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It Will Pass. Saturday April 15, 2017

When you're low everything seems to conspire to keep you there.

You know the fresh air will do you good but you'd rather stay under your duvet.

You know drinking water will help but you have a glass of wine or endless cups of tea and coffee.

You know you need some company but you can't bear the thought of socialising.

Going for a run might help but your legs feel like lead and are not going to budge.

You need to eat a healthy diet but it's easier to grab whatever is there from the fridge or cupboard, or not eat at all.

You know social media is bad for you but you trawl through everyone else's perfect lives.

You know you should distract yourself but you let the bad thoughts accumulate and fester.

You know some mindfulness or meditation, or simple deep breaths will calm you but you don't let yourself stop and try it.

You know you're not alone but your mind tells you no-one else wants to know you now.

You know you're ill and it's the illness keeping you in this place and it'll pass. This is the best bit of the knowing.

It will pass.

Lizzie
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Molly Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 1:32am

Wow, great blog Lizzie. We know what to do, but sometimes we just cannot do it, can we. We know all of the answers, and we are told them constantly. Everyone has these logical answers, and we know ourselves what they are, we don't need to be told them. It gave me relief just reading this. Thank you. Molly xx

gill Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 6:38am

Dear Lizzie
You just summed up my life completely mine has got to the extent were I have lost all confidence in who I am and my body hurts so much I just give in to doing nothing. I have piled on weight and am so fearful of everything. I used to be so outgoing and sociable but now I just exist. I do believe that as George Harrison's song says All Things Must Pass but I am so very tired of waiting. Stay safe xx

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 8:51am

Hello gill, I was told that it doesn't actually matter which step you take as long as you just keep returning to it. Even if you can't get to it for a bit, just return to it when you can. The same step, not loads of different ones. And if it's hard, make it half a step. If that's hard, half it again. I exist too. Not sociable, fearful yes, body hurts yes, confidence is something I do not have. But I'm aiming at making the existing ok. The good thing with this illness is that the small stuff matters. I'll be walking beside you today, you're not alone. Maybe we can take a small quarter step. Love ratg x.

Lesley Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 9:16am

Thank you, RATG. Your words will help me get through this period of constant pain and sadness. I have done one thing today - a mindfulness body scan. I am tired of feeling exhausted and in pain and cannot see ways to have a more peaceful life.

Michael Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 10:44am

George Harrison also wrote " Its all too much for me to take, it's all too much"

Orangeblossom Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 7:44am

Thanks for the encouragement today Lizziie. I know just have to put one foot in front of another!

Liz Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 8:38am

This is spot on! Thank you for sharing Lizzie.

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 8:40am

So accurate and wise Lizzie. Mornings are especially hard for me so I will use "it will pass" as my mantra this morning. Thank you, love ratg x.

Leah Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 9:00am

Ratg I am not a morning person and can be so low that I have to tell myself by lunch it will be tolerable. Most mornings I just keep moving because I am afraid to stop. I just wish for once I could be chirpy!! Take care hope your mantra works x

Molly Sun, Apr 16th 2017 @ 3:47am

I don't really see mornings anymore, only when I have been up all night :-) xx

LP Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 8:44am

Hi Lizzie,
The thought " Even this day will pass" helped me to get through an awful day decades ago. Just the shift from "This is unbearable" to knowing that at least feeling this bad wont last, makes a huge difference.
Having a very bad day at least means that the next will not be as bad.
Comparing week by week can also help in the same way. I have had the sense of having been "through the worst of it" and that I want next week to be a better week.
Thank you Lizzie it's reassuring that it's ok that we can't do it all at once, but at least things do change.
Love and light to all. LPxx

Leah Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 9:03am

Lizzie'
This so honest . I think it will be helpful to show others who say., "Why dont you got for a walk, tidy up, eat better, take up medication or one of the thousand other pieces of advice one gets,"
A wonderful piece of writing. Thank you.

Michael Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 10:51am

A few months ago a friend of my wife was visiting. She asked how I was? In the spirit of destigmatising mental illness I no longer sugar coat, so replied absolutely dreadful, overcome by deep depression. She sweetly suggested that going for a walk with the dog might do me a world of good. I "patiently" replied that I had just arrived back home after an hours walk in the country!!

Lesley Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 9:19am

Lizzie, nothing short of spot on. Yesterday I knew I shouldnt have eatne ice cream and then had a glass of wine, but I did. I burn all over and just want to go to sleep and wake up without pain and with support and love in my life. I can't even cry at present although I know this would help. Telling people I am fine DOESNT make me feel better - just worse as it is a lie. Thank you again. xx

Michael Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 10:56am

Lesley what you need to do is have a good cry (tongue is in my cheek). Most "normal" people could not conceive that you can be in a state where it is impossible to cry. I have not been able to cry for at least 5 years.

Another Sally Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 12:25pm

Morning all,
When I need to cry but was too overwrought to do so I sat down and watched the last 10 minutes of a film called The Notebook. It is a good film all the way through if you haven't seen it, but I know the ending will bring tears to my eyes and I had a good sob. My life is tipsy turvey at the moment and I am holding it together with weekly acupuncture and putting one foot in front of the other. Open air swimming with a robin singing to me, now that is uplifting - except I have to return home afterwards.
Happy Easter/ happy holiday weekend to one and all. Another Sally x

Lizzie Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 12:43pm

Open air swimming, that really appeals to me. I always wonder if it would wash all woes away!

Lexi Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 1:20pm

Hi lizzie. I haven't written in awhile but I wanted to after reading your blog. Knowing "this will pass" is the greatest wisdom I 've achieved. It always does, and that is what keeps me going. Thank you for saying it so well. Xo Lexi

DAVE Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 5:08pm

Hi Lizzie,
Thank you for giving me hope today, as I've been in that place you describe for a few weeks. I see what needs to be done but today I just cannot get going.
How strange it is to be full of advice as I gave recently, but then the 'vale' came slowly down and there is absolutely nothing I can do to get back to where I was. Explaining to friends that I'm not at all well, they know I am bipolar depressed and like you, I know it will pass, but the pain is excruciating.
Knowing I'm not alone thanks to your blog.
Best wishes.
Dave

Tutti Frutti Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 8:50pm

Hi This is an excellent blog Lizzie which really gets how hard it can be to take constructive action when you receive down. I just wanted to say how nice it is to see RATG and Dave commenting again. I am sorry that you both seem to have been/ be going through rough times at the moment. Sending love and hugs TF xoxo

Dragonfly Sat, Apr 15th 2017 @ 9:29pm

Hi Lizzie you really have hit the nail on the head. All the things we know, and often well meaning people advise, will help us and the damn depression gets in the way! Ratg is wise in saying that tiny steps can be the way forward. Kindest wishes to all who are struggling at the moment x

Sarah Mon, Apr 17th 2017 @ 8:03am

Amen. Very well said, spot on... thanks for writing this :)

Nicco Sun, Apr 23rd 2017 @ 2:18pm

A really helpful blog, many thanks.

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