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Keep in touch - it's easier than ever. Sunday September 28, 2014

My best friend has recently moved to London following a job offer.

We were room mates for 4 years around 14 years ago, until he moved to another city. Accepting this change was very difficult for me at the time and I missed him quite often.

My first reaction to the news he was moving to another country, was a wave of despair. We'll be even more separated, we'll have even fewer chances to spend time together. Then I thought that although we hadn't been room mates for many years, it didn't end our friendship.

Another more important observation is that living apart from him didn't prove to be impossible. I built a career, start a family. I've had my fair share of small and big successes.

So anyway, I just called him. We talked for over half an hour. It made my day.

Before I reached for my phone I had a long internal monologue: "What if he's busy and doesn't have the time to talk? What if doesn't answer the phone? What if he's in company and can't excuse himself to talk to me?" All those fears obviously proved to be insubstantial. Once I dialled the number our chat flowed most naturally, and all my gloom melted away.

The moral of the story: try to be more proactive about keeping in touch with your loved ones, it will make you feel great and it's now easier than ever.

Tadeusz
A Moodscope user.


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Julia Sun, Sep 28th 2014 @ 8:09am

I agree Tadeusz. If a friendship is a really good one, no amount of separation will spoil it. I have a friend from school with whom I lost touch for years but when we met up again eventually, we immediately got on so well. We have had more in common and to talk about since, than when we were inseparable years ago. One has to be proactive as you said and it was my friend who initially made the effort to see me again for which I am so grateful.

Lex McKee Sun, Sep 28th 2014 @ 10:39am

Hi Tadeusz (what a lovely name you have)... I'm amazed at how many people have this frustration: "Why is it always me who has to pick up the phone?" But I think this is great. I agree with you 100% - it's great to be the ProActive One - the One who reaches out. It is rare that this act of kindness goes unappreciated. In fact, so many people say, "That was spooky, I was about to call you!" But they don't, do they? So, agreed, let's be more proactive about keeping in touch with our loved ones... that's what modern technology is for. Great blog post.

Anonymous Sun, Sep 28th 2014 @ 10:39am

Nice blog Tadeusz. What a great reminder and tribute to good friends.

Alexia Mon, Sep 29th 2014 @ 10:39am

'No man is a failure who has friends'. Quote from 'It is a Wonderful Life'.

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