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KISS and Make-Up. Monday June 27, 2016

This is not going to be about what you may be thinking! Forgiveness and reconciliation are gorgeous achievements in life, but today's message is about you and what goes on between your ears!

As I grow older (and, frankly, way more cynical) I realise that most of the rules we live by are made up. Gravity is real, and represents a law, rule and principle that we do well to respect, but most other things are made up by our culture. Somehow Life has bolted the 'gift' of consciousness onto an existing monkey and lizard brain, and we thus do our best to make sense of it all. But we don't always get it right. Some of our made up rules keep our inner monkey and lizard happy and safe and maybe they need a shake-up.

I would like to stir up the Revolutionary in you today. I believe you are highly likely to have bought into some rules that no longer serve your best interest. For example, I have a 'rule' that I should be at my damn computer by 9 am to work for a client I don't enjoy working for. I write this blog on a Tuesday, which we call "Choose-day" in this house. So today I have chosen to put my writing first in the chance that it just might help someone (other than me – it always helps me!) Today, I have broken the rules.

Of course, I will pay a penalty for breaking the rules – after all, I can't charge the client for time I don't invest, but there is also a reward for breaking the rules – I get to make my art.

Here's the challenge: if most of the rules are made up, make up your own! Rules like the 10 Commandments are very sensible rules – I wouldn't change those – but I would challenge the little rules we make up or accept that tell what we should and ought to be doing with our time. Time freedom is one of the greatest liberties on Earth.

Today, I would ask you to give yourself permission to do something you wouldn't usually allow yourself the luxury of indulging in. Break and old rule and make up a new one. And use the KISS principle – "Keep It Short (and) Simple" because all of us could benefit from having a simpler life with less restrictive rules.

So there you have it: KISS and Make-Up. (Off to put on my mascara.)

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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LillyPet Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 7:55am

Morning Lex,
I love the idea of breaking free from all the restricting rules that I have felt bound by! Duty, guilt responsibility... a blog along similar lines has been brewing in me too!
I can way too involved in stuff, over think and over complicate what could be far more simple. Trying so hard to prove that I am worthy or something. Thanks for shaking it up on a Monday morning! :) loved the word play too! What a lovely way to remember to go easy on ourselves. My rules, short and sweet! Mwah!
Hope you're doing ok Lex. Thanks for an inspiring and uplifting blog! Sending energising vibes to all LPxx

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 8:35am

Ah LillyPet, I knew you were a revolutionary too. Big love xx

S Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 8:58am

Thanks LP for energising vibes- need it today. Nothing wrong, just tired from a good weekend with friends despite all the goings on nationally. Hope you are doing ok, Sx

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 11:55am

Hi Lillypet ......looking forward to your blog - Bear x x x

S Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 8:56am

Morning Lex, I have to admit I feel safer with rules and I think I need a shake up (and a more positive one than this weekend's in the UK!) thank you. I hope that you have a good day, Sx

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:45pm

Hi S, it's OK to have a gentle shake up... more like dancing with the rules! Many rules are fab - they just need checking to see if they are still working for you. L'x

Lou Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 9:09am

As an inveterate rule maker this post really resonated with me.
“Give yourself permission” is something I am working hard at, so appreciated the food for thought and motivation provided by your blog!


Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:46pm

"Permission" is a beautiful word, Lou, and it's for you!!! Here's to a permissive Monday! L'x

The Gardener Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 10:31am

Reply to Lesley from yesterday - please excuse me Lex. We live in France. Are you an actress - acting Therese Raquin? Was that the horror story where the murdered husband's ghost appears in bed between the lovers? Don't think UK actually dangerous! Acute panic among Brits abroad - British citizen, French resident, were citizens of European Union, where we felt perfectly at home - anywhere in Europe, in fact - real headache about what will happen with health - we have huge health issues, being ill and old in France is very good - what if we have to revert to UK to pick up the tag? A distant allusion of subject of blog 'Kiss and Make Up' what European Union had as its base - that nations who had been enemies for centuries should add together and avoid enmity. Bible parable of strength together? Lex mentions the 10 commandments - listening to Radio 4 - all on the problems of adultery!!!

