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Let's count our blessings. Tuesday January 6, 2015

One of my best presents ever was given to me this Christmas by my strapped-for-cash student daughter who made all her presents this year. Mine is a decorated jam jar with "Mum's reasons to smile" written on it. Inside are slips of paper rolled up – there must be at least fifty. She has told me that when I feel down I am to take one out at random and read it.

Now, being me, I have been 'peeking' at them ever since.

They vary from the not very modest "Because you have me as a daughter and I am AWESOME", to the more obvious "Because you are always there for us"; from the affirming "Because whatever you are doing right now, you are doing great", to the laugh out loud "Because there is no angry way of saying "bubbles". (Try it!) Many of them are tea-related (my fall-back in times of stress and anxiety) and some are cribbed "Because today is the perfect day to be HAPPY".

So, why not write your own "Reasons to smile"? From the frivolous "Because there is always CHOCOLATE" to the obvious (yes, the obvious) "Because I am loved/wise/respected/caring..." from the cribbed "I have found that if you love life, life will love you back". Arthur Rubinstein, to the homemade "Every day we have choices."

Even the act of writing out affirmations helps: "Because when it is dark, you can look for the stars, and when it rains, you can look for the rainbow."

Why not share your favourite with the rest of us – I bet that between us we can produce an inspiring list of lift-me-ups as varied as the members of this wonderful community.

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The Entertrainer Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 5:08am

"Because there is no angry way of saying "bubbles"
Utterly brilliant xxx

The Entertrainer Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 5:15am

I Am Learning; I Am Loving; I Am Laughing!

Hopeful One Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 5:39am

Hi Frankie- an affirming blog if you will excuse the pun? Me? ' I am a good person and I value mysel' every
time I see myself in the mirror' or ' if that is not nice then I don't know what is'to acknowledge the little things in our day that make us happy and a reminder not to discount them

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 6:05am

Frankie that is brilliant!! I love your daughter. Cash-strapped maybe but it has meant (and would to me also) a million times more than shop bought. She brings a little of herself into your life everyday this way!
It makes me think of our Jar of Good Things...
Last Christmas was a tough one for us...we lost a beautiful, beautiful close family member. We held vigil for days and days as she slowly left us. It was wonderful to have that time but I just felt so empty afterward.
I read about the Jar of Good things. Simply, you write down a good thing whenever it occurs and read them back at the end of the year. We started a year ago and it has sat on the kitchen bunker ever since. My eldest daughter decorated it and I thought it might sit empty, forgotten by us all. But no, it's got lots of little pieces of paper inside, each dated and folded into tiny nuggets. We're about ready to open and read back over the year, heavily weighted towards only the good, the 'smaller' the good thing being the most important I find. It has come around so quickly. It's become such a part of our lives that i'd forgotten all about it being time to open it! My kids are back to school today and I'll add my last few things from December. Tonight, after what will have been a hard day for my son (anxiety laden) we will read over and benefit.
Thank you Frankie, this has turned my day around having a magical thing to look forward to. Much love to you from me, in the room above the garage x.

Victoria Abraham Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 7:12am

Frankie, you and your daughter have lifted my day already and I am truly grateful. I have already made a list for a Happiness Jar in the hope that my boys will contribute. My biggest gratitudes tend to come from the smaller things in life. Thank you so much.

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 7:13am

Terrific post. About a year ago I decided I would track developments in the world of "character strengths." There are a couple of dozen of them, and you might guess them: curiosity, awe, humor, courage, humility, etc. I came across a list of actions per strength at one of the websites, and thought, I could make my own quote-a-day type calendar.
¶ I first copied into a spreadsheet all the suggestions with columns for the Virtue (a cluster of strengths) and each strength. Then I began to replace ones that didn't fit me or were just too predictable with quotes. Looking for the quotes was great fun.
¶ To make the calendar I did this: added a column with the Day and Date (Monday, Jan 5, for example). Added another column for random numbers (RN). I then highlighted this RN column, inserted the RN function and cc'd it down the column. Then I highlighted the whole list and sorted it keyed to the RN column.
¶ The hardest part is moving this data into a label format with Day and Date at the top, Virtue and Strength next, and the tip or quote last. Print the labels and cut them out. Organize in date order.
¶ To make the calendar, damp down the sheets until you have a uniform and flat top edge. Clamp with large paper pinch binders, and coat this top edge with a thin layer of all-purpose school glue. Let dry, and there you have it.
¶ My quote for today? TEMPERANCE-humility ... "One learns to ignore criticism by first learning to ignore applause." ~ Robert Bault
Cheers, Revu2

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 7:17am

The third ¶ from the end I meant "tamp down" not "damp down." Revu2

shirley Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 7:29am

What a fantastic idea,I'm gonna this!!!!

Arty Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 8:04am

Brilliant idea! I'm going to make one for me and one for my son who often needs reassurance, particularly at night. Thank you for taking the time to share. X

Mary Blackhurst Hill Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 9:21am

I adore this idea, and if only one of my character strengths was "consistent organisation" i would definitely take this on. Not being blessed with that one, I will merely admire. Sounds like a wonderful idea.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 9:24am

Lovely, Lovely post, Frankie. Now let's see....

....Bubbles... no. Bub, Bub, Bub, Bubbles...... no. BUBBLES!!!!

Well.... at the last it did come out like that chap calling out "Fenton" as his dog chased the deer, but it still made me laugh!

Please say to your daughter that her gift has made many more people than just her mother smile today.

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 11:55am

What a wonderful idea - I love it; so healing and enriching ...Frankie

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 12:00pm

Love it! Frankie

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 12:02pm

My pleasure! Frankie

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 12:04pm

I'm with Mary on this one - glad you liked the post and your idea sounds brilliant; Frankie

Anonymous Tue, Jan 6th 2015 @ 12:07pm

Thank-you one and all for your comments; I am so pleased that my daughter's wisdom is helping so many;
as to telling her Mary, not sure about that as she (and my family) don't know that I post ... Tough one that! Frankie

Silvia A Wed, Jan 7th 2015 @ 2:14am

I wrote a comment and it got lost!

Silvia A Wed, Jan 7th 2015 @ 2:17am

Mary , you have said exactly what I thought, except the third phrase.

Susan Ball Thu, Jan 15th 2015 @ 11:21am

Fabulous Gift! There is no angry way to say bubbles - pass it on :)

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