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Little Boxes. Saturday February 27, 2016

Pete Seeger sang about Little Boxes. A funny wee tune. Makes me smile every time!

For those of us who give out, and forget to look after ourselves before anything else, it is something I would like to encourage you to think about.

I know someone who works in boxes, he compartmentalises. When juggling things, he neatly gives each thing a portion of time, allows each thing its allotted time, and when that time is up, he moves on. Without regret, without stretching the time. He is disciplined. It's not always helpful to me (!) but it is his way of achieving and something I can learn from. We who struggle with our mood are often the type of people who care a little too much and we go into the red. (Lex wrote The A-Z Guide to Life, Letter 'E'... this is another way of seeing that very thing. I hope this is a compliment and not cannibalising!)

Can you compartmentalise within your day or your week, giving everything a box? Think of a line of different size boxes with the words of what takes your time on the front. Can you even just be aware of needing to? Give each thing its time, the good and the dodgy. You can look at it as the box filling as you spend time on that thing or emptying as you spend the time. Either way, when it is full or when it is empty, you need to stop.

Let's build with boxes. And... I'm glad we have this thing which links our lives together. Because it means, unlike the song, we are not all the same. I like that. Here is the song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUwUp-D_VV0

Love from

The room above the garage
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Comments

Susannah Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 8:25am

What an interesting idea. I think I shall give that a go - to stop me watching so much crap tv - a box that really IS empty!
Thank you, ratg

Jane Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 8:31am

I Took My Mind For A Walk

I took my Mind for a walk
Then sat it down and had a talk,
Mind, I said, stop bothering me
With all your negativity,
Look around there is so much
To do and see and feel and touch,
Sometimes your thoughts can be wrong
Please try to sing a happier song,
And remember Mind you're strong and true
You're clever and smart and I love you,
So help me to stay focused today
On all the good things coming my way,
And tell my heart how awesome I can be
And love and cherish all of me


JSG Feb 27th 2016



Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 8:53am

Ve ve good, Jane...I take from your great poem that we should be telling our minds bodies and soul that 'I love you' and maybe forgiving our self and letting go of all the negativity...every morning to set us up for a new day. Thanks Jane...that could have been a blog all of its own! Big Bear hug to you! x x x

Hopeful One Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 10:11am

Hi Jane - that a a cool poem getting into the heart of the matter as it were!

Mary Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 10:32am

Thank you Jane, that's such a loving and accepting and positive poem.

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:54am

Thank you so much everyone for your kind feedback. It was a nice start to my day today to see your comments. And thank you room above the garage for the inspiring blog ????

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:55am

Oops sorry -the ? Were a typo! Sorry. I meant to put a ????

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:56am

Ok I'm trying to put a smiley face but it keeps coming up as question marks! Imagine a smiley face there please!

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:58am

Many thanks for the lovely bear hug xx

Jane Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 8:34am

I wrote this poem when I woke this morning after an eve of negative thoughts. Wishing everyone a lovely day

Jane Stephenson-Glynn

Lex Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 6:31pm

I love it! Starfish

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:54am

Thank you! Glad you liked it ????

Jane Sun, Feb 28th 2016 @ 8:57am

Smiley face! Not question marks! My I pad is doing weird things!

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 8:56am

Dear RATG, another goodly idea...I think I compartmentalise and box things to keep focussed. Find that is a good way to get even a small job completed then rest, especially when having a bad time. Been a ve ve bad week but clouds over Bear woods are starting to clear.
Bear x x x

Hopeful One Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 9:00am

Hi RATG - what a clever idea . I will have to try that and see if it feels different from my ' dot to dot day ' which has more to do with mood management rather than time management.

We can of course have a laugh as we go about it?

An engineer was crossing a road one day when a frog called out to him and said, "If you kiss me, I'll turn into a beautiful princess." He bent over, picked up the frog, and put it in his pocket. The frog spoke up again and said, "If you kiss me and turn me back into a beautiful princess, I will stay with you for one week." The engineer took the frog out of his pocket, smiled at it, and returned it to the pocket. The frog then cried out, "If you kiss me and turn me back into a princess, I'll stay with you and do ANYTHING you want." Again the engineer took the frog out, smiled at it, and put it back into his pocket. Finally, the frog asked, "What is the matter? I've told you I'm a beautiful princess, that I'll stay with you for a week, and do anything you want. Why won't you kiss me?" The engineer said, "Look, I'm a computer engineer. I don't have time for a girlfriend, but a talking frog - now, that's cool!"

