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Life's Amplifiers. Monday July 18, 2016

You have an infinite capacity for Life.

When Life is good, it's highly likely that you'd like more of the good stuff! We all may have different desires, missions and visions in Life but we all share a common intent and purpose:

To live Life to the full.

I call this "Life Plus" or "Life∞" - simply because I meet so few people who are enjoying Life to the full. So how can we get more out of life? How can we move into more of this "quality of Life" that people mention so often?

To get more 'out' of Life, put more 'in' to Life!

There are many factors that will amplify the quality of life. "There" is an anagram of "Three" so let's just focus on three today!

Stroking {Positive}

You get more of what you pay attention to. This seems to be a Golden Rule of Mindset - the stuff you think about expands in your awareness, and often in your circumstances too. So a great place to begin is by paying attention or 'investing attention' in the practice of being grateful.

Firstly, then, what are you grateful for today?

This will prime your creative mindset to mine your experience for those gems of goodness. What's good and true and lovely and praise-worthy in your life? What's beautiful and funny and edifying?

Secondly, pay attention...

Some people are so poor they can't even pay attention! If you want inner peace, the lessons from history are clear: quality of life is about People first. And the currency of every good relationship is attention. In short, we need to quieten our inner dialogue and need to be heard, and turn up our ability to listen to others. Once again, there are gems to be found once you listen deeply to the message behind the surface noise.

Thirdly, Stroke people!

Really listening to someone is a wonderful gift to give, and a great investment in the future of your relationship. But you're not a microphone attached to a recording device... you are also a Broadcaster with a message to share, a Singer with a song to sing, a Poet with a love poem to speak into being.

What I mean is that true listening must produce tangible fruit. You must respond in some way. And this is where positive stroking will further amplify your quality of life. I am using 'stroking' here in the way it is meant by Transactional Analysts: a unit of attention. We won't go any deeper today but simply suggest you really turn up the volume when you say something good, and true, and lovely about the other person.

Amazing people will surround you today. Catch them doing something right, and tell them that you appreciate it.

If you can become more aware of what there is to be grateful for in your Life, and if you can really listen to others today, and if you can augment your listening with genuine compliments, your Life (and my Life) will be amplified towards its potential: "Life Plus" or "Life∞"

Have a wonder-filled day!

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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patricia Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 7:41am

Oh! Lex it's a beautiful morning here in Devon, giving me a real good feeling. I do try and thank God at the end of the day and be grateful for what I have. I will try and listen more today and tell whoever I am with I appreciate them.
Also listen to some uplifting music.
Thank you Lex we do need reminding.
Hope you too have a wonder-filled Day.

Lex Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 7:46am

Thanks Patricia! Fog here in Dorset but one can sense the promise of blue skies!! Broadcasting the Breakfast Show at the moment, so really enjoying good music at the start of this wonder-filled day. Lovely to connect with you. L'x

Richard Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 9:03am

Thank you, Lex. I shall cherish your wonderful blog.
Peace & Love,

Lex Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 10:05am

That's a lovely thing to say, Richard, I appreciate that deeply. Peace & Love & all that Happiness Stuff (Steve Vai), L'x

Anna Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 9:12am

Lex, I hope you don't mind me asking, but why are your blogs always written as if you are a lecturer with all the answers and no problems? I like this space when people share their own vulnerabilities rather than preach. Do you ever suffer from any of the mood problems we share between us or do you always have all the answers?

Lex Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 10:08am

Hi Anna, yes I have massive problems! My mission is to give a Monday 'lift' - a little spark at the start of the week. Our community is excellent at supporting one another, and this is reflected in most of the other blogs. Thanks for your feedback... I am a lecturer (well, a presenter), and a preacher! But I am a lecturer and a preacher to those who, like me, don't have all the answers, but are stumbling on what may be useful from time to time. When that happens, I can't help but want to share in the hope it might be useful. Hope that clarifies my positive intent.

Jul Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 1:42pm

Hi Anna. I know what you are getting at/coming from but us who know Lex from his writing for Moodscope, really appreciate his words for what they are. He injects a bit of lively sparkle into our lives every week and has good advice to give too. I guess we don't all have to bare our souls; some don't want to for confidential reasons and I dare say Lex is one of those. He uses one of his real names and as he says he broadcasts each Monday morning on a local radio station. We are each of us complex characters but by remaining active on Moodscope,we can generally get to know each other however little or a lot, each of us reveals about ourselves and our issues. I agree with you that it is comforting to read blogs where the author shares his or her vulnerabilities and for 6 days out of the 7 days each week, we can read such blogs. Lex's blogs ARE different I agree but I for one, have come to love his style of writing, his cheer and his incredible replies to us all. Lex is warm and makes me feel good. I think we should allow him to write exactly what he wants to as at the end of the day, his aim is to help us. However I wouldn't tolerate another person helping on an additional day and would find Lex difficult to replace on a Monday or any day! Jules xx

