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Memories are made of this. Sunday April 9, 2017

"I remember the time I knew what happiness was, Let the memory live again" (From Cats)

At the moment the present is scary (and not just my life, writing this after the London terrorist attack), and the future even scarier, so I live in the past. This is through hundreds of photos loaded on to a big computer screen, and accessible through Screen Saver.

Much more has emerged than 'snaps' of happy kids. The earliest dates from 1900, because our children's' paternal great-grandfather had the genes of a technology genius. So, there is Granny, aged 9, in a sailor hat, in Andorra.

As our great-grand-son (our eldest) is also a gifted technician he has managed to take those images, all on slides, and load them on the computer. Since 2008, everything has been loaded direct. Pre that time, we had them printed, then scanned in the very best way possible.

For our golden wedding one of our daughters said 'I want all your history, business, family, travel, to decorate the walls of the village hall'. A tall order – bringing out my hat fetish, three pages of them.

Now I sit next to my O/H, who cannot be left, with my knitting, and watch our life go by.

First bike, current Shire horses, temples in India, Cambodia and Viet-nam. Rain forests, beaches, party after party, gardens and flower collections (of course), cats (masses) local events, hot-air balloons, floods, stained glass windows (a passion) 'all human life is there'. We find visitors are fascinated, and grand-children delighted.

But, and a big but – this has not been achieved without application. Many hours have been spent sorting, cataloguing, jettisoning (pictures of beach scenes which could be anywhere), scanning, labelling.

One son, and my brother-in-law, are much more widely travelled than us. When we ask to see, for instance, pictures of the remnants of Krakatoa (two ton molten rocks) going up into the air – a vague reply 'they're in a box somewhere'. It is very unlikely that anybody will have the time, energy and enthusiasm to get them out of that box. A house will be cleared, and that history with them.

How important are family memories to you?

The Gardener
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Leah Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 6:21am

What a nostalgic, informative, and warm hearted blog.
You don't realise how important family photos are until you meet someone who does not have any. My OH was adopted at birth and in his 50s started to trace his birth family. He was jealous of all the family photos I have, some on walls but many in a huge box I have to admit!
A few weeks ago through he found who his father was . Now over 70, OH finally can put a picture of his parents together.He also has pictures of cousins and Aunts and uncles. To see the joy in his eyes to have these precious photos makes me feel ashamed for taking mine for granted.
Also I feel for people who have few photos due to war, fires, floods, and other traumatic events.

I am glad you have so many photos to bring you so many memories when your present is a struggle.

Take care, Leah

The Gardener Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 8:18am

Confusion - 3rd para should be our eldest SON, great-grand-son of original photographer.

Jul Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 9:28am

Hello Gardener. I am not really sure how important family memories are for me. If I were in your situation, I would find them very comforting. I like to live in the present as much as I can.I spent a large part of my life wishing it were different and looking to the future fantasising what it might hold. Your photographic memories are ones to preserve in this digital age. I have traveled extensively all round the world for work and I find those photos very interesting to look at.I was going to ask you a couple of days ago Gardener if you had made a decision about permanent care for Mr G? It's not right that you should hate the present so much that the only consolation you have is to look to the past. You must have hope for the future and reach a time soon where you start to enjoy the present again. You can't carry on struggling. But I do like your blog. It's a very calming one. If only you were happier each day. I do sympathise and feel for you. How has your day been so far? Julxx

The Gardener Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 9:50am

Dear Jul, thank you for your kind interest. I think I give a wrong impression - I do not HATE the present - but it is sad, confused - cannot make plans, state of Mr G 'dodgy' to say the least, and I could not cope last week, he was raving. I find the whole thing harrowing - each time he is in respite I 'bubble' up and hope the future will be better - but the professionals keep telling me, as kindly as possible, that the slope is inevitably downwards. HO and Sally have been this route. The past IS important, but not all-pervading - it stops me being bitter about the present - which, today, is very good. A famous trumpeter is giving a concert in the church this afternoon - I won't go, 25 euros, and the only music which does NOT work in our 12th C church is brass. I shall listen, free, from 'my' garden, annexed from the presbytery. Again, thank you Jul xxx

Jul Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 10:00am

Enjoy the brass gratuit julxxx

Jane SG Sun, Apr 9th 2017 @ 10:15am

What lovely memories dear Gardener. I have been reaching out more to past memories since my brother passed away and now my Mum has Dementia/Alzheimer's. For you Gardener, like Jul, I have also wondered about permanent care for Mr G but have not felt brave enough to voice this. But I understand how difficult these decisions can be. My Mum is still at home with my Dad. They have help but he is exhausted bless him xxxx

LP Mon, Apr 10th 2017 @ 12:01am

How wonderful to have had family with the technical skills to save those precious images
There are some photo albums to look back on, but many photographs still in packets in bags waiting for " one day" to come!
Family memories, with my children are so important. We had wonderful times and have many saved in pictures.
Many of my own childhood memories are of fear and misery. There are also happy memories, so those are the ones that I'll hold on to.
Thanks for a wonderfully nostalgic blog TG:) LP xx

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