Mary Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 10:38am

Laughing so hard here! I know so many engineers and yes - so true!!! Just off to share with them all! I was reading a book on relationships with regard to personality types many years ago and remember one of the remarks in it was that engineers make boring boyfriends but great husbands; steady, faithful, loyal, straight-forward, undemanding... There's a reason why, when they are also musicians, they are very often the bassists! I love Engineers! I also remember seeing a Facebook Meme "Give an Engineer a hug today. He won't appreciate it - but give him one anyway!"

Hopeful One Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 6:00pm

Hi Mary- charmed and delighted

Holly Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 10:25am

I just wanted to say that this was a huge coincidence because I've had the 'Little boxes' song stuck in my head for the last 2 days! Haha

But yeah, it's definitely a good idea to try to compartmentalise and deal with everything...and making sure we make time for ourselves too!

Mary Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 10:45am

Oh RATG - what a sad song. And how ironic that we all agonise about not fitting neatly into society and its boxes, yet if we did we would feel so confined. I like to think that each of those boxes is a Tardis. We are only alike on the outside. Inside we have a vast universe of individuality and creativity! As to your idea of boxes..... Nope - never gonna work for me: I am so homogenous. I cannot create boundaries in my life. All my interests overflow into and interact with each other. My work and my writing and my friendships and my faith all intermingle, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Then occasionally I go into "ferocious focus" as one of my friends puts it, to achieve a certain task - so everything else just fades to the periphery for a while. Maybe that makes my brain a mess, but I find it a comfortable mess. On the other hand, those boxes would suit my husband down to the ground as he gets stressed by having everything going on at once. I shall pass the idea onto him. Thank you as always.

The Gardener Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 3:13pm

That song! The origin is from a protest movement (I think) against poverty in Canada. I wrote an article using it - the UK was talking about building 350,000 houses in the South East, housing estates here are a circle of 'boxes' round the old granite stone towns. When hunting our, probably last, home, we looked at a 'little box' very convenient but we'd have gone mad in days. I do 'compartmentalise' where possible my life, know my character quite well. When I had the kids to get to school and an office to run I used to put a time limit on housework. Hated it, and because I hated it I'd dawdle around, stop for coffee or solitaire, and nothing would get done. Ages ago, in the posts in reply to my 'Job Satisfaction' blog I said dividing the day into half hour 'units' worked very well (German idea - obviously).I've just been 'ordered' by my doctor, and given a prescription, for a lady to come in 3 x 2 hours per week to just get Mr G out of my hair - I'm coping, but getting snappier by the day (some of my friends might say 'what's new'?

the room above the garage Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 3:20pm

Hello everybody, i'm at a sports thing with my children today so can't reply...but hello, thank you and HO thank you for the joke. I ALWAYS love them. The ruder the better!

Hopeful One Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 6:01pm

Hi RATG- charmed and delighted.

Brum Mum Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 4:19pm

One of my friends used to say to me "put it in the box it belongs in". It was her way of saying 'park that thought'. It's a useful way of putting negative thoughts in context.....because generally the things that bug us often are not that big or important in the grand scheme of things. I, like The Gardener, have been very snappy this week. Today I have given over to being quiet, making small plans and largely sitting in bed on the iPad. It is wonderful.....and enables me to put all the detritus of life (work stress, kids stress, divorce stress) in perspective. So RATG, thanks for the song, and the blog......we all need to find our own little boxes.

Lex Sat, Feb 27th 2016 @ 6:34pm

Hi RATG! l love the idea of being able to say to life, "This is all you get on this task - no more, no less, that's your lot." My life would be so much easier. Then I could "tick the box"! I wonder what stops me? Why is it hard to say, "No!" and so easy to let the Time-Vampyrs in my life suck so much of my life away.
Time is merciless and unrelenting - so perhaps we should pay it back as good as it gives? Nice one! Starfish

LillyPet Mon, Feb 29th 2016 @ 7:52am

Hi ratg, hope you get this late reply!
I loved your little boxes blog! Your writing gives me a warm smiley glow!
Interesting balance between tackling us trying to stretch time, (the boxes idea is a great one!) and the other end of the scale like the robots in the song! A fabulous blog! Hugs LP :) xxx

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