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Keeping It Short and Simple. Monday March 30, 2015

I am grateful to my three sons for teaching me so much about success. Each one of them is unique. When they were small, they were so cute, engaging and witty – individually! But stick them together and a different chemistry began. To use street language, they "did my head in!"

Balancing the often conflicting needs of three young children in the same time-space was too much for my mind and my attention. Confusion and chaos followed rapidly!

When trying to befriend our brains, the same is true. Sometimes our goals are like three children going in different directions. This makes life confusing and too complex. Your brain will thank you for presenting one idea or demand on its attention at a time. Yes, I know female wired brains can cope with more, but the preference still remains for one-thought-at-a-time.

Some people confuse their dreams and goals by blending two or more ideas together. For example, if your desire is to be fit and healthy, it's easy to think about those two discrete goals in the same sentence. Like my sons, they are similar and belong to the same 'family' of ideas. However, "fit" is not quite the same as "healthy". Is it possible to be fit but not healthy? Is it possible to be healthy but not fit? I look forward to your comments!

Just imagine expanding those two desired states into the steps it would take to create them. A fitness regime is a lot about exercise. Being healthy includes exercise but it is frequently more about diet. And, yes, I do realise they overlap. My point, however, is that the brain works on each of them far more effectively if they are treated as unique goals.

When they are given their own unique time and attention, they will respond just like my lovely sons did when they were little: they will thrive!

Keep It Short and Simple!

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Hopeful One Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 7:45am

Hi Lex- thank you for that thought provoking post.I believe one can be fit but not healthy .I have in mind people with diabetics who look outwardly fit but are not have fat stored in their abdomen and liver on scans which is not healthy.. And obese individuals can look unhealthy but can be fit if they follow an exercise regime.It is true that female brains are wired differently but when it comes to a claim like shay are multi tasked I feel it is misleading.I believe Our minds can only focus on one thing at any one time.Trying to focus on two things means neither is done properly. I feel that this may be one of the reasons why women tend to be more prone to things like anxiety and depression as their brain seems to be in 'overdrive' more often than males.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 10:32am

Hmmmm. A heartfelt agreement that children are not good fro your mental health. Two words. Easter Holidays...... Oh, and your post wasn't about that at all. Um - what was the question again? I wasn't paying attention because my children were fighting!

The Entertrainer Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 11:26am

Hi Hopeful One - I'm with you, I think either gender can only cope with one area of keen focus at a time. It may be the case that a female wired brain has more peripheral awareness - but when it comes to quality processing, it's one byte at a time!

The Entertrainer Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 11:28am

Well, Mary, you know I understand.
Perhaps Children can be like Heathrow or any other major airport around the World. There are a lot of planes, but only one on the runway at a time. Can we teach our children to go into a neat holding pattern? ha ha.... I'm dreaming!

Anonymous Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 12:05pm

Keeping it short, keeping it simple...walk the dog twice a day for an hour or more each time. Do cleaning in short bursts, have a now. Gardening in short bursts to save back ache, then rest....I'm probably not as fit as I should be or as healthy, but am trying by keeping it short and simple! Karen x

The Entertrainer Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 1:51pm

Sounds like a perfect routine to me, Karen! KISS!

Anonymous Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 7:06pm

I have a confession to make. I'm female and I'm no good at multitasking. It's wrong! Love ratg :-)

Anonymous Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 7:11pm

Our hols begin later this week Marydoll...empathy! Lex, I regularly tell my kids they are "in a queue". And when begged and pleaded with I employ "your calls are important to me...but your still in the queue". Then, later, I lose it and shout!!! :-D
I think you can be fit but not healthy but if you're healthy you're usually fit as a by-product. Love ratg x.

Silvia A Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 9:16pm

I do not think the female brain is a multitasking brain as we conceive of modern multitasking. I think of mothers before the technologie, they work differently from men, I mean those who have many children and prepare the food, clean the house, and do everything at home but not as in a dispersive way as in recent times.

Silvia A Mon, Mar 30th 2015 @ 9:27pm

Lex, what a combination of thoughs! Quite stimulating!
Yes, I have been noticing these multiple children in my brain and more and more I prefer to do things slowly and with focus. A big training for me!

Fit and healthy? I am not fit and I am healthy although a bit overweight. I think these notions must be seen from a larger perspective. There are many who are fitter than me but eat all the things I avoid, do not practice kindness, etc, etc. Ohters may be fit but they use their body in a extreme and live wiht pain. I think each one needs a personal evaluation.
By the way, does anyone in this group paractices Alexander Therapy?
Your idea to separate the two goals is a very good one. I hoep to pay attention when i mix two things in my brain next time.
A very good post!

The Entertrainer Tue, Mar 31st 2015 @ 4:55am

Oh RATG... you ARE my Superhero! You really made me laugh... out loud! x

The Entertrainer Tue, Mar 31st 2015 @ 4:58am

Thank you Silvia... and you have inspired me!
You mentioned kindness. That got me thinking about all the people (like me?) who have healthy brains but not fit ones (i.e. doesn't get much exercise). And then, what about emotions (I'm not sure all mine are healthy!) I shall meditate on this.
As for "Alexander" - I know Tony Buzan, with whom I used to work, was a big fan - and he's one of the stars of brain fitness and of the mind.

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