful rugby team in the history of my school, I was pack leader for the City Boys Schools, and played for the county. In all that time my dad came to see me play the once. You made the effort and your son will appreciate it. You sound like a great mother. Hug! (or rugby tackle: it's the same thing...)

Mary Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 11:36am

Dear Norman - if you are confusing a hug with a rugby tackle I believe I may have found a clue to helping you with your dating success....... ;)

Norman Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 3:24pm

They get away otherwise....

Mary Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 11:38am

Dear Ratty - just so, so pleased that I have girls. I admire you no end, but am just so very grateful that neither of my girls do those nasty running around in the cold mud sports.

Anna Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 4:01pm

What a beautifully written, inspiring blog, thank you. I think you have perfectly described something I have felt myself many times when dragging myself out against my will. Keeping your distance but still together. It's so true. But then arriving home you find something has shifted for a while. It is brave and the more we push ourselves just a little bit to get out and be around people, the more we recover. Hope things are still on the up.

The Gardener Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 4:58pm

Our sons did not go to rugger playing schools, thank goodness, no touch-line freezing. Grand-sons more sporting - but I was more used as a chauffeur. Son No 2 played football for his company side in Jakarta. Most exciting, 4 stupendous thunder storms during the match. My 'holiday' included a 'girlie' lunch today, the food was disgusting, in France! Obviously not going to be all Cakes and Ale

Debs Thu, Mar 17th 2016 @ 10:49pm

Good to hear some chinks of light coming thtough roomy, hope it continues to get brighter ;-) xxx

LillyPet Sat, Mar 19th 2016 @ 8:13am

Hey ratg, I'm so late (whats new?) that you probably wont see this, but just wanted to say how much I liked your blog about shifting your mood when youre stuck. I loved the last sentence" I have a good feeling it's going to be okay". What a wonderful feeling :) hugs, LP xx

the room above the garage Sat, Mar 19th 2016 @ 8:22am

Hello everyone, you are probably all gone from here but I feel rude not replying (life got in the way and I'm late, LP you and me both!). Thank you each for your comments. Norman, I'm sad for you that your dad wasn't able to be there more often. To give you the validation that most of us seek. I am glad that YOU validated yourself. Love ratg xx.

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