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:59pm

I think the rules are being shaken, dear Gardener... and I believe the good rules, ties and connections within the EU will stand firm. We'll get through this stronger. L'x

Angela Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 10:52am

Morning to you all, I am really struggling at the moment and part of it ( I think )is the FALSE belief that I MUST do X, Y or Z purely because a friend asks me to go/be somewhere. Over the years my resentment has drip, drip, dripped into my pail of patience and I can hardly bear to even think about this person without feeling stressed & overwhelmed. I wouldnt mind but she also suffers depression and eating problems. Sorry for waffling; hugs to all x x

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:49pm

This is the place to chat, Angela... and waffles are delicious! As dear Bearofliddlebrain declares, " a brave bear..." One of my favourite writers speaks about "renegotiating commitments" - sounds like this would be great for you and your friend. L'x

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 11:47am

Dear Angela,
1..your pail is full to be a brave bear and just say 'No, but thank you for asking' when this 'friend' wants you to do something, if you don't want to do it that day....suggest an alternative so you won't feel like you are shutting said friend off completely.

I have a friend who does this sort of thing to me...she also gets cross if I haven't initiated contact, but when I do, she takes ages to respond because she is so busy!!
So you're not the only one. Does she know you have depression? don't have to apologise here...we all waffle, chat or get it off our chests, hearts and minds, that's why Moodscope is here - to help.
Big Bear hugs to you and all x x x x

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 11:54am loving that shade of lipstick on you! Tee hee!

Am shaking things up in Bear World...have been given permission from OH, daughter and most importantly myself, so am off to play tomorrow...staying overnight....woo hoo!

(Inner turmoil though because as usual, my liddle brain is telling me it's much easier and safer to stay home; not upset anyone by not being here to cook meals and make cups of tea as they walk in from work.).
But Bear will win the day - have told self that Bears need breaks too, so am off! Bear huglets xxx

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 12:15pm

Have a lovely time away Bear! Huglets back! And - yes - I think Lex looks splendid in his mascara!

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:53pm

Hi Lovely Bear friend... you'd have loved the guest on my show today - Rikey Austin from Alice's Bear Shop & Teddy Bears & Doll Hospital. She had a great phrase: "Less stuff; more play!" I'm SO looking forward to hearing that you had a great time playing. Bear hug and love, L'x

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 7:31pm

Danke! Diolch! Thankees! Merci...will let you know how it goes! Bear x

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 12:13pm

I must have known you would be putting this out today Lex, as this morning I had peach and banana cake with ice cream for breakfast! That's really breaking the rules and living dangerously. And - oh - it tasted sooooo good!

Anonymous Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 1:05pm

Delicious rebellion!

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:55pm

Rebellion, how sweet it is to the lips! Now I'm hungry... L'x

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 7:32pm

Ugh that's ruined my diet - but only in my head! Hope it was scrummylicious x

Anonymous Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 1:05pm

Oddly enough, forgiveness was NOT what the title brought to mind, but wild rockers with over the top make-up... which was very well suited to the idea of shaking up the rules, really. :)

This blog really resonates. I've accepted a lot of rules in my life, that even the people I adopted them from don't really believe in. It can be very freeing to drop or re-frame them!

Lex Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 3:56pm

Nice one, Anonymous... now I see what you see! Rock on! God gave rock and roll and put it in the soul of everyone... and as everyone knows, Rock and Roll is so often about breaking the rules and challenging the establishment! Oh Yeah! L'x

The Gardener Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 5:20pm

My rebellion will be regretted - due to a vital medical need to keep my weight down the rule was wine of cake/dessert. Now, kir at lunch to give me courage for the rest of the day - and the best cake in the shop to put balm on the wounds which usually occur with Mr G in the evening.

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 7:34pm

Hi TG....mmmm...cake balm!!! That's interesting!! I wonder if I can get away with using that as an excuse for cake!!! Keep having what you want when you want it and rebel against everyone whilst you can!! Bear hugs for a smooth evening,TG x

Eva Mon, Jun 27th 2016 @ 11:26pm

Hi Lex, I find shaking up the rules / order I do things in really helps to shrug off the compulsive obsessive tendencies and stops them hardening into inflexible behaviours. Also if there is something I don't want to do, it can help to change the order and then I kind of take myself by surprise ;) So thanks for the reminder, very useful to recognise this as a tool.

Hi all other peeps.

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