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Making Friends with the Lizard. Monday July 6, 2015

I'm pretty amazing.

Well the way I'm made is.

I've got a Lizard brain, a mammalian brain and a higher-thinking brain that thinks it's in charge.

Sometimes these three don't play nicely together.

My lizard brain loves me.

She wants to keep me safe.

She likes the letter "F" too.

How so?

Well, when she thinks I'm in danger she reminds me that over millions of years, those animals with lizard brains have survived by reacting to threats in three ways - all beginning with 'F'.

Some have used 'flight' in the sense of running away.

Some have used 'freeze' as a strategy, and danger has passed them by.

Some have reared up and chosen 'fight' - taking on the aggressor head-to-head, tooth-and-claw, face-to-face... and won.

My lizard is beautiful but she is driven by fear.

My higher thinking brain has discovered love.

Love casts out fear - perfectly.

And the Universe has given me a gift to go with love.

The gift is that I cannot think of two things at the same time.

This is a deep and profound kindness.

So I can choose fear or I can choose love - but not both.

Today, I've invited my higher brain and my lizard brain to have tea together in my mammalian brain. My mammalian brain is really good at emotion and memory - so I'm hoping we'll have a memorable and fun time together.

Of course, I've got a hidden agenda. I just want them all to get along together. I want my higher brain to fall in love with my Lizard. I also want my higher brain to respect my lizard because sometimes she's right and the wisest thing to do is to freeze quietly for a while, or run away, or even fight.

But I never want her to do this in fear again.

I want her to choose these options from a position of strength - from love.

My lizard is strong.

Strong enough to ask, "What would love do?"

Lex
A Moodscope member.


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Comments

Leah Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 6:39am

Lex
Thanks for this blog.
I have enough trouble with one brain!

Anonymous Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 7:48am

thanks Lex, this was spot on for me and moving. You have helped to make what feels like a heavy load lighter with this post Best. A

Anonymous Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 7:53am

Thanks Lex. I am slowly learning not to react. To ask what love would do and then to do it. Its a slow process and I dont always get it right but Im progressing ! Heather

Hopeful One Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 8:49am

Hi Lex - great post. There is another good reason to make friends with that lizard. The lizard has only one gear and reacts fast without 'thinking'' and worse squirts cortisol ,which is harmful to us in many ways,as it reacts rather than responds The mammalian brain knows love and squirts oxytocin in to the system which calms sand soothes everything and helps to damp down the lizard.

Melanie Lowndes Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:07am

Dear Lex, beautiful blog. Plenty to reflect on. Thank you! Melanie

Melanie Lowndes Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:07am

Leah, thank you for making me laugh out loud this morning! X

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:27am

Made me laugh too... in a good way, of course.
Thanks, Leah.
And, of course, that's the message - when three brains become one, then life's a lot easier.
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:31am

Glad to hear this, A.
"Love" is the only force I have no defence against (why would one want to defend oneself against it anyway?) But fear is always lurking, waiting for an opportunity. Let's let love in.
I've recommitted to probiotics in my diet and am beginning to feel better. The interesting idea is that the more positive tummy bugs one has inside, the less space there is for the unhelpful ones.
So, my hope is that the more love I let in, the less scope there will be for fear.
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:36am

Nice Chemistry, Hopeful One!
Oxytocin research, here I come.
"Squirts" is such a fun word!
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 10:37am

Thanks Melanie...
Happy Lizard Mammal Higher Brain Day!
L'xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 11:32am

Hi Heather
I think it's going to be a life-long journey for me... which quite a few diversions back to the old ways.
However, I like the fact that we are progressing.
It's often a question of putting the right interrupt patterns and procedures in place, isn't it?
L'xx

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 2:33pm

Love you Lex. Your brain is similar but a bit different to mine. I have Larry the Lizard who just likes to lounge around in the sun and it's all he can do to help me remember to breathe and walk without falling over. He's probably Trevor the Caveman's pet. I love the idea of them all having tea together. Scones and jam and cream? Or will your lizard insist on squashed fly biscuits (galibaldis)?

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 2:43pm

Ah, blissful memories of Gary Baldheads... My lizard loves 'em! (and you too, of course!) At some level, my parts all want the same thing - my well-being, so I'm confident the tea-party will be a success.
L'xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 4:46pm

Brilliant - just loving this Lex; thank-you.
I have a busy time looming, when my lizard brain encourages me to freeze;
think it's time to invite them all to a Dorset cream tea!
Frankie

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 6th 2015 @ 8:20pm

I can see the illustrated book now, "The Lizard Who Came to Tea." Of course there'd be a chimp too (for the Mammalian brain - though I'd prefer a Pangolin), but who would represent the Higher Brain?
Dorset Cream Teas Rule UK!
L'xx

Julia Tue, Jul 7th 2015 @ 4:37pm

I read your blog yesterday Lex at Stanstead airport waiting for a flight. I was panicking about the flight for some reason and when the plane took off,it was so bumpy! All my brains worked overtime, my imagination (that it was going to crash and were the stewards strong enough looking to rescue me or would they save their own lives first (I would!). My rational brain wouldn't work for once. It didn't convince me that the bumps and strange noises were absolutely fine. Nothing worked except a small bottle of ghastly white wine which totally altered my mind and thinking. Don't know why I'm telling you this! but I do think mind altering alcohol at least helps in some situations, probably only for flying fear. It's effects are temporary until the plane lands which is what I wanted. My 3 brains played nicely together but against me on that flight. x

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