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:21am

Thanks Jules - BIG hug for your big hug here. You know well enough to know that I don't want to share/write if it doesn't help, and your comments were most affirming. xx

The Gardener Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 10:35am

Struggling to find a bright spot today, except for the sun. The posts to my blog yesterday were so varied, all comforting and with 'sensible' not 'preaching' advice. Mr G has been SO foul since 6.15 this a.m that 'keeping the lid on' is the only thing to strive for. It's 30 degrees, I wanted to cross the road to the other house - but he had to have another coat - then said he was too hot! It reminded me of a bit of very sick, black humour - not to HO's scale. In our village lived a horrible old farmer - illiterate, unwashed he had a good repertoire of annoying people. We were contractors, he did not pay till we refused to work. Money rumoured to be buried in farmyard, guarded by a fierce dog. He half-starved his cows, and let them graze on the very large village green. There was a little ditch between green and our gardens, which the cows straddled easily to demolish our flowers and hedges. On Ascot race days, pre-motorways, to avoid the awful town of Staines traffic would come through our village. The farmer would let his cows out - to challenge Rolls and Bentleys, and if they challenged a cow he beat the car bonnets! Anyway, for three consecutive winters he had bronchitis. The doctor suggested a routine X-ray. Could only mean one thing, cancer. So, he took his son's shot-gun, walked over to the chicken-house and killed himself. But - he was worried about getting wet on the way! So he took his son's new rain-coat as well. The son sat behind me at school, and taught me to swear. 'The old b****r shot my coat full of holes, and now the f*****g thing's covered in blood'. So, looking for gratitude, at the moment it can only be for gardening - to have a garden (so many have not, cannot) and to have the strength and ability still to keep them lovely, and share them with others. Thanks Lex, will struggle harder

Lex Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 10:56am

I, too, find comfort in the garden, dear Gardener. There are tiny encouragements there that won't outweigh what you're facing, but will continue to contribute some positive moments. L'x

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 11:01am

Oh Gardener - that is dark humour indeed - so dark the only thing to do is laugh! So pleased your blog yesterday garnered some good advice and encouraging comments. I will go and read it now (I was doing something very difficult for me yesterday - all day - I was visiting a theme park (with scary rides) with my children. Greater love hath no mother than she ride on the "Vampire" to make her kids happy.

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 11:02am

Good advice as always, Lex. Love you.

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:18am

Love you to, Mary! Onwards!! x

Lifelong Learner Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 11:29am

I really appreciate your positive perspective Lex! I check in to the Moodscope blog most days and find everyone's words of wisdom a great source of support. We are all unique human beings, scrambling around for ways to manage this thing called 'life'. We all have problems, and sharing them can be tremendously therapeutic, and some of us have also found strategies that can help us to look at life from a different perspective, and I personally appreciate being reminded of the value of positive 'strokes'. Thanks for sharing Lex.

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:18am

Thanks, Lifelong Learner... had a lovely day yesterday giving and receiving positive strokes (unsolicited) and have just received a thoughtful card from a friend who knows the 'real' me... so these small moments of bliss keep us all going, don't they? x

The Gardener Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 11:44am

There's a brave Mary. I would not accompany my children/g-children in case I embarrased them with my screams. In Sumatra I rode on an elephant without a howdah - think I was 'high' on anti-malarial pills. Elephant was wide and high - at every step and roll I felt I must tip off. My terrorised brain just caught my d-in-law to our son 'You're mother's on an elephant!'. I also tried riding a sheep but only got tipped off in the dung heap. Dared to ride a pig it would not let me get on.

Maria Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 6:59pm

What wise words Lex! Thanks for sharing!

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:16am

Thanks, Maria... glad they were good for you too x

Rebecca Mon, Jul 18th 2016 @ 9:51pm

Lex I love your blogs, please don't change them. They stop me in my tracks when I start feeling down and sorry for myself. It is great to have some positivity and the advice is always very good.x

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:13am

Thanks, Rebecca - really appreciate the encouragement. I think it's important for our Community to know that, actually, I'm Not Ok, most of the time and that I'm looking for answers but not possessing all or even many of them. If the little I do find inspiring helps you, then it's a wonderful privilege to share. x

the room above the garage Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 12:13am

Thank you Lex xx

Lex Tue, Jul 19th 2016 @ 11:14am

You too, Ratg, really touched by your blog today xx

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